Feel Good: For Men Who Want Change

In this episode of Feel Good, For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber sits down with Southampton FC goalkeeper Alex McCarthy to explore the greatest challenges that led Alex into the world of elite sports. They delve into Alex’s early inspirations, the sacrifices he made as a young athlete, and the pivotal moments that defined his career. Alex opens up about the challenges of breaking into professional football, the relentless training schedules, and the resilience required to overcome setbacks and injuries along the way.How do professional athletes cope with the intense pressures and widespread misconceptions that come with their careers? The conversation turns to the high expectations placed on footballers, both on and off the pitch. Alex discusses the mental and emotional toll of constant scrutiny from fans, coaches, and the media, and addresses common myths about the glamorous lives of athletes. He shares candid insights into the realities of performance anxiety, the fear of failure, and the importance of maintaining confidence and focus under pressure.What role does social media play in shaping the mental health of modern athletes? Alex and Tim examine the double-edged sword of online platforms, where praise and criticism are delivered in equal measure. Alex recounts personal experiences with social media backlash, the temptation to read negative comments, and the strategies he uses to protect his mental well-being. They discuss the growing need for digital boundaries and the responsibility of clubs and organisations to support players in navigating the online world.How does one balance the demands of a high-profile sports career with family life and personal well-being? Alex shares heartfelt stories about his family’s unwavering support, the challenges of being away from loved ones during the season, and the joy of returning home after matches. He opens up about a serious health scare that forced him to reevaluate his priorities, highlighting the importance of self-care, open communication, and leaning on a strong support system during difficult times.How are attitudes toward mental health and masculinity evolving within the world of sports? The episode concludes with a discussion about the shifting culture in football, where vulnerability and emotional expression are increasingly recognised as strengths rather than weaknesses. The two emphasise the value of healthy masculinity, emotional regulation, and positive role modeling for young athletes. They reflect on the progress being made in breaking down stigmas, encouraging open conversations, and fostering environments where players feel empowered to seek help and support one another.So, take some time to stop and reflect. Think: when was the last time you gave yourself permission to be vulnerable?How to find us: If you’d like to learn more about The Feel Good Folk, head to the website. We offer coaching, content and community that will help you navigate healthy masculinity in today’s world. https://www.thefeelgoodfolk.comIf you’ve got questions, reflections from the episode, or just want to start a conversation, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out by email: info@thefeelgoodfolk.comYou can also follow along and connect with us on social media, where we share updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes content:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thefeelgoodfolk/LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-feel-good-folk/To connect directly with Tim, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here:https://linkedin.com/in/tim-barber-i-frsa-29632b15Alex McCarthy is a professional goalkeeper currently playing for Southampton FC. A product of the Reading Academy, he signed terms with the club in 2008, made his England debut in 2018, and has been with Southampton since 2016. You can find Alex on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/alexmccarthy/?hl=en 

In this episode of Feel Good, For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber tackles father-son bonds and the evolving concept of healthy masculinity with Marcus Stone and his son James Stone. They discuss how societal expectations have shaped their own views on what it means to be a man, and how challenging these norms can lead to more authentic and fulfilling lives. Marcus and James share personal anecdotes about the pressures they’ve faced to conform, and how questioning these standards has opened the door to greater self-awareness and emotional freedom.How can the father-son relationship become a source of growth and healing? Marcus reflects on his journey from a demanding corporate career to becoming a coach, and how this transition affected his relationship with James. He describes the challenges of balancing professional ambition with family responsibilities, and the pivotal moments that made him reconsider his priorities. James offers his perspective as a son witnessing his father’s transformation, explaining how it inspired him to embark on his own search for purpose and meaning. What steps can men take to break free from limiting beliefs and embrace vulnerability? Together, Marcus and James explore the process of letting go of traditional expectations around masculinity, such as always appearing strong or unemotional. They discuss the courage it takes to be open about struggles, fears, and desires, and how vulnerability can actually strengthen relationships rather than weaken them. By sharing their own experiences with therapy, open dialogue, and self-reflection, they offer practical advice for men who want to grow emotionally and connect more deeply with others.Why is open communication so vital for personal growth and authentic connection? Throughout the episode, the conversation returns to the theme of honest, ongoing communication—both within families and in broader social circles. Marcus and James emphasise that talking openly about feelings, challenges, and aspirations is key to breaking cycles of misunderstanding and isolation. They encourage listeners to start small, perhaps by sharing something personal with a trusted friend or family member, and to be patient with themselves as they learn new ways of relating.So, stop and think: what traditional beliefs about masculinity have you inherited, and how can that be changed for the better?How to find us: If you’d like to learn more about The Feel Good Folk, head to the website. We offer coaching, content and community that will help you navigate healthy masculinity in today’s world. https://www.thefeelgoodfolk.comIf you’ve got questions, reflections from the episode, or just want to start a conversation, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out by email:info@thefeelgoodfolk.comYou can also follow along and connect with us on social media, where we share updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes content:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thefeelgoodfolk/LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-feel-good-folk/To connect directly with Tim, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here:https://linkedin.com/in/tim-barber-i-frsa-29632b15To connect directly with James, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-stone-441568145/ To connect directly with Marcus, visit his website: https://www.marcusstone.com/ 

