Embracing All of Me

Binary Bashers is an eight-part original audio docu-series by Embracing All of Me launching February 3, 2026 for Black History Month. This teaser introduces a series that centers Black historical figures whose lives reveal desire, identity, and complexity beyond rigid binaries, using the lens of bisexual-coded or "bi-coded" to honor what their words, work, and relationships show in 2026.Follow the podcast to make sure you don't miss an episode of Binary Bashers!https://embracingallofme.org/binary-bashers/

In a heartfelt holiday gathering, bisexual and queer fathers share their unique experiences of fatherhood. They discuss love, vulnerability, and how their identities shape parenting. Conversations reveal the joy and challenges of navigating family expectations and the importance of open dialogue with children about identity. They emphasize modeling expansive love and curiosity, creating a nurturing environment that fosters emotional intelligence. The dads illustrate how queer parenting can inspire deeper connections and understanding within families.

On this episode of Embracing All of Me, Ross sits down with psychotherapist and death worker Stevie Luna Ibarra (they/she) to explore how grief takes shape inside queer people of color, especially during the holidays. Together, they unpack what happens when colonization, silence, identity, and family dynamics collide at the exact moment we need grounding the most.Stevie brings over 13 years of experience in mental health, end-of-life support, and community grief work. They break down the window of tolerance, explain what death doulas really do, and offer practical rituals for staying regulated when our families don’t have language for who we are—or for what we’ve lost.This episode is for anyone navigating complicated family systems, ancestral grief, the heaviness of the season, or the quiet ache of becoming. It’s also a reminder that grief isn’t just sorrow; it’s love, memory, transformation, and the human capacity to come home to ourselves again and again.If you’ve ever felt alone in your grief, this conversation is a soft landing place.Learn more about Pause at timetopause.org

In this episode of Embracing All of Me, Ross sits down with MARQUE, a Bronx-born, Puerto Rican singer-songwriter and dancer, to explore how dance, music, and creativity shape identity, healing, and self-expression.Together, they talk about growing up surrounded by rhythm, dance as a first language, and how performance and people-pleasing can become survival skills. One key takeaway from this conversation: sometimes the body learns how to survive before the mind ever catches up—and movement can be the bridge back to self.This episode is for creatives, dancers, music artists, queer men, and anyone learning how to soften without losing their edge.Check out Marque in the band ONQUE hereCheck out Heal It First hereRead about MARQUE's Savage collaboration with Ross on The Source MagazineFeedback for the podcast or the host? Access our feedback form hereDon't forget to rate and review the podcast!

On this episode of Embracing All of Me, Ross sits down with former U.S. Marine, certified life coach, and ally Langston Montgomery to explore masculinity, addiction recovery, and the emotional battles men often face in silence. Langston shares his journey through addiction, divorce, and the moment he finally stopped running from himself.Together, Ross and Langston discuss:How cultural and generational scripts teach men — especially Black and Brown men — to disconnect from their feelingsHow to know if you have an addictionWhy shame thrives in isolation and how community, therapy, and 12-step spaces support healingThe role of the “inner adult” in breaking reactive cyclesInstead of perfection, this episode centers the real, nonlinear work of becoming whole. If you’ve ever felt alone in your pain or unsure how to begin again, this conversation offers a grounded blueprint for healing — starting with the courage to tell the truth.Check out Blueprint Life Coaching here https://www.theblueprintlifecoaching.com/

Language is more than communication — it’s a technology. In this episode of Embracing All of Me, writer, speaker, and neurolinguistics practitioner Britnei Nicole breaks down how our words shape our nervous systems, our choices, and our sense of what’s possible.We explore inherited scripts, shadow work, identity, safety, racialized experiences, micro-skills for nervous system rewiring, and what it really means to become unfuckwithable in a world that is constantly trying to shape who we’re allowed to be.This conversation is practical, tender, and paradigm-shifting, especially for listeners navigating queerness, racialized identity, religious trauma, or the quiet ache of wanting to take up more space than the world has told them they deserve.Please rate and review the podcast on your favorite podcast platform. It helps us reach more listeners!Check out Britnei Nicole's work: https://www.britneinicole.com/Britnei's Linktree (all links)

Steven Underwood, award-winning writer, cultural critic, and digital worldbuilder, joins Embracing All of Me for a conversation that unfolds like a map of survival, imagination, and becoming. From a misunderstood tweet that led to a traumatizing arrest, to the grandmother who infused his life with art, to Frank Ocean’s influence on his queer awakenings, Steven breaks open what it means to create in an era where vulnerability is often punished and Black creativity is endlessly consumed and forgotten.Together, we trace the rise of the “New Black Digital Renaissance,” unpack the myth of Black excellence, talk about the politics of first kisses, and explore why introverts, dreamers, and digital kids have every right to be taken seriously as artists.Steven’s book, Forever for the Culture, drops January 27, 2026 in print and audio. Preorders now open.Steven Website:https://www.blaqueword.comPlease rate and review to grow the Embracing All of Me community!

In this bonus solo episode, Ross Victory examines why people choose interpretations of God that harm instead of heal. Using the viral Yolanda Adams clip as a springboard, Ross breaks down the forces behind fear-based theology—scarcity, control, inherited doctrine, community pressure, and the need for moral cover. Through history, psychology, and spiritual honesty, he exposes how interpretation becomes a mirror: fear, power, or liberation. This episode invites listeners to confront not what the Bible says, but why they choose the version of God they follow.

Latino hip-hop artist Ryan Xavier isn’t here to make himself palatable, he’s here to make you feel something! In this episode, we talk Texas pride, Ryan's influences from Hairspray to Florence & the Machine, his creative process, bisexual Latino representation in hip hop, balancing art and algorithm, building Xavier Nation and what happens when you show up online as yourself without waiting for permission. Ryan opens up about building a authentic persona "Bi Latino Top" in a genre that rarely leaves room for bi guys. And we end with his advice to artists that want to bring their full selves to their music and art.Check out Ryan Xavier's latest single, "Texas On" streaming everywhere.Follow Ryan Xavier on InstagramRyan's Linktree

In this episode of Embracing All of Me, Ross talks with sex educator Zoomy Taylor and animator/artist Chizu about what it means to be both Black and bisexual in a world that insists on binaries. Together, they dive into:Why bisexual people, especially bi+ Black women and fems, experience the highest rates of interpersonal violenceHow myths about “DL men” harm everyone and distort sexual health conversationsHow biphobia shows up in family, religion, and queer spacesDiaspora tensions (African vs. African American vs. Caribbean) and how they shape identityThe power of media and animation to rewrite representationThey discuss sex education, consent, bodily autonomy, domestic and sexual violence rates in the bi community, and the harmful assumption that bisexuality is a “stepping stone” or a privileged experience.This conversation is emotional, intellectual, and freeing.If you enjoy the podcast, please rate or review to help the algorithm reach more people.Reach Chizu:Chizu on Instagramaltaregoghholdings@gmail.comReach Zoomy:Zoomy on InstagramEmail Zoomy: reachzoomy@gmail.com Rate and review Embracing All of Me on your favorite podcast platform!