Michael Nichols Author, Creating Your Business Vision Guidestone University Realizations Michael had after dealing with his own overwhelm: I could give more I can grow on purpose Every leader needs help “Your employer will soon forget the long hours that you spent at work, but your children will never forget the memory making moments.” -Michael Nichols The Five Phases (video) (PDF) that Michael articulates in this episode to conquer overwhelm: Purpose Path Plan Prepare People The four things leaders are typically interested in getting better at: Improving income/revenue Leadership skills development Becoming more effective/efficient Leading better through change Michael mentioned the Personal Life Plan Guide and The SIMPLE One-Page Business Plan as resources, as well as the Guidestone Executive Retreat Center. Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders on iTunes, Stitcher, or any podcast app you use and subscribe there. Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the value of each book. Download the 11-page reader's guide and 9-minute video of these book recommendations…plus, insight on the 2 books that I rely on weekly! http://coachingforleaders.com/subscribe Thank You Thank you to dogofio in the United States and zimzom in UK for the kind review on iTunes. If you would like to post a review as well, it's a huge help in the growth of the Coaching for Leaders community. If you use iTunes, just visit http://coachingforleaders.com/itunes and if you use Stitcher, please visit http://coachingforleaders.com/stitcher – and thank you in advance for your support!

Randy Willhite: The Burbolators “If people have two weeks to practice, they do less in two weeks than they normally would have in one.” -Randy Willhite Ten ways to learn faster: It’s hard to start, but easier to keep going Memorize first, and then practice You have to practice Schedule time each day to practice You don’t need to master something before you go onto the next thing You don’t have to like something to learn from it Consistency beats clock time Don’t beat yourself up for falling behind Touch the strings Get back on when you fall off the horse You can The Burbolators, Randy's band, on SoundCloud. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Amy Morin Author, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do* Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and the author of the book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.* She dealt with a lot of personal tragedy in her life in a short period of time, and realized that having good habits wasn’t enough. She also had to get rid of bad habits. In 2013, she wrote the list, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. It went viral and was read and shared by millions of people in a matter of days. They Don’t Give Away Their Power “While other people can influence you, they can’t make you feel anything.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success “When you want to change how you feel, the two things you need to change are how you think and how you behave.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure They don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right. “The fear of failure keeps us from trying our best.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything They Don’t Expect Immediate Results “A lot of us give up when we don’t see huge, drastic results really fast.” -Amy Morin Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Question from Nancy I am in a situation myself right now where I was promoted awhile back as it stands right now. I manager a team, but I don't have salary discussions or assessments with them. My manager has said he is willing to give me the mandate I want and to form the role together with me. This is flattering and scary at the same time. My longterm goal is to become a director. Now I am thinking, perhaps I should ask for the responsibility of having the assessments and salary discussions with the team? I am thinking it might be a good step towards my longterm goal. If you have any wise advice I would appreciate your input. I am a little lost. Audio Question from Jeff Dave mentioned episode #190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills with Tom Henschel Dave mentioned Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People* Bonni mentioned Peter Block’s book Flawless Consulting: A Guide to Getting Your Expertise Used* Dave mentioned his past article, 8 Ways to Influence Without Authority Question from Tyler I read in a Forbes article that 89 of the Fortune 100 companies are now using MBTI to help match employees to roles. My company does not presently use this, but I have done some work on it with my team. Actually, a personal interest and goal of mine would be to eventually become a trainer in this subject, both for MBTI and DiSC. Do you know anyone who works with these and how I might network or "mentee" with someone who does this? We mentioned the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) by CPP Radiance House has fabulous publications for MBTI work Susan Gerke is a resource for MBTI work Doug McRae is a resource for DiSC work Audio Question from Nathaniel “Advice just doesn’t work unless it’s asked for.” -Bonni Stachowiak Bonni mentioned Pinboard (Dave’s library) Bonni mentioned OmniFocus for managing tasks Bonni mentioned TextExpander for automating common keyboard entries Question from Joseph I work in a retail business chain. In the past year, my company has really embraced leadership, and servant leadership at the highest level. I feel like they have done a wonderful job in sharing the message with the upper management/team leads at all of our locations, however I don't feel like it has traveled well to our assistant team leads, departments, or entry level team members, thus, not truly changing our culture. I was wondering if you had any suggestions on how I could help better achieve this at my location. I was thinking about holding small store leadership/development sessions, but am at a standstill on how to structure and execute them. Any thoughts or advice? Question from Stefan Part of my job is also creation and implementation of all relevant procedures and policies within the Company. Currently, I am "producing" so called Open door policy. I have some questions about suitable content of such a policy. It is not just about the "open door", so willingness of managers to accept employees and speak with them about their personal problems, daily issues. I think it is much more the right of employees to "raise their voice", so to address suggestions, complaints etc, how to solve problems etc. Do you have some proper name for time when manager has free time for employees, for example chat with manager, open hour with manager? Dave mention John Kotter’s book Leading Change* Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising,

Tim Stringer Technically Simple Tim appeared on two past shows: Episode 151: How to Be More Productive Episode 183: Use Technology To Build and Strengthen Relationships 4 Pillars of Holistic Productivity 1. Inner Reflection Tim recommended The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working* by Tony Schwartz 2. Acceptance “No matter how busy I am, I always have time to talk about how busy I am.” -Tim Stringer (echoing a human truth) “It’s pretty hard to be a victim and be grateful at the same time.” -Tim Stringer 3. Focus 4. Inspired Action Tim mentioned the Day One app. On Thursday, July 30th @ 10am PDT / 1pm EDT, Tim and I will be hosting a How to Step Into Action With Holistic Productivity webinar. You'll get: Identify a strategic area for focus Determine your first actions to create a positive shift Connect and get inspired by other members of the community If you agree to appear on video, reserve your free space at: http://coachingforleaders.com/stepintoaction Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode on the topic of Resources for leaders: http://coachingforleaders.com/resources Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the value of each book. Download the 11-page reader's guide and 9-minute video of these book recommendations…plus, insight on the 2 books that I rely on weekly! http://coachingforleaders.com/subscribe Please note that the show will be dark next week -- see you in two weeks for the next Q&A show on August 3, 2015.

Beth Buelow (Facebook) Author, The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms* Host, The Introvert Entrepreneur podcast There is often an overt expectation of extroversion in the workplace. Extraversion: gain energy from social interaction and external stimuli Introversion: gain energy from quiet and solitude “The goal is not to be the fake extrovert. The goal is to be the authentic introvert.” -Beth Buelow Beth mentioned Good to Great* by Jim Collins Dave mentioned How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie “Please oh please, don’t confuse enthusiasm with noise.” -Beth Buelow Dave mentioned episode #44: Susan Cain on The Power of Introverts Beth mentioned some of the principles from Dale Carnegie that relate directly to introverted energy. Carnegie's principles also demonstrate that introverts make great leaders: Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Be a good listener. Encourage other people to talk about themselves. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. Do not imitate others. Beth mentioned How to Stop Worrying and Start Living* by Dale Carnegie “Listen contains the same letters as silent.” -Beth Buelow Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 204 Resources for leaders: http://coachingforleaders.com/resources Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the value of each book. Download the 11-page reader's guide and 9-minute video of these book recommendations…plus, insight on the 2 books that I rely on weekly! http://coachingforleaders.com/subscribe Thank You Thank you to Keith Shaw for the kind review on iTunes. If you would like to post a review as well, it's a huge help in the growth of the Coaching for Leaders community. If you use iTunes, just visit http://coachingforleaders.com/itunes and if you use Stitcher, please visit http://coachingforleaders.com/stitcher – and thank you in advance for your support!

