Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]   A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.   When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It's not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Dani’s Question: Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.   Dani’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year. She feels she has a block around her career. Her focus on her career is a coping strategy. She puts a lot of pressure on herself. She wants to live a balanced life. She’s done a lot of personal development work. She is always searching for something and pushing herself. She hasn’t felt safe in her life. She has no anticipation for the future. She feels uncertain. She has taken many risks in her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out. Embrace uncertainty. Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment. Permit herself to just be. Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.   Takeaways For You: Sit in the safety of uncertainty. Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that feel good to wear. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great fitting underwear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is a hug for your mind and your heart.  Well-respected physician and educator, Dr. Nzing Harrison joins Christine to speak about how to cope with all the stress of this year, why compassion is a requirement for your brain and health, how to identify and deal with addiction or unhealthy coping strategies and SO much more.  Dr. Harrison is the Chief Medical Officer and Co-Founder of Eleanor Health, a value-based provider of compassionate, comprehensive, outpatient addiction treatment. Approachable and energetic, she has been known to explain medical concepts with an ease and humor that results in her audiences developing understanding of difficult material while having a good time doing it! She has written and presented several articles and workshops on the medical aspects of addiction and other psychiatric disorders, and has consulted on the same topics both nationally and internationally. Despite the credentials, she prides herself on being a  regular ol’ person who loves regular ol’ people.  She will tell you the most important accomplishment of her life is her husband and two teenage sons. Nzinga (yes, first name basis!) is excited to embark on this podcast journey, and can’t wait to answer any and all questions you may have about addictive or other psychiatric disorders.   Learn more here: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/team

This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a “toxic” relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]   The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.   Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.   The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with not feeling enough? Have you ever had a “toxic” relationship? Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way? Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can’t seem to change your self-talk?   Elizabeth’s Question: Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.   Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart. She feels not enough and that her life is pointless. She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind. She was in an eight-year “toxic” relationship. She has “love” attached to feeling a certain way. She has trouble quieting her inner critic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be in the present moment and feel her feelings. Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing. Realize nothing is wrong with her. Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love. Give her inner critic a new job description. Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.   Takeaways For You: If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth. Watch your language and watch what you are affirming. Slow down! Drop in and breathe. Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role. If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course.  Join us for the Be the Queen program.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine's guest today is A'magine, a sex educator and author who guides people into sexual empowerment.  A'magine has been teaching and speaking about sexuality for over two decades, including her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power.” She is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men.    Often conversations about sexuality can push a lot of buttons - this conversation is the opposite of that! You will feel reassured, seen, and empowered with steps to have a more fulfilling sex life!   Learn more about A'magine and her programs here: https://www.amyjogoddard.com/

Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode278]   Any habituated response, feeling, or pattern of behavior you are currently engaged in was created a long time ago and you created it for a reason. If you really want to shift something you must get curious about the origin of it.   Your expectations about what could or could not happen in your present or future life are based on what has happened in your past until you consciously choose to update them. Significant life events and/or repetitive events trigger us to form beliefs. These beliefs cause us to form expectations about life, others, and ourselves which impact our present and create our future.   And, any “negative” pattern we want to change has a payoff and usually can’t be changed overnight. That’s why it is important that we learn what the payoff is and learn how to get it in a more positive way.   While it’s important not to become a victim in your life or be stuck in your story so much so that your past becomes an excuse or scapegoat for why you don’t have what you want, it is important to acknowledge it and understand how it is impacting you.   Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 15, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a negative thinker? Do you tend to sabotage things before they even get started? Is anxiety something you would like to feel less of? Do you desire a healthy, loving relationship? Are you the child of immigrants?   Danielle’s Question: Danielle would like to know how to relieve herself of self-imposed anxiety and negative thinking in relationships and dating.   Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has become comfortable with her negative thinking. She creates a frenzy inside of her. Her parents got divorced. She has fun memories of her childhood. She saw her parents fighting. She feels she needs to protect herself from being caught off guard. She used her negative thinking as a shield to feel safe but it also keeps love out. She is always in fight-or-flight mode. She is a first-generation Cuban American. She found her life coach through prayer and intention. She will change her inner dialogue.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Identify her negative thinking, thank it for protecting her and ask her mind to help her to determine a true statement for what is happening. Consider attending the upcoming Personal Mastery Course and the Signature Retreat. Work with a healer to do some energetic bodywork. Cut some cords energetically.   Takeaways: Be aware of what you affirm with your thoughts. Get curious about your past. What were the repetitive events or significant life events in your past that cause your expectations and how are they affecting your life now? Anything you would label as negative or a pattern you want to change, identify the payoff, and find a way to get that payoff in a more positive way. Always approach your growth, development, and healing with love and curiosity. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support. If you resonated with a lot of what came up in this coaching session, my Personal Mastery Course would be a great next step for you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a special, loving and timely episode. One of my dearest friends and someone I turn to frequently for intuitive guidance and reassurance, Rebecca Tait, joins me to discuss how we can process 2020 and prepare for 2021.  Bec is a gifted psychic who provides intuitive guidance to people who feel stuck or uncertain in various aspects of their personal and professional life.   You can set your own personal session with Bec here: https://www.justaskbec.com/   To get Christine's 40 day journal and to-do list, go here:  https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/   To grab your download of our Breathwork and Meditation series and get $30 off using the promo code HOLIDAY go here: https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This call is about moving out of victim and regret to fast-track healing. Today’s caller, Leah, is still getting over a breakup and is starting to feel hopeless about the marriage and family she wants to call in. Even if you haven’t had a breakup, this call is for anyone who is not where they want to be in life. It is a great example of what happens when we stay in the victim-perpetrator pattern.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode277]   If you have been in a relationship or a situation you felt was a waste of time and wish you wouldn't have done it, understand that it had happened to get you into the fast lane for healing. Issue-based relationships, even though they are difficult to go through, they jolt us into recognizing childhood wounds that need to be healed for us to have healthy adult relationships.   If we want a healthy, authentic relationship that is not a repeat of our childhood issues, we need to do the inner work. There are no “blocks” to what we want, there are just unresolved issues to what we haven’t healed. We have to do the healing work before we can attract healthy things.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.   As a Holiday gift for you, Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 13, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have something in your life; a breakup or something else from your past you can’t seem to get over and you’re stuck in regret? Do you beat yourself up for choices you made in the past that you have no control over changing now? Do you find yourself craving a family or a partner because you didn’t have a loving family? Do you have anger toward someone it is time to let go of?   Leah’s Question: Leah would like guidance on how to get over a bad breakup and begin to manifest a healthy, long-term relationship.   Leah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was traumatized by a bad breakup two years ago. She is disappointed by the lack of progress in her personal development and healing work. Her parents divorced when she was young and there were no strong bonds formed with either of them. She resents her mother and feels neglected. She feels betrayed and used by her ex. She does not feel a deep connection to anyone since her ex. She is giving him a lot of power over her. She wants to work on trusting herself. She has done therapy but has difficulty sticking with it. She moves in between the victim and perpetrator archetypes.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do not take the situation personally. Realize her worthiness and value. Stop beating herself up. Release her anger by doing the Temper-tantrum and release writing practice from Expectation Hangover. Join the Be the Queen program. Be grateful for the lesson and give herself what she needs. Stay in compassion when she feels helpless or hopeless. Work with someone who will follow her divine timing.   Takeaways: Consider doing the anger release or the release writing practice and look at where you are in a victim and perpetrator pattern. Remember, if you are healing an aspect of yourself, you are not healing all of you.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Give yourself stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the latest shoes, handbags, and masks from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine leads you through part two of her annual new year's ritual and guides you through a meditation/visualization to consciously call in 2021.   You can access the breathwork and meditation series Stef and Christine created and get a holiday discount using code HOLIDAY at https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This call is about healing shame by sharing your truth with the people you love. Today’s caller, Scott, is concerned about how his parents will react when he shares a childhood secret with them. He is asking for guidance on how to approach the subject without upsetting them. If you relate to holding in a secret, or things you do not want to say or do not know how to bring forward you will find this conversation helpful.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode276]   Revealing secrets is difficult for many of us. Sometimes it is easier to keep things brushed under the rug when we do not want to deal with a particular conversation.   But, secrets can be toxic and carry shame. Do I believe that we should tell the people we love everything? I don't know. Not always. But, when it is something we allow to perpetuate a pattern that protects others, especially our parents, above speaking our truth, often the truth will prevail. When we speak our truth we must do it with love.   Protecting our children is one thing, but protecting our parents is a different conversation. If we are trying to protect our parents, we are taking on the parental role. I’m not saying that we should not consider their emotions. However, if we have a pattern of being the parent, and worrying about our parents while sacrificing our truth and our vulnerability, it is different.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a secret from a family member or friend and you want to share it but you are afraid of upsetting them so you keep it inside? Did you grow up feeling alone? Were you the person who had to protect family members or parent your parents? Are you ready to break patterns that don’t serve you anymore?   Scott’s Question: Scott is looking for guidance about sharing a secret with his family he has had since childhood but does not want to upset them.   Scott’s Key Insights and Ahas: He fears the shame and blame associated with sharing his secret. His story will soon be widely shared. He wants to protect his family. He is speaking with a professional therapist. He feels it is an important part of his story. He felt he had to be brave for his family. He stays away from his family and feels alone. He felt he had to parent his parents. He finally feels seen. He does not want to hide any longer.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be aware he can not control someone else’s feelings. Deliver his secret from a loving place. Tell his parents about his loneliness. Be authentic, loving, and vulnerable when he speaks with his parents.   Ask Yourself: Where are you not being authentic? Where are you not being vulnerable? Where are you not speaking your truth because you are too afraid of someone else’s reaction? In what ways were you not able to be a child in your relationship with your parents? How can you take your rightful place, as a child, within your family?   Sponsor: Natural Shilajit Resin is collected high in the mountains and contains a powerful mineral used in ayurvedic medicine that naturally detoxes your body, increases stamina and energy, and protects your cells against aging. To receive your 10% discount, go to ChristineHassler.com/resin and use the promo code ‘overit’ at check out.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Can you believe we are approaching the end of 2020? In this episode, Christine speaks about ascension symptoms you may be experiencing as we uplevel and upgrade.  She also guides you through a process to complete 2020 with awareness and intention and let it go! This is part one of a ritual that Christine leads you through each year.