
Heart of Dating
The purpose of this podcast, Heart of Dating, is to unmask the ever-so-ambiguous world of dating in the Christian world. While there are resources spread out over the years, there are not many centralized areas where Christians can access dating advice, help, and guidance easily and in a fashion that is accessible. The ultimate hope is that Heart of Dating Podcast will start a healthy conversation for men and women and provide wise input and direction as we answer some tough questions and uncover some transformative ways to develop a healthy attitude and approach to dating as a Christian.
Latest episodes

Jul 9, 2025 • 27min
MINISERIES: | Can High Standards Hurt Your Dating Life? The Intentional Romantic | Dating Personality Types
Explore the intriguing world of dating personalities, particularly the 'intentional romantic,' known for high standards and emotional maturity. Discover the balance between maintaining expectations and embracing vulnerabilities. Learn about the challenges of different attachment styles and how they influence relationships. The discussion delves into the dynamics between intentional romantics and wanderers, emphasizing open communication and personal growth. Tune in for insights on love as a subplot in life and the importance of seeking support and celebrating differences.

Jul 2, 2025 • 28min
MINISERIES: Situationship Specialist? The Wanderer’s Fear of Choosing | Dating Personality Types
Today we’re exploring the Wanderer dating personality as Kait and JJ reveal why commitment is tough for them, how FOBO shows up, and what it means to date with true intentionality!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
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Jun 25, 2025 • 18min
MINISERIES: God Didn’t Call You to Settle | Dating Personality Types
Explore the intriguing Safety Seeker dating personality, where avoidance of conflict can hinder growth. Discover the challenges of being a 'Captain Worst Case Scenario' and the hidden costs of people-pleasing. Learn about the emotional clashes between Safety Seekers and Wanderers, and how this dynamic can disrupt romantic stability. Embrace the journey to recognize your self-worth and strive for authentic, fulfilling relationships. Tune in for tips, resources, and insights that can elevate your dating experience!

Jun 18, 2025 • 20min
MINISERIES: How to Date as an Overthinker | Dating Personality Types
Today we’re unpacking the “Overthinker” dating personality with Kait and JJ, who offer wisdom, practical tips, and encouragement for anyone caught in a cycle of indecision in their dating life!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
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Jun 11, 2025 • 27min
MINISERIES: Falling Fast, Feeling Hard: The Hopeless Romantic Trap | Dating Personality Types
Today we’re unpacking the Hopeless Romantic dating personality type as JJ explores the thrills, pitfalls, and wisdom needed for those who love big and fall fast.
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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Check out this week's sponsor:
Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.
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Jun 4, 2025 • 27min
MINISERIES: Dating Feels Draining? You Might Be a Lone Wolf | Dating Personality Types
Today, we’re diving deep into the "Lone Wolf" dating personality, unpacking its avoidant attachment style, common dating pitfalls, and why healing happens best in community, not in isolation!
Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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May 30, 2025 • 15min
What's Wrong With Me? I'm a Catch!
Dive into the world of dating self-reflection! Discover common blind spots that may be holding you back. Explore the importance of self-awareness and emotional growth in relationships. Learn about accountability in friendships and romantic connections. Uncover the traits of a godly man and the value of community. This engaging discussion encourages you to challenge misconceptions and foster meaningful connections while growing in your dating journey!

May 28, 2025 • 1h 5min
S15.5 Ep272: Age Gaps, Awkward Dates, and a Whole Lot of ‘Wait…What?’ | Ben & Ali Creech
Today on Heart of Dating, Ben and Ali Creech open up about their 11-year age gap, overcoming doubts and awkward dates, and how shared spiritual and emotional maturity can make unconventional love stories thrive!
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
. . . . .
Check out this week's sponsors:
Better Help: This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 21, 2025 • 58min
S15.5 Ep271: Am I Too Broken to Be Loved? Stuck in Self-Sabotage and Shame | Chris Cook
Today’s episode features Chris Cook opening up about grief, rejection, and his journey with chronic illness, sharing how God brought redemption, healing, and deeper identity through the hardest seasons of his life—and how all of it shaped his dating story.
Join School of Dating here! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-dating
Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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May 16, 2025 • 55min
Healing, Hope, and a Husband: How to Stop Waiting and Start Dating
Today we’re celebrating a heartwarming Heart of Dating love story as Megan and Bryan share their journeys through healing, self-discovery, and faith—plus how putting themselves out there (at School of Dating and HODC Conference!) led to a healthy relationship and engagement!
Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating
Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw
Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest
Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!
https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library
Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:
https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ
Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast
Come hang with us on the gram:
http://instagram.com/heartofdating
http://instagram.com/kaitness
https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en
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