Earn Your Happy

  This past week, I’ve been feeling the importance of my tribe on a whole new level. If you listened to my podcast with Mastin Kipp last week, you’ll understand what I mean when I say, “With every new level there’s a new devil.” This could not be more true!   With my recent 14-Day Challenge wrapping up at the beginning of this week, I had a few instances come up that reminded me of the fact that the more challenges I do and the more people who join my tribe, the more diverse group of people I’m going to attract. And guess what? Even those these people are a part of my larger tribe, we all have different backgrounds and I’m not going to please everyone. It’s also a given that we’re not always going to understand one another.   It seems so simple when you write it out like that, but I didn’t get there as easily. As a verbal processor, I depended on the support of my own personal tribe to get me there. This is a group of people who I’ve collected over time and who I know hold space for me when I need it. And let’s just say I sent out the Bat Signal for them this week!   “Your tribe gives you feedback, but they’re also there just to hear you.”   Feedback is always welcome, however sometimes it doesn’t help. This is why all relationships must be two-sided. There must be agreements in place and space held for the other party to process as well.   “We have to create boundaries and we have to set clear ideas of what the relationship is.”     This is, of course, different for every relationship and that is why you must communicate or one person may turn resentful. For me personally, I have a variety of tribe members. There are those that allow me to process, hold me accountable, support me, strategize, execute and celebrate. These lines do blend every now and then, but at the end of the day, I know who I can go to when I need it.   So out of the above categories, which would help you the most right now? And which is the easiest to implement? If you’re having trouble choosing one, you must work on focusing your attention to that.   “If you haven’t found what you want yet, it’s simply because you haven’t applied focus consistently.”   I know this is hard to hear, but as a person who has (and still can) struggle with this, I know it will change your life and help you tackle each new challenge that comes your way.     In This Episode You Will Learn:   That challenges never go away, they just change Why finding a variety of people is so crucial in building your tribe How you can set and practice fierce boundaries with your tribe     Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 Theblissproject.info   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Today’s quickie is all about the word (and thing) justification. I once was a pro at justifying why I was the way I was (fearful, anxious etc.). I spent SO much time, energy and efforts on the excuses as to why I couldn’t do x-y-z when I could have been investing my time into my dreams! So let’s try a little exercise… Let’s replace the word justification with excuses. Let’s call out those excuses and see them for what they truly are – false glass ceilings – because that’s all they really are no matter what you might think.   “Human beings can do whatever we believe we can do.”   So look for the justifications/excuses in your life right now and write them down.   “If your thoughts are going toward your justifications and excuses, you’re actually living for them.”   So which is it for you? Are you living to keep your dreams alive or are you choosing to fan the flames that keep the fires of justification and excuses burning? Take a deep look and discover what you’re really living for. Hint: If your time is spent making excuses and justifying, you’re never going to give the power to your presence to be able to move forward into your dreams.   “Give the power to your presence.”   Your family, friends and the world need your gift right NOW. Of course there will always be a dose of fear that comes along with it, but embrace it knowing that it feels a whole lot better than never stepping into your full potential.   In This Episode You Will Learn: Why justifying and making excuses are holding you back from your dreams How to call out your excuses About the importance of breathing life into your dreams instead of your excuses   Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 Theblissproject.info   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

How many of you scroll through social media more often than you’d like to admit? Hand raised here! But check this out… My friend, Michael Zeller, just informed me the other day that when you’re distracted from a task, it takes 13 minutes for your mind to get back on track. So just think, if you’re sidetracked even four times a day, that’s a WHOLE hour of floundering trying to get back on track. This is why we must… “Get fierce with eliminating distractions.” These days our thoughts and social media are the winners when it comes to time-wasting. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think it’s always bad to spend time on social media, but it is when all you’re doing is comparing or numbing out. For instance, are you really just checking in on Jane, or do you immediately start comparing her life to yours when you look at her pictures? If the latter sounds familiar, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone, and you CAN stop comparing yourself to others, But first, you have to beat the addiction to comparison (and the other common addictions such as judgment, blame and numbing out). Below is a chart of the common saboteurs and alternative practices you can implement to help rid yourself of those addictions and keep your happiness and productivity high! “You are NOT stuck with who you think you are right now. Don’t believe everything you think – it’s probably not even your through.” Recognize your honest truth (as hard and uncomfortable as that may be) and CHOOSE to see things differently and choose better thoughts. “Your life will manifest around the things you think the most.” In This Episode You Will Learn: How comparison, judgment, blame and numbing out are keeping you from doing what you want to do Tips to replace the above practices Why happiness is your TOP priority Resources: The Bliss Project Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am so excited to have my husband, Chris, on again! We’ve been asked a lot of questions such as: how do we work together day in and day out? How do we live our lives and what makes us happy? These conversations are so much fun for us and we love sharing the highs and lows of our lives so far. As you’ll soon realize, while we have our “dream” lives now, it didn’t start out that way. Let’s just say I didn’t even want to give Chris the time of day when we first met! We obviously worked things out there, but be sure to listen in as we share some of our other ups, downs and lesson-learning moments in our lives. This episode is jam-packed with information about the fundamentals of our success and happiness (and so much in between) and we hope you’re able to leave with some helpful takeaways. Please feel free to let us know what other questions you have for us! We look forward to continuing our conversation on another future episode. Happy listening! -- In This Episode We Talk about: • Where Chris and Lori started from and what their daily routine is • Working through times of unfulfillment • If there’s a right time to call your partner out when you know they have a larger calling they’re not doing anything about • How small decisions are HUGE in the long run • Why it’s so important to be open and connect with more people • How to deal with people who are cutting you down or holding you back • The definition of positive propaganda and why you need it to support your goals • The benefits of having a healthy habits routine • How Chris and Lori incorporate meditation and visualization into their daily lives • How to effectively communicate with your spouse or partner • Why it’s so important to find self-development activities that you enjoy • What to do if your spouse/partner isn’t into self-development • And so much more… Quotes: “Be more open and less attached than you are to the things you’re so attached to.” “Find positive propaganda to support where you want to go and to reinforce your beliefs.” “Even if it doesn’t feel like it, the timing is perfect.” “You will always find what you’re looking for.” “We are constantly chipping away at the things that will make us happy and productive in the long run – even when we don’t feel like it.” “Our routine-driven life has absolutely 10x’d all areas of our lives.” “I’m happier, healthier, wealthier and more fit than I was yesterday.” “By taking inventory of all the good stuff in my life, I’m dictating the thoughts that will dictate my day instead of letting my day dictate my thoughts.” “If you’re not doing self-development in a modality that you like, then you absolutely won’t do it.” “You set the pace for your relationship.” “You are responsible for your own happiness.” “Find joy in the journey.” “Find your happiness in the pursuit every day.” -- “Find your happiness in the pursuit every day.” -- Resources: Previous episodes with Chris: Ep. 93 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/93-six-steps-we-take-to-achieve-our-goals-my-husband/id1087926635?i=1000379426412&mt=2 Ep. 100 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/100-relationship-business-q-my-husband-chris-harder/id1087926635?i=1000380293825&mt=2 Ep. 128 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/128-broke-mindset-to-mulit-millionaire-mindset-chris/id1087926635?i=1000384953178&mt=2 For the Love of Money podcast with Chris Harder: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/for-love-money-podcast-business-philanthropy-entrepreneur/id1215523596?mt=2 FortheLoveofMoney.com IG: @chriswharder FB: facebook.com/chriswharder The Bliss Project Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Ecker Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

