
Heart of Dating
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
Latest episodes

Oct 3, 2024 • 11min
Controversial Thoughts on the ELECTION and Politics! Patreon Bonus September 2024
In this engaging discussion, Kait and JJ explore the intersection of politics and dating. They share personal stories about evolving political beliefs influenced by their backgrounds. The conversation highlights the importance of navigating friendships across diverse political views. They also touch on how these dynamics can shape personal relationships. Plus, there's a push for a community bond through Patreon support!

Oct 2, 2024 • 4min
Trailer: We're Going Rogue!
Get ready for a fun twist in dating discussions! The hosts dive into a more spontaneous format, promising personal stories and playful banter. They aim to tackle current events and pop culture, inviting listeners to join the conversation. Lighthearted debates and relatable anecdotes set a lively tone for what's to come. Plus, there's a heartfelt invitation to join a community dedicated to impactful change. It's all about embracing spontaneity in love and life!

Sep 25, 2024 • 44min
S13 Ep242: Friendationships, Thirst Traps, Prenups, Dating after Trauma, Stuck on an Ex, Interracial Marriage, and More!
Today, we're jumping into rapid-fire hot takes with JJ and Kait, covering singles vs. marrieds, voice memo bans, and even intercultural marriages!Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 20, 2024 • 34min
S13 MM69: Right Person Wrong Time Is So Stupid
Today JJ explores the idea of "right person, wrong time," sharing his own story and providing insights on commitment, responsibility, and trusting God's plan in relationships.Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 13, 2024 • 31min
S13 MM68: Why Do I Settle? Understanding Low Standards and Self-Worth
Today we're diving into a mansode with Kait as a guest, discussing low dating standards, personal experiences, and tips on identifying and avoiding unhealthy relationships!We want YOUR feedback! We're planning for future seasons of the podcast and need your thoughts! Please fill out this form! https://forms.gle/M4uypJiNqhMSKa36ALove Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 11, 2024 • 48min
S13 Ep241: Too Picky or Just Right? Why Your Dating Standards Get in the Way
Today Kait and JJ explore the balance of high standards in dating, emphasizing humility, growth, and realistic expectations.Text FIRSTDIBS to 214-225-7772 you'll get the link to our LOWEST price for School of Dating ever! We want YOUR feedback! We're planning for future seasons of the podcast and need your thoughts! Please fill out this form! https://forms.gle/M4uypJiNqhMSKa36ALove Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:ARMRA: ARMRA colostrum strengthens immunity, improves my fitness and metabolism, and elevates my skin. Go to tryarmra.com/HOD or enter HOD to get 15% off your first order.Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.. . . . . A quick thank you to one of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 6, 2024 • 30min
S13 MM67: Why is it so hard to be a single guy in 2024?: Gender roles, Turnoffs and Feminism
Join JJ Tomlin, a panel member navigating the complexities of modern dating, as he and fellow bachelors dive into the shifting landscape of romance in 2024. They discuss the impact of gender roles and hyper-feminism on attraction and relationships. JJ shares insights on traditional dynamics, the frustrations surrounding modern chivalry, and the need for respectful communication. The conversation highlights the balance between societal expectations and personal values, providing a thought-provoking look at contemporary dating experiences.

Sep 5, 2024 • 10min
Physical Touch and Wandering Eyes (Patreon Bonus August 2024)
Discover the nuances of physical touch in dating and its emotional impact. The hosts take on intriguing audience questions, covering everything from navigating 14-year age gaps to healthy intimacy practices. Explore how personal backgrounds influence comfort levels with touch, and why understanding oneself is key. They also discuss the importance of open communication in addressing relationship insecurities, including concerns about fidelity. Tune in for insightful advice wrapped in humor and warmth!

Sep 4, 2024 • 39min
S13 Ep240: Girls CAN Make a Move: Double Standards and Fear of Rejection
Delve into the courageous communication women need in dating and the double standards they face. Discover the balance between active love and traditional teachings, challenging the notion that women should remain passive. Explore biblical examples of boldness, like Ruth and Esther, that inspire modern romantic pursuits. Address the fears of rejection and misconceptions of desperation, urging authenticity and self-awareness. Lastly, navigate the complexities of expressing romantic interest in friendships with confidence!

Aug 30, 2024 • 30min
S13 MM66: 12 Month Rule: Get Married or Break Up
JJ Tomlin, a relationship expert, dives deep into the tough questions surrounding commitment. He challenges listeners to confront their feelings about marriage and make decisive choices in their relationships. The conversation explores the anxiety often felt by young adults contemplating long-term commitments. Additionally, JJ emphasizes the importance of facing uncomfortable truths rather than living in a fantasy when evaluating relationships beyond the first year.