Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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This coaching call is about making sense of our intuition. Today’s caller, Michaela, wants to drop fully into what she is feeling but is unsure whether her intuition is just a fear-based response to her past. She asks Christine for guidance on how to decipher her feelings and how to trust her intuition.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode422].   We all have the gift of intuition to varying degrees. Some people, who have more gifts, we might refer to as psychics or mediums. But we all have the gift and the ability to connect to our intuition. And often, when we open up our connection to our intuition, it can be confusing. We may get intuitive messages and not know exactly what to do with them.   The beautiful thing about surrender or letting go is that it does allow for what actually needs to come forward to happen. Surrendering and receiving can feel scary because we have to be still. When we’re not in motion, either mentally or physically, and stillness comes, it often can trigger a fear response. Because if you grew up with any kind of abuse or chaos you know that when things got quiet, or still it wasn’t always a good sign; the calm before the storm.   So, we keep ourselves moving to both avoid chaos and to avoid the feelings. Many of us have wounds and trauma that we’ve been carrying around for decades and if we keep ourselves busy and distracted enough then we don’t have to feel the pain. If we do surrender and allow ourselves to receive, then there’s an invitation to feel. And, often it isn’t the party we want to attend.   The beautiful thing about inner child work is that we have all these beautiful parts of us that come alive again and they become a great source of love.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like your intuition is telling you something and you’re not exactly sure what it means or what to do with it? Have you had a life of lots of doing and you feel this huge desire to just be, but at the same time it terrifies you? Are you someone that is good at receiving or are you better at giving? Are you willing to carve the time out for yourself and change behaviors to connect more deeply with your inner child so that you can feel safe in your body?   Michaela’s Question: Michaela is being pulled to listen to her intuition but is confused about whether the message is coming from her intuition or is a fear-based response.   Michaela’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is an imposter syndrome and transformational coach. She left the corporate world after 25 years. She is feeling pulled to stop doing and to listen to her intuition. She is strongly spiritual. She has a global network of people as clients. She invests money in personal development work. She suffered from imposter syndrome in the past. Her family pretended everything was okay, no matter what was happening. She feels coaching is her calling. She’s been married for 25 years. She has a hidden life and doesn’t feel safe. She had traumatic experiences in her childhood. She sometimes wants to disappear. She recently uncoupled from an intimate connection. She is searching for parental safety. She wants to feel supported and loved. She finds it difficult to receive. She doesn’t understand how people love her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Delve deeply into healing inner child work. Let go of her distractions to integrate the fragmented pieces of herself. Trust her intuition and be curious about the messages. Be curious and allow people’s love for her to model how to love her inner child. Take action in response to her internal messaging rather than taking action to avoid her feelings.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

 Kimberlee's book and podcast, THE FISCAL FEMINIST, is a financial wake-up call for women in which she shares her personal and professional expertise to help women improve their financial health, money-proof their relationships and learn how to be intentional and strategic with their finances and careers.  Kimberlee has more than 25 years of finance, legal and corporate experience. She is currently a managing director and partner at the private wealth management firm The Bahnsen Group and a certified divorce financial analyst. But Kimberlee hasn't always been so confident with money. After a long and contentious divorce that completely upended her life, Kimberlee found herself in the trenches where many of her clients and listeners currently are today. She wasn't prepared financially and was afraid for her and her children's future. Her mission is to ensure no other woman has to feel afraid like she did.  While many women feel overwhelmed today in a post-pandemic world, juggling careers, motherhood and a looming recession, Kimberlee believes every woman can improve her financial health no matter her age, economic or marital status.

This coaching call is about overcoming the fear of stepping out of our comfort zones. Today’s caller, Alana, has always played it safe by never stepping out of her comfort zone. She asks Christine for guidance about how to overcome the fear of taking the risks necessary to move into the life she wants.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode421].   It can be scary to move out of what is familiar. Our risk tolerance in our early 20s is much different than when we are older. When we have lived a little more life, we have seen enough to know that regret is far worse than risk. We can’t get time back and regret is very painful to live with.   We can recover from most risks, especially social media posts, going after clients, and putting ourselves “out there.” Some people may judge, or some people may not like it but we can recover from that. To be coming to the end of life and wondering why we didn’t go after what we wanted is far more painful than taking a risk and maybe having a few people say something not so nice. We’re not living our lives if we’re only doing things that we think will not be judged by other people.   When we move into a different career, especially the personal growth industry, there may be people who judge us. Let them. It’s okay. When we start looking at our own stuff, start speaking our truth, and start healing generational trauma, a lot of people judge us because their subconscious doesn’t want to look at their stuff. Instead of them taking personal responsibility and dealing with their stuff they choose to judge others. It is their defense strategy. The biggest thing to remember is not to take it personally. Allow your inner voice and the voices of the people who love and support you to be the voices you pay attention to.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a coach who wants to start a coaching practice but you’re playing it safe despite your training, skills, and passion? Have you had challenges in life that reinforce your desire to stay in your safety zone? Are you willing to start making some bigger changes and start taking some risks? Do you deal with imposter syndrome and would you like to let it go for good?   Alana’s Question: Alana fears uncharted territory and would like guidance on how to transition from a structured career path into a less structured entrepreneurial coaching business.   Alana’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has worked in a structured career. She is a certified life coach. She finds it difficult to put herself out there. She suffers from imposter syndrome. She fears asking for payment for her services. She believes she can get clients. She fears she will change as a person. Her mother passed away unexpectedly. She lost a pregnancy. She is comfortable with playing it safe. She is hesitant to move forward into unfamiliar territory. She has relied on external validation. She wants to move into curiosity. She is committed to reaching out to clients.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Shift the way she looks at safety. Reassure herself that safety is internally resourced. Honor her inner voice. Remind herself that just because something is unfamiliar doesn’t mean it is unsafe.   Takeaway: Stop letting the fear of what other people think stop you from going after what you want. Push out of what is safe. If you only live in what is safe, you will never really live.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a conversation I loved having because it is SO relevant for me right now as a new mom.  We cover mom guilt, parenting shaming, attachment theory, forgiving ourselves orver what what we "should have done" and SO much more.    My guest, Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC has been a licensed psychotherapist since 2003. After getting married and becoming a mother to two children (now 12 and 14 years old), Ellen began to focus primarily on couples in her private psychotherapy and coaching practice.  Ellen is now a certified practitioner of PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy)., Ellen enjoys teaching and consulting on relationship topics, writing her blog on motherhood and relationships, is fascinated by nature, spirituality, human development, and studies a range of topics from yoga and meditation to evolutionary sociobiology.  Ellen is also on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband, Jayson Gaddis, that provides in depth relationship education and coaching training.  www.ellenboeder.com

This coaching call is about being in a similar pattern when it comes to dating and relationships. Today’s caller, Trish, longs for a committed relationship but doesn’t understand why she has a pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable people. She asks for guidance on how to choose the right person.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode420].   So many of our relationship challenges come from our parental issues from our childhood. Not all of them, but a lot of them. As children, we want to be loved, feel safe, and validated by our parents.   When we have a parent whom we don’t get everything we want, or need from, we settle for the best they can do, even though it’s not fully what we want. We often end up not being empowered in relationships. Because there’s still that little inner child part of us who believes that we should just take what we can get. But, every soul seeks to evolve.   Evolution is moving away from judgment, away from limiting beliefs, and into love. The only way we can move away from judgment and limiting beliefs is to have them right in our face so that they’re painful enough for us to look at. Isn’t life wonderful the way it works? So often the relationships we draw in are triggers and activators to look at the stuff from our childhood that we haven’t fully healed.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you someone who maybe has been married or has been in many relationships and you find yourself with the same outcome? Did you grow up feeling like you wanted more from both or one of your parents and you never really got everything you wanted? Are you grieving a recent breakup and blaming yourself or wondering what you did wrong? Are you constantly working on yourself to try to attract a better relationship?   Trish’s Question: Trish is frustrated that she chooses men who are emotionally unavailable or incapable of choosing or loving her.   Trish’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s done personal development work. Her parents divorced when she was one year old. She didn’t feel her father’s love. She didn’t spend time with her father. She knows she has a lot to offer a partner. The men she chooses don’t recognize her value. She can be guarded in relationships. She longs for a committed relationship. She doesn’t date a lot. She doesn’t want to be alone. She doesn’t show up empowered in the early stages of intimate relationships. She doesn’t want to get hurt. She ignores red or yellow flags early in relationships. In her last relationship, she believed their core values were aligned. She knows it is not her job to be a man’s savior.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Drop the belief that she has a bad picker. Have clear conversations about what she wants early in a relationship. Empower herself by not being a victim of her circumstances. Give herself the time and space to heal.   Takeaway: What choices and what states of being can you embody to step into empowerment?   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

This coaching call is about the motherhood transition and finding your identity. Today’s caller, Julia, has children leaving the nest. She is unsure what comes next for her. She asks Christine for guidance about what she can do to discover who she is.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode419].   The earlier in life we have children the less time we have to work on our own inner child. Part of why we hang on to moments with our kids is because our inner child may not have had it. The more we have a connection to our own inner child and our sense of play and magic the less we need children around us to give us that. So much of what mothers miss from children is the sense of unconditional love and joy.   One of the things our culture is not great with is grief and letting it be okay that we are grieving. And, when we don’t complete a cycle with ritual and intention it still lingers. A part of us is always in the past. We always have nostalgia and it makes it harder to step into our next phase.   Often, we try to redo our childhood through parenthood. We’re trying to give our children the life that we didn’t have and it is beautiful that we want to do better. But what can happen is we become so involved in our child’s life and become so immersed in parenthood, particularly motherhood, that we neglect our own inner child.   It’s a delicate balance to mother others while mothering ourselves. Remember not to neglect your inner child by putting everything you have into your children. It is important we parent our inner child as well.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you at an age in life where you are trying to get excited about the next chapter but are having a hard time doing it? Are you going through any kind of transition and you find it bittersweet? Have you questioned your identity, not just from moving from motherhood to being an empty-nester? Have you avoided dealing with your childhood by being a great parent or having a great life as an adult and you know it’s time to deal with your childhood?   Julia’s Question: Julia feels she is in a phase in life where she doesn’t know what comes next for her. She asks for guidance about how to rediscover herself.   Julia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She just sent her oldest off to college. She has one child still at home. She doesn’t want this motherhood phase to be over. She worked and traveled before she had children. She may not know herself as an adult woman. She feels that possibly her best years have passed. She is considering joining the Signature Retreat. She wishes more people spoke about this motherhood transition. She teaches Pilates. She feels like she needs to get busy doing something. She is grieving her childhood. Her childhood was chaotic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Recognize the things about motherhood that she won’t miss. Find ways to enjoy today. Join the Signature Retreat. Take the opportunity to relax into her feminine energy. Consider who she wants to be and what she wants to leave behind. Take the space to nurture and heal her inner child.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters plus the water tastes fantastic. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any water purifier.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

For the past 20 years, Lindsey Meehleis has worked in healthcare but found herself often in the shadows. In the shadows of the night helping women discover their own strength through psychedelic, transcendent experiences while they birth their babies in power at home. As well in the shadows of death as a Midwife who helps people cross the rainbow bridge. Her hands have touched the lives of many as they take their first and last breath. She has woven the stories of thousands of births throughout these 20 years. Trained traditionally and licensed through the Medical Board, she quickly learned that what is needed in the magic and mystery of birth and death can't be found in a book. She serves families from womb to tomb, like many medicine women have done throughout time, with a deep remembering that many of these witches were burned at the stake for their threat to the standard industrialized medical complex. She has witnessed a drastic shift in healthcare since 2020 and looks forward to co- creating a new future of what true medicine always was. She gets down to the nitty-gritty of LIFE and everything it brings and illustrates the power that we have within, showing that birth, life and death are pivotal rites of passage that deserve to be held in sacred deep reverence.

The essence of this coaching call is about healing a relationship with adult children. Today’s caller, Gail, is dealing with estrangement by her children since her marriage to their father broke up and her ex-husband passed away. She asks for guidance on how to find joy during a new chapter in her life and how she can reconnect with her children.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode418].   If you walk on eggshells, tiptoe around, or try to protect everyone else’s feelings, ask yourself if that is the most loving thing to do. Sometimes love can be messy and truth can be messy but walking on eggshells, pretending, and being a chameleon is not love.   Children need to know that their parents will fight for them and risk them being mad or pushing them away to have a relationship with them.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have any children that you’re estranged from or that you have a rocky relationship with and would like to repair it? “Should” you be excited about things in your life but you’re having a hard time accessing joy?  Do you ever feel like you want to tell the truth about something but you can’t because you’re protecting someone else?   Gail’s Question: Gail asks for guidance in getting back to joy while suffering from grief.   Gail’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband died after three months of them separating. It’s been five years since her husband’s death. She believes her adult children are suffering. She feels numb. She completed the Over It and On With It online course. She is engaged to be married. She is slowly rebuilding her relationship with her four children. She fears her new relationship could jeopardize her relationship with her children. She wants to respect her children’s wants but it feels unjust to her. There is a religious component to the family disruption. She takes intentional steps to rekindle her family relationship. She has an internal dilemma about being a mother and a woman. She doesn’t trust her intuition.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Write each of her children a letter sharing her feelings. Become the leader of her family and tell her children the truth. Get guidance from a family therapist. She deserves joy and happiness.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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