The Partnership Podcast

On Episode 8 Lauren shares how she recently failed to communicate about a joint financial decision and Trey shares his newest thoughts on pornography. They walk through their juvenile insecurities and the surprisingly similar origins of their desire to conceal behaviors. If money and sex are two of the most common reasons for divorce, you might want to give this raw episode a listen. Lauren and Trey come to unfiltered discoveries about the motivations behind each of their tendencies and how they can support one another as partners. Watch as Lauren, a Professional Sexuality Educator, listens to a clip from the @mattandshanessecretpodcast9138 at minute 19:22. Her real-time reactions to Matt's thoughts on porn are un-edited and completely unscripted. Then watch as Trey connects his instance of "getting caught" back to Lauren's monetary concealment.  Pornography can be a sensitive subject and Lauren would love to walk you and your partners through the murky waters surrounding this tough conversation. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Like what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast     Reminder: We like to think of The Partnership Podcast as a "how they" podcast as opposed to a "how to" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.   Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock   Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

On Episode 7 we share our raw and honest thoughts on the new Hulu documentary: God Forbid: The Sex Scandal That Brought Down a Dynasty. Not only do we live in the SAME TOWN as Jerry and Becki Falwell, Jerry Falwell, Sr, founder of Liberty University, married Lauren's parents. As we watched the almost 2-hour documentary, Lauren couldn't stop analyzing the content through her lived experiences and professional lenses, so Trey recommended they hop in their podcasting chairs a week early and get their thoughts on camera.  For decades, Lauren would have brushed off a scandalous film, such as GOD FORBID, as an attempt to speak ill of an institution committed to "training champions for Christ." But over the past 5 years, Lauren has changed her mind. As a survivor of spiritual abuse, purity culture indoctrination, and religious trauma, who now works as a Professional Sexuality Educator, she has done extensive research on the longterm impacts of the type of sexual oppression students at Liberty University experience. On this episode, Lauren breaks down the harmful effects of pedestal paradigms, Freud's theory of Reaction Formation, The Cornerstones of Eroticism, the harmful effects of sexual splitting, and more.  When sexuality fails to be integrated, we see what should be natural and joyous expressions of ourselves become harmful and destructive behaviors. In this revealing documentary, Giancarlo Granda, former pool attendant at the Fontainebleau Hotel, shares the intimate details of his 7-year relationship with an older woman, who we come to discover is former Liberty First Lady, Becki Falwell, and her husband, and Liberty University President, Jerry Falwell Jr. You can watch the documentary here: https://www.hulu.com/movie/god-forbid-the-sex-scandal-that-brought-down-a-dynasty-d0c5802f-05ec-4826-9390-f9ceca67f3e0 As always, this podcast is not a proclamation of judgment or critique of the human experience, but rather an opportunity to learn and grow. For a more comprehensive look at the damage done by this institution, we encourage you to check out Season 3 of the Gangster Capitalism Podcast. To support students harmed by the school, follow @liberty_students_against_abuse on instagram. Are YOU healing from religious trauma?  Lauren would love to help you unpack the origins of your pain and develop the tools necessary to not only heal but FLOURISH. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult   Like what you hear? You can ensure this podcast continues by supporting us financially: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast   Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock     Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

On Episode 6 we discuss our ELOPEMENT! We chat about why we didn't call the day we we got married a "wedding," and why we never once used the words "VOWS."   We share all the details about our October 26, 2022 "ritual" that was healing for Lauren's wounds and honored Trey's nervous system. We talk about how we snuck up to NYC for wedding photos with Lauren's ex-husband that celebrated LOVE in all forms.    After a lucious honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, you can SEE the joy on our faces!   Are YOU getting married?  Lauren would love to help you develop a ritual that matches YOUR personalities and celebrates your unique love. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult  Like what you hear? You can ensure this podcast continues by supporting us financially: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast. Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.     Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock     Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

