Talking with Kristen Duke, mentor to parents of teens, and full of enthusiasm for what we can create when we work on building a relationship founded on trust. Kristen guides us through some blind spots parents have that get int the way of a connection, and how to be the person our adolescents need.Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-455-kristen-duke-helps-us-build-more-trust-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me this week as we get ever more focused on the interpersonal nature of raising teens. Where are we focusing our attention? What are we centering in our relationships? What might happen if we keep in mind our kids strengths even when things are going sideways?See all the show notes and more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-454-Expanding-how-we-are-relating-to-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest today is Alexandra Ford, and we’re tackling a scary subject today. January is human trafficking prevention month, so I want to grow everyone’s awareness with Alexandra, and we’ll share ways to keep your kids safe. Alexandra kicks us off by explaining what human trafficking looks like in 2024 and how her own story inspires her to do this work. We try to articulate the difference between being sexually empowered and sexually exploited and the reality of the commercial sex industry. I ask Alexandra what she needed from her parents during her trafficking experience which spurs us to touch on teaching autonomy, consent, accessing help, & listening to your gut. We get into online safety and what to share and not share online (and what if you’ve already shared it?!) and how to safely introduce a device to your teen. Alexandra generously stays on a bit longer to share her wisdom on how we can make sure our teens really know they can come to us when they have a problem.Takeaways from the show What does domestic human trafficking look like in 2024?  How do I make sure this never happens to my child(ren)?  What’s the difference between being sexually empowered versus sexually exploited?   Commercial sex industry  Tangible online safety tips  Creating an environment in which your kids know they can truly come to you & share anything  “If your child has any online presence . . . it is not a matter of if a predator sees them, it’s a matter of when.”  How to safely introduce a new device to an older child or adolescent - engage, engage, engage!  Conversations in the car  “When you make a mistake, which you will, I will walk with you through it and love you through it. We will find a way to the other side, whatever it is . . . I am here.”  For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me this week during this solo episode as we play with the concept of flexibility while parenting through the teen years. Where are you finding flexibility? How might flexibility serve your relationhip with your teen? What is getting in the way of flexibility? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest today is Ed Center, and today we’re talking about how power shows up while parenting teens.  Ed kicks off our conversation sharing how his childhood and parenting experience led him to finding Positive Discipline, and how & where cultural wisdom and cultural trauma affect our parenting. Ed and I talk about how hard it is to pause and access our Positive Discipline tools in the moment when you are pissed, and why those moments & gaps are so important. Ed brings it back to Alfred Adler’s belonging & significance, shares a reminder that teens are craving additional autonomy, power, & significance, and explains that negative attention is significance, too. We talk about Ed’s blog post & metaphor, “Your attention is the sun,” and we agree on the effectiveness of the “when, then, walk” strategy. Ed and I dig into what can stop positive parenting strategies from working and what threatens our connection with our kids (spoiler: screens aren’t helping!).Takeaways from the show Passing on cultural wisdom Not passing on cultural trauma  How do we access our Positive Discipline strategies when we are pissed off!?  Your kids can build new skills when they are feeling secure in their belonging & significance  Teens who are secure in their belonging with you start seeking belonging from other sources  Adolescents are craving additional autonomy, power, significance without accountability or repercussions  “Negative attention is significance”  “Your attention is the sun” metaphor & mantra  When, then, & walk  “Wisdom and love are slow” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You never know what is going to unfold while parenting teenagers... Listen to this podcast and consider how you can practice "warming up" to be ready to be your best self for the challenges that show up!Find show notes and more info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-450-Warming-up-for-the-twists-turns-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest today is Nataly Kogan, and she’s here to talk about simple practices that can help us move from struggling to thriving.   Nataly starts off today sharing her amazing story as a child immigrant and refugee and how that led her to the work she does today. Nataly and I discuss how we can juggle motivating our teens to be achievers without pushing themselves to burnout. We talk about Nataly’s “Awesome Human Journal,” her TEDx Talk, and how our inner-critics help, or don’t help, our parenting. Nataly shares her wisdom about self-talk, why we are so much kinder when we speak to others, and how self-compassion makes us better parents. Finally, I ask Nataly to introduce her five emotional fitness skills: acceptance, gratitude, self-care, intentional kindness & compassion, and finding the “bigger why.”Takeaways from the show How do we teach teens to be achievers without pushing themselves to burnout?  Nataly’s “Awesome Human Journal”  Quieting your self-criticism  “Self-talk is not free”  Self-compassion improves your ability to show-up at your best  Making the decision to shift from struggling to thriving  We are not here to suffer “Treating yourself like a friend”  Emotional fitness skills  “Earning” or “deserving” self-care & how much time self-care takes For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in the final solo show of 2023 in an exploration of how to calibrate ourselves to be with life unfolding. We can't know what lies ahead, but we CAN tend to ourselves in a way that warms us up for the unexpected twists and turns of life, Listen in to learn how.Find full show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-448-Practices-for-tending-to-ourselves-new-year/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest today is Andrea Owen. Andrea and I connect over our love of coaching and keeping things real and authentic (and our matching ‘surrender’ tattoos!). Andrea shares what she’s working on with her own two teenagers right now, and I ask how we can shift our perspective to view parenting challenges as invitations instead of just focusing on problems. We talk about how we can trust that things will work out okay, and Andrea shares what questions she asks people to help them discover their values and why value work is important. We dig into how we don’t know the impacts of our parenting, how our kids experience it, or how we will all remember what happened. Lastly, I ask Andrea how she coaches parents to move into a more present way of being in their relationship.Takeaways from the show How our own teenage years impact our parenting  Viewing challenges as invitations  Trusting that things are going to be okay  Defining your values: What’s important to you? What’s important about the way you live your life?  Values change over time  “Sending our kids to therapy with a carry-on bag, not a U-haul truck” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me this week in an exploration of how we have been holding boundaries and expectations and how we can get ever more explicit while communicating the boundaries and expectations with our kids. It's good. And messy. It's all the things and I invite you to jump into the arena with me!You can find more about the show, show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-446-Bringing-boundaries-expectations-to-life-while-parenting-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices