Psychologists Off the Clock

Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it's quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits.Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows.Listen and Learn:  Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady's repeated retirements Why is there such a stigma around quitting Defining expected value decisions How to wisely use expected value decisions  The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting  Growth mindset and quitting goals Resources:  Learn more about Annie’s work on her website: https://www.annieduke.com/ Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593422991 Alliance for Decision Education: https://www.annieduke.com/the-alliance-for-decision-education/ Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram About Annie DukeAnnie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today. Related Episodes: 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned.Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms. Listen and Learn:  Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers The core features of narcissism How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic  What does gaslighting look like How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit  The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother Resources:  Visit Stephanie’s website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/ Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096  About Dr. Stephanie KriesbergDr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve.Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson  274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair.Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life!Listen and Learn:  What is regret? Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions  How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret  How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively Existential perfectionism and regret Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times The negation exercise The importance of risk assessment in managing regret Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/ Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821 About Robert L. LeahyRobert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book is If Only...Finding Freedom from Regret. Related Episodes: Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg Episode 242. Four Thousand Weeks with Oliver Burkeman Episode 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people. Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment.Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives. Listen and Learn:  What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors  A history of the divide between black and white women Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism  The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer  The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood Resources:  Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647822835 Learn more about Opie Consulting Group: https://www.opieconsultinggroup.com/about-tina-opie Check out Tina’s website: https://www.drtinaopie.com/  Visit Beth’s website: https://bethalivingston.com/   Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook  Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook  About Tina Opie and Beth A. LivingstonDr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals. Dr. Beth A. Livingston is an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals.Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work.Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times. Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our 'emotional fitness', reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times. Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that.Listen and Learn:  How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness What is awe and how it relates to happiness How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated  Resources: Get to know more about Jonah: https://www.jonahpaquette.com  Subscribe to Jonah’s newsletter: https://www.jonahpaquette.com/site/contact Check out Jonah's books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About JonahJonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com. Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKay 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That's why it's so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives. Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let's dive in and learn why fun isn't just for kids—it's an essential part of adult life too.Listen and Learn:  Fun: what is it all about? What makes fun different from happiness Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults? Finding time for fun  The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences  The question of friendship or parenting How to create and maintain fun habits The Rucker-PLAY model  How to incorporate more fun into our friendships Resources:  To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website: https://michaelrucker.com/ Visit https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982159054 to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life. Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Mike Rucker Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness.Related Episodes: 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn't always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique - mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes.Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing. Listen and Learn: Seth's experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that's beneficial An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant  Acceptance vs. passivity Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy Resources: Learn more about Seth here: https://sethgillihan.com/ Check out Seth’s podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/ Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Seth GillihanSeth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast.Related Episodes: 80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren 257. The Gift of being ordinary with Ron Siegel 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption. Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol. Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle. Listen and Learn:  Amanda’s own journey with alcohol  Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties  Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’ How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking  What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it Resources:  Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/ If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/  You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519 Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/ About Amanda E. White Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more.  Related Episodes: 27. Alcohol and the Brain with Lara Ray 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them.Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don't let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life!Listen and Learn:  How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer  Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective Are some values better than other values? Managing conflict between competing goals Reinterpreting values When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you?  Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life  How our moral values harmonize with our other values Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals  Resources:  Learn more about Valerie: https://www.valerietiberius.com/ Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691240688 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Valerie TiberiusValerie Tiberius is the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17.Related Episodes:  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We often form deep emotional relationships with things that are important to us, from cherished items to hobbies and more materialistic possessions. But why do we become so emotionally attached to the things that we love and how does this affect our lives?Here to delve deeper into the topic and talk about his book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, is author and expert on non-interpersonal love, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia. We explore the psychology of how passions shape our identity and connect us in meaningful ways, as well as offer advice for optimizing how we love and use our things to live more value-aligned lives.Listen and Learn:  Is the word 'love' accurate in describing how we feel, or is it just hyperbole? The parallels that exist in relationships between people and the relationships between people and the objects that they love  Why do we get more frustrated with objects we love than the people we love? The ability to love things isn't a flaw in human nature, but rather a useful trait Loving things can detract from loving people - how to find the balance  What can materialistic people do to love things more deeply? Letting go of objects that you are emotionally attached to How attachment styles with people translate to our attachment style with objects  Tips for using our things in more value-aligned ways Resources: Visit Dr. Aaron Ahuvia’s site for more on his work: https://thethingswelove.com/about-aaron/ Sign up for Aaron’s blog: https://thethingswelove.com/subscribe/ For even more insights on the things we love, check out Aaron’s article on Peace, Love, and Happiness (and Marketing): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peace-love-and-happiness-and-marketing Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dr. Aaron AhuviaDr. Aaron Ahuvia is the most widely published and cited academic expert on non-interpersonal love. A scientific study listed him as one of the top 20 most influential scientists studying consumer behavior, out of thousands US researchers working on related topics.Dr. Ahuvia has been at the forefront of this research since he published the first major scientific study on this topic entitled I Love It! Towards a Unifying Theory of Love Across Diverse Love Objects, over twenty years ago. Professor Ahuvia has over 100 academic papers and conference presentations. His research has been quoted in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, and major publications in Europe and Japan. Dr. Ahuvia has also appeared on public radio talk shows as well as popular Television shows such as the Oprah Winfrey Show.Related Episodes: Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman Episode 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz  Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance  Episode 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.