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Jun 2, 2024 • 47min
031: How To Live With Purpose - Marcus Aurelius
Lessons from 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius. Aurelius was a Roman Emperor (161 AD - 180AD) and a Stoic philosopher. Meditation is a collection of personal writings during his time as Emperor. He acquired the title Philosopher King during his lifetime.
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00:00 - Excerpt
02:15 - Marcus Aurelius and Meditations
03:45 - What is Stoicism and the Logos?
07:30 - Predetermined actions and moral responsibility
08:30 - Perception, action, and will
09:18 - Why you are more like a boxer than a fencer
13:05 - Begin each day with gratitude
16:35 - Contemplation on death and perfecting your character
22:40 - Remove selfish thoughts from your mind
28:25 - If you have to travel the world to find yourself, you’re a fool
30:00 - Treat others with real love without care for what others think
33:20 - The difference between sinning out of anger vs. out of pleasure
34:45 - Use your faculty of rationality to build conviction
39:16 - The obstacle is the Way
42:00 - Ambition vs. doing what is right always
45:22 - Challenges

May 26, 2024 • 48min
030: How To Apply Samurai Wisdom to Daily Life - Inazo Nitobe
Lessons from 'Bushido: The Soul of Japan' by Inazo Nitobe
In this book, Nitobe breaks down the Bushido ethical system into 11 parts: justice, courage, benevolence, politeness, truthfulness, honor, duty of loyalty, samurai training, self-control, and seppuku.
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00:00 - Excerpt
02:40 - What is Bushido?
07:30 - The Shinto mirror & knowing yourself
09:00 - Don't be a collector of information or else you'll be a rotten vegetable
12:00 - Make knowing and acting one thing
14:30 - Always do what is right & practice true courage
18:25 - Mercy is not a weakness
22:40 - Be polite but speak the truth and keep your word
29:30 - Act honorably and be loyal without sacrificing your conscience
36:55 - Study philosophy and literature for the formation of character
40:00 - Remain composed even in adversity, finding peace
45:00 - Challenge & NEW Patreon

May 19, 2024 • 43min
029: How To Kill Your Ego - The Desert Hermits
Lessons from 'The Wisdom of the Desert' compiled by Thomas Merton.
Merton compiled 'The Wisdom of the Desert' from the Verba Seniorum or Sayings of the Elders. The Elders refer to the early Christian hermits who lived in solitude in the Egyptian desert. This book contains timeless aphorisms, advice, dialogues, and stories of the experiences of early Christian hermits.
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00:00 - Reflections from spending time at a Benedictine Monastery & meeting B and C
09:05 - Excerpt from ‘The Wisdom of the Desert’, who is Thomas Merton
13:10 - The primacy of Love and abandoning the Ego
19:00 - Finding Ultimate Reality in the Silence
21:00 - Why you need to control your tongue and belly
22:40 - Humility is the path to wisdom
25:30 - Apply yourself to silence, and make your life a meditation
27:45 - Embracing death by laughing at it
29:50 - Don’t ask that your struggle be removed, but as for strength
32:15 - What is better, focusing on asceticism or interior life?
34:25 - “Go, sit in your cell, and your cell will teach you everything”
36:20 - Those who speak, should do; and only those who do, should speak
39:50 - How to love properly
41:15 - Challenge

May 12, 2024 • 41min
028: How To Liberate Your Mind From Evil - Veda Vyasa
Lessons from 'The Bhagavad Gita' by Veda Vyasa. The Gita is an essential text within the Mahabharata. It is a dialogue between Lord Krishna and the warrior prince Arjuna, who is conflicted about fighting in the Kurukshetra war. The Gita explores themes of duty, discipline, righteousness, and the nature of reality.
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May 5, 2024 • 46min
027: How To Become The Greatest Version Of Yourself - Baltasar Gracián
Lessons from 'A Pocket Mirror for Heroes' by Baltasar Gracián
Baltasar Gracián (1601 - 1658) was a Spanish Jesuit, writer, and philosopher. Nietzsche, Voltaire, Schopenhauer, and more love his writings. Gracián's work continues to influence political and moral philosophy.
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00:00 - excerpt
02:00 - Baltasar Gracian, the polymath
04:45 - We only understand the beauty of life at death
09:00 - To do philosophy well is to meditate on your mortality
11:35 - The only thing you own is your virtue, nothing else
18:00 - Why you need to cultivate contemplation in your life
27:15 - Practical effects of knowing yourself
33:35 - To know happiness you must know sadness
39:50 - Choose your friends and what you do with care
43:00 - Live a heroic life through excellence
45:05 - Challenge

Apr 28, 2024 • 41min
026: How To Face Your Mortality - Paul Kalanithi
Lessons from 'When Breathe Becomes Air' by Paul Kalanithi
Paul Kalanithia was a neurosurgeon, writer, and a young father. He was completing his residency training in neurological surgery and a postdoctoral fellowship in neuroscience when he was diagnosed with stage IV metastatic lung cancer. He died in March 2015, 22 months after.
'When Breathe Becomes Air' is a memoir and Paul's story of battling lung cancer. It was posthumously published on January 12, 2016
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00:00 - Excerpt
01:46 - We all have a terminal illness, so what then is our call?
03:34 - Who is Paul Kalanithi and why he didn’t want to become a doctor
06:30 - Seeking to answer life’s greatest questions, and learning to understand the “physiological-spiritual” man
09:00 - Surrounded by death becoming a better doctor
12:26 - Neurosurgery must be a calling—it can’t be a job
15:30 - Life is ephemeral. Ask if yourself if you’re ready for death, and then if what you’re doing is something externally or internally motivated
25:16 - “…the culmination of decades of striving, evaporated” What are you going to do with your life?
33:40 - Live each day at a time
38:00 - When you see past the illusion, the most important things become clear
40:20 - Challenge

Apr 21, 2024 • 41min
025: How Hyper-Productive Work Culture Destroys Leisure And Individual Freedom - Josef Pieper
Lessons from "Leisure: The Basis of Culture" by Josef Pieper.
This book challenges our contemporary work-centric culture and the idea of “total work,” where every aspect of life is dominated by the ethos of work and productivity. Pieper argues that this shift has led to a loss of meaning and a neglect of the liberal arts, which traditionally has been a space for leisure and the cultivation of individual freedom.
Josef Pieper was a professor of philosophy at University of Munster. He was schooled specifically in Greek philosophy and Thomas Aquinas, law and sociology.
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00:00 - Excerpt and background
04:30 - Our work-centric culture vs. leisure
07:10 - Individual freedom comes from leisure
13:30 - When work becomes a religion, leisure makes no sense
16:00 - Hyper-productive state is at odds with enlightenment
19:15 - Servile arts vs. liberal arts
24:30 - Leisure is only possible when you know yourself
33:00 - Crave out a time for leisure
38:00 - Virtues perfect you so that you can act effortlessly
40:10 - Challenge

Apr 14, 2024 • 51min
024: How To Break Free From Self-Sabotage And Find Inner Freedom - Henri Nouwen
Lessons from 'Out of Solitude' by Henri J.M. Nouwen.
Henri Nouwen was a Professor of Religion and Theology at Yale University, the University of Notre Dame and Harvard Divinity. He left his academic post to join L’ Arche, a community that helps people with disability.
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00:00 - Excerpt from ‘Out of Solitude’
05:00 - Fear of the other is the root of all our problems
06:16 - Who is Henri Nouwen?
10:31 - How solitude leads to care
12:00 - Find your lonely place
14:45 - Charity as gratitude vs. Charity for praise
16:40 - Sitting in silence
18:20 - The wise know themself that they don’t require affirmations from others
26:34 - Difference between Isolation and Solitude
31:00 - Darkness meditation
32:30 - Tao’s story of uselessness and why it’s ultimately the most useful
39:00 - What does it mean to be a good friend?
43:15 - To care means to live in the present
50:10 - Challenge

Apr 7, 2024 • 45min
023: How To Find Meaning In A Shallow World - Solomon
Lessons from the ‘Book of Ecclesiastes’ by Solomon
Solomon was the King of Jerusalem and is traditionally considered to be the author of Ecclesiastes. In Ecclesiastes, Solomon embarks on a quest for meaning and wisdom. He explores the different aspects of human life but concludes that everything is vanity. And death is the great equalizer.
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Mar 31, 2024 • 42min
022: How To Become A Sage - Confucius
Lessons from ‘The Analects of Confucius’ by Confucius. He was born around 551 BC, in the ancient state of Lu.
Confucius is recognized as one of the greatest philosopher teachers. His ideas have influenced Chinese cultural traditions and the world for over 2000 years.
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00:00 - Excerpt, background on Confucius & ancient China
06:10 - Confucius’ blueprint for life
12:40 - Your habits shape your character
14:50 - Demand much from yourself, less of others
17:50 - The importance of always learning
22:08 - How to express yourself honestly
25:20 - Practice what you preach, talk only when you’ve done it
27:40 - There’s something to learn from everyone
30:20 - Exploitive behaviors are what petty persons do
33:30 - Sharpen your tools, and don’t get distracted by shiny things
36:50 - Immerse yourself in the river of life
39:00 - You can face death at dusk if you’ve walked the way in day
40:30 - Challenge