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 Stepfamily and Stepmom success strategies, based on research and clinical practice of my guest Dr. Patricia Papernow, and (in this twofer episode), the support groups and stepmom coaching of Nathalie Savell. We include some data from Wednesday Martin's great book Stepmonster. This is the last on in the series on how we make families now, 42% of Americans have a close stepfamily relationship- and yet the research on how to blend well- and the emotional skills to do so- aren't very well known- so we make avoidable mistakes. But with research, that's changing. Join The Rose Woman, Christine as she continues this month's series on making families. This week, we are joined by 2 amazing guests who will talk about success strategies in having a stepfamily and being a stepmom. In this episode, we cover:Differences in structure between having a first-time family and blended familiesBlended familiesDifferences in being a mother and stepmother and their relationships with the kidsHow we support childrenSelfcare and boundariesUnderstanding the role of the Parent in the middle of the two spousesUnderstanding parents of adult kids who recouple at a later age, how do each side copeHow did Nathalie get interested in the subject of Step-ParentingWhat is a Step-mom coach and how does Nathalie work with womenChallenges of stepparentingThe transition to being a stepmomRelating to BiomomsOur first guest for this topic is Dr. Patricia Papernow, an internationally recognized expert on “blended families.” Now entering her fifth decade of researching, working with and teaching about stepfamilies, all over the U.S. and the world. She is the author of the leading books in the field as well as dozens of articles and book chapters. For her work, she has received the Society Couple and Family Psychology Society award for Distinguished Contribution to Family Psychology. Our second guest is stepmom coach and pastoral counselor Nathalie Savell, a biological mom of 2 kids ages 6 and 1, Stepmother to an 11-year-old, dog mother to an elderly pug mutt, Coach, and mental health therapist. She is passionate about empowering women to have healthy relationships with themselves, other people, food, sex, and work. She approaches her work with a holistic perspective and believes strongly in the importance of integrating the mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, relational, and cultural aspects of ourselves. She currently sees individuals virtually one-on-one for both therapy and coaching including Step-moms, entrepreneurs, and creative leaders. She believes in the healing nature of possibility, authenticity, and self-acceptance, and that sometimes you just need to dance and sing to feel better! Helpful Links:Dr. Patricia Papernow - Visit her website for lots of radio interviews and videos. A great resource for those who want solid research-based guidance. If you, or someone you’re close to, don’t like to read, it’s a gold mine of good helpful stuff. She is also the Author of 2 books on Stepfamilies: Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn’t is the go-to resource for stepfamily members and therapists. Surviving and Thriving was written for both therapists and stepfamily members. It delves much more deeply into both the practical and emotional journey of forming a healthy stepfamily. It has been translated into Japanese and Russian, and soon, Dutch and Hungarian. Buy this book on AmazonThe Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Forming a “Blended Family” was co-authored with post-divorce co-parenting coach Karen Bonnell. As the title suggests, TSH offers step-by-step guidance from early dating with children on board, to stepfamily-dom. It was written for the public in breezy language. Buy this book on Amazon Nathalie Savell - Visit her website to learn more of her coaching services. Visit this link to join her Virtual Step-mom group. Get face-to-face with other Stepmamas who understand your journey Also, check out this link, to join her Therapeutic Hiking Group for women on a path to health in mind, body, and spirit while navigating adulthood.           Check out her Facebook | InstagramStepmonster book by Wednesday Martin - A unique book for women with stepchildren, men with children of any age who repartner, adult stepchildren, and anyone who knows and cares about a woman with stepchildren. It is a reconsideration of stepfamily dynamics…from the perspective of the stepmother.Silversurfers.com - Largest dating site for over 50+ years oldFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Rose Woman Pod. As we continue to discuss the many ways of Making Family,  this week we talk about the often sidelined topic, Childlessness.Meet our guest Katy Seppi, Founder of Chasing Creation, a community for the childless that gives support through monthly Childless Support Circles, happy hours, online courses, and an annual Childless Collective Summit. She is here to share her story and experiences of infertility, how she copes with it, and acceptance.   Katy Seppi is designing an unexpectedly childfree life after infertility. After four years of infertility ended with a hysterectomy in 2017, she started Chasing Creation to provide support, resources, and community for those who are also involuntarily childless. Katy holds a Master’s of Social Work degree from the University of Georgia, with an emphasis in community empowerment and program development. In this episode, we cover:Her personal story and how she worked through her griefHow Chasing Creation startedStatistics and reasons why women are ChildlessThe importance of recognizing the grief associated with being childless not by choiceHow different cultures’ expectations impact women’s experience in infertilityReproductive technologies, options and statisticsSocial situations that should be considered to changeFinding connection and healing with the childless community Topics that are discussed in the Childless Collective Summit  Helpful Links:Katy Seppi - Founder of Childless support group, Chasing CreationInstagram | Facebook | LinkedinChildless Collective Summit - A 4-day virtual event, featuring 28 speakers, all focused on topics related to being childless not by choiceAndromeda at Midlife poem by Ann Cefola is featured in Celestial Musings: Poems Inspired by the Night SkyKaren Malone Wright - Founder of The NotMom Summit  One of the world’s first major conferences for women without children to connectJody Day - Founder of Gateway-women, A global friendship and support network for childless womenBeth Tyson - a guest on The Rose Woman Pod Talks about Making Family - Part 1: GrandfamiliesFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Raising children surely is difficult but raising a child for the second-time around might be even harder. Grandparents nationwide are stepping into the role of a second-time parent in their later years. In the next couple of weeks, we are going to discuss the many kinds of families. Let’s dive in and broaden our understanding of what other people are going through.  One of these kinds of families is called “Grandfamilies.”Joining us today is Beth Tyson, author of the book  “A Grandfamily for Sullivan” where she tells a story that will help the new generation on how to cope and understand why their grandparents are now caring for them. This is a very crucial resource for families broken apart by mental health issues.Beth Tyson is the director of Beth Tyson Trauma Care where they offer trauma-informed mental health education to parents, teachers, medical professionals, and other community service providers. Beth is a children's book author, who published a book for grandchildren being raised by their grandparents due to loss, abuse, or neglect. Her book is available on Amazon. She is also a public speaker and advocate for those impacted by childhood trauma.  In this episode, we cover:What are Grandfamilies?What are the various situations or reasons on why a child goes to the grandparents' care?How does a grandparent be prepared for this emergency situation?What are the elements of Trust and Safety in the daily life of a child?On seeking support from the communitiesBeth’s inspirations and thoughts in writing her book  “A Grandfamily for Sullivan”  Helpful Links: Beth Tyson -  Author of “A Grandfamily for Sullivan”, available on AmazonFacebook | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | NewsletterAdam Walker-Parker - Illustrator of the book “A Grandfamily for Sullivan”Grands Stepping Up - a non-profit corporation dedicated to assisting grandparents/kinship guardians who are raising their grandchildrenRachel Lehmann-Haupt - Talks about “Dosies” or donor siblings,  reproductive Tech and How It’s Changing UsRobin’s Nest - Organization in helping the youthEmotiminds - a group for caregivers and professionals who would like to learn tools and best practices for psychological development and what we can do to increase emotional resilience within our families.Find Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At this very moment, no matter where we are, we all have one thing in common, from the moment we are born, the reality is we are getting older. Aging is a natural process that we need to understand, embrace, celebrate and enjoy. In this week’s episode, we are going to talk about Aging, what is it mean now and a new book “Reclaim Your Right to Grow Old” by Author and Aging Philosophy Teacher Kathleen O’Brien. Join us, as she imparts her wisdom, philosophies, and experiences on growing old and happy.Kathleen is a former Fortune 100 media broadcaster, video production company owner and has taught media relations at two top-tier graduate schools of business around the country. She currently teaches aging philosophy through the University of Denver's continuing education program. Her new book “Reclaim Your Right to Grow Old” is one-part manifesto, one-part field guide to ditching youth obsession and embracing aging with style, class, and a lot of laughs.    In this episode, we cover:Aging in different societies and culturesKathleen on her new book “Reclaim Your Right to Grow Old”How did retired people handle their financial securityHow to accept Aging as a natural processThe difficulties on the aging processOn changes in relationship, sexuality and sensual desiresHow her new book is received to the publicSpirituality of AgeHelpful Links:Kathleen O’Brien - Author of “Reclaim Your Right to Grow Old” and Lecturer at the University of Denver, continuing education program (OLLI). Facilitates classes on aging based on research into ancient and enduring societies that honor elderhood.Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedInReclaim Your Right to Grow Old book in now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and Outskirts PressRobert Butler - Father of Modern Gerontology, coined the term “Ageism” and founder of National Institute of AgingLearn more about Life Review TherapyInstitute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) - Guide to conscious aging programChip Conley - Head of Global Hospitality and Strategy of AirBnB started started Modern Elder Academy, a wisdom school dedicated to helping people navigate midlifeThe Spirituality of Age: A Seeker’s Guide to Growing Older by Robert Weber and Carol OsborneStewart Brand - President of The Long Now FoundationFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join the Rose Woman, Christine as she discusses the third part of a special series on Healing Collective Trauma. She shares her training, experiences, and insights on healing ourselves. We will learn why we are detached from the world and how we renew our connection with nature and spirituality. Remember you are not alone, you belong in this world.In this episode, we cover:Learnings from different spiritual teachers, scholars, and studiesWhy our disconnection from nature, is a fundamental and developmental  trauma that needs healingThe truth of our reality in this worldHuman impact on ecological systemsQuestions to ask yourself about nature that is living inside usPractices and experiencing the idea of spirituality Evidence that spiritual practices are workingInsights in belongingness with the worldHelpful Links:Thomas Huebl - Spiritual teacher, author, and founder of The Academy of Inner ScienceMark Whitwell -  A Yoga teacher around the world for the last 45 years, and is the author of four books on Yoga. Santa Fe Institute - Read more about the Study of human impact on food webs and ecosystemsDr. Rupert Read - Ecological philosopher and green activistSundari Farm and Gardens - Come on the Big Island- with the flowers and trees, the undimmed night sky and vast Pacific. A farm, residence and guest house, practicing leadership for a New Earth.Joshua Hathaway - Real and raw communication skills for individuals, couples, and purpose driven organizations.Joanna Macy - A scholar of buddhism, systems thinking and deep ecologySacred Economics book by Charles Eisensten - traces the history of money from ancient gift economies to modern capitalism, revealing how the money system has contributed to alienation, competition, and scarcity, destroyed community, and necessitated endless growth.The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible book by Charles Eisenstein - In a time of social and ecological crisis, what can we as individuals do to make the world a better place?Love this episode? Listen also to the two parts of this special series in Healing Collective Trauma here - Part 1 | Part 2Find Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s learn more as we continue this special series on Collective Trauma, join Christine as she educates us on women’s sexuality trauma, movements and narratives throughout history that have shamed women in their sexuality and beliefs.   In this episode, we cover:Insights on sex, body shame, researches and empowering movementsBrief background through history in understanding why women are immune to change in so many yearsUnderstanding the Old and New stories of the “5 groups of leverage points”:Changing our Religious Inheritance Media representations of female sexual normsSex education Medical understanding of women sexualityInternalize belief cultural normsLearning that change happens in ourselvesAnd MORE! Helpful Links:The Invitation: Daily Love for Your Intimate Self by Christine Marie Mason Body Love Course - A six week self-guided inquiry into our relationship with our bodies on Rosewoman.comHealing the Maternal Line: Practices for freedom by Christine Marie MasonSlut the Play and Slut!: Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation - book by Leora TanenbaumShameless - book by Nadia Bolz-WeberNicolle Hodges - a guest on The Rose Woman Pod talks about Sexual Debut: Revisiting the Virginity Story (rebranding virginity)Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media - research-based organization working collaboratively within the entertainment industry to create gender balance, foster inclusion and reduce negative stereotyping in family entertainment mediaMiss Representation - a film by Jennifer Siebel Newsom that exposes mainstream media and culture contribute to the under-representation of women in positions of power and influence in America.Cindy Gallop - a guest on The Rose Woman Pod talks about real world sex movement “Make Love Not Porn”April Davis -  a guest on the Rose Woman pod talks about what’s new on sex educationReal Sex Ed Colorado - Supporting young people on sex educationISSWSH - International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual HealthAASECT - American Association of Sexuality educators, counselors and therapistsPussy: A Reclamation - book by Mama GenaMen who takes baths - Nicolle Hodges interviewing men and transforming the culture of masculinity—from the bathVulva Glow -  Curating art for female