Earn Your Happy

Today’s message is all about the journey and what it all means. The “journey” doesn’t always have to be this HUGE goal or accomplishment. The beauty of it is that it’s unique to you and it can be ANYTHING that you’re looking to do. While most focus on the highs, it is equally important to know that the lows (the pain, frustrations and the “hard” parts) are what make the journey, and the highs of it, so amazing. If you’re feeling that discomfort, you know growth is on its way. “You can’t enjoy the ride without first taking the journey to a place you’ve never been before.” So you’re on this journey, but what happens when you lose motivation… Monotony hits. You wonder why the heck you’re even on this path. But you must ask yourself, what does your life look like without it? For example, as I’m racing against another deadline for my book, the moment I sit down, all inspiration seems to be lost and doubt creeps in and the last thing I want to do is write. As easy as it is to sink into that mode of defeat, I know the only option I have is to give myself a sometimes-literal shake, dig deep and WRITE. “You have to keep saying YES and you have to keep MOVING.” Acknowledge the struggle and how it serves a purpose on your journey. Ask yourself, “How do I get through this?” Reach out to others who are going or have gone through something similar. Know that just because it’s YOUR journey, you’re not alone. And everything you’re going through is meant for the ultimate good. Just let go…and go with the flow and enjoy the ride. In This Episode You Will Hear About Enjoying the journey Inspiration Pain Growth Resources The Bliss Habit Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Earn Your Happy Quickie – ep. 135 – How to Figure Out What’s Next “There comes a time to stop looking back and trying to figure out why. At some point, we need to shift our attention to what’s next.” – Unknown Are your thoughts or fears paralyzing you before you’ve even reached a goal? Are you asking yourself questions, such as: Why am I unclear? Why don’t I know what I want to do? Why can’t I move forward? Yikes. I get anxious just thinking about it.  Today, I want to talk about removing those types of disempowering questions from your brain and replacing them instead with “what’s next?” Sure, I get it. Those questions come from a place of uncertainty and fear and they’re hard to stop. But know that most entrepreneurs (including myself) are willing to explore their curiosity even if that nagging voice in their heads tells them they’re crazy or that it doesn’t fit in with “where they’re at.” They don’t let themselves get STUCK. If they feel called to try something new, they do it regardless of the risk. “The people who are the happiest are the ones who are most willing to explore all the little soul hits.” Take the Earn Your Happy podcast as an example. It wasn’t something that I had on my to-do list. At the end of the day, “I wanted to have epic conversations with people and I wanted an excuse to do it,”  And well, you know the ending to that story because here we are. You don’t have to have a plan to move forward. You just have to, “Be willing to put yourself out there and fail.”  By avoiding any possibility of failure, you risk missing the message you were supposed to hear and possibly something you were called to do. So, what’s next? My advice… Ask more empowering questions (ditch those that don’t serve you anything more than a side of anxiety) and explore the resources around you. Run toward the failure and thank it for what it’s teaching you. And one more Earn Your Happy Tip for the road…the more you can fail the better.   In This Episode You Will Learn: Future Resistance Fear Failure Curiosity Entrepreneurs Podcast Resources:   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Confession time. Not that long ago, there was a lot of negativity in my life. For some of you this may be hard to believe, but it’s true. I had a ton of toxic friends/relationships in my life and looking back now, I can’t believe I put up with that negativity as long as I did. Some of it was because I failed to set boundaries. Another part was that I tended to take on other people’s “stuff” and carry it as my own. I soon learned, however, that “You can only control what you can control – and that is YOU.” I knew that for the sake of my own happiness, I needed to grab the reins and take charge. Here are the five things that help set me on the path to positivity: 1. Know what you can control. 2. Ask yourself, “What is the most beneficial reaction I can have for myself (while still being compassionate). 3. Be compassionate. 4. {Not for the weak.} Call the negative person out. 5. Understand that the person (or your situation) may not change. Does practicing all five of these things guarantee zero negativity in your life? Not by a long shot – there’s always going to be some amount of negativity in your life. It’s on the street, it’s on the Internet and sometimes, there are people in our lives that we can’t completely cut ties with. If it’s important to you and your happiness, you must start to focus your free time in a more positive place. “If you want to change, you will. If you don’t, you won’t.” Go to the places that will bring you joy. Spend time with the people who “get” you. And DO the things that help lift you up. Some days will be more difficult than others, but it’s up to you to keep your head and heart in a positive place. In This Episode You Will Learn About: Negativity Positivity Boundaries Control Change Community Tribe Resources The Bliss Habit Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

Sarah Pendrick is the Founder and Creator of the non-profit movement GirlTalk, and her mission is to empower women of all ages while serving as a resource for young women. Sarah is a self-love advocate, life coach, writer, empowerment speaker and philanthropist. With a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master's in family therapy, developed, GirlTalk, an empowerment program for young women. She travels all over the United States to speak to the women of our next generation and provide them with support, education and empowerment. Through GirlTalk, Sarah not only features and connects powerful women with a purpose, she also celebrates them through her events and programs by giving them a platform and a space to thrive and use their voice. Growing up, viewing herself solely based on what others thought of her, Sarah always knew she had the ability to be extraordinary, but the opinions of others quickly shot her down. “I lived this constricted life between doing what I knew I wanted to do inside, and also going to my parents and friends for their opinions.” Having experienced bullying throughout her middle school years, she felt things that she never wanted other young women to feel, which led her toward getting her master’s degree in psychology, putting in positive work as a volunteer and helping at non-profit organizations and events. “I always felt fulfilled when serving others and at the same time it also helped me with what I was going through. But the attachment I grew for my clients and their issues, would come home with me at the end of the day, which led me to believe I wasn't meant to be a psychologist.” Fast forwarding and continuing on to find her true authentic-self, Sarah ended up putting in the personal work to learn about her own self love and to then be proud enough to preach it to others as well. And this eventually became GirlTalk. Being fearless in the pursuit of asking, Sarah’s confidence skyrocketed allowing her to reach tons of amazing women to help and speak at her incredible events. It’s amazing what the universe will do for you – you just have to ASK. Do you have plans and dreams of your own to serve those around you? Jump right in! #womenempoweringwomen Self love Self worth Fear Perseverance Entrepreneur Business Marketing Fulfillment Happiness Alignment Networking Creativity Resources: The Bliss Habit GirlTalk Event girltalknetwork.org Instagram @girltalknetwork Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

“It’s all about stepping in, saying yes and all of the things that come along with saying yes.” Today I’m sharing with you where I’m at with both life and business ventures because chances are you’re going through (or have gone through) similar circumstances. This quickie is a short and direct way to help you bust through your fears, no matter how big or small yours may be at the moment. “Sometimes you have to up level yourself and become a completely different version of yourself to accomplish your goals.” Some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten (and given) is to have full-time faith in your higher power – whatever that looks like for you. “I never step into anything without saying a prayer. It’s about asking and knowing you are supported.” In This Episode You Will Hear About: Saying yes Fear Outcome Accomplishment Goals Knowing your worth Energy Serving others Expanding Your calling Community Tribe Resources: TED Talks Over It and On with It Podcast, by Christine Hassler Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

As an entrepreneur, best-selling author, mother, and activist, Kate Northrup supports ambitious, motivated and successful women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Committed to empowering women entrepreneurs to create their most successful businesses while navigating motherhood, Kate is the founder and CEO of Origin Collective, a monthly membership site where women all over the world gather to achieve more while doing less. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, and The Huffington Post and she’s spoken to audiences of thousands with Hay House, Wanderlust, USANA Health Sciences, and more. Kate lives with her husband and business partner, Mike, and their daughter Penelope in Maine. Find out more and receive your free copy of Have More By Doing Less: 3 Simple Steps To Create Space For What Matters Most at katenorthrup.com Growing up on the coast of Maine, Kate always possessed the ways of a natural entrepreneur. “My very first business was at the age of 7 with my sister. We would sell jewelry and bouquets of fresh wildflowers.” Fast forward some years and at the age of 18, Kate was making more income than the average teenager. After graduating from Brown University in 2001, her income for such a young age was enough to prevent her from going into the “after-college-crisis” of looking for a full-time job. But that quickly changed after she moved to NYC and rapidly got herself into more than $20K worth of debt. “I had this idea that if I acted as if I already had the income that I wanted, that somehow I magically just would. I guess I missed the part that I actually had to do something about it.” After indulging in some self-help/self-love books (listed below), Kate came to the realization that changing her mindset around her financial situation could potentially and positively get her out of this pickle. “Perhaps if I approached my financial life with the perspective of taking care of myself in a loving way instead of a place of hard-core discipline, guilt and shame that maybe I could make some lasting changes.” From that moment forward, she added “taking care of finances” to the list of other things that equal “taking care of thyself.” “Keeping up with my bookkeeping was just as important as keeping up with my pedicures.” It’s hard to pinpoint the one thing that hit home the most when talking to someone as creative and incredible as Kate, but her advice about growing no matter what stage of life or business you’re in now is something we can all learn from. “Look at your life and your business as more of a cycle than a line. It’s like the moon that’s forever rotating or the seasons…There will always be spring after the winter.” Finding work that you are passionate about and love is huge! It’s important to continually and consciously surround yourself with the people who see the most and the best in you. Where you spend your time the most will eventually become part of your outcome. Kate’s life and business wisdom is like the perfect package that I get to gift you all today! “You become a clearer channel of what needs to come through you when you take care of your vessel.” In This Episode You Will Learn: Business Entrepreneur Networking Relationship building Abundance Mentality Finances Saving Spending Success Changing Growing Fear Happiness Transformation Resources: FREE Sustainable Success Workshop Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup Have More by Doing Less: 3 Simple Steps to Create Space for What Matters Most, by Kate Northrup Getting to I Do, by Patricia Allen Overcoming Underearning, by Barbara Stanny Make a life, not just a living at katenorthrup.com Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging diversity.” – Barbara De’Angelis I feel that the tribe I have created and continue to grow is truly my life’s mission and work. Just know that without the rain, there would never be a rainbow. You are never alone, and although there are numerous differences between each of us, there is an equal amount of similarities. “Beautiful opportunities can also bring serious amounts of fear.” But, just remember that everything you want is on the other side of fear. At the end of the day, all that really matters is that you are running toward your bliss. “It’s not finding your bliss, it’s following your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell In This Episode You Will Hear About: Self Development The Bliss Habit Practice Habit Meditation Tribe Foundation Courage Fear Resistance Resources: TheBlisshabit.com Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

This is from an episode of the For The Love Of Money podcast that I was on and I really wanted to share it with you guys! For those of you who may not my past or how it all began for her, I have the honor of sharing it with you today. Having a “money mindset” may not come naturally to everyone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t ever create it. “My success hasn't always been like this and I know it’s something I will continue to work on for the rest of my life because I know that once you hit one level, there is a whole other level out there that you need to strive for.” -Lori Harder Growing up, Lori was raised in a very conservative household. At a young age she was told, “Money is the root of all evil and you only need to make enough to survive. Anything more than that is evil and greedy.” With the constant battle in her head between money isn't good vs. how does the world go ‘round without it, can you see how that would create a whirlwind for a young child just trying to “make it?” Having two very different views on the subject when we first met, Lori’s money mindset began to shift after we started to spend more time with each other. “It was refreshing to see that you and your family thought of money as just a thing that created awesome experiences. It was something you looked forward to and were proud of yourself for earning.” Even though Lori still had the belief that money equaled greed, she still wanted to create a better life for herself – so she made it her mission to incorporate both beliefs. Why not make money, sufficient enough to live well and financially stress free, while still giving back and be of great service to others? DING DING (light bulb goes off)! “Money doesn’t make you greedy, I believe that it just highlights more of who you already are. It will just amplify how you were already showing up in the world.” Moving out to the West Coast, for us, put success and wealth in a whole other category. The entrepreneur mindset and the “shameless” money personalities out here, makes the opportunities endless. There is no cap or ceiling. If you have the passion and the heart to create something and make money off it then the world is your stage! (WELCOME TO HOLLYWOOD!) I know from experience that Lori is NOT the only person to come from a family who has fearful thoughts around money. Whether you think you don’t deserve to have a lot of it, or that it’s evil, or you end up spending it faster than you truly earn it, whatever it may be, my wife and I are here today to break through some of those tough beliefs and to “give you permission” if you will, to take control of your own life and finances. Hard work should always be recognized and rewarded. You will forever be blessed if you think big and share your gifts. In This Episode You Will Hear About: Finances Business Wealth Success Abundance Gratitude Giving Money Mindset Entrepreneurship Worth Survival Resources: Earn Your Happy Podcast For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

“Life doesn’t get less busy.” If I’ve learned anything lately, it’s that if I don’t start doing the things that I enjoy, right here and right now, then I’m never going to do them. Quit using the “whens” as excuses. You know, the “Oh, I’ll do that WHEN this is finished, or WHEN the kids are away” etc. Life doesn’t slow down and it most definitely doesn’t stop. You – and only you – are the one who can fit in the fun things for yourself. Because even after your “whens” are accomplished, there will be another task waiting just around the corner. So let’s start fitting them in NOW! “Stop postponing your joy.” Life happens and there are definitely things that take priority over others, but keeping your soul happy must be at the top of your list if you’re looking for that everlasting gratification. I’m challenging you to start this week – a minimum of 45 minutes a week to do something that makes your soul smile. Follow that one thing that has been pulling at your heart strings. (For me, it’s my guitar…no pun intended.) “The ones that say there’s no time to play are the ones who need to play the most.” In This Episode You Will Hear About: Personal challenges Gratification Time Management Affirmations Gratitude Being Present Boundaries Bucket Lists Showing up Resistance Planning Playing Resources: 60-Day Workout Challenge at loriharder.com/workouts The Bliss Habit online course TED Talks Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

Suzanne Adams is a best-selling Author, Motivational Speaker, Life Purpose Consultant and contributor to The Huffington Post that is sharing her zest for life with audiences around the globe. She believes that having fun and following your passion are the keys to finding true happiness and living a life of fulfillment and joy! Suzanne was a speaker at the 2016 Hay House World Summit and is so excited to share with you her secrets to help attract happiness and freedom into your life! Suzanne is thrilled to be leading workshops and retreats around the world. She also loves to share her secrets to success with you through her books, digital courses, and inspirational talks. “My mission to my awakening and spirituality came from me first looking for happiness and joy in all the wrong places from a very young age.” Suzanne begins by telling us that she spent most of her life at “surface level happiness,” the type of happiness where you pretend everything is all good while fitting into a box that everyone else wants you to fit in. But when she recognized that the beauty of life goes much deeper than the surface, her mission began. “I was searching for my romantic relationships and career advancements and everything else through validations. It just didn't feel good.” Spiraling from surface level happiness to depression, Suzanne knew that she was on this Earth to do much bigger things than this, but where would she begin and how would she get there? It was in this time that she began her shift. “Being aware means you are aware of who you are and that you are worthy of all your desires.” Hearing Suzanne share her journey to a spiritual and awakened life was magical. Her energy and positivity is magnetic. Her advice and motivation is the perfect push we all need to take the step from an okay, average life to an extraordinary one! Being spiritually awakened is a beautiful thing that we are all meant to experience – no matter who or what your higher power means to you. “Meditation is listening, and prayer is meant for asking.” With tips on how to ask and receive and just about everything in between, her book (listed below) is an awesome place start. Suzanne brings life to guidance and connection in her interview today, as if she is the little light bulb in all of our heads turning on and pushing us to find the deeper meaning of why we are here and the start to our journey. “We are all here on a mission, no one is meant to just sail through life.” In the Episode You Will Hear About: Energy Showing up Value Money Business Entrepreneurship Happiness Awakenings Spirituality Shifts Mission Purpose Worth Prayer Resources: Musings of An Earth Angel by: Suzanne Adams Instagram @Suzanneadamsinc Visit suzanneadamsinc.com for more on self-love and to find your truth in a fun and magical way! Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com