In light of the devastation that’s happening in Texas right now with Hurricane Harvey, I wanted to help in the best way I know how – and that’s through the reach of my amazing communities. As some of you may know, I’ve launched my FREE 14-Day Challenge (starts Sept. 5) and I’ve decided to link it to a donation to the Disaster Relief Fun for Houston. Here’s how I would love for you to help… For every five people that sign up for the challenge, we will donate $1 – up to $20,000. To put this in perspective, our dream number to equal that would be 100,000. The added bonus, you GET TO move your bodies for yourself – and for a cause. There’s nothing like getting a big dose of perspective when you realize that there are thousands and thousands of people right now who CAN’T go for a walk or play with their kids outside right now. We all have days where we don’t want to work out, but when you realize just how blessed we are to move our bodies, it definitely reframes it. And it’s not just fitness, it’s everything in life. “We make time for the things that mean the most to us.” Whether it’s working out, having coffee with a friend or doing extra work, take ownership of your thoughts and actions. Sometimes it’s a matter of getting really honest with yourself and switching the phrase, “I get to…” becomes “I have to…” Or instead of “I can’t…”, reframe it to “I won’t.” Pretty powerful, huh? “The beautiful and harsh truths free us.” Once you can acknowledge this, reframe and forgive yourself. “Don’t beat yourself up for the things you enjoyed.” Catch yourself, reframe, forgive and love yourself. Again, I would love if you would go right now to loriharder.com/challenge to join my FREE 14-Day Challenge. Not only will you be working out for YOU, but for thousands upon thousands of others who can’t right now. Thank you so much in advance for your help! In This Episode You Will Learn: How you can help the victims of Hurricane Harvey Why it’s important to reframe your thoughts How the truth frees us Resources: Free 14-Day Challenge Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Fear. Yes, it’s one of my favorite topics and I often feel like I should talk about it more because it’s seriously something that’s there every day. Heck, it’s with us is most moments, am I right? But it’s in these moments where some of our biggest breakthroughs are made. It’s that something that you know you need, but you’re scared as hell to do it.   “What you are afraid of is a clear indication of the things you need to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson   Personally, one of the biggest breakthroughs for me came with the fear I had after making a significant investment in a course with Jack Canfield. My soul was kicking and screaming, nudging, okay, shoving me, toward it. Every fear that could possibly come up did and I almost bailed on my flight…but I didn’t. I joined an amazing group of people, some who were far more successful than me and realized that they had some of the exact same fears as me. What?! It gave me the power to question,   “If I can do this, what else can I do?”   Fear is just there to remind us of where we need to go. It lets us know what we’re capable of. It shows us how strong we are. It’s always there in some way, shape or form.   “I have fear present in my life at all times – I just have a great relationship with it.”   Without fear, life just doesn’t feel quite as exciting. After all, how would we ever appreciate what it feels like to accomplish our dreams without it? Hint: pretty lame.   So today, do fear a favor and say, “Thank you, fear. I don’t know what my life would be like without you.”  In This Episode You Will Learn: Why we need fear in our lives How fear makes you aware of what you’re capable of and what direction to go About the importance of trying new things despite any resistance or fear around it  Resources: The Bliss Project For more information, visit TheBlissProject.info Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Angelike Norrie, author of the Six Guiding Principles, discusses how these principles helped her overcome life challenges. Topics include alignment, the dangers of repetitive behaviors, prioritizing joy and playtime, the power of play and imagination, and building a supportive community and online business.

