Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

Luke Storey is a motivational speaker, kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, world-class biohacker, host of The Life Stylist Podcast, and founder of the world’s premier online fashion school for stylists, School of Style which he founded in 2008. Luke’s spent the past twenty-three years developing and refining the ultimate wellness lifestyle, based on the most transformative principles of primal health and ancient spiritual practices, while at the same time embracing the most cutting-edge natural healing and consciousness expanding technologies. He has tenaciously applied the results of his field research and used them to not only completely transform his own life but also the lives of thousands of fans and followers through his various media channels and speaking engagements. As a transformational speaker and entrepreneur, Luke continues to share his strategies for healing and happiness through his innovative and highly effective Lifestyle Design teachings, his Youtube channel, and his wildly popular podcast. You can learn more about Luke here www.lukestorey.com. 

This call is about making self-honoring choices. Today’s caller, Elena, has separated from her husband after being co-dependent for many years. She is uncertain how to move forward because she isn’t clear about who she is. She asks for guidance about what to do next. This is an important call for those who feel they have lost themselves in a relationship or job.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode284]   When you are trying to make an important decision, from getting a divorce to having a child, to moving to a new city or quitting your job, you need to start on the inside first. Look at where you are in the situation. Ask yourself if you want the job? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you scared to speak your feelings? What is underneath the surface feelings?   For most people, limbo feels safe because you don’t have to make a choice. But, what is safe for most of us is what is familiar. Usually what is familiar doesn’t leave any opportunity for change or breakthrough. When you are in limbo, not moving in any direction, there are no possibilities. There is only more of the same.   When we know who we are and we practice honoring choices, not selfish choices, clarity becomes a lot easier. Because we can say, “This is a yes. This is in alignment with my most authentic self. I’m not coming from a place of hurt or from my childhood wounding. I’m not looking for love or validation outside of me.” It becomes much easier to make decisions.   Everyone has the tools to love themselves and figure out who they are. If you are in a human body with a mind, a soul, and a heart you have the tools. You may need someone to help you use the tools but you have the tools.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel you have forgotten who you are or lost who you are? Do you feel like within a marriage, being a parent, in a job, or friendship you have sacrificed your own identity? Are you in limbo about a big decision and terrified to make the change? Do you feel lost when it comes to getting support or asking for help?   Elena’s Question: Elena would like to find herself after losing herself in a co-dependent, long-term relationship.   Elena’s Key Insights and Ahas: She had been with her husband since the age of 14 until separating three years ago. She was co-dependent during her marriage. He had an emotional affair with someone else. The couple tried therapy. She is afraid to make a move. She lacks the confidence to make a change. She needs to put herself first. She grew up with old-school Italian values. Her mother divorced her father at her same age. Her temper goes quickly from one to 100. She likes to make people happy. She feels she needs to earn love. She doesn't know how to be. She is in Personal Mastery.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create some space to find out who she is. Be self-honoring and choose self-love. Realize she does not have to please people for them to love her. Journal to help process her feelings. Focus on the relationship she has with herself.   Takeaways For You: Get support. Reach out for help. Form clear boundaries about what is not working for you, get clear about who you are and step into self-love. Join Personal Mastery. Be gentle with yourself. Stop telling yourself all the reasons you cannot do something and collect evidence for how you can.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that feel good to wear. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect-fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great fitting underwear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sahara Rose is an ancient soul in a modern body. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh, Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda, A Yogic Path, her new book Discover Your Dharma. She also hosts the Highest Self Podcast, the #1 spirituality podcast on iTunes, and founder of Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective.

This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today’s caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode283]   Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don’t need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.   Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.   It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.   If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career or enhance your current practice? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. If you are interested in applying, go to Elementum Coaching Institute to apply before the first class fills up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a childhood where you couldn’t really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop? Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can’t trust it? Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things? Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?   Kate’s Question: Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.   Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is at a great place in her life. She often expects the worst. She fears she is going to sabotage herself. She has done personal development work. She spends more time in fear than joy. Her father was unpredictable and angry. Her sister was often sick. She didn’t feel safe as a child. She wants to be more spontaneous. She uses distraction as a coping strategy. She believed challenges were a path to growth. She does not need to suffer to learn and grow. She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say “I am safe” when she has fear about something going wrong. Journal about how learning through challenge is over. Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.   Takeaways For You: Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop. Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude. Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s School of Social Work.  His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers’ implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled “An Invitation to White Therapists” it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal “radical permission”practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.  

This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today’s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn’t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]   The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.   Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.   For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn’t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don’t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.   Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.   Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call on February 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can’t stop yourself from doing it? Do you struggle with feeling not enough? Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don’t know if you are totally free? Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?   Jessie’s Question: Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.   Jessie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way. Her mother is overly critical. She self-soothes with shopping. She doesn’t feel safe. She lost her brother and her dad early in life. She has been labeled as having ADD. She lived in fear as a child due to her dad’s abusiveness. She has done talk therapy. She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things. She feels alone. There was chaos in her childhood. Her nervous system is delicate. She is trying to handle too much at once.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Grieve the relationship she hasn’t had. Invoke the loving mother inside herself. Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform. Stop dating for a while. Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe. Understand there is nothing wrong with her.   Takeaways For You: Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs? If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child. Join the inner child workshop. Seek out support and get help. Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Give yourself stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the latest shoes, handbags, and masks from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you are feeling confused, frustrated or stuck regarding your career, this is the interview for you.  Ashley Stahl joins Christine to talk about the ways you can get clarity on your next career move, learn the 10 core skill sets that exist in the workforce and more!  Ashley is counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with. She supports clients in 31 countries in discovering their best career path, upgrading their confidence and landing more job offers. Her book-- along with $2,000 worth of free courses on money mindset, getting clarity on your career, and starting your side hustle -- is available now at YouTurnBook.com.

This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jasmine, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how the relationship dynamics have changed and the childhood wounding that may be affecting her and her husband. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are someone who wishes someone else would change or wish someone would be different, this is an episode you should listen to.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode281]   Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy in us. It is like the Yin and Yang. They go together in balance. Most of us have one energetic that sits in front of the other. The feminine yearns for presence, affection, and intimacy. The masculine energy is focused. It is responsible, but it can be in the shadow masculine if it is focused to the point that it is ignoring emotional availability.   I am making a massive generalization here, but I see women, for a while, putting more work into a relationship. Then, after learning to drop into their feminine they often expect something to change in the other person. If you decide to be more into your feminine energy, be sure to do it freely, without expectation.   When we are the invitation; when we are the change that we want to see... that is truly the only way change is created. Are you the invitation without expectation? Or, are you being the invitation because you want something to happen?   Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call. $20 is all it cost to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a bit of a relationship rut? Has a relationship, marriage, or even a friendship been going along for years and it’s good but there’s something you would like to change? Have responsibilities in your life made you grow apart from your partner? Are you the more conscious one in a relationship and feel like you are constantly wanting your partner to grow or be conscious with you and they just seem to stay where they are? Are you aware that the most intimate relationships in your life often trigger your childhood issues?   Jasmine’s Question: Jasmine wants more connection and intimacy from her husband of 11 years.   Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been married for 11 years. She and her husband lead a busy life. She would like more emotional intimacy from her husband. She is doing consciousness work. She has shifted the relationship dynamic. She has tried initiating physical contact. She has childhood wounding with regard to her father. She loves small quiet moments.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create what she wants in the relationship. Acknowledge her husband more. Be vulnerable to create intimacy. Step into her feminine energy and be the invitation. Do not try to get Dad’s love from her husband. Be inspired to move toward love. Download the Sacred Union process and possibly share it with her husband.   Takeaways For You: Are there patterns in your relationship where you may be breeding resentment based on old stories that need to be updated? Would a little bit of relationship detoxing shift your relationship to the next level? If you want something to change be the invitation for it. Consider joining us for our Inner Child Workshop. Download our free guided Sacred Union process.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode you'll learn why everyone (even you!!) is wired for peak performance. Steven Kotler New York Times bestselling author and peak performance expert—on a science-based approach to unleash our full potential and succeed against all odds. During a time when it’s easy to give up, Kotler teaches us how to exceed our limitations with his newest book, The Art of the Impossible.  Kotler decodes the secrets of elite performers, including top CEOs, Olympic athletes, and respected artists—many of whom his organization Flow Research Collective trains. Listen and learn the role of flow in pulling off the impossible, how to become exponentially more productive, and how to innovate in mind and matter.   Grab Steven's book here: https://www.stevenkotler.com/ Learn more about him here: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-art-of-impossible-steven-kotler?variant=32126584881186

This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]   A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.   When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It's not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Dani’s Question: Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.   Dani’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year. She feels she has a block around her career. Her focus on her career is a coping strategy. She puts a lot of pressure on herself. She wants to live a balanced life. She’s done a lot of personal development work. She is always searching for something and pushing herself. She hasn’t felt safe in her life. She has no anticipation for the future. She feels uncertain. She has taken many risks in her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out. Embrace uncertainty. Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment. Permit herself to just be. Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.   Takeaways For You: Sit in the safety of uncertainty. Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that feel good to wear. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great fitting underwear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.