Bonni Stachowiak: TeachingInHigherEd.com Audio Question from Jignesh Here are the resources we mentioned on how to plan your career: Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi* What Color Is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles* Carnegie Coach episode #148: How to Determine What’s Next Business Model You by Tim Clark, Alexander Osterwalder, and Yves Pigneur* Business Model Generation by Alexander Osterwalder and Yves Pigneur* Finding the Career That Fits You* The Ultimate Guide to Using Your Strengths to Get Hired* Audio Question from Mia “A lot of times people use humor in an attempt to try avoid having conflict or having a real conversation.” -Bonni Stachowiak Bonni recommended an episode of the This is Your Life podcast by Michael Hyatt called 7 Actions to Take Before You Quit Your Job. Question from Taylor I remember listening to a podcast where you, at least I think it was your podcast, talked about self-development. Specifically you discussed using a task manager to help you achieve your self-development goals. I can not remember which episode this was. It would be really helpful if you could direct me to the right one; I would really like to send it to my father. Dave recommended these apps/services: OmniFocus* Todoist Question from Jeffrey I've really admired the ability to use humor to defuse tense situations whether in the board room or one-on-one. It often lowers the volume of a confrontation and allows a moment for those involved to reset. How mad can you be when you are laughing? But it is also risky to use humor since the joke could fall flat, or even worse you might offend your counterparts. Do you have any resources on how I can improve my utilization of humor in these situations? Question from Ravi Hi Dave, I have been listening to your podcast for past 5 months. Have learned a lot. Thanks for great advice all around. I am facing one problem that I am really struggling with and will welcome your advice. I seem to have hit a ceiling in my career. By measure of my education and experiences should have been in a Senior Management position. I look around and all my friends and peers at one time (and those even behind me) have been steadily climbing the ladder and I am frustratingly stuck at the same place! I have all received good to excellent feedback, have been commended for my attitude and thinking, done more than my peers but am still stuck! Any advice what I can do? Happy to share more information about my background if it will help. Bonni recommended Hope for the Flowers by Trina Paulus* Question from Rijul I was wondering if you could share a bit more about your own professional history in how you got into this career path. I am interested in exploring this area and would like to know what kind of jobs and/or educational background someone in this line of work has to become successful. Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 204 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders on iTunes, Stitcher, or any podcast app you use and subscribe there. Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the va...

Lori Ann Davis Author, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships* Dave mentioned the podcast StartUp A few general patterns of both men and women: Men: More assertive Communication is shorter and more direct Problem solving main goal Goal oriented More independent Women: More tuned into emotions Talk about the problem before acting to fix it Need to be heard Process oriented, ask more questions More collaborative, build relationships “We really would like the other person just to be like us.” -Lori Ann Davis “We show the other person love in the way we want to be loved and the way we feel loved.” -Lori Ann Davis Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 200 Resources for leaders: http://coachingforleaders.com/resources Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the value of each book. Download the 11-page reader's guide and 9-minute video of these book recommendations…plus, insight on the 2 books that I rely on weekly! http://coachingforleaders.com/subscribe Community Member Spotlight Submit your spotlight for consideration on a future show Thank You Thank you to Madelyn Sese and KentuckyTyler163 for the kind reviews on iTunes. If you would like to post a review as well, it's a huge help in the growth of the Coaching for Leaders community. If you use iTunes, just visit http://coachingforleaders.com/itunes and if you use Stitcher, please visit http://coachingforleaders.com/stitcher – and thank you in advance for your support!

Andrew Warner Mixergy Andrew’s “shoved fact” technique: Listen carefully for the shoved fact that doesn’t otherwise belong in the conversation naturally Make sure you’re picking the shoved fact that’s the most personal one Ask a question about that shoved fact Shut up “The things you think are tough are where real life exists. That’s where you really get to know people.” -Andrew Warner “Tell a story to illustrate your point and then make your point.” -Andrew Warner We mentioned Andrew's show: Mixergy podcast Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

In this episode I respond to a question from Candice that helps me articulate what this show is about. I mentioned episode 186: How to Become a Champion with Dr. Jeff Spencer My job is to be your archeologist. Everyone is your superior is some way. Yes, you can lead. And you can do it, with authenticity and integrity through consistent learning. “” -Anne Lamott I mentioned Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott* “The opposite of leadership is not failure, it’s an expectation of perfection.” -Dave Stachowiak I mentioned Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell* Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 200 Resources for leaders: http://coachingforleaders.com/resources Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. If you, like me, tend to listen to podcasts while you’re on the road or exercising, this will give you an easy way to follow-up later on the links and resources we mention in every show. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you’ll get immediate access to my reader’s guide listing the 10 Leadership Books that Will Help You Get Better Results From Others with brief summaries from me on the value of each book. Download the 11-page reader's guide and 9-minute video of these book recommendations…plus, insight on the 2 books that I rely on weekly! http://coachingforleaders.com/subscribe Community Member Spotlight: Chris Winch Chris mentioned episode 149: An Astronaut’s Guide To Life On Earth with Chris Hadfield