empowermentVagina Museum - Spread knowledge and raise awareness of the gynaecological anatomy and healthUnited Nations - One place where the world's nations can gather together, discuss common problems and find shared solutionsThe Rose Woman Podcast - covers sensuality, sexuality, and what we call "holism": living an integrated, happy, present, and powerful life. Find Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Listen, Like, Share & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the first part of a special series on Healing Collective trauma, join the Rose Woman, Christine in this solo episode, as she shares her training, experiences, and insights on Collective Trauma. We dive and reflect into understanding the trauma healing collective process and learning more about ourselves, our consciousness, and how it manifests with the people around us. Tune in as we contemplate on the ideas, studies, learnings from history and guide you on collective healing.In this episode, we cover:Basic Principles of collective trauma and collective healingHow do Individual and Shared trauma differ and how it impacts peopleThe difference with shock and developmental traumaThomas Heubl on Healing Collective Trauma Trauma adaptation effects inside of us and overtimeWhat is involved with healing?Understanding and applying the Polyvagal Theory by Stephen W. PorgesThe exponential process that can lead to collective awakeningLearn and practice somatic psychotherapy Comparing photon avalanche phenomenon in our daily lives Helpful Links:Thomas Huebl - Spiritual teacher, author, and founder of The Academy of Inner ScienceStephen W. Porges - Introduced Polyvagal Theory in PsychotherapyLowen Foundation - The Alexander Lowen Foundation is dedicated to preserving and expanding the work of Alexander Lowen on BioenergeticsPeter Levine - Developer of Somatic Experiencing (A naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma)The Lovaas Center - Dr. Ole Ivar Lovaas work on Applied Behavior Analysis Bessel Van Der Kolk - On understanding and healing from traumaVolume 589 Issue 7841 of Nature Magazine - Learn more about Photon AvalanchingFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.womanListen, Like & Subscribe on iTunes | Spotify | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A mind-blowing conversation on reproductive tech, how it’s already changed us and what’s on the horizon, with Rachel Lehmann-Haupt. A rise in the age of motherhood, an explosion in single parent families and sci-fi level realities in repro tech are changing our options. Technologies like egg freezing, in vitro fertilization, the use of donor eggs, 3-parent embryos, external wombs...and even the option to become a “DIY mom”.In this Episode, we cover:Changes in parenting in today’s society, especially in motherhood.Inclusions and refinements that need to be done in current government policies and childcare systems.Rachel’s story and her “Modern Family”Rachel’s on her forthcoming book, “Reconceptions: A Story of Love, Science and the Future of Family”Current Reproductive Technologies - The collaboration with Science and drawing the line for human reproductionFuture of incubators, artificial wombs and data on today’s childbirthMultiple roles as a parent in our children’s lifeSome terminologies to learn: -Artificial insemination  -Intrauterine insemination (IUI) -In vitro fertilization (IVF) -In vitro gametogenesis (IVG) -Parthogenesis -Dosies -and MORE!Rachel Lehmann-Haupt’s Forthcoming book:   Seven years after raising her son as a single mother by choice, Lehmann-Haupt decides to meet her son’s “dosies,” or donor siblings, and their parents. Reconceptions: A Story of Love, Science and the Future of Family, tells the story of the relationships she and her son form with this modern tribe of mothers and DNA siblings while at times she meets and tells the intimate stories of other new families shapes and the reproductive technologies shaping the future of family.Helpful Links:The Art and Science Family newsletter -  about leading edge scientific research on the changing shape and nature of modern family planning | Sign-up HERE StoryMade Studio -  focuses on developing and marketing digital stories for health brandsTo get updates on Rachel’s forthcoming book, Reconceptions: A Story of Love, Science and the Future of Family that will be published on 2022, Visit and Like her Facebook GroupIn Her Own Sweet Time: Egg Freezing and the New Frontiers of Family book by Rachel Lehmann-HauptJane Metcalfe’s Neo.Life - Get the book: a collection of 25 essays, interviews, and works of fiction and art offering a big-picture perspective on the profound changes made possible by the merging of biology and technology.A Womb with a View  - article by Rachel Lehmann-Haupt on Neo.lifeFollow Rachel on  InstagramShould I freeze my eggs?Perineal Massage and the New Mom: Let's Talk About EverythingListening Within, Self-Care, Birth Equity and More with Latham Thomas (MamaGlow)Normalizing the conversation on reproductive healthFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are open relationships the new normal? Would you or have you ever considered a threesome? Today we are talking about the rapidly changing world of sexual norms- where the unacknowledged or unfulfilled fantasies of more diverse sexuality come to life. AND yes- there’s an app for that! That app is Feel’d - a dating app for couples and singles- where consent and respect rule the screen, and today we interview Evgenia, who has a big wish for humanity.In this episode, we cover:Tell Me What You WantWhat is Normal How Feeld was started out of truth telling between committed partnersInternal discovery, openness and consensual exploration of your desires with your partnerData and learnings about people’s fantasies that are trending this past yearUser Safety and boundaries on the AppFeeld App’s progression with the communityAND moreAbout Evgenia:Evgenia is currently a User Experience Researcher at Feeld. She is bringing insights into the behaviours and motivations of Feeld's users and advises the product and marketing teams. Passionate about exploring online behaviours, Evgenia is studying how a person's inner world interacts with and manifest in cyberspaces. Her areas of interest are digitally mediated intimacy, and the work of desire in online vs. offline spaces. She also has a background in psychology and holistic therapy.About Feeld :Feeld is the first dating app for couples and singles. Open to all genders and sexual identities, Feeld allows members to join solo or pair up with a partner, a lover or a curious friend. Founded in London in 2014, Feeld is a fully remote, design-led company dedicated to creating an inclusive space where everyone can be honest with themselves while being responsible towards others.Helpful Links:Feeld - Dating App for Couples and SinglesFacebook | Twitter | Instagram | TiktokDr. Lehmiller - Sex and Psychology educator and researcherTell me what you want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life book by Dr. LehmillerFind Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Guest Bio:Nicolle Hodges is a journalist and author- her first book- on orgasm, Dr. Seuss style “Oh, the Places You’ll Go Oh Oh”. She is the founder of Girls Who Say Fuck, an incubator for ideas that instigate change, including the wildly popular campaign to rebrand virginity to sexual debut. Recently, Nicolle launched a series of workshops and online gatherings to teach women the basics of BDSM power dynamics. She is the founder of Men Who Take Baths -- a men's mental health movement that's transforming the culture of masculinity from the bath. She studied broadcast journalism and communications at the British Columbia Institute of Technology and was an on-air talent and producer at CTV Vancouver until 2018. During her tenure at CTV, she reported from Lesbos, Greece, where she started an art camp for kids at the peak of the refugee crisis. When Nicolle left her career in television, she began telling stories from the frontlines of cannabis legalization in Canada as the culture editor of Herb—the largest cannabis publication in North America. She continues to work on the vanguard of drug policy and culture as an independent journalist for Double Blind and an on-camera host for The Dales Report, where she interviews the top CEOs of emerging psychedelics companies. In fall 2021, Nicolle begins her BA in Psychology at York University. She is simultaneously pursuing a certification in nonviolent communication, as well as somatic sex educator training. She currently lives in Toronto with her hairless cat, Brain (not Brian). To follow Nicolle’s adventures, and read the stories that come of it, find her on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn.Sexual Debut and Men Who Take Baths:Sexual Debut is a campaign to reframe the word "virginity" so young women don't begin their sexual journey at a deficit, feeling like they have lost or given something up. Your sexual debut can happen many times, in many ways, and at any age -- it doesn't have to be your first time doing something, but it is a pinnacle moment that you felt most like you in relation to your sexuality. That's a cause for celebration -- and there should be cake! Men Who Take Baths is transforming the culture of masculinity from the bubble bath. In this episode, We Cover:Nicolle’s story and her pursuit of reconnectionWhat is “Sexual Debut”?How does it differentiate from losing virginity?Reactions and responses from the PublicOn immersing with “Men Who Take Baths”Finding what is your genuine desire and pleasureStarting conversations with “The Orgasm Book”Helpful links:girlswhosayfuck.com - helping women on sexual freedom@girlswhosayfuck Instagram | @sxual.debut Instagrammenwhotakebaths.com - Men in bubble baths are interviewed about what it means to “be a man.” @menwhotakebaths - Twitter | InstagramClubhouse - Drop-in audio appQuilt - Social network for supportive conversationsA Thousand Ships by Natalie Haynes  - a  retelling of a myth through the women’s perspectivetheorgasmbook.com  - A book about the power of female orgasms @theorgasmbook - Twitter | InstagramPower Dynamics through the lens of Dominant and Submission: A Workshop by Nicolle Hodges - SIGN UPLet’s Celebrate #SEXUALDEBUT with this BOOK GIVEAWAY from the Rose Woman Podcast! Listen to this episode and learn how to win a free copy of The Orgasm Book by Nicolle Hodges! Find Rosebud Woman on Instagram as @rosebudwoman and Christine on Instagram as @the.rose.woman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.