In this episode of Feel Good, For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber sits down with Stephen London, a U.S. Army veteran, journalist, and author. Stephen opens up about his time in the military, sharing not only the challenges and responsibilities he faced during deployment but also the profound lessons he learned about leadership, camaraderie, and resilience. He discusses how his military service shaped his understanding of what it means to be a man, emphasising the importance of vulnerability, teamwork, and emotional strength in environments that often demand stoicism and toughness.How does the process of writing and storytelling help veterans process their experiences and connect with others? Stephen delves into the inspiration behind his book, "Mortal Men, Immortal Warriors," explaining how writing became a therapeutic outlet for him and a way to honor the stories of his fellow soldiers. He describes the process of gathering memories, both painful and uplifting, and transforming them into narratives that resonate with readers—veterans and civilians alike. Through his writing, Stephen aims to bridge the gap between military and civilian worlds, fostering understanding and empathy while encouraging other men to express themselves creatively and authentically.What are the mental health challenges that veterans face, and what coping mechanisms can help them thrive after service? The conversation turns to the difficulties many veterans encounter when transitioning back to civilian life, including feelings of isolation, loss of purpose, and struggles with mental health. Stephen shares his own journey of adapting to life outside the military, highlighting the importance of seeking support, building new routines, and finding healthy outlets for stress and emotion. He and Tim discuss the stigma that often surrounds mental health in male-dominated environments and advocate for open conversations, therapy, and peer support as vital tools for healing and growth.How do enduring bonds between soldiers influence their lives long after deployment, and what role does community play in personal development? Stephen reflects on the deep connections he formed with his fellow soldiers, describing these relationships as a source of strength and comfort during and after his service. Stephen also shares his experience of moving to Bulgaria and how immersing himself in a new culture helped him rediscover a sense of belonging and purpose.By sharing his story, Stephen hopes to inspire other men to embark on their own journeys of healing, growth, and authentic self-expression. So, how might embracing vulnerability and emotional strength change the way you define masculinity in your own life?How to find us: If you’d like to learn more about The Feel Good Folk, head to the website. We offer coaching, content and community that will help you navigate healthy masculinity in today’s world. https://www.thefeelgoodfolk.comIf you’ve got questions, reflections from the episode, or just want to start a conversation, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out by email: info@thefeelgoodfolk.comYou can also follow along and connect with us on social media, where we share updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes content:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thefeelgoodfolk/LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-feel-good-folk/To connect directly with Tim, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here:https://linkedin.com/in/tim-barber-i-frsa-29632b15To connect directly with Stephen:Visit his writing here https://nycdailypost.com/ or email Communications@nycdailypost.com 

In this episode of Feel Good, For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber sits down with Ori Latter, a seasoned therapist and coach, to delve into the evolving definitions of masculinity, examining how societal expectations and cultural shifts have influenced what it means to be a man. Ori offers thoughtful perspectives on how men can embrace a more authentic and emotionally aware version of themselves, challenging outdated stereotypes and encouraging listeners to reflect on their own beliefs about manhood.How does emotional awareness shape a man’s identity, and why is it so crucial for personal growth? Tim and Ori discuss the transformative power of acknowledging and expressing emotions, especially in a culture that often discourages vulnerability in men. Ori draws from his own experiences as a therapist, sharing stories of clients who have found greater fulfillment and resilience by learning to connect with their feelings. The conversation highlights practical strategies for developing emotional intelligence, such as mindfulness practices, journaling, and seeking support from trusted friends or professionals, emphasising that emotional awareness is not a weakness but a vital strength.In what ways does parenting influence a man’s sense of self, and how can men break free from limiting patterns inherited from their upbringing? The episode explores the profound impact that family dynamics and early childhood experiences have on adult identity. Ori reflects on his international background and the diverse cultural influences that have shaped his worldview, noting how his journey through sobriety and self-discovery has helped him re-examine the lessons he learned from his own parents. Together, Tim and Ori discuss the importance of conscious parenting, healing generational wounds, and redefining what it means to be a supportive father or partner.Why is community so important for men seeking purpose and growth, and how can they find meaningful connections? Ori shares his involvement with the Mankind Project, an international organisation dedicated to supporting men’s personal development through group work and mentorship. He explains how participating in men’s circles and retreats has provided him with a sense of belonging and accountability, helping him to stay committed to his values and goals. Throughout the episode, Tim and Ori offer actionable advice and resources for listeners who want to embark on their own journeys of growth. They recommend books, workshops, and online forums focused on men’s issues, as well as simple daily practices like meditation and gratitude exercises. So, after listening to Ori’s story, what’s one proactive step you could take today to move closer to greater fulfillment, connection, or purpose in your own life?How to find us: If you’d like to learn more about The Feel Good Folk, head to the website. We offer coaching, content and community that will help you navigate healthy masculinity in today’s world. https://www.thefeelgoodfolk.comIf you’ve got questions, reflections from the episode, or just want to start a conversation, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out by email: info@thefeelgoodfolk.comYou can also follow along and connect with us on social media, where we share updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes content:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thefeelgoodfolk/LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-feel-good-folk/To connect directly with Tim, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here:https://linkedin.com/in/tim-barber-i-frsa-29632b15To connect directly with Ori, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/ori-latter-9602987His website is: www.orilatter.co.ukFB/Insta: @orilatter Here’s the Free 7 Day Jailbreak Challenge (Approval Method): subscribepage.io/JHznKY

In this episode of Feel Good, For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber talks to Bobby Harrison about the transformative power of fitness and how that can change your life. Bobby founded Hustle—a boxing and strength training community for men's mental and physical health. He shares his personal story, explaining his transition from a demanding marketing career to establishing a gym that prioritises more than just physical training. He recounts the key experiences that led him to identify the critical need for environments where men can openly explore vulnerability, build resilience, and pursue self-improvement.How can fitness serve as a catalyst for redefining masculinity and fostering genuine connection? The conversation delves deep into the concept of healthy masculinity, with Bobby explaining how Hustle’s approach challenges traditional stereotypes. He describes how boxing and strength training are used not just to build muscle, but to cultivate discipline, emotional awareness, and mutual respect among members. Bobby recounts stories of men who have found new confidence and purpose through the supportive environment at Hustle, emphasising that transformation often begins with the courage to take small, consistent steps.Why is community so vital for men navigating life’s challenges? Tim and Bobby discuss the importance of belonging and the role of authentic relationships in personal growth. Bobby highlights how Hustle intentionally fosters inclusivity, ensuring that every member feels seen and valued regardless of background or ability. He shares practical advice for listeners, encouraging them to seek out supportive networks, embrace movement as a tool for mental clarity, and remain open to change—even when it feels daunting.What simple actions can men take today to move toward a more fulfilling life? Throughout the episode, Bobby underscores the power of incremental progress and the significance of reaching out for help. He urges listeners to recognise that meaningful change doesn’t require grand gestures; rather, it’s built on everyday choices and genuine connections with others. By sharing his own experiences and the successes of Hustle’s community, Bobby inspires men to take ownership of their well-being and to support one another on the path to positive transformation.Isn’t it time we all asked ourselves what kind of change we’re truly capable of—if only we’re willing to take the first step?How to find us: If you’d like to learn more about The Feel Good Folk, head to the website. We offer coaching, content and community that will help you navigate healthy masculinity in today’s world. https://www.thefeelgoodfolk.comIf you’ve got questions, reflections from the episode, or just want to start a conversation, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out by email: info@thefeelgoodfolk.comYou can also follow along and connect with us on social media, where we share updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes content:Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thefeelgoodfolk/LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-feel-good-folk/To connect directly with Tim, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here: https://linkedin.com/in/tim-barber-i-frsa-29632b15To connect directly with Bobby, you’ll find him on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/norwichhustlefitness/?originalSubdomain=uk

In this insightful discussion, leadership and diversity consultant Alex Paske shares his journey from elite judo to military service, revealing how these experiences shaped his views on positive masculinity. He emphasizes the importance of emotional literacy as a crucial strength, advocating for vulnerability and empathy in redefining manhood. Alex explores how psychological safety in high-pressure environments can enhance team dynamics and leadership effectiveness. He encourages men to engage with diversity and inclusion initiatives, fostering a supportive culture rooted in connection.

In this insightful conversation with Dr. Greg Schwartz, a sustainability expert and environmental geography professor, listeners explore how modern masculinity can evolve toward a more compassionate and responsible framework. Dr. Schwartz highlights the deep links between personal health and planetary wellness, advocating for sustainable practices that nurture both. He challenges traditional views of masculinity, promoting emotional awareness and stewardship, while also addressing climate skepticism and the importance of embracing responsibility in men's roles.

Mark Breen MacCormick, a senior creative partner at Hubbub and former professional chef, shares his insights on the connections between young men, meat consumption, and masculinity. He discusses how societal norms link meat-eating to traditional masculine identities and highlights changing narratives driven by social media. Mark emphasizes the importance of mindfulness in dietary choices and presents examples of successful initiatives promoting sustainable eating. His journey reflects a positive shift towards food justice and environmental stewardship among the new generation.

Amit Kalley, a former teacher and founder of For Working Parents, dives into the unique challenges of fatherhood in today's tech-driven world. He discusses the impact of screen time on children and stresses the vital role fathers play in managing it. Amit shares his personal transition from teaching to coaching, highlighting the need for fathers to be physically and emotionally present in their children's lives. He advocates for meaningful engagement, open communication, and the importance of healthy digital habits in parenting.

Jon Alexander, author of 'Citizens' and co-founder of the New Citizen Project, shares his journey from competitive sports to societal contribution. He addresses the evolving concept of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of personal agency and community over consumerism. Jon discusses how traditional narratives exacerbate isolation in men and promotes a shift towards collaborative masculinity. He underscores the power of storytelling in reshaping identities, advocating for a more inclusive and purposeful definition of what it means to be a man today.