
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Latest episodes

Aug 29, 2024 • 1h 19min
87. Not for Living in Fear + How to Have That Difficult Conversation
Tune in as the hosts tackle the art of setting personal boundaries with humor and warmth. They discuss the importance of recognizing your worth when navigating relationships and the empowerment found in embracing anger. A hilarious 'Fuck, Marry, Kill' game adds some levity, while anecdotes about social miscommunications keep things relatable. Expect lots of laughs as they delve into awkward moments and how to manage difficult conversations, proving that even the toughest chats can end with a giggle!

Aug 22, 2024 • 1h 11min
86. Hot Takes Only: Finding Yourself Post Breakup, When to Indulge, and Brat Summer
Dive into a lively debate over what qualifies as 'Brat Summer' and the complexities of breakup recovery. The hosts tackle emotional support animals with humor and personal stories, while dissecting the frustrations of digital communication. Reflecting on mindful consumption, they discuss the pitfalls of fast fashion and indulgence. Enjoy quirky anecdotes about meal times and the great evening debate that leaves everyone divided. It's a fascinating mix of personal growth, societal critiques, and witty banter!

Aug 15, 2024 • 1h 21min
85. Not For Giving Up on People + Why You Should Cry More
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Good morning, kooks! Jess and Caroline start this week’s episode off with a nightmare date story featuring the Spy Museum in DC, a forgotten triple-date memory, a very fortunate run-in with a listener, and the most unexpected (or perfectly on brand?) pump-up music you’ll ever encounter.
In true Not For Everyone fashion, things get deep when Jess asks Caroline how often she cries. They discuss why we cry, emotional hangovers, and therapy approaches involving the wise mind and the inner child. Plus, the two close the loop on a lost term and a workplace dilemma. And, the pod gets an unexpected shoutout…of the Biblical variety. Amen?
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This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Aug 8, 2024 • 1h 19min
84. Not for Flirty Husbands + The Best Part About Asking for Help
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Your fav duo is back and more upset about things than ever. A WHATADO about a husband being too flirty with friends leads Jess and Caroline to discussions about gray areas in asking people out, partners hanging out with people of the opposite sex, and the difference between conversations and ultimatums. They might even rethink their initial stances on this one.
Plus, a new fable, “How the Mean Man at the Gym Became a Sweetie Pie,” has Jess and Caroline ruminating on letting people do things for you, love languages, and helping others feel a sense of purpose. We’re about to sing you a lullaby, so get cozy.
*Trigger warning: suicide from 1:07:25 throughout the remainder of episode.
This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Aug 1, 2024 • 1h 5min
83. Love Letter: Mindset Shifts for Friends and Flings + “If He Wanted to, He Would”
Dear listener,
Enclosed is a letter from the heart. It contains:
• Advice on that friend who won't refund you for a trip you could no longer make
• A reminder that almost every relationship let-down is more gradual than it feels in real time
• A mindset shift that will help you build and maintain more fulfilling friend groups
• The worst TikTok advice out there, and how to flip it to be semi-useful
Plus, stories of love and back shots - from your host Jess herself, as well from your fellow kooks (who are sometimes wiser than the ones doing all the talking). If you're lucky, Abraham Lincoln may even show up.
Sincerely,
Your lover
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This episode was produced by the resident lover here at NFE, Jess DeBakey.
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jul 18, 2024 • 1h 21min
82. For You: The Body Image Talk You Needed a Long Time Ago
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This week, Jess and Caroline add to a conversation that seems to affect just about everyone: body image. They go through some listener DMs and cover topics like acknowledging the variability of body image, accepting your body when you’re chronically ill, and how to deal with family members who can’t stop talking about your weight.
Plus, a few takes on how body hindsight is 20/20, how food morality can be damaging, and how you can’t talk someone out of an eating disorder. They also offer some concrete strategies for loving yourself, including being your own body-talk bestie, admiring other people’s bodies, and focusing on more important aspects about yourself. It’s a sweet one, babies—let Jess and Caroline cuddle you and remind you of how special you are, physical form aside.
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This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jul 11, 2024 • 1h 14min
81. Not for Meet Cutes + How "Sex and the City" Lied to Us
Topics range from societal annoyances to deep discussions on love stories. A critique on 'Sex and the City' dating fallacy. Humorous encounters with public figures and discussions on favorite foods. Navigating offense and cultural differences, impacts of social media trends, and a call for body positivity insights.

Jul 4, 2024 • 1h 6min
80. Not for Eye Contact + Stop Chasing the First Date Spark
Topics on attractiveness, posture, communication challenges, disappointments in relationships, setting boundaries, and the importance of genuine connections and shared experiences in successful relationships are discussed in this entertaining podcast episode.

Jun 27, 2024 • 1h 17min
79. Hater Hour: Deep Friendship Betrayal, Manipulative People, and Getting Closure
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It’s Hater Hour, kooks—and Caroline is ready to bear it all. She jumps into a WHATADO about a deep friend betrayal: can they make it right? Or do you have to cut your losses? Caroline shares first hand examples of similar situations, offers some ideas for helping friends who are in manipulative situations, and tells us how to identify signs that you might be in the grips of a master manipulator.
Plus, a WHATADO about getting closure from a not-so-great partner, and another WHATADO about dating someone who is super great at everything…except making stimulating conversation. Take a walk on the hater side. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much there is to love.
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Video on closure Caroline referenced: https://youtu.be/y0xShs1P950?si=QBxOWUcrRzj982jW&t=755
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This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Share with a friend!
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Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jun 20, 2024 • 1h 14min
78. Not for Empaths + The Bizarre Stigma Around Couples Therapy
It’s a miracle: Caroline is healed. But the source of her healing is so unexpected that it leads Jess and Caroline down dangerous conversation roads, like discussing dreams and someone identifying as an ~empath~. They talk about how to handle dark mental health days and discuss the difference between self love and self worth, and what to do when the idea of self worth becomes damaging.
Plus, a few relationship quandaries and WHATADOs: dealing with opposing preferences around the house, navigating different sex drives, the stigma of couples therapy, and the fear of telling friends about your relationship problems. They couldn’t end without a little game revolving around Beyoncé, since her music is all Jess has listened to for about a year. It’s a N4E renaissance.
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This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse.
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Share with a friend!
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Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod
Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:
@not4everyonepod
@thegoodsitter
@jzdebakey
And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/
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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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