Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode.Please Support The Show with a DonationVisit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Sanebox Biggest time waster at work - automatically filters out the emails that don't need your focus. Get your email under control free 2 week trial and get a $25 credit www.sanebox.com/wolfThe Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. iRest research based form of deep meditation 10 step meditation practice Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Want to feel like you're sleeping in a 5-star hotel? Try a Casper mattress at no hassle to you and get $50 off select mattresses Go to www.casper.com/oneyoufeed promo code oneyoufeed  In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss...His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad HabitsTrigger, Behavior, ResultRewards and PunishmentsHabit LoopSubjective BiasAddiction: Continued use despite adverse consequencesAddiction: a way to avoid somethingEvery time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loopCravings are like stray catsIf you don't feed a craving it will burn itself outSurfing a cravingThe way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortionCraving Wave: come - crest - go away\Awareness helps us surf these craving wavesWhat does this feel like in my body right now?Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go awayRAINThis method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation programSubstitute behaviorIn their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happinessInvestigate the craving and the rewardExcitement brings contractionGet curious about your experiences - it helps you remain openDefault mode networkConceptual vs Experiential SelfThe contraction of egoHow we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the differenceJusdon Brewer LinksHomepageTwitterPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Josh Korda is the guiding teacher of Dharma Punx in NYC and a fully empowered Buddhist teacher in the Against the Stream lineage. He has led numerous online and residential retreats and is also widely known for his podcast and as an author. His new book is called Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth. In this conversation with Eric, he talks about how to make changes in your life and he bases much of what he has to say on this topic on his Buddhist principals and own life experience. It's a comprehensive look at how we as humans can experience the impermanence of life. Since we all face this impermanence, it's a pretty important thing to grow more skillful in the way we interact with it.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Please Support The Show with a Donation The Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf LinkedIn worlds largest professional network 70% of the workforce is already there - not just those looking for jobs. A new hire is made every 10 seconds using LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 off first job post Blinkist read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan In This Interview, Josh Korda and I Discuss...His book, Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to TruthHow he deals with his depressionWestern mindfulness practiceHow it's not about always accepting or settling for toxic circumstancesHow it's not about always running away from healthy yet difficult circumstancesThe wisdom to know what to do with difficulty in the momentHow to make significant life changes (based on his experience doing just that)Being willing to set boundariesMaking change by talking harshly oneself only creates stress and you then associate the stress with the goal itself and you begin to procrastinateHow our inner critic makes us want to avoid the very things we want to grow intoThought arrives after feeling and impulsesWays to change behavior without relying on thought"Corrective emotional response"The importance of an empathetic, safe therapist in effective therapyJosh Korda LinksHomepageTwitter Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Anne Bogel is an author, podcast host, avid reader and personality assessment expert. That's what you'll see when you read her new book, How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. In this interview, Eric and Anne cover a lot of ground; from book recommendations to the value and application of personality tests. If you are at all interested in personal growth, this episode will excite and inspire you to use valid personality tests as a tool to fuel that endeavor. If you've written off personality tests in the past, we encourage you to revisit the topic with an open mind as you listen to this episode. You may think differently 45 minutes from now.Please Support The Show with a DonationVisit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Bombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF In This Interview, Anne Bogel and I Discuss...Her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes EverythingRecent fiction books that she's read that she lovedHow we all have pain during the course of our livesThe joy of reading literary fictionWhat is personality?The coping strategies we learn vs fundamental personality changesHow our mind is inclined to workThe way we see thingsTaking a personality test and answering questions based on how we want to be vs how we really areThat if you don't know how you're really like, you can't move forward and grow as a personCommon thoughts, feelings and behavior = our personality typeOur character and our behavior are two things we can impact and change within ourselves with a lot of effortPersonality tests not being a limiting thingPutting your strengths to work for youPutting effort towards things we can change vs things we can't changeI'm the kind of person who _____ being a powerful phraseFixed vs Growth mindsetHighly sensitive peopleThe emotional bank accountIntroverts vs ExtrovertsWhat you do consistently over time mattersthe 5:1 ratio when it comes to positive and negative experiencesThe Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/Anne Bogel LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterInstagram Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Sanebox helps organize your email inbox for a www.sanebox.com/wolf free trial for 2 weeks and a $25 creditEric just replaced his entire sock drawer with all Bombas socks because of how much he loves them get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF  In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...His book, The Mind IlluminatedThe power of setting an intention for meditationGetting all of the mind on board for meditatingAccepting whatever comes upTrying to enjoy your meditation, celebrating the times you come back to the present moment vs scolding yourselfRoadmap of the stages of meditation over timeHow knowing the developmental nature of things over time can be problematicThe difficulties of being a beginner at anythingLooking for the pleasure and joy in wherever you are The 4 step process of settling in to meditateFeeling your breath at the noseThe Mindful ReviewBeing aware of the motivation behind your thoughts and speechWhat could I have done differently?Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.New science and research has changed the formula of improving hair and stopping hair loss 1st months supply with a subscription for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF Read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...His book, The Mind IlluminatedHow the mind and the brain worksThe basic distinction between attention and awarenessHow when we give labels to something we can know and understand it betterThe moments of consciousness modelNon-perceiving moments of consciousnessThe dullness of meditationSleepiness in meditationThe goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilitiesThe mind system model (how the mind works)The conscious and unconscious mindSensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses)Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling)These sub-minds are competing for attentionThe conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project intoThe power of setting intentions on the sub-mindsThe role of the narrating sub-mindWe are a collection of the processes of the sub-mindsMaking intellectual sense of the experience of not-selfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can't think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Casper mattress 4th of July offer July 9th www.casper.com/savings up to $225 off your order Quip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet free In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss...Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every MomentAwakeningWaking up out of the dream of separationWaking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelingsAwakening not dependant on or a precursor to one's psychological healthSurrendering the need to uphold oneselfSurrendering the psychological selfThe need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendenciesThe defense and attack found in righteousnessThe verticality of beingNot having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it isHow to be free from sufferingThe strength of life's intelligenceThe ripening that happens within oneself when you've finally had enough of running away from painNo real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you're doing is running away from itAm I willing to meet this exactly as it is?Trying not to tryTrue fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basketThe paradox of trying not to tryAccumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you'll feel worthy and good enoughLove is seeking to know itselfSilence is ever present in everything  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression - more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world. Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Madison Reed - affordable, salon quality at home hair color kit get color matched www.madison-reed.com 10% off plus free shipping on first kit promo code WOLF In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss...His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected SolutionsThe two kinds of human connectionIntrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations"Junk" valuesThe more you're driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you'll suffer from anxiety and depression in your lifeOur society drives us to live in this extrinsic wayThe whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buyingExtrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motivesThe 9 causes of depression and anxietyThe need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalanceThat the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depressionThe loneliest culture that has ever beenThe importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we're so depressed and anxiousOur sense of home and sense of belongingThe problems manifested by being isolated and aloneThe benefit of being part of a "tribe"Realizing that you're not the only one who struggles and feels the way you doGrief and the diagnosis of depressionJust having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn't have meaningDepression and not having your needs metFollowing the pain to its sourcePathologizing DepressionJohann Hari LinksLost Connections HomepageTwitterFacebook  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon.Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.Solomon’s recent book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, published on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.”Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages. The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.” In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss…The One You Feed parable.Using work to make the world a better place.The urgent business of living a moral life.How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.The perfectionism of privilege.The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.How we can grow through difficult circumstances.The poison of comparison.The idea of the “psychological supermodel”.Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.How critical humor is in dealing with depressionNew approaches to treating depression.His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.The shame of mental illness.If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.The choices we face.How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Please Support The Show with a Donation Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organizationIn This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss...Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern RelationshipsThe emotions underneath fear, hatred and greedDepression being a calcified sadnessTurning towards sadnessThe four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of thisFeeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?The difference between anger and irritation in the bodyThe enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happyLook at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one anotherThe threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyondThe role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationshipsGood manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your wordsOpening to the other person as they are in a relationshipIntimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover moreIn a relationship, commit to intimacy over loveAddiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the spacePassion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problemWishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, howeverRelax with what is and a space will open upHer take on sufferingHer beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachmentA spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it isYour life IS the spiritual pathIn meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhereMeditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.