The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

A member of my private FB group asked this question, and I give you my answer!  Listen to learn about when this happens, what it generally leads too, and a related discussion about why many couples end up in endless couples counseling where at least one partner feels frustrated and stuck! Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! I'll be recording The Ice Queen And The Martyr next! And for discussion about these topics and to see the thread where I got this prompt, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics and to see the thread where I got this idea, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Someone in my FB group suggested this! I cover what to do when your partner faces transient or ongoing ED, which is super common BTW, causes of ED, sex changing as you age, and how to be OK talking about sex! (Like all my abbreviations?) Links: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/11/07/diversify-your-sex-life-portfolio-for-long-term-success/ https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/03/26/sex-needs-to-evolve-when-youre-older/

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Your partner's best and most loving side likely comes out with your kids.  Observing them carefully can help you see whether you will be compatible long term, or if you actually want things from your spouse that they are likely unable to ever give you.  Listen to the attachment theory podcast episode first to get full benefit from this one! Links Attachment Theory podcast: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/Attachment-Theory-Overview-Secure--Preoccupied--and-Avoidant-e1ieate

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Therapy: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Today we will discuss the difference between types of male emotional expression, and which ones women like, even if men think they don't!  In my Zoom with Dad Starting Over, we discussed how many men try to be stoic in the face of their wife's emotion, and today I discuss whether that works from the female perspective and when/how.  Also I touch on some other things that men think about what women like and whether these are right from an actual woman's perspective, as well as the perspective of a couples/individual therapist. Links: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2021/07/28/vulnerability-is-another-word-for-confidence-and-women-love-it/ https://www.drpsychmom.com/2016/12/11/post-divorce-sensitive-guys-get-women/

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and more! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Therapy: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Are you (or your husband) a self-made man?  This is a high achiever who did not have parental support to get there.  Often, these men have a similar strengths/weaknesses profile, with the weaknesses in the area of intimate connection, for reasons that I will discuss in this episode.  Understanding the profile of the self-made man is essential if you are one or are married to one.  How can these kind of man learn to trust and open up?  How do they overlap with other types, like Mr. Perfect And His Crazy Wife?  (Listen: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/Couples-You-Meet-in-Couples-Counseling--Type-1-Mr--Perfect-and-his-Crazy-Wife-e1in100) Links: The Self Made Man in Therapy: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/03/31/self-made-man-therapy/

Subscribe for all my bonus episodes (like the attachment theory one I just did and my upcoming bonus series on Couples You Meet In Counseling starting with "Mr. Perfect And His Crazy Wife"): https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Separately, for discussions about these topics in privacy, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom (this does NOT get you the podcasts) Many men notice that their wives are disgusted or scared by their sexual desire, but they push this feeling out of consciousness because it confuses and hurts them. In this episode, I discuss when women feel anger, fear, or disgust around sex, which is different from the run of the mill lessening of interest/desire within monogamy, which usually manifests more like boredom/disinterest. We explore why your wife would have this reaction and how to work through it. Links: Therapy: www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Why Being Taught That Sex Is Bad Messes You Up: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2015/02/06/taught-sex-bad-messes/ How To Understand Your Partner’s Sexual Abuse History: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2014/12/08/understand-partners-sexual-abuse-history/

A member of my private FB group (join! https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom) wrote in asking for advice on a tween with an attitude, and gave examples of a monotone/no eye contact when interacting with adults, and not doing her chores in front of friends or possibly ever. I explore ways to deal with this and revisit parenting approaches and what is seen to work best with kids!  Also: how to introspect to see why you are triggered by your kid's behavior and how to be honest about WHY you want your kid to do what you want. Please subscribe for bonus content like my most recent episode on attachment theory! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Links: Parenting From The Inside Out: https://amzn.to/3PmUENe 11 Things To Ask Yourself When You’re About To Flip Out On Your Kid: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/03/28/11-things-to-ask-yourself-when-youre-about-to-flip-out-on-your-kid/ Should You Change Your Kid’s Behavior For Your Own Agenda? https://www.drpsychmom.com/2015/10/27/should-you-change-your-kids-behavior/

The podcast delves into avoidant attachment in wives, discussing signs to look for, challenges in relationships, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. It also explores personal growth, therapy, and breaking negative patterns.

Today I have my very first and possibly only podcast guest!  Ralph who created Dad Starting Over gives me his thoughts on men, women, relationships, vulnerability, and of course SEX. Why don't men share their vulnerable feelings with women? What is the metric by which men assess their lives?  And how did Ralph even come up with DSO in the first place (hint: a divorce is involved), nevermind sell over 100,000 copies of his book??  Note that Ralph will be presenting a zoom event with me Thursday May 19 6:30p EST (link below) so please sign up!! Links: Dad Starting Over (DSO) website: https://dadstartingover.com The DSO Fraternity: https://dadstartingover.com/join The “Dead Bedroom Fix” book: https://dadstartingover.com/the-dead-bedroom-fix Our Sexy Monogamy Zoom event: https://events.zoom.us/e/view/dIoXcuCaRZq301apSDMoVg And please subscribe to my own podcast so I can keep bringing you awesome guests like Ralph!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe

I answer this question that perplexes so many men by diving into attachment theory and the deepest recesses of your wife's psyche!  Subscribe if this helped you and to hear the next paid episode where I will finally formally explain attachment, which I've quickly referenced in so many other podcasts and which is so integral to understanding your relationship and yourself! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  And also join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom where a reader's question inspired this podcast in a roundabout way!