
Heart of Dating
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
Latest episodes

Feb 14, 2024 • 51min
S12 Ep 221: Exposing Our Biggest Dating Mistakes Part 1
Today Kait and JJ are telling more of Kait’s story through her biggest mistakes in dating from stalking to a Ferrari date. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to a friend!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make a lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 9, 2024 • 52min
S12: Mini Man-sode 48: Struggling with Secret Sin? This is For You…with Dave Willis
Today JJ is joined by Dave Willis to go deep in the conversation around vulnerability, confessing secret sin, and temptation. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to our friend!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 7, 2024 • 56min
S12 Ep 220: Will God really grant the desires of my heart for a spouse? With Bethany Allen
Today we get the pleasure of hearing from Bethany Allen about desire versus contentment and if god will grant the desires of our hearts. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . Check out this week's sponsors:Factor: Stress less over mealtimes this year! Head to factormeals.com/heartofdating50 and use code heartofdating50 to get 50% off!ARMRA: ARMRA colostrum strengthens immunity, improves my fitness and metabolism, and elevates my skin. Go to tryarmra.com/HOD or enter HOD to get 15% off your first order.. . . . . A quick thank you to our friend!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make a lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Feb 2, 2024 • 54min
S12: Mini Man-sode 47: Expressing Needs and Emotions as a Guy with Jeff Vanderstelt
Jeff Vanderstelt, expert in expressing emotions and needs, joins JJ to discuss the importance of recognizing and validating feelings as a single guy, embracing neediness for growth and connection in relationships, and exploring emotions, needs, and intimacy with Jesus. They also touch on the impact of parental influence on emotional connections and the historical context of emotional health within the church.

Jan 31, 2024 • 43min
S12 Ep 219: How to Know if You Shouldn’t Be Dating
Today Kait and JJ are flying solo to talk about how you can know when you shouldn’t be dating and what happens if you do date when you shouldn’t. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 26, 2024 • 56min
S12: Mini Man-sode 46: From Young Man to Grown Man with Andrew F Carter
Today JJ is joined by Andrew F. Carter to talk about discipline, consistency, growth, friendship, hunger, pain, and yes, even an ostrich and shark. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 24, 2024 • 47min
S12 Ep 218: The Hidden Season of Singleness: Does God even see me? With Dr. Alicia Britt Chole
Dr. Alicia Britt Chole, expert on hidden or anonymous seasons, joins Kait and JJ to discuss the purpose of hiddenness in life and personal growth. They explore the root of desire and finding contentment in relationships. The hosts share their fitness product recommendation and emphasize the importance of deep honesty in friendships. They also discuss practicing the presence of God and experiencing life with Jesus for a deeper connection with God.

Jan 22, 2024 • 22min
Q&A: just friends or more? Pacing in dating, seeing your ex in public and more! Patreon Bonus (January 2024)
On today's episode, Kait and JJ are doing their very first LIVE podcast recording with the Patreon fam and answering questions YOU submitted! We're talking about building a friendship before a relationship, long distance, pacing while you're in a relationship and still evaluating and so much more! Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 19, 2024 • 45min
S12: Mini Man-sode 45: Friendzoned for Three Years + The Secret to Growing as a Man with Will Chung
Today JJ is joined by Will Chung to talk about being friendzoned for three years and the secret to growing as a man. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 17, 2024 • 50min
S12 Ep 217: Reclaiming Worth and Value as a Single with Jason VanRuler
Today Kait and JJ have on Jason VanRuler to talk about reclaiming worth and value as a single through your own journey of healing. Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdatingSubscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGwCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitnesshttps://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en. . . . . Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy. Visit betterhelp.com/HOD today to get 10% off your first month. Get on your way to being your best self!Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices