

Heart of Dating
That Sounds Fun Network
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
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Sep 24, 2025 • 53min
S16 Ep276: What if we're not compatible? with Jamal Miller
Today we’re diving deep with Jamal Miller as he unpacks the true difference between compatibility and suitability in Christian dating, challenging us to pursue purposeful partnerships that go beyond chemistry and shared hobbies!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
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Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
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http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Sep 17, 2025 • 50min
S16 Ep275: The 7 Core Needs That Sabotage or Save Your Relationships with Mike Foster
Today, Mike Foster joins Kait and JJ to unpack the seven primal questions driving our core needs, how childhood imprints impact our dating lives, and why knowing your own—and your partner’s—deepest questions can totally transform relationships!
Take the 7 Primal Questions Assessment Here: https://www.primalquestion.com/assessment-page Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Sep 10, 2025 • 58min
S16 Ep274: Arousal, Desire & Lust: The Sex Talk You Never Got
Today, Sam Joelman joins Kait and JJ for a candid and healing conversation about arousal, sexual ethics, and navigating boundaries in Christian dating, reframing shame around sexuality, and empowering couples to co-create their own values-based approach.
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Sep 3, 2025 • 1h 9min
S16 Ep273: Pacing and Boundaries: How Fast is Too Fast?
Today we’re kicking off Season 16 with Pastor Stephen Chandler, who’s giving us the real talk on dating timelines, pacing relationships, and building true friendship before you sprint to engagement!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Check out this week's sponsors:
Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 29, 2025 • 7min
The Dating Advice You ACTUALLY Need | Patreon Aug 25
Confused by conflicting dating advice? 😅 Kait and JJ reveal why your dating personality type changes everything and the kind of advice that will finally make sense for you.
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Aug 20, 2025 • 6min
S16 Trailer: Relationship Goals
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
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Jul 9, 2025 • 26min
MINISERIES: | Can High Standards Hurt Your Dating Life? The Intentional Romantic | Dating Personality Types
Explore the intriguing world of dating personalities, particularly the 'intentional romantic,' known for high standards and emotional maturity. Discover the balance between maintaining expectations and embracing vulnerabilities. Learn about the challenges of different attachment styles and how they influence relationships. The discussion delves into the dynamics between intentional romantics and wanderers, emphasizing open communication and personal growth. Tune in for insights on love as a subplot in life and the importance of seeking support and celebrating differences.

Jul 2, 2025 • 27min
MINISERIES: Situationship Specialist? The Wanderer’s Fear of Choosing | Dating Personality Types
Today we’re exploring the Wanderer dating personality as Kait and JJ reveal why commitment is tough for them, how FOBO shows up, and what it means to date with true intentionality!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Jun 25, 2025 • 17min
MINISERIES: God Didn’t Call You to Settle | Dating Personality Types
Explore the intriguing Safety Seeker dating personality, where avoidance of conflict can hinder growth. Discover the challenges of being a 'Captain Worst Case Scenario' and the hidden costs of people-pleasing. Learn about the emotional clashes between Safety Seekers and Wanderers, and how this dynamic can disrupt romantic stability. Embrace the journey to recognize your self-worth and strive for authentic, fulfilling relationships. Tune in for tips, resources, and insights that can elevate your dating experience!

Jun 18, 2025 • 19min
MINISERIES: How to Date as an Overthinker | Dating Personality Types
Today we’re unpacking the “Overthinker” dating personality with Kait and JJ, who offer wisdom, practical tips, and encouragement for anyone caught in a cycle of indecision in their dating life!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices