Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today’s caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]   What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.   If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.   When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we’re not hitting as many roadblocks.   I don’t want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.   Tap into your inner knowing and intuition with this gift from me. It offers help with intuitive decision making and how to navigate the unknown with 6 Steps to Bypass Your Practical Mind. Text ‘Christine’ to 444999.   Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more? Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you? As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it? Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can’t shift it?   Britney’s Question: Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.   Britney’s Key Insights and Ahas: She disassociates and has self-worth issues. She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it. She is having trouble taking her career to the next level. She feels she is not where she is supposed to be. She pushes away love because she feels she doesn’t deserve it. She was told she wouldn’t succeed in the arts. She craved support and validation from her parents. She feels like she doesn’t matter and has to prove herself. Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success. She is breaking a generational pattern. She wants to play more. She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself. Perform the Empty Chair Process. Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.   Takeaways:  Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th. Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are. If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail. Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today.   We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time.  Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf. Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today’s caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244]   There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul’s destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy.   And, it’s important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are.   When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path.   All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress.   We are in an unprecedented time of uncertainty and worry and overwhelm are running rampant. Do you have the tools to rise to your full strength, wisdom, and power? Please join me on May 13–16 for the Resilience Summit hosted by Ashley Turner. There are 24 interviews, including mine, about the science, spirituality, and psychology of resilience and best practices to build your inner strength. Visit ChristineHassler.com/ResilienceSummit.   Join Stefanos and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation? Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you’re destined to do great things but you just don’t know what they are? Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you? Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can’t quite seem to let them go?   Mark’s Question: Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life.   Mark’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is critical of himself. He says he is depressed. He is searching for his purpose. He married his ‘mom.’ He has never felt accepted by the women in his life. He considers his mother and ex strong women. His mother emasculated him when he was younger. He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine. His father is his best friend. He feels he was destined to lead. He had to be the peacekeeper in his family. He is afraid of his anger. He craves love and acceptance. He wants permission to be himself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment. He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy. He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn’t intend to send. He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself. He has to stop making getting a woman’s approval his purpose. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Takeaways: Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy. Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger? Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life.  You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO.   Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo.  The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app.  Learn more at floliving.com

This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today’s caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to ‘fix’ his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243]   A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we’ve got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they’re going to get rejected and doesn’t feel safe. It holds us back and that’s why we often feel like we’re taking one step forward and one step back.   And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don’t call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they’re doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.   In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn’t want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.   Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting? Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family? Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way? Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?   Odysseus’s Question: Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.   Odysseus’s Key Insights and Ahas: He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn’t put forth much effort. He is a personal growth junkie. He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends. He battles with his limiting beliefs. He has a pattern of low self-worth. He doesn’t feel worthy of having a good relationship. He didn’t feel wanted by his brothers as a child. He was bullied when he was young. He has Crohn’s disease. He has a distant connection with his father. His parents didn’t know how to parent his energy. He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through. He feels like his time is running out.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself. He needs to search inside for who he really is. He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting. He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says. He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Takeaways: Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation. Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself. Celebrate your progress even if it’s just a small step in the direction you want to go. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]   Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.   The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.  No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.   If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.   Stefanos and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult? Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors? Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you? Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone?   Carson’s Question: Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.   Carson’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment. He is in a long-distance relationship. He doesn’t feel supported or accepted by his family. He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style. He has felt misunderstood his entire life. He doesn’t trust himself. He has a creative outlet. He is outsourcing his relief and happiness. He replays past situations in his head. He is seeking the things he didn’t get as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He should do the release writing practice. He should do the temper tantrum technique. He should become an observer of his needs. He needs to say ‘I am safe and I am loved’ when he feels anxious.   Takeaways: To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it. Don’t slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward.  Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness. Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format.  Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years. You can learn more or book a session with him here: http://www.asterianastrology.com/

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today’s caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241] As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of ‘I will never be like mom,’ or ‘I’ll never be like dad,’ or ‘I will never be like that person who teased me,’ but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don’t heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side. If we’re angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I’m so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way. Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose. If you feel shut down or you don’t know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like life just doesn’t work out for you to matter how hard you try? Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do? When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe? Have you been told you’re too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true? Keira’s Question: Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life. Keira’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is emotionally addicted to being angry. She judges herself for not being able to change. She wants to enjoy life. Her father let her down. She judges her mother for not being strong for her. She feels her older brother let her down. She gets triggered easily. She believes her soul is a passionate one. She is yearning to uncover her creativity. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her. She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover. She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it. She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn’t intend to send. Takeaways: Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don’t be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground. Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma.  Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject.   Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models® (2015).   She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world’s community.  Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe.  She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine’s book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.