Adult Child

Returning guest, Adam Murauskas, is on the pod to discuss all things insecure attachment styles - what it is, what causes it, earned secure attachment, and how to navigate dating in a safe and healthy way.Adam is a relationship coach, writer, and recovering addict & codependent. He and his wife Rebecca abandoned their careers and moved to Panamá in 2019 to pursue passions for helping people heal.fixyourpicker.com/adultchildpodcastinstagram.com/fixyourpicker⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/starsmith/i-cant-go-for-that-starsmith (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we are joined clinical phycologist Dr. Morgan Anderson. She is a relationship coach and attachment theory expert, with a mission to take the mystery out of having great relationships and great self-worth. Morgan helps stuck singles break toxic dating patterns and attract loving relationships. She is also the host of the podcast "Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice",Morgan's websiteMorgan's podcast@drmorgancoaching⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/brenna-16/you-dont-own-me (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we are joined by fellow recovering shitshow and therapist Kevin Petersen (LMFT). Kevin began his journey of recovery in May 1991 and has been sober ever since. He shares about his experience growing up with an addicted mother and workaholic mother, his journey to heal from the impact of his dysfunctional upbringing, and his experience in helping families navigate the addiction & recovery process.After a successful career in sales and marketing, Kevin pivoted in the addiction treatment field and obtained a Masters of Marriage and Family Therapy from Regis University. He spent three and a half years working at Arapahoe Douglas Mental Health Network as an in-home therapist, case manager, crisis evaluator and outpatient therapist for Child and Family Services, he also worked part time for The Bridge House, ADMHN’s Acute Treatment Unit, as a Mental Health Technician and Counselor. Kevin opened his private practice, Petersen Family Counseling, in 2014 and specializes in working with families and individuals struggling with addictions, codependency, and parenting. Kevin published “Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child” in October 2019 and “Chronic Hope: Families & Addiction” in January 2021.https://chronichope.us⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-zxBNz3XbM (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today is the 50th episode of Adult Child! And today we are going back to the beginning of Andrea's Adult Child rock bottom - aka The Tale of 2 Brian's - 2 painful relationships w/ alcoholics named Brian who were the catalyst to her Adult Child healing journey and this podcast. This is a story that illustrates how our emotional pain is truly our greatest gift - and no juicy detail is spared!Tale of 2 Brian's - 5:40Reflection - 55:45⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today we are joined by entrepreneur, business coach & recovering shitshow - Tiffany Carter. about growing up with a Narcissist as a mother, being sexually groomed and abused between the ages of 12-21, and her struggles with codependency as an adult.Tiffany Carter is a passionate female empowerment speaker, money-making mentor, and marketing expert, Tiffany’s zone of genius are helping women become financially free, through education, empowerment, and proven straight-forward strategies. She went from a life of self-destruction to success, despite the odds being entirely against her. Tiffany’s mission runs deeper than helping women create wealth; her bigger purpose is to help women find their worth.https://projectmewithtiffany.com/https://www.instagram.com/projectme_with_tiffany/⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today we are joined by Ken Kirkman - comedian, actress, writer & host of the podcast Anxiety Bites. Jen shares about her loving (yet dysfunctional upbriniging), her career, and her lifelong challenges with Panic and Generalized Anxiety Disorders. She also talks about her challenges with money and underearning.WHAT IS UNDEREARNING?!?!?"Underearning is many things, not all of which are about money. Underearning is aboutunderachieving, or under-being, no matter how much money we make. It is about the inability to fully acknowledge and express our capabilities and competencies. The visible consequence is the inability to provide for one’s needs, including future needs. Our underearning can result from many things, including not acknowledging our talents. It can result from living on the edge by not making enough money, spending most of the money we have, avoiding healthy risks that can move our lives forward, and not preparing for the future. Underearning is about not living up to our unique potential, not following through on our dreams and goals. It’s about giving up on ourselves."Underearners Anonymous PamphletJen Kirkman is an American stand-up comedian, television writer and actress, best known for her regular appearances on late-night talk show Chelsea Lately, and the HBO television series Drunk History. In 2011, she wrote for the NBC sitcom Perfect Couples. She is currently on a writer on The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/easystarallstars/money (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nate Postlethwait - writer, survivor, & inner child recovery advocate - joins us today to discuss complex trauma. Nate walked away from his 13-year career in 2018 to take a break and reset. A couple of years prior he had two big life-changing events. In 2016 he came out as gay after many years of conversion therapy and the next year he turned 40. Both collided and launched the internal courage to make some changes in order to rebuild a life with more pleasure. Nate grew up experiencing childhood abuse starting at 5 years old. He began therapy at 18 years old and has been a life learner of all things trauma recovery. He began sharing his story on social media and that community quickly grew to over 100k people. His long-term goals are to aid in making trauma-informed therapy accessible for those who cannot afford it. In the meantime, he is a writer, a coach and leads others in finding a connection with their inner child.https://natewrites.cominstagram.com/nate_postlethwait⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-Vjds-QRJM (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Julie & Clay Engels - owners of Roots Collaborative - are on the pod today to discuss family recovery and breaking the cycle of generational dysfunction. Roots Collaborative provides a variety of services and support to help families navigate addiction and mental illness recovery. They are trained the invitational intervention model, which invites the entire family network to participate in the healing process and engage in recovery and the wellness journey.Julie Engels is a lifelong visionary, brand strategist and entrepreneur with a passion for employing creativity and empathy to initiate individual and family recovery from the illness of addiction and mental health-related issues. With 32 years of recovery, Julie is able to draw on her extensive sober history, in addition to pulling from her formal education experiences which include a BA from Columbia College, Group Facilitation Training from Hinsdale Hospital’s New Day Center, Certification from Chicago’s Second City Conservatory, Transformational Bodywork Certification from Pacific School of Massage, and intervention and family recovery training. Clay Engels has been professionally helping individuals and families connect with the best resources, and trusted, proven specialists to receive the appropriate level of care for substance abuse treatment and mental health challenges. With his professional coaching and intervention training and credentials, strengthened by 24 years of sobriety, Clay can easily navigate the land-mines which inherently exist when dealing with alcoholism, addiction, and mental health issues. He has assisted countless individuals and their families start their roads to recovery, and can often be heard saying, “Recovery is not an event: it’s a lifelong process.”⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/aaron-backx/right-down-the-line-gerry-rafferty (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Abandonment trauma specialist, Susan Anderson, joins us today. She discusses the 5 stages of abandonment, how to recover from abandonment trauma, and her own experience with abandonment stemming from her childhood. Andrea also shares a new chapter of "The Tale of 2 Brian's".Susan Anderson is a a private practice psychotherapist in New York and the author of several books including The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, a self-help book about the pain of relationship breakups. Anderson developed her ideas after her husband of eighteen years left her for another woman. In her book, Anderson contends that the grief of being spurned in a romantic relationship can create a trauma powerful enough "to implant an emotional drain deep within the self that if left unresolved, leeches self-esteem and creates self sabotage".Susan's booksSusan's websiteinstagram.com/thesusananderson⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/oceanalley-music/baby-come-back-triple-j-like (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today we are joined by actor, singer, and mindfulness consultant Elroy "Spoonface" Powell. He shares about his dysfunctional childhood, the racism he encountered as a Black Caribbean growing up in London, his rise and fall from fame in the music industry, and how he has used failure and hardship to cultivate a purposeful and fulfilling life.Spoonface achieved international recording success in 2000 with the Black Legend cover of Barry White's song "You See the Trouble with Me". This proved to be a hit single reaching No. 1 in the UK Singles Chart, selling several million worldwide. His acting credits include Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson's film ‘Fighting With My Family’, Jingle Jangle, and ‘Star Wars: The Force Awakens’. He is also the author of "How To Think Beyond a Chart Position - 5 key considerations for emerging talent: "100 things I wish someone f@ck!ng told me before I joined the music industry".https://www.spoonface.nethttps://www.instagram.com/spoonface1⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://soundcloud.com/barry-saintjust/black-legend-you-see-the-trouble-with-me (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy