Prioritize self-pleasure to enhance sexual experiences with others and communicate needs effectively.
Normalize solo sex by exploring ethical porn and sex-positive accounts to overcome shame and embarassment.
Solo sex offers various benefits like improved sleep, reduced stress, strengthened pelvic floor muscles, and allows exploration of pleasure preferences.
Deep dives
Take Ownership of Your Own Pleasure
Remember, we're all responsible for our own orgasms and pleasures. It's important to prioritize self-pleasure and become your own best lover. By mastering your own body, you can enhance your sexual experiences with others and communicate your needs more effectively.
Normalize Solo Sex and Overcome Shame
Normalize solo sex by seeking out examples of intentional and fulfilling self-pleasure. Overcome any lingering shame or embarrassment surrounding masturbation by exploring ethical porn sites and following sex-positive accounts. By removing mental blocks, you can take steps towards a more liberating and pleasurable solo sex routine.
Discover Your Why for Solo Sex
Understand the benefits of solo sex in order to find motivation. Solo sex can help improve sleep, reduce stress, boost immunity, strengthen pelvic floor muscles, and enhance orgasms. It also allows you to explore your own pleasure preferences, enabling better communication during partnered sex.
Create a Solo Sex Routine
Develop a solo sex routine that sets you up for success and maximizes pleasure. Consider creating an environment conducive to relaxation and arousal, such as taking a warm bath, using candles and music, incorporating self-massage, and finding privacy. Treat solo sex as an intentional practice, just like a workout routine.
Overcoming Challenges in Solo Sex
If you struggle with maintaining excitement levels or achieving satisfying orgasms during solo sex, consider exploring techniques like edging to delay orgasm and build arousal. By focusing on embodiment and staying present, you can enhance your solo sexual experiences and delight in longer-lasting orgasms.
Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you?
