You Are Not Broken

Episode 58 - Stephen Snyder, MD A sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — Dr. Snyder has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships. I heard him on a podcast “sexology” and needed to read his book and get him on my podcast. I loved the male perspective, and he offered ways for women to understand the male model of sex in a long-term relationship. - How did you go from MD to sex therapist? - Women are the “chief sexual officer” in the relationship - How women and men are different - The “two step” plan for good sex - In his book, he writes, “your wife is not a lawn mower” – we discuss - He writes – "Good sex definitely make you dumber. And great sex can make you downright stupid." - Sex knots and how to untie them - Why men “go missing” in bed - Tips for talking to your male partner about better sex - Talk about shame and sex! - FIOS – for it’s own sake – enjoy arousal for it’s own sake. He discusses what “simmering” is and why we should enjoy it more. - Why humans are not steam engines - “Everyone over 35 should have a dimmer switch in the bedroom” - ANTs – automatic negative thoughts – so many women have these and body image issues – help please! - Desire – it is becoming an object of FDA approved medications – yet you talk so differently about it, such that it is not needed at all. Please educate us! https://www.sexualityresource.com/ An amazing blog post about female sexual desire: https://www.sexualityresource.com/blog/womens-sexual-desire-and-why-men-often-dont-recognize-it His book is amazing! Find it at: https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B073Z8CBQ4&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_PKDWP0312DYJZ99H8YZ4&tag=kellycasperso-20 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am SO excited to release this interview! In this episode, I talk to Master Sex Coach Danielle Savory. You can connect with Danielle on Instagram @thesexcoachforwomen or via her web site daniellesavory.com/group 01:10 – How Danielle got into being a Life/Sex coach 11:22 – Desire 13:05 – Talking about the role of “Should” 15:37 – Talking about self-compassion 18:53 – Talking about orgasms 19:49 – Finding yourself in a sexless marriage – How do we get there? 25:24 – Stop living in your head… 26:45 – Scheduled sex 29:29 – Thinking of sex as pleasure for someone else 34:12 – Teaching about sex using fear 34:32 – How do we take responsibility for our own pleasure? 39:33 – How meditation can help sex lives 42:34 – The paradox of long-term relationships 45:57 – Danielle’s thoughts on common limiting beliefs about women having sex 47:49 – Where would Danielle like to see women in regards to sex in 10 yrs? 49:50 – The effects of the internet on sex --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to episode 56!  We are going to hit 20k listens with this one!!  I know it!  Thanks for being one of them and sharing the love! Today I riff about: Arousal and vaginal physiology Side effects of waxing What is normal in regards to vaginal discharge Moisture and arousal "Premature penetration" - don't do it! Correlation with erectile dysfunction Why good blood flow is good, and things that decrease and increase blood flow When to go get your pelvis checked out Arousal desire discrepancy/mismatch Prescription options The sex education that nobody got --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

PART 2 - Today I am so excited to chat with BIGLOVEFIERCEJUJU!!!   https://www.tribecalledv.com/ Or in her day job Dr. Shieva Ghofrany.     https://www.instagram.com/biglovefiercejuju She is a medical doctor, who is an OB/GYN practicing in Connecticut. 01:17 – New injectable medications - HSDD 11:23 – Topical Testosterone 15:00 – Shame 17:45 – New company. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

PART 1 - Today I am so excited to chat with BIGLOVEFIERCEJUJU!!! Or in her day job Dr. Shieva Ghofrany. She is a medical doctor, who is an OB/GYN practicing in Connecticut. You can find her at biglovefiercejuju.com On IG at biglovefiercejuju -she as 23k followers! Through the BIG LOVE FIERCE JUJU Foundation, Dr. Shieva Ghofrany plans to help people engage in their mindset and "lose the fear" of VERY common, everyday, but admittedly anxiety-provoking issues. 01:19 – Origin of the name Big Love Fierce Juju 02:42 – Talking about Ovarian Cancer – her personal journey 06:!5 – Surgical Menopause – how is this different than “regular” menopause 08:39 – Managing Hot Flashes – natural non-hormonal options 12:35 – Vaginal Dryness 22:18 – Libido Check out her TRIBECALLEDV - www.instagram.com/tribecalledv Where she increases your knowledge about your female health to decrease your anxiety! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy New year! I reflect on the past year. How I got started by listening to the voice in my head.  Yeah, kinda like Frozen 2 (which my kids are currently watching). - You have to deal with your limiting beliefs that aren’t moving you forward Impossible goal for 2021 – how about intimacy?  It is the journey, not the destination – a journey of 1,000 miles starts with a single step. It is not the YOU when you get there – but the journey What is your reason for your goal? If it is so you feel better about yourself, ask yourself why you can’t feel good about yourself now. You are worthy now, just as you are. Nothing you can get/obtain will CREATE the worthiness. Feeling of worthiness comes from thoughts, not circumstances. So, if you want to have a better sex life to feel worthy as a spouse etc etc….what is preventing you from feeling worthy as a spouse now? Watch out for the SHOULDS! I also share the top four rules by Dr. Rachel Carlton Abrams in “the Multi-Orgasmic Woman". Self-cultivation – best renaming EVER! And in the meantime, remember, you are not broken. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jenn Mason, owner of the sex shop Wink Wink Boutique in Washtington state joins us today! www.winkwinkboutique.com IG: www.instagram.com/winkwinkboutique Lubrication  - why people are resistant to the idea of lubrication How to have a conversation with your partner about sex Water based lube Silicone based lube Hybrid lube Flavored Lube Desire Arousal mismatch Lube doesn’t replace the need for preparing the body for sex CBD Lube --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Taking it up right where we left off! Dr. Rashmi Kudesia - part two - hormone replacement 101 and hormone healthy bodies. 1) Who is a good candidate for hormone replacement therapy? 2) Who is NOT a good candidate for hormone replacement therapy? 3) Androgens in polycystic ovarian syndrome 4) Where do androgens come from in the female 5) It is so popular now to read about “balancing your hormones” – help us out with that – are people talking about lifestyle habits or what are your thoughts about “balanced hormones” 6) The role of diet in your hormones. The “pro-fertility” diet. https://www.ccrmivf.com/houston/rashmi-kudesia/ www.instagram.com/RKudesia www.facebook.com/RKudesia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hormones throughout our life. Today I am so excited to interview Dr. Rashmi Kudesia. She is a practicing infertility specialist at CCRM Fertility in Houston, Texas. https://www.ccrmivf.com/houston/rashmi-kudesia/ www.instagram.com/RKudesia www.facebook.com/RKudesia She did medical school at Duke, then a OB/Gyn Residency at Cornell.  She then did additional fellowship training in Reproductive endocrinology and Infertility, as well as a Masters in Clinical Research, at Albert Einstein, and now practices in Houston. Part One – Hormones throughout life and sex while trying to conceive. 1) What is a reproductive endocrinologist? 2) Can you talk about how infertility affects a couple’s sex life – turning it into work. 3) What are the sexual side effects of a. Birth control b. Infertility treatments c. Menopause d. PCOS BIRTH CONTROL SE – what do do about periods 4) What are the roles of hormones in sexual health estrogen, progesterone, thyroid, androgens 5)  Why are women so afraid of estrogen in our society? The “shame” of being hormonal combined with the WHI study. The myth that birth control affects fertility. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am interviewing Jenn Mason again!  So Good! www.winkwinkboutique.com IG: www.instagram.com/winkwinkboutique The Stigma of sex toys Sex toys can level the orgasmic inequality in a partnership – level the playing field Types of toys How toys can help people with disabilities Options in the toy department --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices