Sex With Emily

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes: 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women.See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes: The 6 Best Masturbation Toys 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All The Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon @ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopause Menopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop | Amazon Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.Show Notes: The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have The 6 Best Masturbation Toys SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Playground Lubes: Love Sesh | Date Night | Mini Escape | After Hours Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play.Show Notes: 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Je Joue Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Wand Le Wand Stainless Steel Hoop Firefly Glass Dildo System JO Flavored Lubes Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your sleep affects your sex drive: we know this. The bottom line: if you know the right sleep hacks, you can have much better sex. In this fascinating Best Of episode with Dr. Michael Breus, we dive into the science of sleep and how to leverage it for sexual arousal. Starting with the four chronotypes, your body’s natural disposition to be awake or asleep, we help you figure out how to work with your body (not against it) for sexual arousal. We also discuss snoring – why it happens and how it affects your sexual connection. “I’ve saved more marriages as a sleep therapist than I ever would have as a marital therapist,” says Dr. Breus. In this episode, you’ll learn how to work with your unique circadian rhythm for better sex and communication.Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Hello Again Suppositories (code EMILY25 for 25% off orders over $50) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Chronoquiz.com More Dr. Michael Breus: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Discover the benefits and myths surrounding solo anal play, with tips for exploration and toy recommendations. Learn about the health benefits of prostate massage and combining anal stimulation with clitoral orgasm. Get advice on mental preparation and easing worries about trying anal play, emphasizing communication and consent.

Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you?Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you.  Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Emily on The Art of Being Well Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole More Dr. Will Cole: Website | Telehealth Consult | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem?Show Notes: Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.)Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated.Show Notes: 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life LELO F1S V2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Study: Pornography does not cause violent sex crimes Make Love Not Porn (Cindy Gallop) Erika Lust Dr. Wednesday Martin on SWE: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All | It’s Open (Relationship) Season | Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity Wednesday Squirts for the First Time with Kenneth Play & Whitney More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.