Becoming You with Suzy Welch

Every year, we make New Year’s resolutions. And every year…we break them. But why?In this episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch takes on one of the most universal – and quietly painful – rituals of the calendar year, and explains why New Year’s resolutions almost never work…unless you understand what’s really driving them.In the Becoming You methodology, that’s called the Authenticity Gap: the distance between the values you hold and how much you’re actually living them. That ache you feel, the sense that you’re “fine, but not quite fine,” that’s where New Year’s resolutions come from. A values disconnect.Drawing on exclusive data from Becoming You’s Values Bridge digital assessment, Suzy breaks down why the average person is walking around with a 27% authenticity gap (and what that number means), which values tend to cause the biggest riffs for people, and why your resolutions might be making your Authenticity Gap worse. Along the way, Suzy shares deeply personal stories, from a family resolution tradition that still hurts to remember, to a hairdresser’s very honest shopping confession. Plus, Suzy explores what it really means to live an A-plus life in a world that often pulls us away from ourselves. And yes…finally…Suzy explains her lifelong crush on Pitbull.If you’ve ever made a New Year’s resolution that didn’t stick, this episode will give you a completely new way to make your goals for the year ahead. So stick with Suzy for 30 minutes. This one might actually change your year. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Unlocking your true potential starts with understanding your aptitudes, which differ from skills. Suzy shares her journey of discovering hidden talents, including her unexpected knack for finance. She draws parallels between personality traits and aptitudes, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and owning them. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own strengths, seek feedback, and utilize assessment tools to uncover what truly makes them shine. It's an insightful call to embrace self-awareness and personal growth!

Christmas is supposed to be joyful. Magical. Simple. So why does Becoming You host Suzy Welch feel so…troubled…by Santa Claus?This week on the podcast, Becoming You is celebrating Christmas with a conversation about one of the most misunderstood of the 16 values in Becoming You’s Values Bridge system: Cosmos. Cosmos represents religion or spirituality—not any specific religion, but the degree to which faith shapes how someone experiences the world. And here’s what the data tells us: Cosmos is the most polarized value there is. You either have it…or you don’t. Suzy does.In this episode, she explores what it’s like to live as a high-Cosmos person in a largely Santa-forward, faith-agnostic culture—especially at Christmas. Why suppressing your #1 value can be exhausting. Why faith can feel disconcerting to people who don’t share it. And why understanding this value—whether it’s yours or not—may be one of the most important acts of respect we can offer each other.Along the way, Suzy shares her own unexpected faith story, why she almost left Cosmos out of the Values Bridge entirely, and what Christmas means to her. This is not a sermon. It’s not an argument. And it’s definitely not a typical holiday episode. It’s an invitation: to understand a value you may not share, to see the people who hold it more clearly, and to consider whether the greatest gift this season might be learning how to honor each other’s differences—with compassion, curiosity, and a little grace. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this special episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch does something few mothers-in-law would dare to do: she cold-calls her daughters-in-law and asks that question – Am I a good mother in law?Suzy is joined by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of You, Your Husband & His Mother, for an honest, deeply human conversation about values and family. Together, they ask: What does a good mother-in-law really look like? Why do the holidays so often expose unspoken power dynamics and values conflicts? And how does insecurity – especially in family systems – cause us to lose curiosity, shut down, and stop asking the questions that actually build connection?Dr. Tracy explains why staying curious about a daughter-in-law (or any new family member) is one of the most important – and hardest – skills to develop, and how inquiry can replace control without sacrificing your values. They also explore whether couples can thrive with differing values and why sometimes the healthiest move isn’t pulling harder on either side, but dropping the rope entirely and accepting that not everyone in your family will see the world the way you do. Suzy shares a moving story about her son and daughter-in-law – a seemingly simple moment – that reveals what it really means to face family pressure together.This episode is for anyone navigating in-laws, holidays, or family tension, and wondering how to stay true to themselves without losing the relationship. Find Dr. Tracy Dalgleishhttps://drtracyd.com/https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What makes a relationship truly work? Is it chemistry, shared interests, or something deeper – something that holds when life gets complicated? In this special installment of Becoming Us, where host Suzy Welch applies the Becoming You values methodology to couples, Suzy sits down with media and reality TV personality Sam Feher and her boyfriend William Hayden, co-founder of the startup Bags. Together, they explore how aligned values create the real foundation for a strong, lasting partnership.Using the proven, data-driven Becoming You values framework, Suzy helps Sam and William illuminate exactly where their values naturally align and where meaningful gaps appear. They dig into one of their biggest value contrasts: Cosmos, the value of faith, which sits at the very bottom of Sam’s list but in William’s top tier. They discuss navigating conversations about religion and spirituality with respect instead of friction. And they unpack the reverse dynamic with Belonging – a core value for Sam, but one of William’s lowest – complete with a hilarious story about a competitive game night that revealed exactly what Belonging looks like in action for them as a couple.Throughout the conversation, Suzy shows how understanding these contrasts through The Values Bridge can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for connection. And she also reveals the “green flag” of all green flags: the one value Sam and William rank nearly identically – and how that shared priority quietly strengthens their relationship every single day.This episode is a masterclass in how clarity about your own values – and your partner’s – can turn “me” and “you” into a thriving, unstoppable “us.” Find Sam on Instagram and CAPS LOCK podcastFind William's company, Bags The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Only 11% of Americans rank family as their #1 value.That's not a guess. It's data from nearly 100,000 respondents of The Values Bridge—the largest values data set ever compiled.On this episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch breaks down the research from Becoming You Labs behind her widely discussed Wall Street Journal op-ed, "For Americans, Family Comes First—Or Does It?" And she's brought in the perfect person to help make sense of it: renowned family therapist Vienna Pharaon.What The Values Bridge reveals about family challenges nearly everything we've been told about what matters most—and raises profound questions about how we're actually living our lives. That's why this conversation feels so personal—and important.Suzy and Vienna explore:Why our childhood experiences and the messages we absorbed growing up shape our values more than we realize.The values that consistently outrank family, like self-care and flourishing.How to honor your real values and design a life around them—without the guilt that comes from not living up to others' expectations.This conversation isn't about whether you love your family. It's about understanding what genuinely drives your choices, your energy, and how you spend your days.If you've ever felt guilty for not wanting to go home for the holidays, or wondered why you don't feel about family the way you think you should—you're not alone. And this conversation will help you understand why. Where to find Vienna Pharaon:Workbook: https://viennapharaon.com/wound-workbooks-opt-in/Quiz: https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7ClWebsite: https://viennapharaon.comInstagram: @mindfulmftFacebook: MindfulMFTTikTok: mindfulmft The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Happy Thanksgiving, Becoming You community. This podcast exists to help you think deeply about your purpose—and today, our host Suzy Welch is doing exactly that in one of her most reflective episodes yet.Before turning to the four things she's happily thankful for right here and now, Suzy examines three significant mistakes she's only grown grateful for over time. A highly specialized (and utterly impractical) college major. Her painful first marriage. A spectacular termination. Three consequential missteps—and the wisdom each eventually revealed may not be what you'd anticipate.This is an unusually candid conversation. The path to purpose, it turns out, isn't always paved with achievements. Sometimes it's forged through the decisions we initially wish we could undo.This Thanksgiving, we're sitting with the paradox of gratitude—for the detours that redirected us, the lessons that only time could teach, and the unexpected places where meaning takes root.Happy Thanksgiving. Let's keep becoming us, together. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this engaging discussion, a stay-at-home mom grapples with losing her identity amid motherhood. The host highlights the complexities of values versus virtues when a listener seeks permission to quit her job after a short stint. Tough love encourages discerning right from wrong in her decision-making. Additionally, a 73-year-old listener learns that the journey of self-discovery is everlasting, even in retirement. The conversation wraps up with some light-hearted pet peeves and playful anecdotes, reminding everyone that growth knows no age.

Yes, they’re painful. But so is being unemployed.First of all, surprise, this is a podcast that is, at its core, about ageism, a real and painful dynamic faced by way too many people in today’s hyper-fierce workforce. But in the course of coming up with solutions for fighting ageism, our host Suzy Welch realized her advice was something that applied to everyone. Because the five questions she wants you to ask yourself – and answer with brutal candor – are all about relevance, the greatest single competitive advantage you can take with you to an interview.Each week, Becoming You endeavors to help listeners discover their purpose, at home, in life, in love, with careers. Today’s work-focused episode is possibly more intense than usual. OK, not possibly. It is. The questions it urges you to ask, and the tough-love commentary Suzy provides about them, may make you cringe. But as Suzy says, “Getting the job you love can sometimes feel like one big humiliation machine.” We cannot let that scare us off.So take a deep breath, grab something to take notes, and get ready for what could be the most unexpected 30 minutes of job search advice you didn’t know you needed to hear, but did. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“You’ll be judged no matter what you do.”“No one is coming to save you.”“Most people secretly want you to fail.”We’ve all heard the so-called hard truths about success—but are they actually true?In this special Career Confidential edition of the Becoming You podcast, host Suzy Welch and her inimitable, sometimes-cohost Dustin Liu—associate director of the Initiative on Purpose and Flourishing—put twenty of life’s toughest “truths” on trial. One by one, they debate whether these cynical mantras are wisdom… or just noise.It’s fast, funny, and fiercely honest—a lightning round of reality checks that might just change how you think about work, ambition, and what it really means to become you. The Values Bridge digital assessment is available at thevaluesbridge.comPIE360 Feedback tool is available at pie360feedback.comWant more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book.You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. You can follow and tag Suzy on:Instagram: @suzywelchLinkedin: @suzywelchTikTok: @suzywelchYouTube: @suzywelch_X: @SuzyWelch Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.