The Late Bloomer Show

Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide. You are worthy. If you need more convincing, this week’s episode is not to miss. Tara Schuster, author of Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way, joins Lily on the show! In the book and throughout this conversation, Tara shares practical steps to liberate yourself from emotional suffering, heal your past, and own your future. Tara served as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of critically acclaimed shows such as the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key & Peele, the Emmy® Award winning @Midnight (now After Midnight on CBS) amongst many others. Over the last twelve years, Tara has spent her “10,000 hours” on the other side of the couch studying philosophy, therapies, religions, and even memoirs of the adults she admired so that she could find emotional freedom from a neglectful and psychologically abusive childhood. Lily and Tara get into: “It’s not magic having a different life. You can’t sit back and wait for it to happen; you have to work for it.” What inspired Tara to write Glow in the F*cking Dark and its mission: the practice of finding your essential self. Thoughts and advice for overcoming lack of self-trust and self-criticism  Tara shares her self-compassion party trick! How Tara got to a place to make decisions rooted in her own best interest, especially in dating Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Glow in the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster Tara’s website Tara on Instagram The Loveland Foundation Show notes:  http://datebrazen.com/blog/glow-in-the-dark-with-tara-schuster  

Are you tired of swiping left and right, endlessly scrolling through dating apps, hoping to find a genuine connection? In this episode, Lily welcomes Maxine Simone Williams, the creative powerhouse behind a New York City-based initiative, We Met IRL, reshaping how people meet and mingle, diving deep into the world of speed dating and real-life encounters. Maxine shares her journey of building We Met IRL and why her speed dating events make dating fun again. Plus, Lily and Maxine tackle common dating concerns like handling rejection at speed dating events or overcoming social barriers for the shy and introverted.  Tune into this episode as Lily and Maxine journey beyond the screens, where in-person connections thrive. They get into: Dating assumptions that these events challenge  - making dating fun again!  Are dating apps the only way people are meeting people? Instagram vs Phone Number: what to give out when meeting IRL What if nobody chooses me at speed dating How to go about meeting people in real life or speed-dating if you are shy or introverted  Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable We Met IRL on TikTok @wemetirl We Met IRL on Instagram @wemetirl Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/speed-dating-with-maxine-simone-williams    

Are you striving to let go of the wrong people? What if we told you that the extent to which you're willing to bless and release the wrong people is directly linked to your path toward the right relationship? In this episode, Lily reveals her strategy for blessing and releasing the wrong people in your life, enabling your mind to shift its focus towards the right connections for you. "Blessing and releasing" is a radical step towards fulfilling your desires. So, grab your note-taking tools because this episode is full of practical how-to's on this transformative process. In this episode, you will learn: Having people in your life who are not suitable for you is about the underlying fear that what you want is not possible or not worthy of what you want. That is worthy of your curiosity and compassion. Categories of when to bless and release (B&R) someone Different levels of connection deserve a different approach to blessing and releasing. Tips for outlining a B&R moment for a breakup  Lily breaks down an incomplete roster of individuals to bless and release, including: the stonewaller, the Eeyore, the most intense human, and the pen-pal. Reflection questions to help you determine if you need to bless and release someone Text and out loud scripts for B&R like “Hey, thanks for hanging. I’m not feeling a romantic connection, wish you the best.” Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! 124. The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge! Radical Alignment, Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-bless-and-release-the-wrong-people  

Today, get ready to geek out with us on the podcast! We're thrilled to have Faith Hill, a staff writer at The Atlantic, joining Lily for an insightful conversation about research and its cultural impact on dating. We get into topics like dating dynamics, dating yourself, social connections, and being single.  Together, Lily and Faith dive into Faith’s latest articles about exploring love, dating, and the complexities of singlehood. What's particularly captivating about Faith's writing is how she addresses those burning questions that naturally arise as you delve into the research she shares.  Tune in for a chat that sheds light on the intriguing intersection where love, society, and human connections meet! 🎙️✨ We get into: Dating culture and its problematic value of coupled people over singles  What the research showed regarding dating “spark vs. slow burn.”  The assumption that we'll be happier in a relationship The emotions that get stirred up when examining this statement, “As your friends get coupled, it could feel like a ghost town.” Hot-take: “Spending all your time with your partner is not great for your relationship or friendships.” Allowing for messy intimacy with friendships or partners  Perception and feelings about solo dating: how to release the narrative that taking yourself on a date means you are lonely, and how to bring more pleasure to solo time Hot-take: “Solitude is not antithetical to connection.” Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! 130. How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler 173. Fighting for our friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson Faith’s articles referenced in this episode: No, You Shouldn’t ‘Date ’Em ’Til You Hate ’Em’ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/awkward-modern-dating-the-spark/676039/ Don't let love take over your life https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/relationship-balance-love-friendship-autonomy/675321/ Take yourself on a date!  https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/seeing-movies-alone-solo-date-in-public/672363/ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/research-cultural-impact-of-dating

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above. 

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above. 

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above. 

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above. 

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.     

What does it feel like to be in the right relationship? Join us on the Date Brazen Podcast as we get into this intriguing question with Maddie, a former client whose journey may inspire you. From discovering deeper essence-based preferences to finding her now-husband during the Brazen Breakthrough program, Maddie's story is a testament to the transformative power of belief in self and taking courageous action.  This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding you that what you desire does exist. Through inspiring stories like Maddie's, we witness firsthand that with bold action, the love and fulfillment you seek are not only possible but inevitable. Hot-takes and episode topics: Just got out of a relationship - is it too soon to do this work? The most impactful lesson Maddie learned that translates beyond dating Maddie shares her sparkly experience meeting her now husband on a dating app Overcoming doubt about whether or not you are in the right relationship  How does it feel to be in the right relationship, and what is the work after you find it? Centering yourself in what you want sets you on a different path; there is transformative power in believing in the possibility of what you truly desire Links:  Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/being-in-the-right-relationship