Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever After

Money conversations don't have to lead to arguments—they can actually strengthen relationships when approached with the right communication tools and mindset. We explore three essential skills for talking about finances with your spouse that build connection instead of conflict.• Understanding each other's money personalities and formative experiences around finances• Learning to express your needs without blame or judgment• Scheduling regular, low-pressure "money huddles" to stay on the same page• Keeping financial discussions light and celebrating small wins together• Remembering you're on the same team when financial differences arise• Creating communication strategies that honor both partners' financial perspectives• Walking or driving side-by-side can make difficult money conversations easierI'm still offering my summer special for engaged and newlywed couples: three premarital or newly post-marital coaching sessions for the price of one. Email me at moni@monicatanner.com or set up a call at monicatanner.com/call. Also, watch for my upcoming book "Bad Marriage Advice" – get on the mailing list at www.badmarriageadvice.com for updates on when it will be available.Send us a text

I tackle the challenging reality of what to do when one partner wants to work on the relationship while the other resists, providing a clear three-step approach based on my experience with couples in this situation.• Despite what some experts claim, you cannot completely transform your marriage alone—both partners must participate• The first step is to directly invite your partner to therapy or coaching, being persistent but understanding about their concerns• Step two involves creating "productive discomfort" by withdrawing comforts you typically provide• The final step may require temporary separation to demonstrate how serious you are about improving the relationship• When both partners engage in the work, transformative results are possible that benefit not just the couple but future generations• Breaking generational patterns requires courage to stand up with loving power rather than settling for mediocrityIf you need help with this process, please reach out for a complimentary call at monicatanner.com/call. And for engaged or newlywed couples, I'm offering a special summer promotion—three RLT sessions for the price of one to help establish a strong foundation for your marriage.Send us a text

After an incredibly busy May filled with family celebrations including our 23rd wedding anniversary, my son's wedding, my daughter's high school graduation, and a week-long houseboat trip to Lake Powell, I'm reflecting on valuable relationship lessons that emerged during this special time.• Shared a powerful relationship skill called the "I notice" technique that creates open communication without triggering defensiveness• Explained how to properly use this approach by describing only what a security camera would see, not interpretations or judgments• Reflected on early marriage challenges and how different schedules and communication styles created difficulties• Advocated for premarital or newlywed counseling even when relationships seem perfect• Discussed the benefits of establishing a relationship with a therapist before problems arise• Offered insight into how Relational Life Therapy helps identify relationship patterns and triggering mechanisms• Emphasized the importance of learning repair techniques and effective communication skills earlyFor a limited time, I'm offering engaged and newlywed couples a special package of three coaching sessions for the price of one. This can be purchased as a gift for couples you know or for your own relationship. Visit monicatanner.com and click on "work with me" to schedule a consultation, or email moni@monicatanner.com for more information.Send us a text

Dr. Nicole Villegas, occupational therapist and founder of the Sensory Conscious Institute, explores how understanding nervous systems and sensory patterns helps build relationships rooted in safety, connection, and clarity.• Beyond the five senses: interoception (internal feelings), vestibular (movement through space), and proprioception (body position awareness)• Creating collaborative solutions versus compromises for different sensory preferences• Using the Three C's: curiosity, compassion and consent in communication• How unaddressed sensory needs lead to seemingly disproportionate reactions later• The AHA method for regulation: Acknowledge, Honor, and take Action toward safety• Signs your nervous system is dysregulated: racing heart, difficulty focusing, feeling "buzzy"• Walking and talking as an effective strategy for difficult conversations• Recognizing when your partner is overwhelmed through body language cues• Using "I noticed..." statements instead of judgment when discussing sensory responses• Learning to appreciate how sensory awareness creates opportunities for deeper connectionVisit drnicoleotd on Instagram or sensoryconcious.com to learn more about sensory practices and sign up for Dr. Nicole's newsletter "Refine" for small changes that make big differences.Send us a text

When life gets chaotic, maintaining your sanity and your marriage requires intentional practices and clear communication. This episode shares my five-step approach to handling busy seasons with grace while keeping my relationship strong and cooperative.• Start each day with focused prayer to identify what truly matters that day• Ask for help confidently, remembering that it allows others the opportunity to serve• Let your spouse know exactly how they can support you during busy times• Make specific requests rather than general complaints about lack of help• Keep "micro-disappointments" from becoming relationship-defining stories• Create detailed lists and delegate responsibilities to lighten your load• Practice saying "no" to protect your energy and relationships• Express appreciation for all help received and prioritize daily connection• Maintain relationship through daily check-ins, weekly date nights, and annual trips• Remember that teamwork in chaos comes from intentional communicationKeep prioritizing each other in the chaos, and I'll see you next week, same time, same place. And until then, happy marriaging.Send us a text

Tony and Elisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage discuss how busy couples can rekindle intimacy and connection through intentional time together. They reveal the biggest roadblocks to intimacy are lack of meaningful conversation and diminished sexual connection, with practical solutions for couples who feel like roommates.• The "we'll make time when..." trap leads many couples to disconnect by the time life finally slows down• Couples who delay nurturing their relationship often reach empty nester stage feeling like strangers• A time audit usually reveals at least 30 minutes daily that could be redirected to relationship building• Start with just 15 minutes of connection through card games, comedy clips, or simple physical touch• Difficult conversations may require a third-party facilitator to create safe space for both partners• Internal forgiveness work is essential for moving past resentment without necessarily verbalizing it• Children have free will—their choices aren't always a reflection of parenting approaches• It's never too late to transform your relationship, as demonstrated by couples married 30+ years• More relationship resources exist now than ever before, making help accessible to all couplesVisit IntimacyMastery.com to take an assessment of your relationship and get a roadmap for improving connection over 30, 60, and 90 days.Send us a text

We celebrate a double milestone as my son gets married on our 23rd wedding anniversary. This emotional weekend brings together two generations of love stories while I reflect on what makes a marriage work for over two decades.• Cooking for 125 wedding guests from a small Airbnb with crockpots scattered throughout every room• The importance of morning walks for communication and connection in marriage• Jewish wedding traditions including the chuppah and breaking glass to symbolize the couple's new journey• The significance of being intentional about building a good relationship with my new daughter-in-law• How apologizing quickly and choosing each other daily strengthens marriage over decades• The value of community support and having a "village" to celebrate important life transitionsGet on the waiting list for my upcoming book "Bad Marriage Advice" at www.badmarriageadvice.com and receive a free gift of 300+ date night ideas for every season, budget, and interest.Send us a text

I spent an incredible weekend at the first-ever Relational Life Therapy conference in Orlando, immersed in transformative teachings from world-renowned relationship experts. RLT offers powerful tools for building radically honest, fiercely loving relationships where both partners thrive in equality, focusing on intimacy, connection, and practical relational skills.• RLT focuses on telling the truth in relationships and why honesty creates deeper connection• Diversity and inclusion play crucial roles in understanding how upbringing affects relationship dynamics• Learning practical techniques for vulnerability, speaking truth to power, and working through difficult moments together• Multi-generational trauma can be healed when one person "faces the flame" and changes family patterns• Happy couples aren't conflict-free but excel at repair after disconnection• Small repair attempts like reaching for your partner's hand or saying "we're on the same team" can transform relationships• Relationships aren't meant to be perfect but real—the growth happens in the repairShare this episode with a friend and DM me on Instagram @monitanner1 to let me know one thing you're going to do this week to make your relationship stronger.Send us a text

Money often causes tension in relationships, but it doesn't have to. Nate and Bethany Smith share their expertise on creating financial harmony through better communication, understanding each other's money stories, and developing shared goals.• Understanding your partner's "money story" helps build empathy and reduces financial conflict• Creating a "spending and savings plan" feels more empowering than a restrictive budget• Pay yourself first by prioritizing savings before other expenses• Rule of 72 shows how your money doubles (divide 72 by your interest rate)• Teaching kids early money habits and the time value of money sets them up for success• Changing your environment (walks, weekend getaways) creates better financial conversations• Awareness of where money goes and having a plan prevents financial stress• Having a vision for your future makes daily money decisions easier• Understanding the psychology behind money decisions is as important as the mathContact Nate and Bethany at @yourcashflowcouple on Instagram or visit howmoneyworks.com/NateSmith or howmoneyworks.com/BethanySmith to book a free consultation.Send us a text

In this episode, we explore how recommitting to daily conversations and weekly date nights can reignite emotional intimacy and transform your relationship with your partner.• Gottman research shows mapping your partner's inner world is crucial for emotional connection• People constantly change and evolve—nobody remains the same person they were when you married• Commit to 20 minutes of daily connection through walking and meaningful conversation• Move beyond transactional topics (kids, chores, schedules) to discover what excites or stresses your partner• Ask questions like "What are you learning right now?" or "Who are you enjoying talking to lately?"• Use weekly date nights to explore the origins of beliefs about sex, money, relationships• Investigate childhood experiences to understand where your partner's core beliefs originated• "Weed out" unhealthy beliefs and intentionally plant new ideas in your relationship garden• Emotional connection naturally enhances all other forms of intimacy• Utilize resources like card decks, apps, and games for inspiration if you're struggling with conversation startersI invite you to go for a walk with your spouse every single day, start mapping their inner world with really good questions, and make sure you're getting date night on the calendar every week. I promise it will make a huge difference in the connection, closeness and emotional intimacy you feel with your partner.Send us a text