The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠ and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety! For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link! For coaching from DPM, visit ⁠https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/⁠ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at ⁠www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com⁠. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: ⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist⁠! Follow me on TikTok! ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom⁠ and YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ⁠ Some men think that their anger issues are no big deal because women want them to be alpha, right? This episode discusses how angry is about as far as you can get from alpha, and what women really associate male anger with. This episode may explain why you don't get laid, as do honestly at least half my episodes.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety! For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A woman not being able to decide what to eat for dinner and shooting down her husband's suggestions is a relatively common dynamic. This is very frustrating for men but they are playing a part by buying in to this ridiculousness. Here we discuss the roles of people pleasing and the cult of preferences in this phenomenon. Note: you only get this happening when BOTH people are people-pleasers and conflict-averse.... so you're not an alpha male dealing with an indecisive female like you may want to believe.

Many young men feel that it's a positive, flattering testament to their virility and even their penis size when their girlfriend says she just can't have sex as much as they want it. This is okay if she bows out after a few times a day, but if you've only been dating a little while and she can't do it more than a few times a week because you're "too big" or "too much" for her... this isn't the good sign you think it is. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea! For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Many women complain about the "emotional labor" of picking the kids' extracurriculars or choosing their doctors or organizing and decorating for holidays... but then BEG to do this stuff after divorce because they actually really want to be in charge of it. "Know thyself," a key precept of the DPM show, is discussed in depth vis a vis this issue. Included: why complaining about shit you would actually want to do after divorce is a bad decision, why it's okay to be in charge of stuff if you admit you want to be, and, as a special PS, the only analogous example I could think of about when men act this way about marriage vs divorce. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea! For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

In the large majority of cases, a man feels completely not married when he receives no/low physical affection or intimacy. This episode discusses how inaccurate it is to think, "I'm a good wife, we just don't touch because I'm so tapped out from being a good wife in so many other ways." Those ways are called PARENTING primarily, and you mean you're tapped out from being (what you think of as) a good mother. As we see after divorce, there is really very little equivalency between good wife and good mother! Listen for more. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I was asked by a Facebook group member to discuss how couples should decide how to split household finances given a disparity in income. Money is a lot like sex in that fights about it are never only about the topic at hand. Instead, fights about money are usually about intimacy, autonomy, and more, as I will discuss in this episode!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people get very invested in a certain checklist for dating, or scheduling dates only during very specific windows, or anything else that gives you emotional distance from the process and keeps it more businesslike.  Here's why not to do that, and to focus on keeping dating fun... and why you may struggle with this!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many times people ask, when do you know you should divorce?  When is enough enough, versus when can the relationship still possibly be salvaged?  Today I discuss what usually leads to a decision to divorce, as opposed to what may still mean that there's something to work on.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Why is sex like freeze tag and how can this analogy help you moderate your maladaptive expectations about your wife's sex drive?  Listen and learn, grasshoppers, but only if you've ever thought something like, "Why does my wife pretend she never thinks about sex?"

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ You already know I'm going to say that my lawyer clients like to argue and to be right, and that's often accurate, but there are many other personality traits unique to this field.  Here's what I most often see in my practice, who is drawn to lawyers, and the communication style that derives from many years as as attorney that can frustrate partners most.