Over It And On With It

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Sara through the difficult journey of self-forgiveness. Many of us have experienced the weight of regret—dwelling on decisions we wish we had made differently and struggling to let go of the past. This episode offers a path toward healing, self-acceptance, and true forgiveness. Christine helps Sara navigate the emotions of guilt, self-judgment, and the pressure to "fix" herself, while also uncovering the deeper wounds that have shaped her self-worth. Together, they explore the impact of childhood conditioning, the importance of self-compassion, and how to break free from patterns of self-criticism. This coaching session is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by our mistakes and that true self-love means embracing all parts of ourselves—even the ones we struggle to accept.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you holding onto self-judgment for something you’ve done? Do you find it easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself? Have you ever attached your self-worth to external validation, such as your appearance or achievements? Are you ready to let go of shame, guilt, and regret, and embrace self-compassion instead?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Many of the “mistakes” we regret are actually opportunities for growth. Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, but about freeing yourself from self-punishment. Our childhood experiences shape our self-image—but we have the power to rewrite our story. True healing begins with self-compassion, not self-criticism. We can learn to see ourselves beyond the surface and appreciate our true, authentic essence.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Reframe your perception—instead of seeing your actions as "mistakes," view them as learning experiences. Practice self-mothering—speak to yourself with the same love and gentleness you would offer a child. Challenge self-judgment—when you hear your inner critic, ask, “Would I say this to a friend?” Shift your focus from past regret to future growth—each day is a chance to choose self-compassion.   Special Thanks to Our Sponsor: Enviro Air & Water If you live in the Greater Austin or San Antonio area, you deserve clean, high-quality water for your home and business. That’s why I’m excited to share Enviro Air & Water—a family-owned company with over 30 years of experience in whole-house filtration and reverse osmosis systems. I personally love my system, and I’ve noticed a huge difference in my skin, hair, and overall health. Unlike big companies that lock you into proprietary equipment, Enviro Air & Water customizes the perfect system for your needs—whether it’s alkaline filtration, softening, or refinement options. They’ve done installations for Starbucks, Whole Foods, and many other businesses, ensuring top-tier commercial and residential solutions. Mention this podcast to receive 15% off your system! Call Casey directly at 210-823-4499. Visit EnviroAirAndWater.com to learn more!   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this insightful coaching session, Christine Hassler helps Venus navigate deep emotional wounds related to past relationships. Venus struggles with feelings of being replaced and not being chosen, which stem from childhood neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. She finds herself caught in patterns of comparison and pain over an ex possibly moving on with someone else. Together, Christine and Venus unpack these core wounds, working toward reclaiming empowerment, self-worth, and emotional sovereignty. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in the past, struggled with self-worth after a breakup, or wants to heal old relationship wounds at the root level.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you still emotionally attached to an ex, even though you know you were incompatible? Do you struggle with feelings of being replaced or not chosen? Have childhood wounds influenced your relationships, making love feel like dependency or codependency? Are you trying to “pray away” pain instead of working through it? How can you shift from a fear-based desire for validation to true self-empowerment?   Key Insights and A-HAs: The pain of feeling replaced often stems from deeper childhood wounds of neglect or not being chosen. Healing is a process that requires presence, patience, and self-compassion—there’s no quick fix. Breaking patterns of comparison and self-judgment is crucial for self-empowerment. Taking up space, moving energy through the body, and developing personal sovereignty help break cycles of emotional pain. The shift from being disempowered to reclaiming choice is the core of deep healing.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Recognize disempowering thought patterns and actively redirect them. Use empowering language—instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” reframe it as, “What am I choosing at this moment?” Engage in movement and expression—dance, sing, walk, or scream into a pillow to release stored emotional energy. Practice self-acknowledgement—celebrate progress rather than focusing on how far you still need to go. Trust the process—deep healing doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent efforts make a lasting impact.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Steven Kessler has been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). He is a certified EFT Expert & Trainer. Steven has also spent many years studying the evolution of human consciousness. His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, deepens the insights of character structure and, for the first time, presents its map of the human personality to the general public. Many people claim that reading it has been a life-changing experience, which has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others. On this podcast we talk about his newest book, How to Have Better Relationships, which teaches the skills you need and actions to take to connect better with others based on the 5 personality patterns. You can access Steven's first interview where we dive deeper into the 5 personality patterns: https://christinehassler.com/2021/07/coaches-corner-292/ and his books and courses: https://the5personalitypatterns.com/shop/

In this week’s episode, Christine Hassler revisits the very first episode of Over It and On With It, taking us back to where it all began. As we move through a new moon in Pisces, a time of fresh starts, Christine invites us to reflect on our own new beginnings. She shares her journey of launching this podcast despite doubts and external discouragement, offering a powerful reminder to trust our intuition—even when things don’t make sense on the surface. Whether you're embarking on something new, re-evaluating your values during this Venus retrograde, or simply looking for inspiration to take that next step, this episode will remind you of the courage it takes to begin again. Christine also reflects on the deeper process of reprogramming our beliefs, navigating fear, and aligning with our truth.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you on the brink of a fresh start but feeling hesitant? Have you ever ignored your intuition because of fear or external doubts? Do you struggle with letting go of old expectations in order to create something new? Are you craving more clarity about what truly matters to you?   Key Insights and A-HAs: New beginnings often come with doubt, but trusting yourself is key. External discouragement doesn’t mean your idea isn’t valid—it just means it’s different. Reprogramming your mindset can be challenging, but it’s necessary for transformation. True alignment happens when we clear out fear-based decisions and follow what feels right. Growth isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about taking the next step in faith.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Reflect on where you’re being called to start fresh, even if it doesn’t make perfect sense. Identify areas where fear or external opinions are holding you back. Give yourself permission to re-evaluate your values and what truly drives you. Embrace the discomfort of growth—sometimes the hardest part is just taking that first step. Surround yourself with supportive voices that remind you of your power and potential.     Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode Christine dives into how the belonging wound happens and why it feels so big and hard to overcome. If you ever feel alone, left out, not included, or separate, this episode is for you. Learn how you can work with this wound and start creating the connections that you want and need. 

This coaching call is about feeling out of control when being in control is how we have compensated for not getting what we needed as children. Today’s caller, Cato, is pregnant and her lack of control is creating panic. She asks Christine for guidance on how to be okay with the changes in her life and her fear of feeling insignificant.   As children, we need to belong. We need love. And we need to feel safe. So, whatever we need to do and whoever we need to become to get those things, we do. The need for significance comes from not feeling enough as a child, not feeling significant just for who we are. So as an adult, we are constantly looking for people to see us, love us, and tell us how wonderful we are because that need was not fulfilled in childhood. Either we weren’t told we were good or we only were told we were good when we did something “good.”   Something important for people to talk about is that — Yes, having a baby is blissful and magical AND it can be really hard at times. There are times when the hard times are more than the amazing times and that’s okay. It is an identity death like no other and there’s no way around that.   The more we resist it and try to hang on to who we were or to keep that version of us, the more we are going to bump up against resistance. Because when we get pregnant and when we give birth, the old version of us dies and the maiden becomes the mother. We have to find our new identity at the same time that we are learning to care for another human being. It’s a lot.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you like control? Does it make you feel calm and safe? Do you consider yourself a capable, on-top-of-it person but something has completely thrown you off your game? Do you fear not being relevant or not being significant? Do you know how to receive, or do you believe that you must do to receive and be relevant?   Cato’s Question: Cato fears that her pregnancy will make her irrelevant and insignificant. She is asking for guidance on how to be okay with herself and what is happening.   Cato’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is excited about her pregnancy. Her pregnancy is forcing her to slow down. She signed up for Elementum Coaching Institute. Her pregnancy is bringing up depression and feelings of a lack of control. She is experiencing intense emotions and is unsure of herself for the first time. She realizes she has been using control to create safety. She fears slowing down and not being relevant or significant. Her inner child carries sadness and anger toward her father. She is unsure if she is worthy of raising her child. She is embodying receptivity. She feels closer to her womb and her heart. She has always kept busy to distract herself from her feelings. When she slows down, she feels restless. She finds purpose and meaning in her work.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Welcome the new feelings she is having. Listen to this episode when it airs. Embody what it feels like to be in her feminine. Be curious about her restlessness. Savor her pregnancy.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Today on CC we talk about something that completely shifted my perspective on health and fitness. For years, we’ve been told that the goal is to lose weight—shrink down, take up less space. But the truth is, focusing on the scale might be the biggest mistake when it comes to long-term health and strength. What really matters isn’t weight—it’s body composition. It’s about having more muscle and less excess fat because that’s what keeps you strong, energized, and capable as you age. My friend Holly Perkins has been helping women transform their bodies and health for 30 years, and she’s hosting a free three-day workshop called Mastering Your Body Composition. It’s all about shifting the focus from weight loss to building the kind of body that supports you for life. If you’ve been frustrated with the usual fitness advice and want real, lasting results, I highly recommend this. The workshop starts on March 6th, and it’s free to join. You can grab your spot at hollyperkins.com/christine

In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Yasmin, who is struggling with self-doubt when it comes to making life decisions. She questions whether she made the right choice in ending a long-term relationship and in reducing her work hours to pursue her art business. Christine helps her recognize patterns of over-personalization, self-blame, and the need for external validation, guiding her toward self-trust and clarity. This episode isn’t just about relationships or career—it’s about learning to trust yourself and your decisions. Christine provides Yasmin with tangible ways to move forward with confidence, helping her step out of regret and into alignment with her true desires.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often doubt your choices and later regret them? Are you afraid that the things you truly want won’t happen? Do you constantly search for external validation before feeling secure in a decision? Are you stuck between moving forward and holding onto the past? Do you make choices based on what feels familiar rather than what’s truly aligned?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Self-trust is essential—without it, fear and doubt take over, making decisions more difficult. Over-personalizing situations, such as a partner’s actions after a breakup, can create unnecessary emotional weight. When we regret past choices, we often idealize the past and forget why we made those decisions in the first place. Healing and growth require stepping into new territory instead of clinging to familiar patterns. Success in career or relationships comes from embodying confidence, not waiting for external proof.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Identify your inner dialogue and challenge the stories you tell yourself about regret and self-worth. Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based choices by recognizing what aligns with your long-term vision. Take action despite uncertainty—trust that the right opportunities will emerge when you fully commit. Engage in daily practices that reinforce confidence, such as journaling about past decisions and affirming your own wisdom. Stop looking for guarantees—life doesn’t provide them, but trust and discernment can guide you to the best outcome.   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Ashlee, who is struggling with a question many people face: how do you know if you’re healed enough to enter a relationship? Ashlee shares her experiences with past relationships, childhood wounds, and codependent tendencies that have shaped her fears about choosing the right partner. This episode isn’t just about dating—it’s about learning to trust yourself and shifting from fear-based decision-making to a place of wisdom and self-awareness. Christine helps Ashlee identify where her fear is coming from, how to recognize patterns, and what it really means to be ready for a relationship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you been in relationships where you felt like you were “dating your wounds” instead of a truly compatible partner? Do you ever question whether you’re healed enough to be in a relationship? Are you struggling to trust yourself when it comes to picking the right partner? Do you find yourself looking for unconditional love in a romantic relationship—something you may not have received in childhood? Are you allowing your inner child to do the picking in relationships rather than your wise, adult self?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Healing is a lifelong process, and relationships will always bring opportunities for growth. It’s important to recognize whether you are attracting a partner from a place of neediness and past wounds or from a place of confidence and self-trust. Codependent tendencies, such as trying to fix or save a partner, often stem from unmet childhood needs. Trusting yourself is essential to creating a healthy relationship—without self-trust, fear takes over. A partner cannot replace or compensate for the unconditional love you may have lacked in childhood—healthy relationships require personal responsibility for healing.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Identify your inner child’s unmet needs and recognize how they might be showing up in your dating patterns. Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based dating—stop selecting partners based on what feels familiar (even if it’s unhealthy) and focus on what aligns with your vision of a secure relationship. Heal before seeking healing from others—a healthy relationship can be supportive, but it should not be a substitute for deep personal work. Create clear relationship values—write out what a healthy, mature, and non-codependent relationship looks like. Reframe your relationship expectations—instead of expecting a partner to “fix” or “heal” you, seek someone who supports your journey while maintaining a strong sense of self.   Upcoming Event: Love Magnet Workshop If you’re looking to attract love from a place of wholeness, Christine’s free three-day “Love Magnet Workshop” is happening now. It’s not too late to join. Sign up at christinehassler.com/lovemagnet. Upcoming Retreat: March 2024 Christine and Stefanos will be hosting a transformational retreat at The Art of Living Center. This immersive experience is designed to help you step into your most authentic self. The retreat is open to all genders and relationship statuses. Learn more and register at christinehassler.com/retreat.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Meet my coach, Kate Kripke.  She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and a Perinatal Mental Health Counselor (PMH-C) based in Colorado. For over two decades, she's assisted mothers navigating transitional phases in their lives. She founded the Postpartum Wellness Center of Boulder in 2007, which is now known as the Parent and Family Wellness Center. Until recently when she passed directorship along to its new owners, she acted as its Founding Director and Senior Psychotherapist. Kate offers maternal mental health and wellness support to women both nationally and internationally through coaching and consultancy. Her aim is to empower women to feel confident, well-supported, and reassured about both their own and their children's well-being so they can raise healthy children while also serving their communities outside of motherhood. Kate guides women in creating healthy and secure relationships with themselves, their children, and their work.