Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This call is about bringing more harmony into your life. Today’s caller, Brian, loves his work but is searching for more work-life balance. He enjoys being the person who is always available to others but takes little time for himself. This episode is enlightening for those who get validation from being the reliable, go-to person.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode270]   There is no such thing as work-life balance. They are not two separate things. Work is part of life. It’s about putting more harmony in your life by doing things to balance out the huge time suckers. If you work a lot or are with your kids a lot, what are you doing to balance it out? Have you created boundaries to make time for yourself? Do you have a self-care practice? Is it your once-a-week therapy session? What things are you doing to balance out the things in your life that are time-consuming?   The ego generally gets a bad wrap in the personal development space. But, we all have an ego. We all need to feel like we matter. Every human needs to feel important. The ego is how we get validation. We just need to be careful that validation doesn’t become linked to our identity.   Every pattern we are involved in has costs and payoffs. Does the imbalance in your life cost you more than it pays out?   This is an intense time so be mindful of what you allow into your mind. Choose what you want your individual experience to be. In November, I am launching the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you need more work-life balance? Do you often feel like you can’t get away from your responsibilities? Do you believe that if you set boundaries or are not available or responsible all the time, things will fall apart? Do you relate to being the go-to person? Do you get validation for being the go-to-person? Does it make you feel needed?   Brian’s Question: Brian would like guidance on how to bring more work-life balance into his world.   Brian’s Key Insights and Ahas: He works a lot of hours. He loves his job and likes to make things work. He enjoys being a reliable person. He feels pressured to always be available. He values being a good resource at work. He would like to move toward being a leader. His life is mostly about other people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Expand his purpose with self-reflection. Pay attention to his self-talk. Be kind and gentle with himself. Create a schedule of when he is available. Adopt a five-minute morning meditation or breathwork practice.   Takeaways: Think about what you are doing; does it give you a sense of identity and purpose? What is it costing you? Is it time to evolve out of being the people pleaser or the go-to person? Think about the boundaries you need to put in place to break some patterns. What are the simple, non-time-consuming things you can set up that weigh a lot and will make a big difference?   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Samantha Skelly is a 7-figure entrepreneur, sought after international speaker, best-selling author, and wellness coaching expert. She founded both Hungry for Happiness, a movement that helps people experience true transformation and happiness through trained certified coaches who utilize emotional and energetic coaching techniques, and PAUSE Breathwork, which has a mission to unite humanity by helping people breathe, feel, and thrive. Samantha has revolutionized the weight loss and self-help industries by examining the individual and underlying causes of food, body, and self-love issues. You can check her out on  the popular Hungry for Happiness podcast and her best-selling HayHouse book, Hungry For Happiness which you can learn more about here: https://www.hungryforhappiness.com/hungry-for-happiness-book/

This call is about moving past programmed beliefs to uncover your authentic beliefs. Today’s caller, Meagan, is feeling unfulfilled and directionless. After her father’s passing, she had to take on a lot of responsibility quickly but did not receive support from her family. What we discover is that she has competing intentions or programmed beliefs that are bumping up against her authentic beliefs.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode269]   Life during our late 20s and early 30s can be difficult because it is at a time in life when it’s a weird combination of trying to figure out our future while also trying to clean up our past. We don’t want to repeat our past but it’s hard to get clarity on the future when we have not cleaned up our past first.   Often, our programmed beliefs and conditioning bump up against who we authentically are and it creates conflict.   Whenever we are doing clearing work or processing work of our past, at the same time we must reprogram our brain with the beliefs we want to believe, or the beliefs that we authentically believe. Sometimes we just need a little reminder of what those are.   And, as we start to clear things out we want to make sure we put new programs in, otherwise, the brain tends to hang on to the old stuff.   Secure your spot for the next live group coaching call about sex, intimacy, love, and relationships. The live call starts at 5 pm PST on 11/11/20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like you are not on the “right path” or don’t have the direction in your life that you want? Do you feel like you “should” have a more secure career path? Growing up, did you feel free to express yourself creatively, and emotionally? Have you ever experienced a loss you have yet to fully grieve?   Meagan’s Question: Meagan would like guidance on finding direction and fulfillment in her life.   Meagan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she lacks direction. She was jolted into adulthood much sooner than she expected after her father’s passing. She has not fully grieved her father. She felt a lack of support in her family. She tried to be perfect to get love from her parents. She never felt fully expressed. She would like to be a Human Design Reader. She recently spoke with a counselor about her grief. She wants to move and create a community for herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Invest in her wellness. Surround herself with people who have an explorer spirit. Confirm her authentic beliefs through books, podcasts, or other personal development media. Break the pattern of overthinking everything. Express herself creatively and emotionally.   Takeaways: Reflect on what are your programmed beliefs and your authentic beliefs. If you live in your head a lot, give your emotions an exit route by releasing them. Consider looking into Human Design. Listen to my podcast with Erin Claire Jones.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches. Coaches Corner #241 with Erin Claire Jones on Human Design

A must-listen for both men and women! Traver Boehm joins Christine to talk about why so many men are emotionally unavailable or displaying unhealthy masculinity and how to shift it. Traver is inspiring millions of men to shift their experience of masculinity by combining the Primal Masculine with the Divine Masculine.  He is an author, speaker, and founder of the ManUncivilized Movement, as well as a former Strength & Conditioning coach, a CrossFit gym owner, an MMA fighter, a bodyguard, an acupuncturist, and a surfer.  (Check out his amazing TEDx talk by clicking here.) Website: www.manuncivilized.com Instagram: @traverboehm

This call is about developing authentic relationships by being authentic. Today’s caller, Kylie, is individuating and is trying to figure out how to have a grown-up relationship with her mother. This call is useful for those of you who are wondering how to have an adult relationship with your parents and break free of the patterns that were set up in childhood.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode268]   When we become an adult, we start to step into sovereignty. Our parents, or caregivers, raised us and they were our authority figure. We were dependent on them. As children, we couldn’t care for ourselves and were not supposed to. We were subjected to whatever patterns our parents imprinted upon us. Since as children we are sponges, we absorbed many of the way they did things, the way they feel their emotions, and the way they relate.  We learned as children to adapt to those behaviors and be whoever we think we need to be, to be safe, to be loved, and protected.   Then, as adults, as we step into sovereignty and we are not dependent on our parents, and we are dependent on ourselves, we have to consider the relational dynamic that was set up when we were dependent and had no sovereignty, no power.   The patterns that were set up your parental dynamic, either with one or both of your parents when they were set up, you had no choice in the matter. Today, you do. Do you still want to keep playing out the patterns that were imposed and imprinted on you as a child, now that you are an adult? Or, do you want to individuate and have a healthy adult relationship with your parents?   If so, it may involve upsetting them. The other person being upset is often a side effect of setting boundaries. You cannot wait until you are sure the other person will not be upset to do it.   To create a vision for a relationship that requires another person who is not doing their work can leave you with a massive expectation hangover. I have a guided talk in the Calm app.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you walk on eggshells or have anxiety when it comes to one or both of your parents or anyone in your life? Do you often feel yourself contorting into what you think someone wants you to be so you avoid upsetting them? Do you feel like you are growing at a faster rate than your parents? Or, have outgrown your parents and you’re not sure how to have a relationship with them? Are you authentic and sovereign in your relationships or do you tend to give your power away?   Kylie’s Question: Kylie wants guidance on how to develop a more authentic relationship with her mother.   Kylie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She rarely speaks with her mother even though they live close. Her parents divorced when she was six. She decided she does not want to follow her mother’s path. There is some co-dependent patterning. She is careful about how she communicates with her mother. She does not want to disappoint her mother. She is in tune with her body and working on her personal development. She embraces intimacy with others. She gives her mom a lot of power while disempowering herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be careful not to take the caretaking role with her mother. Be unapologetically herself. Let it be OK that her mother gets upset. Ask her boyfriend to call her out when she rolls back into her previous patterns.   Takeaways: Stop editing yourself in relationships, especially the ones closest to you. It is okay to rock the boat. No hiding, no avoiding. Embrace “carefrontations” and speak your truth. Do not parent your parents. Ask yourself why you chose your parents. Look at the ways you are not sovereign. Where are you giving your power away?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you listen to this show, you are most likely an older soul and you are going to love this episode with Ainslie MacLeod. He is an internationally acclaimed past-life psychic, spiritual teacher, and award-winning author of The Instruction, The Transformation, and most recently, The Old Soul’s Guidebook. Ainslie specializes in exploring past lives to reveal your life’s purpose and has been a featured guest on Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations Series. He lives on a tranquil island in the Pacific Northwest.   Learn more about Ainslie, sign up for his membership community, and take your soul type quiz at: ainsliemacleod.com

This call is about seeking an external change to fill an internal void. Today’s caller, Leigh, wants to make a career change because she is not fulfilled by her current career. But her career switch is not the priority, it is about healing and breaking patterns. This call is important for any of you who feel stuck, who want to make a change, especially a career change, but are not doing it.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode267]   Practical decisions are often fear-influenced decisions. Fear-influenced decisions are not wrong. We feel we have to make decisions that give us more certainty. But, we sacrifice a lot of our beliefs, our magic, and our dreams when we do. As human beings, we learn through contrast, so it is OK to make fear-influenced decisions.   There are a lot of reasons why we do not make the changes we want to make. It can come back to childhood wounding and it can also be because we don’t have the right foundation.   We often seek out relationships or careers to give us what we didn’t get in childhood. For example, you might be seeking out someone in a relationship who makes you feel safe. Or, you may be seeking out a career to make you feel self-expressed and free. Many of our quests for fulfillment are a call for healing. But, remember, we never want to use something external to fill an internal void.   Empaths are sponges. We soak up a lot of information. One of the tendencies of empaths is that we take too much of other people’s guidance. We take on people’s feelings and accept what people tell us we should do. If you are an empath, think about that, feel into that. Do you allow other people to tell you who you are and what you should do, versus trusting your own discernment?   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a call to do something different but can’t seem to make the change? Did you grow up feeling like you had the attention you desired and deserved or are you starved for attention and emotional expression? Are you in a relationship where you feel fully supported? Are you afraid to speak your needs and go after your dream?   Leigh’s Question: Leigh wants to make a career change and would like guidance about how to follow her dreams.   Leigh’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is interested in a career in personal development or healing arts. She is currently a lawyer but not passionate about her work. She has two children under five. She loves deep conversations. She needs financial security. People always question what her heart desires. She felt alone and not heard as a child. She wants to follow her heart. She is an empathetic, feelings-based person. Her husband doesn’t understand why she needs a change.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize herself and her marriage. Talk with a coach or therapist where she can feel heard and supported. Get into the habit of expressing her emotions. Express herself in her marriage.   Takeaways: Get a consistent, habitual form of support in a therapeutic environment. Remember, there is divine timing for everything. If you feel you are not moving forward in the direction you want, it doesn't mean you’re not moving forward. You may have to re-route your path.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this quickie episode Christine shares tips for how to get out of limbo and make a choice so that you can move forward. If you are struggling over a decision, don't miss this one!

This call is about eliminating the imprints put on us by other people. Today’s caller, Rory, has childhood wounding from her father’s verbal abuse and her mother’s lack of support. She feels stuck in her life but she is just in a loop of patterns she created to cope with not getting what she needed as a child.    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode266]   Whatever parent’s love we crave most or whichever parent we felt the most distant from is usually who we tend to find a relationship with or we model ourselves after. And, that is what we are always chasing as an adult.   We want our parents to be proud of us but especially our fathers. Knowing your dad is proud of you is massive. We want to know our mom loves us unconditionally and dad is really proud of us. It helps our self-esteem.   If you are someone who feels stuck, realize you are not stuck. You are just caught in a loop based on your imprints and your patterns and your wounding. You have to find an exit route. And, often the exit route is what you did not get as a child that you need to give yourself.   People are often good at giving others what they are horrible about giving to themselves. You may be nurturing and compassionate towards others but hard on yourself. Or, patient with others but completely impatient with yourself. Anything we give in overflow to others is what we need to give ourselves.   What are you giving that you’re not receiving?   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you keep trying but things just aren’t happening? Do you consistently start things but don’t finish them? Did you grow up in a household where both parents were really hard on you? Did you feel like nothing you ever did was right? Are you excellent at giving others compassion, acceptance, and understanding but not so great about giving it to yourself?   Rory’s Question: Rory feels she has hit a wall and doesn’t understand why she doesn’t finish things she starts.   Rory’s Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with a lack of love. As a child, she was told she was different, sensitive, and that she would fail. She wonders what the point of her life is. She has a pattern of quitting. She has recurring disturbing dreams about her father and sister. She didn’t get any completion energy from her father. She internalized her father’s voice. She attaches negative connotations to journaling. She feels pressure to do a lot of things. She doesn’t speak to herself with compassion. She has a fierce inner critic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish herself with the things she didn’t get. Bring more healthy masculine energy into life. Reduce the amount of doing and be compassionate with herself. Realize external things won’t take the place of her passions. Write out and record what she wishes her mother would have said and listen to it several times a day. Listen to this episode again to reflect on how she is talking to herself.   Takeaways: What loop are you in and what are the imprints and patterns that have you in a loop? How can you find an exit route? What did you always want from your father or mother but didn’t get and start giving it to yourself? Listen to the voices in your head and to the ones that are mean, the ones that push you, the ones that don’t accept you say, "Who is this, who is this?" and separate yourself from those voices.   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Omar is a gifted Storyteller, Public Speaker, and Life Coach specializing in Addiction Recovery and Emotional Healing work. He’s the host of the incredibly popular SHAIR Recovery podcast. He delivers a powerful message of overcoming drug addiction and an inspirational 16-year journey of recovery.  Omar is a successful self-made entrepreneur, is married to his soul mate, and lives in one of the most beautiful places in the world, Costa Rica. He has transformed his life through recovery, personal development, and coaching and now he helps people all over the world transform their lives. Listen and learn more: https://theshairpodcast.com/ https://omarpinto.com/