On Episode 5 we discuss the process of qualifying and disqualifying what you're looking for in order to find a partner, lover, friend, or even a healthy work environment! We share how, even though we were on opposite sides of the country, we were independently developing our own systems for choosing. We touch on perhaps the least talked about part of this process - the refining who WE ARE in order to become the type of human another partner is looking for!   10/26/22 is the THIRD anniversary of our first date in San Diego, California. For the first time, we are sharing our cheeky first messages inside the MATCH app, our first phone call that felt so comfortable, and the magical moment we met where it felt like we'd known each other our whole lives. What was supposed to be a "one night stand" turned into a whole lot more. What happens when an "eligible divorcee" from Virginia meets a Californian who's "looking for a female who's a driver." You'll have to watch or listen to find out.   Like what you hear? You can ensure this podcast continues by supporting us financially: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/support  Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren would love to help you develop your own process of qualifying and disqualifying that which you WANT. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult   Not ready to take the jump into sexuality education? Then check out Lauren's brand new monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock   Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

On Episode 4 we break down the beauty of choosing partnership. We share the ins and outs of our Partnership Agreement, highlighting WHY we choose and HOW we choose each other every day.    Lauren comes from a fundamentally religious home and was raised to believe she was the property of God, her father, and her future husband. After a traumatizing first marriage, Lauren promised herself that her body would never belong to anyone but herself ever again.    For reasons of his own, Trey was only interested in Consensual Non-Monogamous (CNM) relationships until he met Lauren on October 26th, 2019.    What happens when you combine a Purity Culture Survivor from Lynchburg, VA with a consensually non-monogamous Californian who's never heard of Jerry Falwell? You'll have to watch or listen to find out.  Like what you hear? You can ensure this podcast continues by supporting us financially: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/support  Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.     Lauren would love to help you and your partner(s) craft custom relationship agreements. Do you have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult  Not ready to take the jump into individual sexuality education? Then check out Lauren's brand new monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

Friends, we've found our way back. The great Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. shares that healthy couples are not those, "who never hurt each other; they're the ones who find their way back." We couldn't agree more. (If you haven't, pick up a copy of her books, COME AS YOU ARE and BURNOUT - they will forever change your partnerships.) While Trey was editing Part 1 of Episode 3 for you, his nervous system became even more activated from watching the conflict on repeat. Out of frustration, he sent a mean/critical text to Lauren. Instead of letting it linger, they both decided it was time to press into their discomfort and figure out how to find their way back to one another.  While we failed to bring microphones along to record our actual healing conversation, you can rest easy. We hopped in our podcasting chairs as soon as we could to record Part 2 for you! On this Episode, we take you through the step-by-step process of HOW this conflict was resolved for us. From golf course convos to wild sex - this resolution is one you don't want to miss. Like what you hear? You can ensure this podcast continues by supporting us financially: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/support Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.   Lauren would love to help you and your partner have respectful disagreements. Do you have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.

Have you ever wished you could be a fly on the wall of someone else's disagreement? Well, look no further.   This episode of The Partnership Podcast finds Lauren and Trey right smack in the middle of an incredibly uncomfortable conversation. They stumble into childhood trauma, their responses trigger one another, and eventually they realize there's no true resolution other than time and space. (Watch them find their way back to one another in Part 2)     WARNING: You will FEEL the tension in this episode. It's not pretty and nothing gets tied up in a pretty bow, AND we hope you see that you are NOT alone.   Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.   Lauren would love to help you and your partner have respectiful dissagreements. Do you have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult

We couldn't keep this gem to ourselves! In this Bonus Segment, Lauren describes a term used by a Sexuality Education Colleague to reference the time of the day one prefers to engage in intimacy...  This is Trey's reaction to whether or not he would resent having a request for sex denied during his "Tingle Time."  

Do you ever feel your attraction level for your partner dropping? Do you ever feel like their attraction for YOU is dropping? You are not alone! On this episode Lauren and Trey unpack a recent partnership failure and how it made their sexual and romatic attraction levels for one another drop! They discuss how taking responsibility for communicating to our partners and holding space for our partner's words is hard, but oh-so-worth-it!   Both share two things that INCREASE and DECREASE their attraction levels for one another. HINT: you might be surprised at their answers... Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren would love to help you and your partner build a container of safety. Have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult

On this introductory episode of The Partnership Podcast Lauren and Trey talk about their "why" for this content. They discuss who they hope their vulnerable conversations help, what led them to want to share their sucesses and failures, and how choosing partnership has been their most powerful decision to date.