Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Cassandra, who struggles with indecision. She often feels stuck, drifting through various aspects of her life rather than fully committing. At 39 years old, Cassandra is beginning to confront the deep-rooted patterns that have held her back, stemming from a traumatic and dysfunctional childhood. Christine helps Cassandra understand that her indecision is not a personal flaw but a survival strategy developed during her chaotic upbringing. Through their coaching session, Christine encourages Cassandra to reconnect with her inner child, offering her the safety and nurturing she never received as a child, which is crucial for healing and moving forward with clarity and purpose.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle to make decisions, often feeling stuck or paralyzed by overthinking? Have you had a chaotic or traumatic childhood that makes it difficult for you to trust yourself and others? Do you often find yourself drifting through life, unsure what you truly want or how to commit to it? Can you communicate your needs openly or bottle up emotions until they explode? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Cassandra's indecision and drifting are deeply rooted in her childhood trauma, where she felt trapped and unsafe. Christine highlights that Cassandra's struggle is not about a lack of decision-making ability but rather a lack of self-trust and safety. By reconnecting with her inner child and practicing self-compassion, Cassandra can begin to break free from the patterns that keep her stuck. The coaching session underscores the importance of nurturing oneself and creating a safe space for personal growth and decision-making. How to Get Over It & On With It: Begin to see indecision not as a flaw but as a survival mechanism that can be transformed through self-compassion and nurturing. Practice reconnecting with your inner child by providing the safety and love you needed growing up. Communicate your needs clearly and honestly in your relationships, even if it initially feels uncomfortable. Create small, actionable steps towards the life you envision, focusing on integration rather than over-analysis. Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by Organifi. Organifi offers a line of organic superfood blends that provide plant-based nutrition, high-quality ingredients, and less than three grams of sugar. One of Christine's favorites is the Red Juice, a delicious superfood berry blend packed with adaptogens, antioxidants, and a clinical dose of cordyceps. It's a perfect alternative to coffee, promoting energy without caffeine and supporting your overall health. You can get 20% off all Organifi orders by visiting organifi.com/overit or using the promo code "OVERIT" at checkout. Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Angela, who is struggling to connect with her inner child while grappling with anxiety. Angela's journey is marked by a history of complex PTSD, making it difficult for her to feel safe within her own body.  Christine guides Angela in understanding that instead of trying to manage or eliminate anxiety, she can transform her relationship with it by embracing it with compassion and care. Through a powerful coaching session, Christine helps Angela uncover the underlying fears and beliefs fueling her anxiety. The session emphasizes the importance of being present, acknowledging inner feelings, and nurturing oneself in moments of discomfort. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you spend a lot of time, energy, and effort trying to manage or eliminate emotions like anxiety? Have you experienced complex PTSD or other traumas that have left you feeling disconnected from your body? Do you feel overwhelmed with fear when stepping out of your comfort zone or putting yourself out there? Have you connected with the younger parts of yourself and provided them with a sense of safety and belonging in your current life? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Angela's anxiety is deeply rooted in her childhood trauma and complex PTSD, leading her to feel unsafe in her own body. By observing and communicating with her anxiety, Angela begins to understand that it is a part of her, but not all of her. Christine demonstrates the power of separating oneself from overwhelming emotions, which can help one regain a sense of control and calm. The coaching session highlights the importance of nurturing inner parts of oneself, primarily when those parts are related to past traumas and fears. How to Get Over It & On With It: Begin to view anxiety not as something to eliminate but as a part of you that needs understanding and compassion. Practice grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to help your nervous system feel safe in the present moment. Consider using the empty chair technique to separate yourself from anxiety and other overwhelming emotions, creating a dialogue that helps you manage them better. Embrace all parts of yourself, especially those that feel scared or vulnerable, and bring them into the present where they can feel safe and seen. Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of “Over It and On With It,” Christine Hassler coaches Sarah, who struggles with the complexities of a relationship that appears both deeply meaningful and deeply troubling. Sarah's situation involves a partner who alternates between emotional closeness and sudden, unexplained withdrawal, triggering Sarah's abandonment fears. Christine helps Sarah recognize the unhealthy patterns and offers guidance on finding the strength to set necessary boundaries. Christine's compassionate yet direct approach aims to support listeners who may find themselves rationalizing toxic behaviors in their relationships due to unresolved childhood wounds. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself attracted to relationships that cause you significant stress and anxiety? Are you making excuses for someone's unhealthy behavior because of their past trauma or because they express emotions sincerely? Did you grow up in a household where you felt neglected or unloved, leading you to accept less than you deserve in relationships? Do you struggle with setting firm boundaries and often talk yourself into staying in relationships that don't serve you? Are you ready to take bold actions to change unhealthy patterns in your relationships? The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Sarah's intense connection with her partner is rooted in unresolved childhood abandonment issues, making her more tolerant of behaviors like ghosting and emotional withdrawal. Despite the partner's ability to articulate emotions, his repeated blocking and disappearing acts are red flags that cannot be overlooked. Christine highlights the importance of evaluating how someone handles stress and whether they take responsibility for their triggers and actions. The episode underscores the necessity of setting clear boundaries and recognizing when a relationship is unhealthy, regardless of the depth of emotional connection. How to Get Over It & On With It: Acknowledge and address the old childhood wounds influencing your tolerance for unhealthy behaviors in relationships. Practice emotional and physical grounding techniques to reconnect with your sense of self-worth and power. Seek out trauma-informed therapy or coaching to work through past wounds in a supportive and healthy environment. Establish firm boundaries and recognize that justifying toxic behaviors is a coping strategy rooted in past trauma. Affirm your worthiness of love and respect, and take bold actions to protect your emotional well-being. Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Mia, who struggles with self-blame and guilt following a challenging divorce. Mia's feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing stem from a history of emotional abuse and neglect in her childhood, compounded by her recent breakup.    Christine provides a compassionate and insightful discussion, helping Mia recognize that her pain is not her fault and offering strategies to address deep-seated beliefs and patterns. The episode aims to support listeners who might feel responsible for their suffering and struggle to break free from negative self-perceptions.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle to move past events because you believe it's your fault? Are you stuck in a pattern of self-blame and self-loathing that prevents you from healing? Did you grow up in an environment where you felt neglected or abused, leading you to believe you deserve lousy treatment? Are you aware of any patterns of gaslighting or unhealthy relationships in your life? Do you find it challenging to let go of beliefs and thinking patterns that aren't serving you?   The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's: Mia's self-blame and feelings of inadequacy are deeply rooted in her childhood experiences with a narcissistic family system. The belief that she deserves to be treated poorly is a result of internalizing abusive and neglectful behavior from her parents. Christine highlights that Mia's recent breakup and the blame placed on her by her ex-husband are symptoms of unresolved trauma and not reflective of her worth. The episode underscores the importance of differentiating between childhood trauma and current situations to avoid projecting past pain onto present circumstances.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Recognize and challenge the old beliefs stemming from childhood trauma that are influencing your current self-perception. Engage in physical and emotional grounding techniques, such as standing with feet on the floor and deep breathing, to reconnect with your sense of power and presence. Seek trauma-informed therapy and inner child work to address and heal from past abuse and neglect. Write down the facts of your situation to distinguish between reality and distorted beliefs. Affirm that the abuse and neglect you experienced were not your fault and that you are worthy of love and respect.   Upcoming Events: Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat. Free coaching call on July 31st focused on reducing stress and anxiety. Sign-up at christinehassler.com/freeworkshop.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Melillo is one of the most respected specialists in neurological disorders in America, Dr. Robert Melillo has been helping children overcome learning disabilities for over 30 years. His areas of expertise include: autism spectrum disorders, PDD/NOS, ADD/ADHD, OCD, dyslexia, Asperger’s, Tourette’s, bipolar disorder, and other mental, attention, behavioral and learning disorders. He is also an expert in diet, nutrition and neuroimmune disorders in children and adults. He is best known for his best selling book, Disconnected Kids. He has a brand new version of this book coming out the first week of August (and is available now for pre-orders on Amazon).

 In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Niamh, who struggles with the fear and inner critic preventing her from pursuing her passion for music. Niamh shares her journey of reconnecting with her love for music after being laid off from her corporate job. Despite her progress, she faces a recurring block of fear, especially around visibility and judgment. Christine guides her through strategies to work with her fear rather than trying to overcome it, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and comforting the inner child. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you want to pursue a passion but feel paralyzed by fear? Do you have a loud inner critic that stops you from taking action? Do you take fear as a sign that you shouldn’t do something? Are you afraid of judgment from others? Guest Insights: Niamh has a deep passion for music but is hindered by a protective part that triggers fear and self-criticism. She recognizes that fear stems from childhood and struggles with visibility and harsh self-judgment. Niamh has tried forcing herself through fear but finds it counterproductive and re-traumatizing. A-Ha Moments: Fear is not the absence of courage but moving forward despite fear. The inner critic often stems from past experiences where visibility and vulnerability were met with harsh judgment or unsafe situations. Working with fear involves nurturing the inner child and compassionately acknowledging the inner critic. How to Get Over It and On With It: Slow down and break down fast-paced, subconscious thoughts to create separation from the inner critic. Bring the inner child into the process, comforting and holding her hand through fearful moments. Have a plan to support yourself if faced with negative feedback, such as deleting comments and seeking comfort. Write and perform songs that express the journey of dancing with fear rather than trying to overcome it. Social Media Info: Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

ana James MS, CNS, CDN, is a triple certified nutritionist, functional medicine practitioner and cogitative behavioral therapist. She takes a rare approach to women’s weight loss and hormonal health – putting self-worth at the center of the conversation. As a self-worth expert, James has spent the past 22 years studying the complex relationship between food, metabolic issues, and emotions. Dana has a Master of Science in Medical Nutrition from Columbia University. She is trained by Institute for Functional Medicine and the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine. She wrote the Amazon best selling book, The Archetype Diet, which weaves together food, hormones and self-worth. She now splits her time between Europe and US. 

In this heartfelt episode, Christine Hassler works with Pamela, who is struggling to overcome an unhealthy relationship with food stemming from unresolved childhood trauma. Pamela seeks guidance to heal herself for her well-being and to prevent passing these issues on to her daughter. Christine provides compassionate and insightful coaching, helping Pamela make significant connections and encouraging her to seek ongoing support for her healing journey. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have an unhealthy relationship with food or another aspect of your life? Are there unresolved childhood traumas affecting your current behaviors? Have you noticed that your children are modeling unhealthy behaviors that concern you? Are you seeking a solution for a long-standing issue but feel stuck? Guest Insights: Pamela connects her unhealthy relationship with food to childhood sexual abuse by her stepfather. She realizes that her behaviors are affecting her daughter, who believes confident food choices equate to receiving love. After disclosing her trauma to a friend, Pamela noticed a temporary improvement in her relationship with food. Christine guides Pamela in acknowledging her inner child's pain and understanding the roots of her trauma. A-Ha Moments: Pamela understands that her obsession with food is a coping mechanism for her unresolved trauma. By addressing her inner child's need for validation and safety, Pamela experiences relief. Christine emphasizes the importance of ongoing support to heal from deep-seated trauma fully. How to Get Over It: Seek therapy or coaching to address unresolved childhood traumas. Validate your inner child's experiences and emotions. Commit to a healing journey, recognizing that aha moments are just the beginning. Engage in inner child work and somatic practices to release trauma from the body. Resources: Social Media Info: Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

In this episode I talk about the three things we *must* do if we desire freedom from the issues that are holding us back.  I also go into more detail about what to expect at my live retreat in September that you can register for here: Christinehassler.com/retreat