
Heart of Dating
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
Latest episodes

Jun 21, 2024 • 31min
S13 MM57: Nix The Coffee Shop Date
On this podcast, they discuss why it's a good idea to skip the coffee shop date and offer creative first date ideas. They emphasize the importance of showcasing oneself as a great dater, exalting Jesus, and helping singles find partners with strong spiritual values. They also explore the role of humor in deep conversations, the value of authentic support in vulnerable moments, and suggest fun alternatives to traditional coffee shop dates.

Jun 19, 2024 • 1h 1min
S13 Ep229: Don’t Date for Marriage with Jayme Vainer
Today we're diving into dating history and chatting with Jayme Vainer about her switch from hyper-attachment to casual dating!Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 14, 2024 • 57min
S13 MM56:Being a Player vs Dating Multiple People with Alec Bevere
Today we’re diving into another mansode where Alec Bevere joins JJ Tomlin to unpack his dating challenges, share his journey with Maddie, and reveal the importance of communication and honesty in dating relationships!Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 12, 2024 • 1h 1min
S13 Ep228: You’re the Reason You’re Still Single with Dr. Henry Cloud
Today we’re diving in with Dr. Henry Cloud, who’s dismantling the myth of "the one," sharing insights on navigating dating pressures, and giving us a glimpse into his own story of resilience and growth!Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating. . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:ARMRA: ARMRA colostrum strengthens immunity, improves my fitness and metabolism, and elevates my skin. Go to tryarmra.com/HOD or enter HOD to get 15% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 7, 2024 • 41min
S13 MM 55: Men Won’t Date Women They’re Not Attracted To
Delving into the balance of physical, emotional, and spiritual connections in dating. Discussing the struggles and complexities of physical attraction in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of mutual love and desire for a healthy partnership.

Jun 5, 2024 • 1h 3min
S13 Ep 227: I wasn’t Initially Attracted to My Husband
Kait Tomlin shares her journey of not being initially attracted to her husband, exploring the complexities of physical attraction, societal standards, and the importance of godly character in dating. The podcast delves into topics such as developing physical attraction over time, challenges of insecurity and body image, and the significance of valuing inner qualities in relationships.

May 31, 2024 • 16min
Eleanor’s Birth Story, Moving, and Other Life Updates! (Patreon May 2024)
In today's episode Kait and JJ talk about all the personal things from their birth story to moving across the country! Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 29, 2024 • 26min
HOD SELECT: How to Turn Someone Down and Handle Ghosting
Kait talks about ghosting, how to handle it, and why we should not do it.Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 22, 2024 • 41min
HOD Select: What If You Eliminate People Based on Height with Hailey Kenyon
Kait and Hailey talk about the hot topic of eliminating people based on height, their own personal stories, and give a few final takeaways at the end. . . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:ARMRA: ARMRA colostrum strengthens immunity, improves my fitness and metabolism, and elevates my skin. Go to tryarmra.com/HOD or enter HOD to get 15% off your first order.Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.. . . . . Lock in your spot in our next School of Dating class at the LOWEST price now! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 15, 2024 • 50min
HOD Select: Casual Dating Tell All with Carrie Lloyd and Kat Harris
Today Kait is joined by Carrie Loyd and Kat Harris to talk about their dating lives, specifically, non-exclusive dating. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices