At Peace Parents Podcast

In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior.We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype, but rather accommodate it through trauma-informed parenting and practices.Sometimes, as parents, we don't know where the line is between trauma and neurotype, so we have to be consistent in connection and accommodations and observe our own data about your child or teen over time. I hope this episode serves you!To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode is designed to do three things:Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?Help you notice subtle differences in controlling and avoidant behavior to determine if there is more than one thing going on.Encourage you to startobserving and tracking your chlid or teen's unique "indicators" (Basic Needs access, Connection and Trust with you, and Nervous System Stress) over the long term so you can make decisions about what type of approach is more supportive of your family (Exposure vs. Accommodation).Happy Listening! To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Caseyps. Here is the link if you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program. Citations: Polyvagal Theory steven PorgesThe Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma  (Good explanation of what happens to our bodies when we go into "fight or flight." Helpful for understanding the PDA child's experience)What happened to you (Oprah and Dr. Perry)The Whole-Brain childBeyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral ChallengesUnwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear and Heal your Mind.

"Is my child Autistic with Demand Avoidance OR is my child PDA?"This is a question I get often from parents, so this is a free training to help you discern the answer that question for yourself. We will cover:Figuring out which "lens" is most helpful to support your unique child and the root cause of the behaviors you observe.Understanding that it is not an "either/or" or binary situation where PDA kids don't have social communication differences or that non-PDA autistic children and teens don't need autonomy and have sensitive nervous systems.Patterns I have observed that help you distinguish for yourself whether your child is PDA.Patterns I have observed among the 100s of parents I work with whose children or teens are indeed PDA.An invitation to take an experimental approach and collect data on *your* unique child.I hope it serves you!To connect with me, find me here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYouTubeFor Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLCThanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I answer this very commonly asked question: What is the difference between PDA and trauma? As part of my answer, I discuss five things:1. Why there is so much confusion between PDA and trauma. 2. Why there are different root causes behind similar nervous system activation.3. Where there are points of overlap between PDA and trauma.4. Different approaches to supporting them. 5. What we don't know yet about healing vs. accommodating a neurotype vs. neuroplasticity and where your child will land.Citations:"What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing," by Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk"Harnessing Electrochemicals to Treat Disorders Arising from Traumatic Stress" by Ronald Ruden (2019: 223)To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

This episode is an excerpt from the "Progress with PDA" workshop and is a way of looking at progress, even when you feel your most stuck as a parent.This perspective is the "yin" side to the "yang" of tracking data and indicators of progress that you observe of your PDA child or teen as they move out of burnout and towards more well-being. I hope the episode serves you. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I answer the question: "What do I do when my PDA child or teen really wants to do something - see friends, play a sport, engage in an activity - but there is a big fallout afterwards?"To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

Delve into why traditional methods like sticker charts fail with PDA kids. Explore the importance of autonomy and consent in decision-making. Witness a child's transformation through personalized structure leading to a successful business. Learn about flexibility, collaboration, and autonomy in fostering independence.

In this episode, Casey shares her story from the perspective of a parent as she experienced the time leading up to her son's burnout (3.5 years old), her son's burnout (5.5 years old), and the current moment (8.5 years old).  She ends with a spiritual insight from Buddhism about not shooting oneself with the "second arrow" when things are hard.To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I share an excerpt from the Paradigm Shift Program session that focused on Marriage, Co-Parenting, and Communication dynamics while raising a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen. I share my personal story, how raising a PDA child has impacted my marriage and share one fundamental insight about being the "lead" parent vs. the parent who is doing less of the caregiving.This is a great episode to listen to with your partner to help you get on the same page and realize you are not alone in navigating these dynamics!Citations: Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in ChildrenThe Tilt Parenting Podcast Episode with Harry Thompson (Episode 109) has been removed from the website because of allegations against Harry, so I can't link to it as a citation.  Atlantic Article "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - the concept of "lead parenting" is named in the writing. To connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey

In this episode, I outline the ways in which the description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM)-5 overlaps with some of the surface-level indicators of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy."Although there are many things that look the same on the surface, if we dig deeper to discover the root cause of your child's behavior, you may realize that Oppositional Defiant Disorder isn't really an explanatory diagnostic category, while Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is.I also outline the five things that an Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) diagnosis doesn't explain:Internalized expressions of PDA (e.g. freeze/fawn)Trouble accessing basic needs (e.g. toileting indepedently, safety, eating, sleeping, or hygiene)Sensory DifferencesSocial Communication DifferencesNeed for constant undivided attention/coregulationCitations: "High Masking" term by Rachel Dorsey, Autistic SLPTILT Parenting Podcast Reference: Episode 154: Dr. Mona Delahooke on Looking Beyond Children's Challenging BehaviorBeyond Behaviors by Mona DelahookeBody-Brain Parenting by Mona DelahookeTo connect with me, find me here: InstagramTikTokFacebookYouTubeFor more resources for parents, including #actuallyautistic pages to check out and a list of PDA-affirming practitioners in North America, check out the resources page at PDA Parents.For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.xoxo,Casey