Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

What if the things that your partner does that drive you crazy suddenly didn’t annoy you so much anymore? Because we all have things about our partner that make us nuts. Today’s big idea is that the flip side of the things that initially draw you to someone and that you value about them the most is often exactly what drives you the craziest. It’s the yin and yang of life--the very thing that draws you to someone is also the thing that repels you.** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)** : Air Doctor – Use promo code BETTER23 to save up to $350 on an air purifier, 20$ off filters, and get a free 3-year extended warrantyHelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever felt like you’re running as fast as you can, but you’re still not getting anywhere? That’s how a listener named Nicole was feeling. She wrote:“At the end of every day I feel like even though I was busy all day, I didn’t do anything that’s getting me any closer to my goals. After going to meetings, running errands, making dinner, walking the dog, answering emails–I’m wiped out but don’t feel like I really have any progress to show for my efforts. Sometimes I find myself wondering, how do I stop spinning my wheels?”I talk Nicole through a little audit where you answer 8 questions about what’s going on in your life right now. Those questions are: What am I enjoying the most right now?  What am I enjoying the least?  What feels really gratifying right now?  What feels like a waste of energy?  When I think about my life over the next year or so, what excites me?  When I think about life over the next year or so, what weighs me down?  Is there something I need to keep in mind about this particular point in time?  Is there something that would really help at this particular point in time? At the end of the day, it’s up to each of us to stay focused on what matters to us. I hope these questions help you do just that. ** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**:HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m answering a listener question that I think a lot of women can relate to. Camille from Canada writes, “Lately I’ve realized that I spend a lot of time–too much time–and energy on worrying about other people. I love being a good friend and family member to others, but I’ve been feeling really frazzled lately, and like I’m not paying enough attention to my own life and needs. Does it make me a bad person if I want to do less for the people I care about? How do I stick to my own lane?”** Relevant How to Be a Better Person episodes**The Surprising Power of Bearing WitnessValidate, Validate, ValidateListen Better**Relevant Tara Brach episodes**Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 1Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 2** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)**: HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m answering a listener question from Kristin, who writes: “Lately I’ve been thinking about all I have to do as I lie in bed at night, and although I do manage to fall asleep, as soon as I wake up I already feel behind. I want to have more time to connect with friends, or putter around in the garden, or go to the beach, or just…read a book but I’m not sure how to get off this hamster wheel. How can I stop feeling so damn busy all the time?”Get Cassie Holmes’ Time Tracking Sheet** This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!)** : HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t have to drag your butt to a museum in order to interact with artwork. You can do it from home in ways that maybe you never thought of or that you might think don’t count, but they DO! They absolutely do.This episode originally aired earlier in the pandemic--but hey, winter can be it's own kind of lockdown. And winter is coming.This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reading is such a great way to lose yourself in a story, gain empathy for all different kinds of people in all different kinds of situations, stimulate your brain and your imagination, and just plain ole have fun. But it’s something that a lot of people feel they just don’t have the time or the focus (or both) for. Today’s episode offers not three, not five, but seven ways to read more–including one that you may think makes you a bad person (or at least a bad reader). This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I originally wrote this episode during the pandemic when life felt extra hard–and guess what, now, in November 2024, life is also feeling difficult albeit for different reasons including an impossible situation in the Middle East. Humans have long turned to art to help them make sense of and get through tough times. This week on the podcast I’m talking about how to consume art as a means to being a better person–and just feeling better about the world and your place in it. I hope they help. This episode sponsored by (thank you for supporting our sponsors!): HelloFresh – Use promo code BETTERPERSONFREE to get free breakfast for life!AquaTru – Save 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you use the code BETTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s trait is running late and forgetting to write people back and therefore, potentially letting other people down. Let me just say, I FEEL this one.Something else I’ll add about this topic that wasn’t on my radar when I first wrote this episode (because I was currently swimming in it) is that perimenopause can make you forgetful and spacey. Yep! Another thing to blame on your erratic hormone levels. PLUS, these two things are hallmarks of ADHD, and you’ve also got to respect and accept your neurodiversity.  This episode sponsored by: HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you’re telling a little fib, or blatantly telling someone something that isn’t true, or even NOT telling someone something that IS true, dishonesty is often one of those things that triggers the “am I a bad person?” thought pattern later on.In today's episode, I talked with honesty expert--and close personal friend--Judi Ketteler, author of the book “Would I Lie to You?"Judi’s websiteJudi’s bookThis episode sponsored by:HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the podcast I’m flipping things around and talking about some of the things that can make us wonder if we’re a bad person. When I surveyed listeners several months ago about the things that make them feel like a bad person, the most popular response was some form of impatience. So today we’re taking a look at what’s typically underneath your impatience and how to address that root cause. This episode sponsored by: HelloFresh – Use promo code 50BETTERPERSON to save 50% and get free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices