The You Project

Did you know that, while psychopaths can understand the theory of empathy (that's a weird term isn't it?) and the social currency of being 'seen' as a kind and caring person, they don't actually have the capacity to experience empathy for others. That is, they can have the intellectual understanding (of it) but not the emotional experience (of it). Accordingly, they will often use their intellectual insight to 'role play’ (fake) empathy, all-the-while orchestrating some kind of social, emotional and psychological manipulation for their own benefit. Not scary at all! As David and I take a leisurely stroll down 'Psychopath Lane', we talk about gaslighting (and the origin of the term), the most-read book in the US prison system, a thing called consensus effect, the tell-tale signs of psychopathy and he offers five strategies for surviving personal and professional interactions with your garden-variety psychopath. Enjoy. davidgillespie.orgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s be honest, some of us have been waiting for the mystical, magical, mysterious ‘right time’ to change our lives (situation, circumstance, lifestyle, career, habits, health, outcomes) for decades. Wanting to change our reality for the better, while simultaneously doing stupid sh*t that actually makes our situation worse. Wasting time, talent, energy and opportunities in the ultimate act of self-sabotage and self-destruction. Maybe it’s time to stop?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This chat with Gavin McCormack and Dan Lakis about how to inspire, encourage, support and guide kids through an optimal learning experience is both enlightening and inspiring. They're both great blokes doing great work, having a big impact and shaping young lives in a powerful way. I love how they think, I love their energy and intent and I feel like we’re kindred spirits. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's 'self-help' the product (book, program, course) and then there's 'self-help' the process; literally helping yourself by making brave choices, doing hard things, asking great questions, owning up to your BS, being resilient, getting back up when most would give up, being consistent with your effort and completely committing to the practical process of changing yourself and your life for the better, no matter how uncomfortable, uncertain, unfamiliar or inconvenient that journey may be.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brad and Carly Cunningham are friends and regulars on TYP. They own an amazing business called 'The Fit Shop' and 6 days ago (as I type), their beautiful facility burned to ground, leaving them, their staff and their members 'homeless'. As I always say, bad things happen to good people and life gives no f**ks about you, your feelings or (in Brad and Carly's case) your business, financial security or the three young kids you have to feed. I think it's important to have conversations with people when things aren't going great. When stress, anxiety, uncertainty and fear abound. Why? Because it's real. It's where we spend much of our lives; in the mayhem, madness, unfairness and complexity. Despite their sh*t week, they have an incredible outlook and I think you'll enjoy this chat. thefitshop.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Patrick's back talking about 'sharenting' (the practice of parents posting pics of their kids online), the drone version of home deliveries (it's happening), the comeback of vinyl records, the death of certain professions courtesy of Al, a paintball-blasting home security system (I want one), how insurance companies are using drones to find reasons to void your home insurance, our lunch 'date’ and lots more.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our favorite Irishman, Paul Taylor, dives into topics like raising hardy kids, Pollyanna Optimism, and the impact of thoughts on our bodies. He discusses choosing the narrow path, embracing challenges, and the need to harden-the-f**k-up.

At the youthful age of sixty, Tony Mantz (Jack the Bear) is figuring out what he wants to do with the rest of his life. The guy who once tipped the scales at 170kgs and consumed eight litres of coke daily (216 teaspoons of sugar), while having an actual coke (cocaine) habit is back and we had a great chat about reinvention, possibilities, ageism, retirement, getting better with age, the psychology of age, starting over, building a new career (at sixty) and lots more. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A hundred years ago (feels like) I read Stephen Covey's 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.' Habit 5 is the title of this episode and over the years this directive (to understand others) has proven to be one of the most powerful, relevant and helpful ideas across a broad range of situations, contexts and roles (for me). Not only has it been invaluable in my capacity as a Coach, Professional Speaker, Exercise Scientist, Business Owner, Author, and Podcaster, but also, it is the cornerstone of my PhD research; understanding ‘The You Experience' (for others). Keep in mind that 'to understand' does not mean to agree, align or condone; no, it just means to have (some) insight into the thoughts, feelings, drivers and actions of others. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Turns out that Cameron Schwab and I have a few things in common; (1) we were born in the same year (2) we're both fascinated with human potential and high-performance (3) we've both worked at AFL clubs (him in much more important roles than me) (4) we've both dealt with ongoing self-doubt and imposter syndrome (5) we've both led big teams/groups and (6) we've both felt (and maybe, been) wildly out of our depth, while trying to appear totally in control (lol). In a nutshell, two average blokes trying to do better than average.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.