Psychologists Off the Clock

Have you ever considered that, while being super focused can be a positive quality, it may also have its drawbacks? Think about it: when you channel your attention so intensely on one thing, you could be neglecting a whole realm of valuable information and stimuli out there.Embark on a journey with us into the mysterious world of illusions! Piggy-backing off of the previous episode on the science of deception, we are taking you back in time to revisit an eleven-year-old conversation between Debbie and Christopher Chabris for the New Books Network about, "The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us ". Through this captivating book, you’ll discover how to view the world through the lens of illusions and how our perceptions can be deceived. From the illusion of attention, flashbulb memory, and The Mozart Effect to the illusions of confidence and knowledge, challenge your assumptions and gain insight into how our brains can be tricked and our decision-making influenced.Listen and Learn:  How was The Gorilla Experiment conceived, and what were the key findings?  What did the experiment reveal about attention in particular? How the illusion of attention can affect our daily lives Why do we not notice significant changes in our visual world when our attention is distracted? Do we actually pay attention to our memories? The illusion of knowledge and how it pertains to investing Why do we think we know cause and effect better than we actually do? The Mozart Effect: is it really beneficial to our cognitive abilities? The illusion of potential and why we have the tendency to believe that there are quick and easy ways to achieve dramatic results How to change your environment to make you less prone to falling victim to these illusions Resources:  Christopher Chabris The Invisible Gorilla: And Other Ways Our Intuitions Deceive Us by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons  Follow Christopher on Twitter  Original interview on New Books Network  About Christopher ChabrisDr. Christopher Chabris is a cognitive scientist who has taught at Union College and Harvard University and is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science. His research focuses on decision-making, attention, intelligence, and behavior genetics. Chris received his Ph.D. in psychology and A.B. in computer science from Harvard University. He is a chess master, poker amateur, and games enthusiast; for three years he wrote the “Game On” column in The Wall Street.Related Episodes: 311. Nobody’s Fool with Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal 20. Phones, Games, And Screens: Sustainable Technology Use 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Deception is everywhere. Fake psychics, dodgy investment deals, cults, and pesky scam calls can be hard to detect, even for the smartest or most vigilant individuals. This poses the question of what makes us vulnerable and what precautions we can take? Joining us for this episode are two exceptional cognitive scientists, Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons. Through studies and findings from their highly anticipated book, "Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It" they provide us with valuable insight into how to navigate the treacherous world of deception. In this fascinating conversation, Christopher and Daniel unveil the cognitive biases that plague us all while offering practical ways to safeguard ourselves from being duped. Drawing upon real-life situations, they come equipped with an arsenal of tactics that can be incorporated into your daily life and that won't breed paranoia or leave you in a perpetual state of vigilance—quite the opposite! Their goal is to provide you with the knowledge to navigate life confidently, cautiously, and securely.Listen and Learn:  Is everyone susceptible to being duped? How have Daniel and Christopher become savvier at recognizing scams as a result of writing and researching their book, Nobody’s Fool? Daniel's clever suggestion for protecting your family from scam calls   How ‘truth bias’ can make us more vulnerable in day-to-day life  Why do we often fail to see something that's right in front of us? Even something so glaringly apparent? Principle of focus: what does it mean, and how is it used as a means to deceive? How our beliefs and expectations can deter us from seeing what is actually there and how to avoid falling victim to the trap Why it's crucial to consider all of the information that you're missing when interpreting information or data that is presented to you How can we protect ourselves from being fooled when the risk is high? The “illusory truth effect”: why do we have a tendency to treat familiarity as a sign of fact? How can we find that balance between accepting the truth bias and being cautious? Resources:  Christopher Chabris Follow Christopher on Twitter  Daniel Simons Follow Daniel on Twitter Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us Gorilla Experiment Influence: Science and Practice by Robert Cialdini  About Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris:Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris are the authors of the 2010 New York Times Bestseller, The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us, which has been translated into 20 languages. They have collaborated on research for more than 25 years, and they jointly received the 2004 Ig Nobel Prize (given for research that "first makes you laugh and then makes you think"). They have contributed to The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Slate, and other national publications, and their work has appeared in science museums worldwide. They spent nearly a decade researching and writing Nobody’s Fool.Related Episodes: 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin    255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick  186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab:  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our expectations can shape how we navigate life in more ways than one. Expectations help us prepare, but not just through action; there are actual physiological changes that occur when we're anticipating certain things.David Robson, "an award-winning science writer who focuses on the extremes of the human brain, body, and behavior", joins us for this episode. Through practical takeaways founded on scientific theory from his book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World, David opens our minds to a fun and transformative look at the fantastical power that the mind has in making expectations a reality.Learn useful tools that you can use to your benefit, both in terms of increasing positive experiences and better managing the harder experiences that are unavoidable. Tune in for this game-changing episode that will shift your perspective and day-to-day experience in some fascinating and surprising ways. Listen and Learn:  Why David describes the mind as a prediction machine  Unpacking Alia J Crum’s "Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect" study and why it propelled David to write The Expectation Effect  Finding the ideal level of optimism and pessimism with regard to expectations How can people's perceptions of the same events differ so widely from one another, and why might this be a strength rather than a point of conflict?  The power of context in directing our expectations and impacting how we experience the world Is willpower depleting or self-perpetuating, and does mindset play a role?  The placebo vs. the nocebo effect  The three different mechanisms for The Expectation Effect What is the best way to set up The Expectation Effect when we are experiencing sadness or depression? How researching The Expectation Effect changed the trajectory of David's depression The parallels between The Expectation Effect and other disciplines like Buddhism and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Resources: Visit David's website Follow David on Twitter  The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect Another White Christmas: fantasy proneness and reports of ‘hallucinatory experiences’ in undergraduate students About David Robson David Robson is an award-winning science writer specializing in the extremes of the human brain, body and behavior. He’s written for the Guardian, the Atlantic, New Scientist, Men’s Health and many more. His first book was The Intelligence Trap and his second, discussed in this episode, is The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your World. Related Episodes  209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirksy 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get ready to tap into the power of your emotions, because they hold invaluable wisdom! From guilt to panic and everything in between, each emotion we feel has a story to tell. And who better to guide us through this emotional journey than Karla McLaren, an emotion and empathy expert?With more than a decade of research under her belt, Karla has mastered the intense power of language in identifying and regulating emotions. Described as an ‘emotional guidebook’ for navigating the highs and lows of your feelings while heightening your intuition, enhancing your relationships, and broadening your self-awareness, we’re here to dissect the latest edition of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You. As we break down anger, envy, forgiveness, anxiety, and even some lesser-known emotions that you might not even realize you're feeling, you'll discover how emotions can be instrumental in healing trauma and why having a negative approach to emotions can be problematic. If you’re looking to have your mind truly blown, join us as we explore the exhilarating world of emotions and learn how to decode them like a pro!Listen and Learn:  Between the first and latest editions of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions, what has changed in the world of our understanding of emotions? What's the harm in viewing emotions as something that's a problem? Toxic positivity bias: what is it, and why is it especially problematic in the workplace? How is Karla’s approach of using emotions to understand ourselves more intricately and channeling them effectively more beneficial? Why having a valence to emotions can be problematic How emotions can be useful in healing from trauma The relationship between the process of forgiveness and anger The function of shame and how it might actually be a helpful emotion to be aware of Why does Karla refer to envy as our “interactional radar” and how apathy is a mask for anger? The confusion between anxiety and panic Resources:  Learn more about Karla and her work  The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You Follow Karla on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube The Empathy Academy  Lisa Feldman Barrett The End of Trauma by George A. Bonanno About Karla McLaren Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, educator, workplace consultant, and social science researcher. Her work revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc.She is also the author of many books, including The Language of Emotions, The Power of Emotions at Work, and Embracing Anxiety, and she is the developer of the online learning site EmpathyAcademy.org. She is online at KarlaMcLaren.com.Related Episodes:  183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts  240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2)  241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2)  244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you familiar with the term "gaslighting"? It’s been a popular topic for discussion in recent days, but how many of us actually understand its true meaning and, perhaps more importantly, how to identify it? Join us for this thought-provoking interview with Psychoanalyst and co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Robin Stern, who gives us a fresh and detailed perspective on the subject. Shedding light on decades of research and heaps of knowledge as the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide, Dr. Stern offers guidance on how to recognize the different stages of the gaslight effect, indicating who is most susceptible and offering strategies to escape from it. Don't tole­rate emotional abuse in silence any longer; tune in to learn how to spot the signs of gaslighting while moving forward toward a brighter future filled with kindness and respect—which you deserve!Listen and Learn:  The fascinating origin of the term gaslighting  Robin’s definition of gaslighting from her book Can gaslighting happen in both romantic and interpersonal relationships?  Is gaslighting socially learned?  The correlation between gaslighting and narcissism  The three stages of gaslighting and how to identify them  Are there certain traits that make someone more vulnerable to becoming a victim of gaslighting? How do you determine whether you should leave a relationship with a gaslighter? The type of person who would benefit from Robin’s workbook, The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Resources:  Robin Stern’s website  The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse: A Gaslighting Book The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life Follow Robin on Facebook (@drrobinstern), Twitter (@RobinSStern) and Instagram (@educatorhealer) The Gaslight Effect Podcast Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence (YCEI) Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success About Robin Stern Dr. Robin Stern is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and has 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse. She hosts the Gaslight Effect podcast.Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The journey of parenting requires a unique approach for every family. Don’t get discouraged by claims that there is one right way to raise a child; this is simply not true.Dr. Cara Goodwin, an experienced child psychologist, author, and mother, was amazed at the volume of misinformation shared online by self-proclaimed 'experts'. To combat this, she created the “Parenting Translator”- a source of trustworthy, science-based research and information on parenting and child development. As a well-known voice in the online parenting world, we are super fortunate to have Cara join us to help us learn how to recognize pseudoscience, interpret research accurately, and use social media more strategically. Her message is clear: No single approach to parenting fits everyone, and we should be mindful of research that does not take individual differences into account.Listen and Learn:  Cara’s mission with her Instagram account, Parenting Translator? Is there an ideal age gap between your children? Why you should be wary of online research that references brain studies The importance of being mindful of how you feel when interacting with social media The types of unsettling research articles Cara is sent and why she uses them as inspiration for her posts Why Cara crafts a peer review process to validate and inform the research in her social media and newsletter  How to create a social media feed that engagingly highlights research  Should you make your child apologize?  Cara’s approach to correcting misinformation sold as science on social media, while also maintaining diplomacy   Resources: Visit Cara’s website: http://parentingtranslator.com What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers: https://parentingtranslator.org/book Follow Parenting Translator on Instagram (@parentingtranslator) Subscribe to Cara’s newsletter: https://parentingtranslator.substack.com/ Parenting Translator Podcast: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 Parenting Translator - Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator Messengers: Who We Listen To, Who We Don't, and Why: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 The Invisible Gorilla: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780307459664 About Cara Goodwin Cara Goodwin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and a mother to three children. She received a Ph.D. in child clinical psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a Master’s in Developmental Psychiatry from Cambridge University, and a Master’s in Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University, and she completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Duke University. She specializes in child development and has spent years researching child psychology and neuroscience and providing therapy and clinical services for children of all ages. She has published 18 research articles in peer-reviewed academic journals, written two book chapters, and completed numerous conference presentations. She also recently wrote a children’s book titled What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting which gives children evidence-based strategies to use when they are dysregulated. Goodwin translates recent scientific research into information parents can access and implement in their everyday lives through her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website.Related Episodes:  Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Episode 149. How Not to Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let’s end the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers and give them the freedom to make choices that benefit themselves, their children, and their communities.Join Debbie and Jessica Grose, a writer for The New York Times, as they jump deep into the systemic and cultural challenges of modern motherhood. Through highlights from her book, “Screaming on the Inside”, Jessica offers insights backed by science on how to navigate the tough journey of parenting and answers the big question of whether there is hope for a better future for mothers.With engaging discussions about societal expectations, generational differences in motherhood, and the importance of validation and compassion in the process, Jessica brings a treasure trove of valuable information and guidance. Whether you are a new mom or an experienced parent, this is a thought-provoking conversation that will leave you feeling supported and empowered.Listen and Learn:  Before motherhood, what were some of the ideal stories, norms, and expectations that Jessica internalized? What we're seeing at this current cultural moment in parenting and what it means to be a parent that might be different from a couple of generations ago. How the standards of motherhood are embedded in a history of racism and classism. How the COVID pandemic impacted women specifically.  The challenges working mothers face and how the pressure to be the “ideal worker” is incompatible with caregiving responsibilities.  Why are we not seeing the whole picture when it comes to the way that motherhood is portrayed on social media? Is it time to establish more rigorous limits on our social media usage? What if the bar for being a good mother was simply that your children felt safe and loved? Jessica's personal experience with mom guilt and her tactics for responding to this feeling. Is there hope for sustainable motherhood, and what are some of the positive changes we are already seeing?  Resources:  Jessica’s website: https://jessicagrose.com Follow Jessica on Twitter @JessGrose, Facebook @Jessica-Grose and Instagram @jessgrosewrites Subscribe to Jessica’s NY Times Newsletter Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063078352 About Jessica Grose Jessica Grose is an opinion writer at The New York Times. Her new book “Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood” (Mariner Books) is out now! Jess was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of the pandemic. Her second novel, SOULMATES, was published in 2016. It’s about a broken marriage, a spiritual awakening, and a murder at a yoga retreat. Soulmates is “delightfully sly” according to Elle, “a killer read” per Cosmopolitan, and “compelling, funny, painful and wry,” says the Globe and Mail. Her debut novel, SAD DESK SALAD, came out in 2012. It takes place at a women’s website and Jess refers to it as “the devil wears sweatpants.” Glamour called it “Dishy, zingy, hilarious.” She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters. Follow her on Twitter @JessGrose and Instagram @JessGroseWrites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’ve all been there: saying yes when we really wanted to say no. It happens all the time, from work requests and invitations, or favors for friends. Saying no can result in offense, awkwardness, and sometimes even trouble with relationships and reputations, so we often choose yes instead. However, in this episode, our guest encourages us to change our mindset. Saying no can actually empower us and should be seen as a valuable skill.Author Vanessa Patrick graces this episode to teach us the ins and outs of effective no-saying in her book, The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life. With experience, research, and sage advice to offer, Vanessa emphasizes why mastering the art of "no" is crucial and how to use our own values to make the right decisions.Listen and Learn  What fueled Vanessa to research and write about the topic of saying no?  When it comes to saying no, why do we find it so difficult? The main drivers of saying ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’. The Acquaintance Trap. Why saying yes can actually backfire sometimes.  The Spotlight Effect and how you can better manage this when put on the spot. How to use The ART of Empowered Refusal to say no that does not invite pushback. How the two-by-two framework can be used to help categorize an ask and decide if it should be answered with a yes or a no. Tips to manage pushback when we say ‘no’. Do people in power receive fewer consequences for saying no than those from marginalized groups? Resources  Vanessa’s website: https://www.vanessapatrick.net/ Follow Vanessa on LinkedIn (@vanessapatrick23), Twitter (@sourcebooks / @vpatrick23), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Instagram (@vanpat23) Follow Sourcebooks on Twitter (@sourcebooks), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Facebook (@sourcebooksnonfiction) The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781728251523 Pinkcast 1.17: Why you should say “I don’t” instead of “I can’t.” How to Say No, Resist Temptation, and Stick to Your Health Goals How Saying “I Don’t” at Work Can Change Your Life A Policy of Saying ‘No’ Can Save You Time and Guilt “I Don't” Beats “I Can't” for Self-Control This Simple Trick Makes Breaking Bad Habits Up To 8 Times Easier About Vanessa PatrickVanessa Patrick, PhD, is the Associate Dean for Research, the Bauer Professor of Marketing, and lead faculty of the Executive Women in Leadership Program at the Bauer School of Business at the University of Houston. She has a PhD in business from the University of Southern California and an MBA in marketing and a BS degree in microbiology and biochemistry from Bombay University in India. Patrick is a regular speaker at both academic and practitioner conferences. She lives in Houston, Texas.Related Episodes  130. Working Less with Alex Pang 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 293. Quit with Annie Duke 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Teenagers naturally experience a rollercoaster of emotions, making everyday pressures and transitional changes overwhelming for parents and adolescents alike. Our guest Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, and best-selling author of ‘The Emotional Lives of Teenagers’ emphasizes the integrality of validating teenagers' emotions while also providing a framework on how to understand and support them. In this episode, Lisa reveals what to expect from teenage emotional development, and why we need to change the way we approach adolescent mental health. Learn effective ways to maintain open lines of communication, clearly articulate values, cope with common challenges such as too much gaming time and disengaging at school, and foster deeper bonds. With research-informed explanations and real-life examples, this episode gives parents the tools needed to support their teens through this difficult stage in life.Listen and Learn:  From where does the reputation of teenagers derive, and is it justified? Why do teenagers experience such powerful emotions as they transition from childhood to adolescence?  The distinction between hot and cold cognition, and how parents can use this knowledge to help their teenagers prepare for situations where they may become overwhelmed or not be able to think clearly. Is it a myth that difficult emotions are damaging or should be avoided?  How to help teenagers with expressing their feelings. Why distraction can be an effective coping strategy for teens to regulate their emotions. How communication and a sense of safety can have a meaningful impact on adolescent behavior.    Why do teenagers find their parents so ‘annoying’? Are there gender differences in emotion?  Resources:  For more on Lisa’s work, visit her website: https://drlisadamour.com/ Check out the Ask Lisa podcast: https://drlisadamour.com/resources/podcast/ Order your copy of Lisa’s books:  The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593500019Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780553393071Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780399180071Follow Lisa on Facebook (@lisadamourphd), Instagram (@lisa.damour) or Twitter (@LDamour)About Lisa Damour Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Life is an incredible journey full of paradoxical demands that can sometimes feel overwhelming. But what if we could embrace both sides of the equation and turn these tensions into opportunities for growth? This is exactly what our guest Marianne Lewis teaches us in the groundbreaking book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems that she coauthored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Delving into the risks of either-or thinking and the vicious cycles that can arise, Marianne and cohost, Yael discuss how binary thinking affects our lives. Packed with tools and lessons that will help you see the world with fresh eyes, you’ll learn tips on how to reframe questions, embrace paradoxes, as well as navigate complex tensions. If you're interested in exploring new ways of thinking and solving tough problems, this episode is for you!  Listen and Learn:  Why do we have difficulty escaping "either/or" thinking, and what impact does it have? Why is it important to understand and embrace paradoxes in order to move away from binary thinking? Question framing with the word 'how' Negotiating conflict in a constructive way The ways in which identifying a higher purpose can lessen friction between opposing factions A few tips for setting guardrails to help you do your job and all your roles more sustainably The impact of shifting from a scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset Tools for responding to tensions in a positive way Resources:  Learn more about Marianne: https://business.uc.edu/faculty-and-research/departments/management/faculty/marianne-lewis.html Follow Marianne on Twitter @mariannewlewis Order Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at our bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647821043 A piece written by Yael that includes a quote from evolutionary psychologist on conflict: https://tricycle.org/article/working-parenthood-conflict/ About Marianne LewisMarianne W. Lewis is dean and professor of management at the College of Business, University of Cincinnati. She previously served as dean of the Business School at City, University of London. A thought leader in organizational paradoxes, she explores tensions surrounding leadership and innovation. Lewis has been recognized among the world’s most-cited researchers in her field and her work has appeared in media outlets, such as Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, and Newsweek. Her latest book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems is co-authored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Related Episodes:  Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.