

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Dec 19, 2024 • 1h 17min
102. Not for Resentment + How to Believe You Deserve Affection
The hosts dive into a playful discussion about owls and mispronounced words, leading to humorous moments about intimacy. They explore the art of initiating sex in relationships, highlighting the importance of affection and communication. A lively debate on gender roles in partnerships reveals how modern couples redefine their dynamics. Amidst thoughtful reflections on resentment and personal boundaries, they end with lighthearted banter about quirky holiday traditions and resolutions, circling back to owls—this time en français!

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Dec 12, 2024 • 1h 3min
101. Interrogating Our Boyfriends | Part TWO
In this engaging discussion, Justin, Jess DeBakey's boyfriend, shares insights on navigating the modern dating scene. They debate how long to chat on dating apps before meeting up and who should take the initiative to ask someone out. They delve into whether to have sex on the first date, highlighting the need for mutual understanding and intentionality. Additionally, Justin and Jess share humorous dating app stories that bring a light-hearted touch to the complexities of romantic connections.

Dec 5, 2024 • 1h 33min
100. How We Actually Found Love on the Apps | Featuring Our Boyfriends
Four friends, who met through dating apps, share their hilarious and insightful experiences in the world of online romance. They tackle everything from picking the right profile pictures to reviving dull conversations. Laughter ensues as they reveal dating dealbreakers and unexpected connections. With stories of their first dates and a playful discussion on navigating modern dating dynamics, they remind us of the importance of authenticity and meaningful connections in the digital age.

Nov 21, 2024 • 1h 19min
99. Not For Pity Invites + Mini Adventures as Self Care
Caroline and Jess dive into everyday adventures, revealing how stepping outside can spark joy. They share whimsical thoughts on encountering owls and the quirks of social media. The importance of genuine invitations and the pitfalls of insincere offers take center stage, paired with humorous tales from a taco bar. Reflecting on teenage trials and the awkwardness of growing up, they blend humor with insights on creativity, boundaries, and self-care. Get ready for laughter and a few stomach flips along the way!

Nov 14, 2024 • 1h 23min
98. For You: Saying No.
Babies…why is it so hard to say no? Jess and Caroline are going to break it down. First up, saying no to an old friend who you don’t vibe with anymore. Second, how to say no to your mom when she’s pushing religion on you. Third, how to say no to…yourself. They talk dynamics, they talk showing up calmly, they talk boundaries. And they push back when necessary.Plus, are they really scientists? They discuss a few lighter topics like stretching, pigeons (!?), and Jess gives her own example of saying no recently—and how that was turned on its head. We’re all not for everyone; “no” is a central part of the phrase.__This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyAnd don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Nov 7, 2024 • 1h 5min
97. Not for the Silent Treatment + The Ups and Downs of Being Podcast Partners
Who’s ready to get meta?! Jess and Caroline reflect on their podcast partnership—on their growth, their dynamic, and their challenges. They answer one of their most-asked questions: what was the process of picking each other as podcast partners? And liken the experience to a marriage.
They discuss how they work out dilemmas in their personal relationships, the contrast between problem solving and listening, and how pausing during an argument can help people articulate better. Plus, a complaint about DNA and a *real* group therapy update. Thanks for coming along on the ride!
This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod
Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 31, 2024 • 1h 20min
96. Not for Pumpkins + Letting People Who Hurt You Back Into Your Life
Happy Halloween! The hosts dive into a lively debate about pumpkins, reflecting on their cultural significance and childhood memories of Halloween. They share hilarious anecdotes about crafting, clumsiness, and the emotional weight of sentimental items. Social awkwardness is tackled with humor, especially around airport interactions and holiday gift-giving. The conversation takes a deeper turn as they explore the complexities of rekindling relationships and setting boundaries. Plus, nostalgic sports tales add a playful touch, reminding us all of those awkward moments in team sports.

Oct 24, 2024 • 1h 23min
95. Not for Difficult Personalities + Applying Our Own Advice on Boundaries
Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone. __Who has two thumbs, hosts a podcast, and is ready to put their own advice to use? Jess and Caroline! C takes us through two boundaries she set this past week and how she felt doing it, and J discusses the ups and downs of moving in with her partner. Hypotheses are nothing without experiments!Plus, the pair ruminate on decorating with a partner and the language of design, before diving into thoughts on an upcoming group therapy session for C. And don’t miss their brief discussion on haunted forests and Medieval Times…lots of big kahunas in this episode.P.S. Listen to Amanda Montell’s Magical Overthinkers podcast, wherever you get yours!__This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyAnd don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 17, 2024 • 52min
94. Love Letter: Getting Honest With Yourself, Compromising on Kids, and Ranking Potatoes
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This week the lover is alone in a hotel room with the sniffles, and she just needs a little bit of self care time. Away from the stressors of home ownership and work dinners, it's just her and your topic submissions tonight.
First, a WHATADO on setting boundaries with parents - which Jess decides to treat as an opportunity to challenge the listener in question. Sure sure, boundaries shmoundaries, but are you being honest with yourself? The projection continues as Jess reflects on recent conflicts in which "I" statements were not in use, then dives into the nuances of deciding whether or not to be a parent. But a solo episode from the lover wouldn't be complete without a number of lukewarm takes and complaints, mostly on the topic of food.
Please be good to yourselves - it be hard out here lately 💜
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This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.
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Share with a friend!
Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!
Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod
Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 10, 2024 • 1h 10min
93. Not for Fireworks + What to Say to Your Friend in a Toxic Relationship
Dive into a lively conversation about modern social norms, including the surprising reasons women rarely name their kids after themselves. The hosts get real about navigating toxic friendships, offering tips on how to support loved ones and set essential boundaries. Plus, there’s a humorous take on the absurdities of social media, from the mundane moments people capture to the frustrations of scheduling doctor visits. And don’t miss the amusing Botox stories that highlight the challenges surrounding women's health and self-care!