
Heart of Dating
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
Latest episodes

Jan 12, 2024 • 53min
S12: Mini Man-sode 44: How to Build Holy Habits with Noah Herrin
Today JJ is bringing on the head pastor of The Way Church in Nashville, Noah Herrin, to talk about how to build holy habits. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/hodCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 10, 2024 • 1h 3min
S12 Ep 216: Will I be single forever? POV from a Celibate Christian Dr. Gregory Coles
Today Kait and JJ are joined by Dr. Gregory Coles to talk about celibacy, shifting our mindset around singleness, and how to flourish as a single person. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:Factor: Stress less over mealtimes this year! Head to factormeals.com/heartofdating50 and use code heartofdating50 to get 50% off!ARMRA: ARMRA colostrum strengthens immunity, improves my fitness and metabolism, and elevates my skin. Go to tryarmra.com/HOD or enter HOD to get 15% off your first order.. . . . . A quick thank you to our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/hodCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make a lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 27, 2023 • 52min
S11 Ep 215: Reignite Hope This New Year with Jayme Vainer, Lola Alapo, Michael Pham, and Jeff DeBaldo
Today, as we’re gearing up for 2024, Kait and JJ are joined by School of Dating Coaches, Michael, Jeff, Lola, and Jayme to talk about what it’s like to start the New Year single. Join School of Dating HERE! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-datingLove Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/hodCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 22, 2023 • 37min
S11: Mini Man-sode 43: How to Shoot Your Shot
Today, JJ is getting really pracital with you guys and breaking down how to shoot your shot in the DMs. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 20, 2023 • 50min
S11 Ep 214: Psychoanalyzing Holiday Rom-Coms with Lacy Abercrombie
Today Kait & JJ are joined by Lacy Abercrombie to psycho-analyze The Holiday. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 18, 2023 • 21min
Q&A: Intimacy Timeline, Who Pays for Dates, Spiritual Practices for Couples in a Relationship, and More! Patreon Bonus (December 2023)
On today's episode Kait and JJ are answering your burning questions! These are questions our community submitted to be answered. Everything from who pays for dates to how to have romance while keeping physical boundaries, we're talking about it today!If you want to listen to the whole thing, make sure you join our Patreon community!Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 15, 2023 • 31min
S11: Mini Man-sode 42: One Bullet Dating
In today’s episode JJ is talking about one bullet dating, the idea that you only get one shot in dating. We’re talking high stakes dating. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 13, 2023 • 51min
S11 Ep 213: How to Ace Meeting the Parents (PS - it did not go great for us)
Today Kait and JJ are talking all things meeting the parents, from when to meet them to how to prepare to meet them and more! Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Factor: This December, get Factor and enjoy eating well without the hassle. Head to factormeals.com/heartofdating50 and use code heartofdating50 to get 50% off!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 8, 2023 • 42min
S11: Mini Man-sode 41: Are you obsessed with your future spouse? Pt. 2
Today JJ is picking up where we left off last week and unpacking the hallmark signs that you may be obsessed with a future spouse instead of preparing for them. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 6, 2023 • 1h 2min
S11 Ep212: From Closed to Open Singleness with Tara-Leigh Cobble
Kait and JJ are joined today by Tara Leigh Cobble to talk about open and closed singleness, holiday traditions as a single, emotionally healthy community, and a message to our married friends. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices