
Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation
Welcome to "Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation", the podcast where we break the chains of shame and societal expectations to create a safe space for self-healing, habit transformation, and personal growth. Hosted by a seasoned life coach, Danny Poelman DDS, with years of hands-on experience, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your voice, embracing your story, and living life on your terms.In each episode, we dive deep into the topics that matter most to you—whether it's:-breaking free from unwanted habits like pornography-excessive people-pleasing-healing from past trauma-recovering from narcissistic abuse or religious/relational trauma-anxiety/depression-money mindset blocks-overcoming limiting beliefsWe’re not afraid to talk about the things that are often considered taboo, because we believe that through honest, unfiltered conversations, real transformation happens.You’ll hear real client stories that illustrate the power of this work—stories of struggle, resilience, and ultimate triumph. We explore what works, drawing from practical strategies and proven techniques that have helped countless individuals achieve lasting change. Each episode is a blend of inspiration, actionable insights, and heartfelt guidance, all aimed at helping you carve out the space you need for your own healing and transformation.This podcast is for those who are ready to step into their power, shed the weight of shame, and unapologetically embrace who they are. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds, build healthier habits, or simply create more love and fulfillment in your life, "Unshamed & Unchained" is here to support you on that journey.So tune in, start listening right away, and let’s carve out the space you need to become the best version of yourself—unshamed, unchained, and unstoppable.
Latest episodes

Jun 27, 2022 • 17min
13. People Pleasing Leads to Urge Pleasing
Are you people pleasing? Do you find yourself giving in to your urges too much? Are you afraid of the consequences of your "no's"? It's perfectly normal. When we are on the journey of healing, one of the hardest things to practice is enforcing our boundaries. In this episode Danny Poelman talks about the importance of enforcing boundaries and how to get out of the unhealthy habit of people pleasing. Listen to the full episode to learn moreDanny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jun 13, 2022 • 18min
12. Joy your way to success
In this episode Danny Poelman discusses joy and how that can be an excellent way to create change and success. By thinking of the things we need to do in joyful ways, it'll create a shift in the ways that change happens. Listen to the full episode to learn moreDanny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Jun 6, 2022 • 31min
11. Questions to Guide Your Transformation
Are you asking yourself the right questions? In this episode, Danny Poelman goes through the questions he has had to ask himself to facilitate change is his mindset, habits, and life. He offers the questions that can be helpful for thought work and accountability as well as questions to define the 'why' in your journey. Listen to the full episode to learn moreDanny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

May 23, 2022 • 19min
10. How to check in with yourself
How often do you check in with yourself? Did you know that checking in with yourself is an important practice to help you change habits, stay happier, feel more fulfilled, and determine what areas of your life you can work on. In this episode Danny Poelman offers some helpful questions to ask yourself when you are checking in. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

May 16, 2022 • 29min
9. Lessons From Clients
In this episode Danny Poelman shares some of the lessons and successes his clients have shared. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work.Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

May 9, 2022 • 25min
8. Counteracting Decision Fatigue
Decision fatigue affects us all and it can make it very difficult to move forward in our goals. In this episode Danny Poelman talks about decision fatigue, how it affects us, and how we can counteract it to make better, healthier, and more impactful decisions in our day to day. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

May 2, 2022 • 39min
7. Feeling Depressed is Better Than Porn
In this episode Danny Poelman talks about the humanity in feeling depressed, and how it does not mean you aren't healing or improving your life. We can often feel like our sadness and depression means that there is something wrong with us, but on the contrary, it means that we are human, feeling human emotions. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Apr 25, 2022 • 25min
6. Thinking as an Action
In this episode Danny Poelman discusses how our thoughts drive our actions, and how we can best use them to create genuine change in our day to day lives. He talks about the differences between the upper and lower brain, how we can restructure our thoughts to create meaningful change, and how we have more power over our habits than we think. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Apr 18, 2022 • 30min
5. Rule vs Tool
In this episode Danny Poelman discusses the rule vs tool principle. He breaks down how we can rethink the way rules are presented to us to create sustainable habit changes. We use rules as tools to get the results we want. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Apr 11, 2022 • 20min
4. Are You Looking For Progress Or Not
In this episode, Danny Poelman talks about a problem he often sees with his clients. He talks about measuring progress and how it can be helpful or harmful to reaching our overall goals. There are many ways in which we measure progress, and if we measure them by how many times we fail, it will leave us feeling discouraged at the work we've done. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeSTART WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)CLICK HERE to learn more about or for access to RISE GROUP COACHING CALLS: https://www.dannypoelman.com/rise-coaching-calls Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.