As many of you know, I’m in the final days of writing my book (due this week) and the act of even doing this quickie podcast was painful. It’s not that I didn’t want to record a message for all of you, it’s just that I kept thinking about all the other things I should be doing. On top of that, I wanted to make sure I was delivering an impactful message to all of you. I was so attached to how I was going to get there that I made it way more difficult than it needed to be. So, I took a deep breath, let go of that resistance and focused on what was at the forefront of my mind...and here I am! “When you stop living in the resistance and actually just do the thing, it’s amazing what gets done.” It was totally the same way before my workout today as well. Gah! Just do it already (and I did)! Anyone else? Resistance pops up everywhere, but it’s up to us to use it to our benefit. I’ve realized recently that I’ve had to let go of the idea that things should come to me in a certain form. When I have set expectations and thoughts that say it has to go one way, opportunities arrived to me in a very slow trickle. But once I surrendered and let go – BAM! Tedx Talk, my book, etc. And I know because I’ve fought to remain so open, much more is on the horizon. “Surrender to life and watch things happen.” I hope you join me for a short resistance-releasing exercise in this episode. Even 2-3 minutes of focus can turn things around for you. When you can create a space of surrender, you will make your decisions from a much more powerful, connected place. Are you ready? Trick question – do it anyway. What feelings do you want? What can you let go of to get you to that place? What can the resistance you’re feeling offer you? I understand that this may make you feel a touch out of control, but be open and know you’re not letting go of the good things.   “You’re not losing control; you’re gaining your power back." How much can you let go of today to gain that power back?  In This Episode You Will Learn: Why it’s important to surrender to life How to tap into the feelings you truly want to feel Ways to release resistance and let go   Resources: The Bliss Habit 12-Week eCourse For more information, visit theblisshabit.com.   Lori’s Tedx Talk: Turn Your Struggle into Strengths Loriharder.com/tedx   The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Are you looking to find more happiness in life – especially in the present moment? Well, you’re in luck because, in this episode, Rob Mack shares some serious knowledge on how you can add more happiness into not only your life, but your relationships and career, too. Not always the happiness coach and author he is now, tune in as he also shares how his journey of unhappiness and insecurity shifted into one of peace and happiness. There are so many happiness hacks and practices in this episode – and they’re all things you can do yourself – NOW. You don’t want to miss it! -- Questions Asked in This Episode • What’s the first step to get someone to elevate their happiness from where they are? • What are your daily happiness hacks? • What do you say to people who seem to repeat the same cycle over and over? • What do you find works for people in terms of happiness? • How do we transfer from hell (that gives us pleasure) to heaven (that gives us pain in the beginning)? • What is your practice around self-grace? • How do you practice being present more? In This Episode You Will Learn: • How every relationship can enhance your happiness • That you are already self-complete • Why achieving future moments can happen in an easier, more enjoyable, effortless way if you’re enjoying the present moments now. • Daily happiness hacks • Why happiness matters and is critical in life • The importance of listening to your own intuition and moving away from suffering toward peace and happiness • How relaxing will give you better results • Why letting your mind go quiet is so helpful • And so much more… Quotes: “Your happiness is your job – not someone else’s.” “Happiness is something that’s in your hands now.” “If you’re not controlling your present now, you’re not putting yourself in a position to control moments in your future.” “Happiness is the most important goal in your life.” “Happiness now makes your life better later.” “Happiness is the highest currency.” “Take it easy on yourself, but be consistent.” “Through ease and effortlessness, I can achieve my goals.” “Life isn’t about fighting the current. It’s not about making it hard on yourself. Everything you want to achieve in your life can be accomplished more quickly, more easily and more enjoyably if you just let go and relax a little.” “Being fully present is like a master key to creating anything you want.” -- Robert Mack is a happiness coach, speaker, and author. His first book, Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science of Fulfillment, has been translated into various languages, including Chinese. Robert is also the Celebrity Dating & Relationship Coach for the television show, Famously Single on E! He has been a featured guest expert on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Early Show, Self, Health, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Upscale Magazine and many others. His work has been endorsed by Oprah and Vanessa Williams, among many others. Robert received his Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology (M.A.P.P.), an ivy-league degree held by only a few dozen people in the world, from the University of Pennsylvania. He currently splits his time between Miami and Los Angeles. Resources: Coachrobmack.com IG: @robmackofficial Book: Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science Fulfillment Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Explore the impact of expectations on relationships and self, the importance of letting people show up as their authentic selves, and the effects of having unrealistic expectations. Also, learn about marketing struggles and a presentation given at Influencer Summit.