

You Are Not Broken
Kelly Casperson, MD
Empowering women (and the partners who love them) to live their best mid lives. Combining the power of mind-work, body-science and relationships, I joyously smash the societal barriers that are keeping us from living our best intimate lives. Whether you are young or past menopause, single or in a long-term relationship, it is never too late or too early to realize YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. With humor, candor and ease, I break down the stories that we have been told about being sexual beings, to help us play, and normalize our intimacy and health. Nothing in this podcast is personal medical advice, of course.
Episodes
Mentioned books

May 25, 2022 • 1h 3min
159. May Live Podcast Recording
May Live Podcast Recording – Get CME - link below!
Books discussed: His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America’s Pornpanic with Honest Talk About Sex Mary Klein Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3PuKZ7j
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex and How to Get It. Marty Klein Ph.D.
https://amzn.to/382i75z
So much covered in this podcast!
Toy Reviews, book reviews and upcoming interview with Marty Klein
Genitourinary syndrome of menopause
The difference between systemic and pelvic estrogen
The increased risks with oral estrogen and why this is so
My thoughts on preventative vaginal estrogen
How to ask your doctor about systemic testosterone and guidelines.
https://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(20)30982-6/fulltext
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www.kellycaspersonmd.com
and so much more!
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May 22, 2022 • 47min
158. Speculum Trauma, Sex Drive in Menopause, and Aging Well
Join me today when I talk with my friend Dr. Mary Claire Haver
How alcohol works as a drug and how it can harm us.
Irregular periods as an indication for perimenopause
“Menopause is one day in your life” Dr. Haver
What did you learn with speculum trauma in the office.
How to talk to your doctor about perimenopause and menopause.
Sex drive after Menopause
What is the role for preventative hormones in menopause.
Why should women care about muscles.
We discuss the problem with sugar and how significantly addictive it is.
What is wrong with BMI
Predatory behavior towards menopause and low libido.
What we think about supplements.
Tiktok: drmaryclaire
IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegalvestondiet
Website: https://galvestondiet.com/
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Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
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May 15, 2022 • 43min
157. Orgasm after Menopause and Hot Flash Hell
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Join me and Dr. Lauren Streicher, a menopause expert as we discuss perimenopause and menopause.
ADHD is “trending” right now and seems to be everywhere. Could some of this undiagnosed perimenopause?
The roller coaster of peri-menopause and what hormones need to be checked.
What is FSH and what it means when it is high and how it can be misleading in perimenopause.
What’s the difference between peri-menopause and menopause.
“Yoga is good for you and it won’t help your hotflashes” – Dr. Streicher
How to be your own advocate for your menopause symptoms. Tips to talk to your doctor and to have a more useful appointment.
The organ where ovarian cancer comes from: hint – it isn’t the ovary.
Orgasm difficulty after menopause – why it can happen and what we can do.
Testosterone isn’t a male hormone – it is a human hormone.
Why we use FDA approved products when we can.
You don’t “go through” menopause – you enter menopause
What is the role of “prophylactic” hormones in menopause.
The socioeconomic effect of menopause.
Dr. Streicher’s books:
The Essential Guide to Hysterecomy https://amzn.to/3FJRq1K
Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina https://amzn.to/3FJRq1K
Hot Flash Hell: Turning Down the Heat https://amzn.to/3G12UOR
Dr. Streicher’s Inside Information Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-streichers-inside-information-the-menopause-podcast/id1615785832
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN
Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken
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May 8, 2022 • 34min
156. Fem-Shame, Fem-Tech, and Changing the World with Kate Roberts
Kate Roberts has 30 years of experience working in global development, philanthropy and business. She has tackled some of the most challenging women’s issues, including HIV/AIDS, sexual reproductive health, menstrual hygiene, sanitation, maternal health and gender-based violence.
She is a founder of The Body Agency, which provides a single source for all things fem-care, normalizing the conversation around women's natural being and eliminating fem-shame once and for all.
What did you do that led you to create the body agency?
How going through trauma may result in doing advocacy work – our journeys.
How are sexual health needs similar and different in different countries?
We discuss Fem Tech
“Our vaginas do not smell of roses” – Kate Roberts
“The female body works the same way in every country” – Kate Roberts
Kate’s opinion on how to be a sex positive family.
Discrimination that women have against their bodies
Why can’t we say vulva on IG?
What is your message to women?
She has a message for men too.
https://www.instagram.com/the.body.agency/
https://www.thebodyagency.com/
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN
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May 1, 2022 • 28min
155. Talk to Kids About Sex: 5 Common Mistakes
Dr. Shannon Widlansky was trained as an Ob/Gyn who is now a life coach.
She has been a gender expert for 8 years. She helps institutions use more gender-inclusive language.
She is a facilitator of the Our Whole Lives curriculum which teaches sexuality to all ages.
She talks about what was wrong with past sexuality education.
The definition of “man” or “woman” is wrapped up in the function of a body part. Which gets shaken up when there are problems with these organs.
You don’t have to talk about the clitoris when your education is only a “disease and pregnancy prevention plan” – Dr. Casperson
5 common mistakes adults make in talking to kids about sexuality
1) Not planning ahead
2) That it is more than sex and puberty
a. 5 circles of sexuality
i. Body image and appreciation, sensualization
ii. Intimacy
iii. Identity
iv. Repro health – puberty changes, infection
v. Sexualization – consent, how media portrays sexuality
3) One and done “the talks” – a lifelong conversation.
4) They have to get it right – don’t expect to get it “right”
5) Inclusive language “most but not all”
Consent – ideally an enthusiastic yes, not something that is coerced.
What country does it well - Netherlands
Other tips – what would your ideal conversations look like? Lead from confidence
Books mentioned
What makes a baby – Corey Silverburg. https://amzn.to/3vuB89w
Sex is a Funny Word – Corey Silverburg. https://amzn.to/39tWfAq
Puberty is Gross but Also Really Awesome https://amzn.to/3y1GvP9
The Everybody Book – Rachel Simon https://amzn.to/37WETLV
https://www.instagram.com/self_revolutionize_coaching/
https://www.facebook.com/Shannon.Widlansky.SRC
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN
Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken
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Apr 27, 2022 • 45min
154. April Live Podcast
April Live Podcast!
How do you transition from BioT pellets to systemic estrogen and vaginal cream?
Just started vaginal estrogen and both times had lower abdominal discomfort the next day. Is this a potential side effect? Is there another route besides the cream or ring?
I have been seeing a PFT on and off for about 6 yrs since having a partial hysterectomy. Recently I've had a lot of pressure and feel as though something is stuck in the rectal area. I have seen my GP and I have had a pelvic and rectal exam. He's sending me for an ultrasound this Saturday. I have also seen my PFT. I will see her again in a month. I guess my question is, if I have a prolapse going on would the PFT pick that up with the pelvic exam? and would an ultrasound show a prolapse?
Hormone problems related to COVID? Any insight?
Bartholin Cysts
I am 57 and still having a pretty regular period. Question about Bio_T and hormone labs.
My periods have always been heavy, 7 days… and have gotten even heavier as I’ve gotten older ......I have to say having a pretty regular period at 57 sucks. Based on my labs I can infer I’m not menopausal and all I can say is WTF!
AND MORE!
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Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
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Apr 24, 2022 • 44min
153. Where Does Intimacy Come From? Palliative Care and Sexuality
Where Does Intimacy Come From? Palliative Care and Sexuality – Two Experts
Join me and Palliative care physician Dr. Faryal Michaud.
When your view of sexuality is narrow, it is threatened by health challenges.
The effects of cancer diagnosis on sexuality.
“You are still a man if your penis doesn’t work” – Dr. Casperson
Where does intimacy come from?
Tips for communication
- Talk about sex outside the bedroom
- Curiosity “curiosity is the opposite of judgement” Dr. Faryal
- This is not just one conversation
- Don’t think one person is the problem – it is a couple issue
We discuss sexless marriage
We discuss how common it is to struggle with sexuality after a baby comes into a family
New relationship brains are akin to taking cocaine – we neglect other things besides our new love. This wears off after about 6-18 months.
“You can’t think an orgasm” – Dr. Casperson
“How are you going to be the person worth having sex with?” – Dr. Casperson
“We are so ill prepared to go into long term relationships.” – Dr. Casperson
Anxiety kills sex drive
Awareness, acceptance and acknowledge – three components of dealing with what comes up in life.
Living life on purpose, a view of life as fleeting as a way to make friends with your life and this moment.
Death is certain, suffering is optional.
Live every minute to its full capacity.
The role of gratitude.
www.instagram.com/drfaryalmichaud
Book discussed – Rekindling Desire by Dr. Barry and Emily McCarthy
https://amzn.to/3k65ZTA
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off: NOTBROKEN
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Apr 17, 2022 • 46min
152. Healing the Body to Heal Your Sex Life - Stress and Libido
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Low libido is a gift telling you what needs to change in your life - Dr. Wellenstein
Dr. Wellenstein is a double board-certified doctor who has been working with women for over 20 years and due to her own personal health challenges, she stepped outside the box of conventional medicine to take a radically different approach to heal herself from the deep depths of burnout. Now Dr. Renee empowers women to take control of their health, jumpstart their energy, improve their confidence and reignite their libido!
We discuss burnout and recovery.
Is it too much hard work to exercise, eat right and work on mindset?
How to you get to the point where you realize you are in charge of your life?
How we “should” on ourselves as women and how it affects our health.
Work burden inequality at home and how it affects your stress and health.
Trusting the process when you are in it.
Encouraging women to ask for what they want in and out of the bedroom.
If you are angry and resentful towards your partner you will not have a desire to have sex.
How you view yourself as a sexual being affects your sex life.
Tips for women:
Awareness
Boundaries
Communication
The role of self-love in health.
You have to have something worth desiring in order to desire it.
Low libido is a gift telling you what needs to change in your life.
SOCIAL LINKS:
Website: https://www.drreneewellenstein.com/
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/drreneewellenstein/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/renee.wellenstein
Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/c/DrReneeWellenstein
Podcast:
Itunes - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-the-leap-with-dr-renee/id1465483819
Books Discussed: Atomic Habits by James Clear https://amzn.to/3EiWd9S
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
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Apr 10, 2022 • 45min
151. Sexy Marriage with Corey Allan, PhD
Are you having boring Sex in a Long Term Relationship? Listen today!
Meet Dr. Corey Allan – Host of the long running, since 2011, “Sexy Marriage” Podcast and a Phd in Family Therapy.
The beginning of relationships is a dopamine high. You don’t “fall out” of love, you just get more knowledge.
We discuss “roommate life” and how that affects our sexuality.
When marriage is not easy is when it starts.
“Marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life.” Dr. Corey Allan
Why Dr. Allan thinks so many people think a good sex life is so hard?
Myth: Marriage is hard work – Dr. Allan discusses this.
“As humans we spend a lot of time distracting ourselves from ourselves.” – Dr. Allan
How do we incorporate spirituality into a sexy marriage? – Why are they not mutually exclusive.
Boring sex – help! We talk about what do we do with boredom in the bedroom.
Duty sex and checklist sex – help!
Advice to men who want their wives to have more sex with them. “Be someone worth having good sex with” – Dr. Allan
Advice to women who feel their husband is disengaged and avoids sex.
Tips for communicating with your partner.
https://smrnation.com/
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off: NOTBROKEN
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Apr 3, 2022 • 33min
150. Meds for Low Desire and Clitoral Phimosis with Dr. Rubin
How sexual function is biopsychosocial and the meds that affect the “bio” part of this
There are two FDA approved meds for women with low desire. They work in 50-60%of people that take them. They work by boosting dopamine.
Addyi - filbanserin - came out in 2015. It is an oral nightly medication. Side effects are sleepiness and may include weight loss.
It is safe to use if you are on antidepressants.
Vyleesi – bremelanotide – an on demand injection – likely works by increasing dopamine.
Do we fix hormones first or use these meds first?
How to navigate prescribing these meds as a provider?
Dr. Rubin talks about her work changing national guidelines.
23% of women have clitoral adhesions
Clitoral phimosis - workup and meds versus surgery – Dr. Rubin’s pilot study
How do we prevent recurrence?
Resources discussed today
https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin
https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/
https://www.facebook.com/DrRachelRubin/
ISSWSH Find a provider: https://app.v1.statusplus.net/membership/provider/index?society=isswsh
NAMS find a provider: https://portal.menopause.org/
SMSNA find a provider: https://app.v1.statusplus.net/membership/provider/index?society=smsna
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off: NOTBROKEN
Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken
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