Be Mythical

Transformative Coach Eirik is a delight to listen to, whether you're looking for more creativity, success and happiness in business or not. He's one of those super-cool, wise-beyond-his-years, open-hearted people and he talks about some really useful ways of looking at life via the lens of the three principles so that everything becomes so much happier, easier and more enjoyable. In theory we were focusing on business but somehow we touched on sex, cakes and all kinds of stuff! Here were my best bits (warning: I giggle a lot in this episode!): Going beyond self-improvement - Trying to DO more and trying to THINK more doesn't help to make us any happier or more successful (and it's a tough job juggling everything to keep all of that in place) - simply recognising that all that doing and thinking doesn't work, can be a first step back towards seeing where happiness really exists. If you're stressed and overwhelmed but you don't understand how to make a change - Make a choice... are you willing to look towards this new way of seeing life that we're describing? If you are and you keep exploring this direction and you're open to something changing for you then at some point it will. Overcoming the fear of failure - Eirik talked about how if we recognise there probably isn't an outside force judging us and recognise it's only our own thoughts creating an illusion of consequences, judgement and failure, we start to lower the stakes, reduce the pressure and feel able to play more freely.

This week we're listening in on a business coaching session between transformative coach Piers Thurston and his new client Vicky. Vicky wants to create a successful coaching and personal development business and wants to be coached around her lack of confidence about making decisions. I loved how Piers guided Vicky to see that she'd managed to overcome other perceived obstacles in other parts of her life, it happened naturally as soon as she stopped putting weight into her thoughts about them. The same can be true of any of our beliefs, fears and limitations. This episode is a fabulous example of how an understanding of the three principles allows us to easily see how the principle of Thought is creating our reality and our perception of issues, regardless whether it's in business or anything else. Vicky reaped such useful insights from this one session that she's asked to postpone the follow-up conversations to a later date so she can focus on her studies in the coming weeks. "I really enjoyed my session with Piers as it was so useful to have someone make me see the two hurdles I was specifically finding with my new business are ultimately all part of the same thing, the made up story. Something I am very aware of with some parts of my life but had never associated it with these other areas; this was very freeing and fun to play with and to trivialize the impact of them." Sorry, I know it's a shame not to hear how Vicky's journey continue next week but we'll catch up with her again in future. We've got a fab show lined up for you next week with the transformative coach and all-round bit of awesome Eirik Grunde Olsen. Eirek and I are talking about business (and all sorts of other things!) on the show - I know you'll love him!

If you’re looking for a way to create that Holy Grail of a successful business life with happiness, calm and simplicity then you’ll love hearing Nicola Bird’s take on how it’s possible! These were my best bits: Nicola talking about seeking happiness in an adrenaline-junkie-seeking-success way, and then having hit her seven-figure goal in her business and ticking every box that she thought would be her dream life… realising she still didn’t feel happy. How Nicola has moved from being a control freak obsessed with goals, plans, process and programs to following her intuition and natural wisdom as to what to do next next in her business. This is bringing her so much joy and has transformed the way Nicola works with her team. When Nicola sees that her wellbeing has nothing to do with her success in business, she sees her business as a game and she can play full-out and fearless. “Game on”! The internet marketing blueprints, formulas, how-tos and seven-step plans are created in all innocence based on people’s thoughts on what they think created their success. Nicola has realised that once we understand the three principles, our personal thinking settles down, we’re more able to hear our own wisdom and insights – and that’s the “gold dust”!

The final and truly transformative session between coach and money expert Viv Barclay and her client Emma around Emma’s debt issues and how she can find happiness. What a brilliant episode this was – a must-listen for anyone with any kind of addictive thinking. These were my favourite parts: All thoughts are liesOur thoughts only have the meaning that we give to them. How our thoughts create our feelings and experienceAnd it looks really real! Nothing has changed physically for Emma but she feels completely different! I loved the bit where she talks about realising how amazing she is! Thoughts fall into two categories: insecure and secureIf the feeling isn’t good then it’s pointing to the fact that our thoughts are insecure and are going to be less helpful to take seriously All addictions are created by addictive thoughtsAn understanding of the three principles helps us to see this

Speaking to author, coach and speaker Julian Freeman about the three principles, seeing through our thoughts and fears about money and returning to our default setting of happiness. My favourite take-aways: The hamster wheel of life We can be so focused on working faster and harder to get 'somewhere' that we don't even realise we're on the hamster wheel. The hamster wheel is not our true identity. Life isn't about the money that we as individuals are busy creating on our hamster wheel. There's a flow of money and so we're always only playing with the casino's chips. It might feel like it's our money but it came from somewhere else and then will flow on somewhere - we're just holding it for the moment. Just showing up as you There's no blueprint or technique to make money work for everyone - the power is in who we are as individuals. How we are is what we attract to us. We just have to show up as ourselves to get off the hamster wheel and to see the abundance of opportunities, money and experiences. How we're like our Phones We have a default setting - we mess with the settings, we try to improve ourselves. One button can take the phone back to default and likewise one realisation can take us back to our default setting - our true self. Our auto-pilot takes care of things better than when we're trying to control things. We have have an inbuilt, self-righting mechanism. We all have a super-power of resilience!

Amy Hardison is the wife of the acclaimed 'Ultimate Coach' Steve Hardison. Steve suggested we interview Amy for The Born Happy Show as she's the happiest person he knows. It was fascinating speaking to Amy and to hear how natural happiness is for her. Amy spoke about: Her parents both being very happy and her upbringing being full of happiness, love and self-esteem. Amy said feels that we don't need to be perfect to be amazing parents. Navigating difficult times in life is easier when you recognise that you won't feel the same way forever - even by tomorrow you'll probably feel differently. Happiness comes from having acceptance both for who we are and also what we aren't (accepting that others will be better at some things). It's worth saying that we had a lot of issues with the phone line during the interview, getting cut off several times, but Amy was just so calm and wonderful throughout!Enjoy!Lian xo

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom and happiness... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching her client Emma in their second session, using the three principles understanding. It's a golden episode and there were SO many great points. These were my top three: Thought addictionsWhen we don't understand that thoughts create feelings we can get addicted to certain thoughts thinking that they're causing the great feeling. We can also swap an addiction from one thought for another.Emma's BOOM! Insight was: "Wow! you could totally switch shopping for being addicted to exercise."Even though it seems that exercising makes us feel good, the feelings aren't coming from the activity, they're still coming from inside: our thinking about the activity. The Thought TrainViv talks about feeling like a Thought Train is carrying us along and we can't get off it. The train feels so real because we're always feeling our thinking but really it's more like we're standing in a departure lounge looking up a choice of destinations. We can't choose which thoughts enter our heads but we can choose which ones we board. Not feeling good enoughWe often push ourselves to fit an image, to achieve or to look more attractive because we don't feel good enough compared to others or own expectations for ourselves. We don't often stop to question the truth of thoughts about ourself.Viv mentioned on of my favourite metaphors - the one about diamond, horse crap and nail varnish. As we start to see the truth of our own inner perfection, we start to love ourselves unconditionally and that happiness, love and acceptance for ourselves just radiates out like sunshine onto the world.

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching a brand new client, Emma using the three principles understanding. Emma bears her soul in this session and I could identify with so much of what she was saying. I imagine you will too as I think most of us have felt the way that she's felt, even if the visible expression of it isn't issues around money. Viv was incredibly insightful! In particular, I loved these three key points she made. Our thought of not being 'enough' and that other people are better than us in some way is often the root of us getting into debt. Seeing that all we're doing is engaging in the specific CONTENT of thinking brings acceptance for how we are, just as we are. The more we resist how we're feeling, the more the state persists. Rather than wrestling and trying to change how we feel rather we can welcome the feelings in. We can allow ourselves to get drenched in the feeling like we're walking in the rain. The feelings will dissipate all by themselves. Notice how much the outside world, the media and adverts are tapping into our deepest emotions, and especially fear. Making it easy for us to spend money 'buy now, pay later'. Telling us that we need 'stuff' to be happy, whole and valuable. I also loved Emma talking about being able to see the humour in some of her thoughts, such as 'surfer girl' thought and how seeing the funny side of our thoughts, in itself makes life feels happier, lighter and less serious. We'll catch up with Emma and Viv again on next Thursday's show!

The third and final coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an expert on weight loss and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her client Amy. Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives, through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains: Although it was clear that Amy had made many positive changes, Amy had not seen them herself. Change sneaks up on us because we quickly take for granted our new habits of thought. There’s no such thing as failure and sabotage. We’re only ever testing ourselves against our own made-up thoughts. There’s no end state or conclusion to weight loss, or indeed, anything else in happiness or life! Every day is a new one and every day we will have fresh thought and will feel differently.

Show notes: This is the second coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an experienced Wellbeing Facilitator and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her new client Amy. Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains: Seeing through the ‘I can never eat that again’ thought allows us makes choices about what we really want to eat How our bodies tell us when we’re full – it’s when the taste declines (is it just me who completely misses that signal?!) That we’re all perfect and happy :) and how we can let go of the negative self-talk as we see it’s just thought We’ll be catching up with Elaine and Amy in a month’s time to see how Amy’s getting on.