The Late Bloomer Show

Do you ever feel trapped by outdated dating rules and wonder if there's a better way to attract more? The amazing Damona Hoffman joins Lily to dismantle the four big dating myths and introduces the four pillars of lasting love for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.   Damona helps to outline these myths and paves a clear path with actionable next steps, making the dating process easier and helping you find what you desire. Damona says, “You have more control over what happens in your life than what you allow yourself to believe. How deep are you willing to dig?”  Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps, including Bumble and Match, and she was named the Official U.S. Dating Coach of OkCupid in 2021. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona’s first book F the Fairy Tale, was released January 2, 2024. We get into: Using dating apps with intention + why Damona says to take notifications off your dating apps and track what is going on in your dating life. The three C’s when designing your profile: Color, Context, Character. The four BIG dating myths and how to ditch them! Including the preferences list myth, the chemistry myth, and the soulmate myth. Links: F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite The Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story Damona’s website The Dates and Mates podcast Damona on Instagram @damonahoffman Damona’s Date Tracker Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shedding-dating-myths-with-damona-hoffman

Want to reclaim your self-worth and challenge societal norms? Then, get ready for a fantastic episode because we’ve got Kara Loewentheil, the powerhouse behind the School of New Feminist Thought, on this week’s podcast! Kara’s new book, 'Take Back Your Brain,' just dropped, and I can’t wait to share our conversation with you. In this episode, Kara and I dive into romantic socialization's history and social impacts. We bust myths about love, marriage, and self-worth and discuss the difference between empowerment and true personal power. We urge you to root your self-worth in yourself instead of seeking external validation. Kara’s insights are a game-changer. She offers a roadmap for embracing self-compassion, challenging patriarchal norms, and building mindsets that lead to a more fulfilling life. Don’t miss out on this powerful conversation! Tune in now and start taking back your brain!  We get into: The brain gap: what it is and how to overcome it.  Why the goal is to be grounded in your self-worth and not your relationship status The four traps of romantic socialization Body positivity vs body neutrality  The beauty and power in the phrase “How human of me…” Links: Take Back Your Brain  Unfuck Your Brain Podcast Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/take-back-your-brain-kara-loewentheil  

If you date men and have ever wondered if the feminist partner you want exists, this episode is for you!  This week, we explore the Brazen Breakthrough tools, mindset shifts, and strategies that Client Julianne applied to attract a feminist man and is now building an epic partnership.   Lily and returning guest Julianne dive into the evolution of Julianne's love life since her last podcast appearance. They discuss the importance of self-trust, essence-based preferences, and the empowering shift from muscling through dating to co-creating a fulfilling relationship.  This is a must-listen episode for anyone wondering if their ideal partner exists. We get into: How Julianne used the Brazen Breakthrough tools to attract a proactive, feminist man her way How attraction is an essence-based preference Co-creating a relationship with someone can be fun! Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! The Brazen Breakthrough Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-julianne-attracted-a-feminist-man  

How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨ You’ll learn: Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts.  “Messy progress forward is okay.” “Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself.” The goal is never to feel anxious again; it’s to increase your capacity for resiliency so that when you feel anxious, you know what to do about it. Even if you have anxiety, you can still make massive changes in your life. Links: Free Training With Lily Womble TODAY, May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Psychology Today Dr. Kristin Neff Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski  Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-date-with-social-anxiety  

Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi’s journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of connections you desire.  We get into: How Mishi learned to rediscover herself after enduring two challenging breakups  The most significant difference in Mishi’s dating life today The act of listening to your intuition and embracing self-trust  Some of the Brazen Breakthrough strategies that Mishi found helpful, including Bless-Release and the Dating Feedback System What it’s like to be in a proactive and loving relationship  Links: Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/attracting-proactive-loving-partner  

In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment. This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! 🔥 You’ll learn: Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be with Owning your EBPs is a feminist act. It's about flipping the script and putting yourself at the center of your dating universe. Bye-bye, antiquated norms! EBPs are the answer to attracting the best partner in your life Under vs. Over-Functioning Preferences: It's all about finding that sweet spot. Too little? You're selling yourself short. Too much? You're losing sight of your true desires.   Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life Creating Your Essence-Based Preferences Comprehensive Guide Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/owning-your-preferences  

Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy. We get into: How Danielle realized she wasn’t getting what she truly wanted in dating  Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you want Shifting from second-guessing yourself to trusting your intuition The lessons and takeaways from Brazen Breakthrough that help Danielle show up and support others (and herself) The impact on Danielle’s dating life, including creating stronger boundaries and dating with intention The act of reclaiming your sense of Self  Links: Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Waitlist Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/hard-breakups-to-joyful-af-dating-life  

Did you know you’re most attractive when you are authentically you? Well, that’s precisely what this week’s guest, Therapy Jeff, says! Jeff Guenther, known as Therapy Jeff, joins Lily for a conversation about the intricacies of modern dating, the evolution of therapy in the age of social media, and authentic self-expression.  Therapy Jeff's insights on modern dating and mental health are a breath of fresh air. In a world saturated with dating advice and unrealistic expectations, his book, 'Big Dating Energy,' offers a refreshing perspective: that lasting love stems from embracing one's authentic self. In an era of self-doubt and comparison, Jeff reminds us that we are inherently lovable and deserving of genuine connection. We get into: What dating advice/problems/framing Jeff’s book, Big Dating Energy, aims to solve Addressing beliefs like “It’s my fault, or I’m not good enough.”  The idea of feminine and masculine energy and the notion of “not being in your feminine enough.” Cognitive overload and how to get in touch with your intention when using social media or dating apps Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Jeff’s book, Big Dating EnergyTherapy Jeff’s websiteTherapy Jeff on TikTokTherapy Jeff on Instagram Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/big-dating-energy-with-therapy-jeff  

Nervous about sending a DM to a cutie or asking somebody on a date? If you answered yes, then this week’s episode is for you.   Lily explores the mindset shifts and practical steps needed to step out of your comfort zone and shoot your shot! Whether it's sliding into those DMs or asking someone out face-to-face, this episode is your guide to overcoming the nerves and getting what you want.  Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to revolutionize your approach to dating. Asking for more of what you want leads to more of what you desire. This episode is part strategy and part hype. You’ve got this and Lily’s got your back!  You’ll learn: “The only thing separating you from getting what you want is your willingness to ask for it out loud.” Shooting your shot is about giving your permission to be the main character of your story How to get over the paralyzing fear of asking for what you want The role permission, self-trust, and courageous action play when shooting your shot It’s not about doing it perfectly. It’s about doing the thing. Your job is to pursue what you want, trust your desire, and take messy, courageous action toward those desires. Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-challenge  

We're diving into the intersection of body liberation, white supremacy, and dating with the incredible Jessica Wilson, MS. RD. As the author of "It's Always Been Ours: Rewriting the Story of Black Women's Bodies," Jessica brings her expertise as a dietitian, storyteller, and community organizer to the forefront. Together, Lily and Jessica explore the interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires, unpacking how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the dating world. We get into: The interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires Jessica’s view on how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the process of putting themselves out there in dating “Your body is not the problem,”  Spaces to seek out body liberation support and community How do we set boundaries for those, not on the same page or path with body liberation?  Jessica’s favorite moment of Black Joy since writing her book Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Jessica’s website Jessica’s book, It’s Always Been Ours Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-liberation-dating-and-black-joy-with-jessica-wilson