Not For Everyone

Not For Everyone
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Jul 24, 2025 • 58min

132. Love Letter: When to Get New Friends + Spiraling About the Return of Skinny Culture

Dive into a heartfelt exploration of personal insecurities as the host reflects on friendship dynamics and societal pressures around body image. Discover how to navigate negativity and set boundaries with friends while laughing at the quirks of recent trends like 'labubus.' The discussion on the online #Skinnytok movement will resonate with anyone feeling the weight of others' expectations. Plus, enjoy a dose of humor as the host weaves in tales from reality TV, showing the importance of individuality in both friendships and self-acceptance.
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Jul 17, 2025 • 53min

131. Hater Hour: "Comparing Myself to His Ex" and "Ghosting My BFF"

Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠ #skimspartnerGo to ⁠⁠https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone ⁠⁠to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __It's the Hater Hour. In this spicy solo episode, Caroline tackles two listener dilemmas that are so deeply unhinged in the best way: “Comparing Myself to His Ex” and “Ghosting My BFF.” Ever found yourself six months deep in his ex’s Instagram, convinced she’s hotter, kinder, and owns a Dyson Airwrap? Caroline’s been there—and she’s calling out the delusion. Expect hot takes on comparison spirals, fake confidence, and why stalking your boyfriend’s ex is basically emotional self-harm in cute packaging.Then we pivot from romance chaos to friendship crimes: yes, we're talking about ghosting your bestie. What do you do when your BFF is toxic, fair-weather, and impossibly demanding. To ghost? Or not to ghost? To confront? Or run? If you’ve ever wanted to be forgiven and a little feral, this episode’s your church.This episode was produced by your hater, Caroline Winkler.__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jul 10, 2025 • 1h 16min

130. Not for Actors on Actors + How Self Actualization is Actually Eroding Your Sense of Self

Discover the perfect responses to being ghosted, and navigate online negativity with grace, as personal anecdotes and humor blend seamlessly. Delve into the complexities of self-actualization and mindfulness, exploring the balance between self-improvement and acceptance. Critiques of celebrity interviews challenge superficial narratives in media, highlighting representation issues in the acting industry. Finally, reflect on personal identity and the importance of embracing life’s imperfections. It’s a thought-provoking and entertaining mix of insights!
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Jul 3, 2025 • 1h 4min

129. Not for Laundry + Work Stress is a Scam, and Emails are Not Emergencies

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Remember the game Rush Hour? Ever feel like that’s just your day-to-day life? This week Jess is picking up exactly what Caroline is putting down, and if you’re anything like the two of them (i.e. anxious, people pleasers, short), you probably will too. Commiserating over their recent stressful work weeks, J and C talk about their stress responses and coping mechanisms when it comes to feeling overwhelmed. Caroline comes in hot with a new mental shift – make it feel like a scavenger hunt – and though Jess is dubious of the suggestion at first, she’s bought in by the end, searching for a man in a green hat to take a photo with on a park bench.They also share some fresh complaints about things they’ve seen on the internet lately and where they do (and don’t) put their phones. Things get kooky, y’all!This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 26, 2025 • 1h 12min

128. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Decoding Your Most Maddening Dating Problems (So You Don’t Have To)

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Do you feel that heat wave? We’re not bothered. It’s time for Jess and Caroline to enter the dating waters once more, to discuss listener’s burning questions about all things modern love. They start by talking through a love interest who doesn’t communicate well, weigh the pros and cons of sharing location with your partner, and then discuss the phenomenon of catching feelings only for your crush to pull away.They round out the episode by figuring out what it means when the person you're dating updates their dating profile, which leads into a deeper discussion about overanalyzing, asking the hard questions early, and identifying patterns in order to believe yourself. Get ready to feel empowered, kooks.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 19, 2025 • 1h 6min

127. Not for Catch-Ups + How to Handle Friendship When You’re At Capacity

Go to ⁠https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone ⁠to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __Kooks, do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by a missed call from a long-distance friend? Or inundated with requests for in-person hangs? Jess and Caroline talk through feeling crazy for complaining about friendship, even though the social overwhelm is STRONG right now. J offers some tips to a friend who called in to the pod about these very problems, and guides C through her own similar issues.Plus, the two discuss a new skincare routine, boundaries in friendship, Sherpa guides, and of course, the fact that Hot Not Bothered Summer is back next week! Get your notebook ready…there’s some hot tips in this episode to help you feel sane.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 12, 2025 • 1h 16min

126. For You: Living Proof That You Can Heal From Your Ex

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at ⁠⁠https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠ #skimspartner__Well babies, we’ve come full circle. Or, at least, Caroline and Jess have! In this episode, they discuss seeing an ex in a happy relationship, getting an apology from an ex years later, and trusting your feelings in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right. They answer a WHATADO from a listener about the trauma of on-again-off-again relationships and how to understand “signs” in a new relationship once you’ve finally got out.Plus, there’s plenty of kooking to be done. J and C head down a rabbit hole trying to answer one question: where did all the frozen yogurt shops go? Don’t lie—you know you miss them, too. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 5, 2025 • 1h 2min

125. Not for Crystals + Where Are You Putting Your Energy?

The hosts dive into the tricky dynamics of friendships and when to share your energy. They humorously tackle the impact of AI in ads, questioning authenticity in robotic voices. A light-hearted discussion on crystals and pronunciation quirks adds flavor, while the complexities of navigating sleep and health challenges resonate deeply. Personal anecdotes underscore pressures of youth, contrasting them with newfound freedom. It's a lively mix of reflection, humor, and genuine insight into modern life!
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May 29, 2025 • 1h 10min

124. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Holding Your Standards in the Disappointment That is Modern Dating

It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship.Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what emotional baggage is/is not allowed to bring to new relationships, listening vs. talking, and above all, understanding that what you feel is the most important data. Let’s make this a summer of love, babies! Kisses! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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May 22, 2025 • 1h 5min

123. Not for Hiccups + Embracing Your Feminine Rage

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Babies, it’s time to get in touch with your rage. This week, Jess and Caroline talk about feeling rage for yourself and on behalf of others, why we’re actually happier in our 30s, and the freedom you feel when you don’t worry what others think about you.Then a listener WHATADO leads them to discuss the chasm between friends in different life stages, the pressures of marriage, and how to connect even when your life feels so different from your friend’s. Plus, stay tuned for an R-rated sex hack, thoughts on psychedelic research, and more about the new summer series. Kisses! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

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