This is Dr. Kate’s first Solo Q&A podcast, answering questions from listeners. We love hearing directly from our listeners, and love answering specific questions you have. This is the first, and Dr. Kate plans on doing these each month, so keep your questions coming!Many answers will feel like she is talking directly to you, as there are so many universal sex and relationship questions. You can ask Dr. Kate truly anything. As in her weekly podcast, she is always honest and open about all things, no matter how sensitive or embarrassing you may think it is.This episode includes a question about being attracted to someone other than your partner, along with discussion of monogamy, opening your relationship to others, inviting porn and toys into the bedroom and much specific advice.Dr. Kate also answers a question about an 18 year old’s inability to ejaculate when having sex with a partner, though he has no problem when having “solo” sex. Listen in. Dr. Kate says this is a more common issue than you would think.Another question is about one partner initiating sex more than the other. Again, Dr. Kate knows this is not uncommon and gets real about it. She shares reasons and also specific take away about this situation.Dr. Kate is there for you. Listen and write in your own questions. She is looking forward to continued interaction with you all!And if you are enjoying the Get Naked podcast, please leave a review and “like” on Apple/ITunes. We appreciate the feedback!Website: www.modernintimacy.comEmail your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:IG:https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kayla Tricaso is the Office Manager and Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy and has been working in the mental health field for 6 years. She currently is in graduate school to eventually become a therapist who specializes in helping people heal from trauma. Kayla has been interested in and written a blog about the effects of emotionally immature parents on their children and the heartache it brings oftentimes in that strained relationship.This podcast addresses the parents and their children. Kate and Kayla talk about and give suggestions for parents to embark on conversations with their adult children in hopes of everyone really hearing one another, not placing blame, giving confirmation of feelings for each other and not being judgemental.They also talk about evaluating the history of the relationships and making a definite decision of wanting to repair the relationship or not, and if the choice is to try to mend it, to remember nothing gets fixed overnight. Everyone involved needs to have realistic expectations and time frames.This is a poignant conversation about the pain of estranged relationships of parents and children with a healthy dose of optimism for the future.Website: www.modernintimacy.comEmail your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:IG:https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine-assisted therapy (KAP), author, yoga teacher, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies.Dr Cat is the founder of SexLoveYoga.com, an online platform integrating various schools of thought including science, tantra, yoga, psychedelic therapy, and psychology designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. As an expert and published researcher on the topic of sexual health, Dr. Cat sees clients in her private practice office in Beverly Hills and leads workshops, lectures, and retreats internationally. Dr. Cat is the host of the podcasts Eat.Play.Sex and Erotically Wasted, co-founder of Un.done women’s sensual yoga experience.She is also part of the Breathwork app Othership, a breathing App that helps you regulate your emotions and nervous system through guided breathwork.Dr. Kate talks with Dr. Cat about the many advantages of breathwork. They talk about how Dr. Cat first felt free, calm, and safe while practicing Yoga. It was in that moment that she realized she could feel something different than the intense anxiety + tension that shook her body on a daily basis.​This inspired her lifelong dedication to discovering more about the voice of her body claiming the fullest spectrum of erotic expression. She talks about her mission to help others become more “undone” so that they can fully claim their most raw + authentic erotic self --- whatever that looks like for them.From Tantra to BDSM to sex + trauma psychology, psychedelics, yoga, + the modern sciences, Dr. Cat sees healing from a holistic lens and they talk about the effects each can have. Dr. Cat’s approach is inclusive of all expressions + integrates the mind, body, spirit, + the energy that moves through it all. Listen to this amazing conversation about the freedoms that can result from breathwork.Website: www.modernintimacy.comEmail your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:IG:https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brooke Brownlee, APCC is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor at Modern Intimacy under the supervision of Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Brooke is passionate about helping clients heal from trauma, feel more empowered sexually, and repair relationships. Brooke is continuing her education and working towards becoming a Certified Sex Therapist. Brooke specializes in counseling patients with Pain during Sex issues.In this episode Dr. Kate and Brooke speak about causes for pain during sex and how this can be an isolating experience. They also talk about the gap in mental health and sexual health and some potential remedies. They also speak about various reasons for pain: from abuse, a traumatic medical experience, fear of engulfment from the relationship, disgust and shame and many others. Their discussion of disgust and shame leading to potentially painful sex is eye-opening. It is a fascinating topic and anyone suffering from this will learn more of it’s potential origins, will feel not alone in this, and will know there is help out there for you.Website: www.modernintimacy.comEmail your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:IG:https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. betty martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.As part of her work with The School of Consent, betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch.Dr. Kate and Dr. betty talk about the 3 Minute Game: founded on two questions: "What do you want me to do to you?" and "What do you want to do to me?" which uncover so much, including how detached we are from knowing what we really want and what we are truly comfortable with.We learn that until we get in touch with what we want, it is difficult to give and receive authentically.And until that, we are potentially giving and receiving but actually getting resentful and angry, as we stand disconnected from our wants, and performing to what we believe our partner wants, acting as if it is all good.Learn tools to discover more about yourself and your sexual or non-sexual giving and receiving with a partner, co-worker, client, etc. It can be liberating step toward balanced relationships.__Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.comStay Connected with Dr. Kate:IG:https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/Visit www.modernintimacy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 2015, while working as a features writer for The Guardian in New York City, Rose wrote a widely-circulated article on emotional labor, which radically changed her way of understanding how power, gender and race affect the most intimate ways in which people relate to one another. Her research on emotional labor in the eight years since — as an invisible, devalued, feminized and yet essential form of work — has sought to drastically reframe our view of women, work and the nature of persistent inequality. In 2013, she graduated with a master’s degree in Human Rights from Columbia University, where she focused on social and economic rights violations in the United States. Rose’s first book, Emotional Labor, is out now. Dr. Kate and Rose talk about:Women are expected to play an impossible game: show compassion and submission while being assertive and confidentHow women have to put feelings aside in order to make others’ feel more comfortable. How this is expected behavior, and raises heads if not acted outEmotional labor is uncompensated work to make others’ feel better.The book is not just about white women and not just heterosexual dynamics.Our society does not value Emotional Labor.How can we change the dynamics of Emotional Labor so that is more equal and works in a way to better society?Listen to the conversation as Rose and Dr. Kate uncover the insidious prevalence of this, and all it effects, while bringing to light ways to possibly fix this into creating a better society.Website: www.Modernintimacy.comSocial Media:IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ryan Martin (aka the Anger Professor) researches and writes on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. His newest book How to Deal with Angry People came out on May 9th. His previous book is Why We Get Mad: How to Use Your Anger for Positive Change, explore why people become angry, how people can use their anger in productive ways, and how to work effectively with angry people. Ryan also hosts the popular psychology podcast,Psychology and Stuff. He is a Professor of Psychology and an Associate Dean for the College of Arts, Humanities, and Social Sciences at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay. His work has been featured in the New York Times,  NPR’s Invisibilia podcast, BBC Radio’s Digital Human, TED.com, and elsewhere. Anger is a hot issue in our lives and in our country. Dr. Kate and Dr. Ryan discuss why. They talk about how prevalent anger is today from road rage to restaurant workers, and also who is modeling for us how to express our anger. They discuss how we evaluate if our anger is justified. And so much more.Let’s get more understanding of anger and anything we can do to handle ours and others. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Social media:IG: @themodernintimacy https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ @drkatebalestrieri     https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks about aligning with podcast producer, Cloud 10, and joining forces for her podcast going forward. Plus there is a name change from Modern Intimacy to Get Naked with Dr. Kate. The podcast will still be a candid conversation about mental health, relationships, sex, managing depression and anxiety, personal growth, and self-discovery. And Dr. Kate will answer questions from listeners in a bold and direct way, and not avoid any topics that may come up. Get Naked with Dr. Kate, which will launch officially towards the end of June, can be heard on all platforms that you normally listen on. If you already subscribe to Modern Intimacy, you don’t have to do anything. It is a smooth transition. We look forward to sharing our podcast with you every week.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Dr. Kate Balestrieri Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and William Beteet discuss how to recognize the male gaze in media, and unpack its detrimental impacts on dating expectations, relationships and masculinity. Guest info: William Beteet III (he/him/his) has been published in TIME, Huffington Post and Inc. Magazine. He’s a TEDx Speaker, Quora Top Writer and has over 160,000 followers on TikTok. William received his Juris Doctorate from Illinois Tech and has degrees in both Philosophy and History from Baylor University. William lives in New York where he has performed, along side of Bill Burr and Tracy Morgan. Follow William on Instagram and TikTok @billbeteet Additional Resources for Understanding the Male Gaze: Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey (year) https://www.asu.edu/courses/fms504/total-readings/mulvey-visualpleasure.pdf What is the Male Gaze? Definition and Examples in Film by Kim Leonard (2021) https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-the-male-gaze-definition/ To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ali Drucker is an author and freelance writer covering sexual health, relationships, and pop culture.Her new book is called Do As I Say, Not Who I Did: Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College, a shame-free, affirmative sex education for college-age women, and anyone just discovering what they want.She previously served as Senior Sex and Dating Editor at Cosmopolitan and Maxim. Since then, her work has appeared in New York Magazine, HuffPost, Refinery29 and more. Ali lives in Los Angeles with her husband, cat, and moderately well-behaved German Shepherd.Kate and Ali discuss the empowering of women and the mantra you Don’t Owe Anyone Sex. They talk about dating apps, porn, withdrawing consent, sexting, and tips for dating, information and insights for college women and beyond college.Ali info: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ali_drucker/Twitter: https://twitter.com/ali_druckerBook purchase link: https://bookshop.org/p/books/do-as-i-say-not-who-i-did-honest-advice-on-hookups-and-relationships-in-college-ali-drucker/15862712?ean=9781615197965Website: www.modernintimacy.com Dr. Kate Balestrieri Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices