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Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and… His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?” Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity” 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making  The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you  Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values Steven C. Hayes Links:stevenchayes.comTwitterFacebookFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDPhlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and… His book, Comedy Sex God The nature of life Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life How sin is about being unconscious The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now The tension between being and doing Maintaining your center while doing a task When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny” The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way His favorite mantra That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed The role of curiosity When in doubt, zoom out How God is a metaphor for a mystery Pete Holmes Links:peteholmes.comTwitterFacebookPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and… Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster The neuroscience of resilience All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience What resilience is  Response flexibility How you respond to the issue, IS the issue The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources Our own internal resources Differentiating between our perception and our response How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through Cultivating a resilience mindset The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty The default mode network Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute The things that accelerate brain change Changing every “should” to a “could”  That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?” How triggers become trailheads Linda Graham Links:lindagraham-mft.netTwitterFacebookCalm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDIf you enjoyed this conversation with Linda Graham on Strengthening our Resilience, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Elissa EpelRick HansonSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how.Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and… His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad The Tiny Habits Method The technique of Celebration Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly  When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior Stop judging yourself Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward Golden behaviors The problem of “all or nothing thinking”  The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit. The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt Troubleshooting a behavior change problem The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator Ways we can make a behavior easy to do That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing BJ Fogg Links:bjfogg.comSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Michelle SegarJames Clear (Part 1)James Clear (Part 2)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts! That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life The vicious cycle of failure The sustainable cycle of self-care That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time The self-care hierarchy Michelle Segar LinksHomepageTwitterLinkedInSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeIn This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and… His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed. When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives Being an active member or your own life The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health Stress Fewer wellness behaviors Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later” Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior I won’t give in to feel good Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions When….then… Giving the monkey something to do What’s the next action? Keeping it small Hacks to work around our irrational thinking Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation The meaning behind our goals Meaning and Manageability Asking what will this cost me if I put it off? Being a Procrastinator Prefer tomorrow over today Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow” Affect forecasting Thinking of your future self as a stranger Developing empathy for future self Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode LinksHomepageTwitterTim’s Psychology Today PageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits.In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better Habit stacking/Anchoring “After _____ I will _____” The more specific the better Social environment and habits You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior Make it easy The two-minute rule A habit must be established before it can be improved Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line Make it satisfying Feel successful at the end Bring the long-term consequences into the short term  James Clear LinksHomepageInstagramTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones How habits can compound for you or against you That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment The 4 Laws of Behavior Change Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts How bamboo is like habits You need to build a foundation to see results How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored Focusing on systems rather than goals How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits That goals restrict your happiness The role of identity in behavior change How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence Growth vs Fixed Mindset How humans are learning machines The 4 Stages of Habits How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them The toolbox for breaking and building habits James Clear LinksHomepageInstagramTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and… His book, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything Looking for the balance in dualities What an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offers How modern society has lost touch with origin stories Linking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern science Knowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you face Having a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexity What we know & don’t know about The Big Bang Pure potentiality becoming energy and matter Everything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence. Emergence of stars, planets, and life happened Cells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent. The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth. The impact of our utilization of fossil fuels David Christian Links:www.mq.edu.au/bighistoryTwitterTed TalkFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and… His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World The concerns about our digital lifestyle The mixture of harm and benefit with social media The costs of our digital lifestyle Digital Maximalist vs Digital Minimalist Starting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you value How to think about the role of tech in your life Deploying tech to support you in living life according to your values Having a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your life How clutter is costly Adding up the cost and value of something The importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our lives Intentionality is satisfying The 3 step process for implementing digital minimalism Cal Newport Links:calnewport.comDaily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Astronomy, Cooking and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfRemrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.