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I have to laugh as I was recording this episode because I kept accidentally saying “the motherload” every time I went to say “the mental load of motherhood”. And let’s be honest. The mental load of motherhood is THE MOTHERLOAD. The Motherload (aka the mental load of motherhood) includes the 175 running lists you keep in your head in every single moment of #everydamnday. It includes: every school form you need to sign tonight how much creamer you have left in the fridge how many rolls of TP you have in the house when you need to call your mom what bills you need to pay by next Wednesday when the kids have their next day off school every single email you need to reply to today and which ones can wait until tomorrow what time the babysitter is coming on Friday which hotel you need to book for spring break which of your kid’s friends can’t have peanuts which of your kid’s friends you need to buy bday gifts for which socks your kid will NOT wear how many pairs of clean undies every single person in the household has left before you have to do laundry again what you’re having for dinner tonight and tomorrow and the next night and the next night and the next night and the next night which kid will eat crusts which kid will eat carrots which water bottle the kid will drink out of which water bottle the kid won’t drink out of You are a damn library of information. You are basically hosting your own world wide web in your head. It’s a lot. It’s too much.It’s maddening.And sometimes it feels SUPER unfair.The Motherload is exhausting on so many levels. I want to give you some hope. But I’m going to warn you that this will require some work on your part. But the work will be REWARDING. The work will lessen the load!When it comes to The Motherload, we tend to make it really hard on ourselves. We get in our own way over and over. We get stuck in perfectionism and martyrdom and make ourselves miserable. Listen in as I give you 4 methods to manage the madness. These methods are simple (although not necessarily easy if you’re Type A like me) and they are going to dramatically improve your life and create space in your head (who doesn’t need more space in their head?!) Links Mentioned:Join me for Inspired Mama in Grand Haven, MI on March 23rd: Inspired Mama Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rachel Steinman is the debut author of “Inherited: An Insane Family Memoir,” coming out soon. Described as a literary Jackie Collins, Rachel’s writing is steamy and confessional while remaining poignant and inspirational. Rachel received her Bachelor's in Psychology from UC Santa Barbara and her Masters in Education from UCLA. She’s written a treatment for a TV series based on her book and is working on adapting the story to become a serial podcast. When she’s not writing personal essays, she's writing editorial copy part-time for a luxury lifestyle business. Rachel lives in Los Angeles with her Internet marketing genius and hilarious husband, their athletic, musical and bright teenage daughters (13 and 16), and their ridiculously cute rescue puppy.I reached out to Rachel after she shared part of her story in a Facebook group we’re in. She shared that she was writing a memoir about four suicides in her family and her path to mental health advocacy. Rachel’s family story is tragic, but not without some valuable lessons. And her journey in uncovering the layers of her family story is beyond compelling. I am so grateful she agreed to come on the show and share her story with us.Listen in to hear Rachel share: How she found her grandfather’s unfinished memoir that told the story of 4 family suicides How learning her family history helped her destigmatize mental illness The importance of teaching your kids about their families stories, traumas, and risk factors How family trauma becomes a part of our DNA How she faced her family after writing about their darkest moments – and strengthened strained relationships Links Mentioned: Find Rachel’s writing on Medium Rachel Steinman Follow Rachel on Twitter Connect to resources at The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): NAMI Thank you to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Save $80 off your first month of meals by visiting Hello Fresh and entering the promo code SHAMELESS80 at checkout. Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at Hourglass Cosmetics and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m not gonna sugar coat it. You will have hard days. Like, curl up in a ball and cry hard days. Like lay on the floor kicking and screaming hard days. Like, lose your cool with your kids hard days. Like, hate your husband hard days. Like you want to throw your coffee in your co-workers face hard days.It’s going to happen. And here’s the deal.You can handle it. You can do hard things.You are resourceful and resilient.You have superpowers.You can make magic happen.But without firmly believing in these 5 things, you won’t be able to turn your hard days around. You must firmly believe you can change the course of your day. You must deeply connect to your ability to shift your own narrative and trajectory in the middle of your hardest moments. This takes some work - and a lot of practice. The good news is that the chaos of kids gives you plenty of opportunities to practice, right?? So, don’t worry, you have plenty of time to become an expert Terrible Day Turn Arounder.In this episode, my very special guest Vinnie Dean joins me to talk about our recent opportunity to turn around a terrible day. It was a hard day, friends. There were a lot of tears. We were both exhausted and shaken – unsure we could change the course of the day (and it was only 10 am). But WE DID IT.I talk you through how Vinnie and I turned our day around as well as 6 tips you can put in your back pocket for the next time you need to turn around a terrible day.Links Mentioned:Join me at Inspired Mama on March 23rd: Inspired MamaThank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to Bio Clarity and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to get your free clarifying masque when you purchase a skincare routine. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By age 28, Nicole Walters was a highly-paid executive at a Fortune 500 company, managing multibillion-dollar accounts. But something wasn’t right. “My job was feeding my family, but not my soul,” she says. So in YRTK, Nicole quit her corporate job to open her own business and product development consulting firm, The Monetized Life. As her audience ramped up, so did her revenue—she made $11,000 in the first three weeks of working with small business clients full time. Now, when she’s not hanging out with her husband and their three adopted kids, she shares her secrets to earning “passive income” with other entrepreneurs through her wildly popular online course, 1K1Day. “I teach people how to add commas to their bank accounts,” says Nicole. “They learn that they don’t have to trade time for money.”I discovered Nicole on Instagram and was immediately drawn to her story of becoming an unexpected overnight Shameless Mom to 3 sweet daughters. I am so excited to share her Shameless story with you all!Listen in to hear Nicole share: How she became an unexpected, overnight mom to 3 daughters The boundaries she built around her commitment to motherhood, even before she knew she would become a legal guardian to her daughters The hilarious and brilliant ways she shows up (sometimes virally) to motherhood How and why she quit her corporate job online, in front of 10,000 people Her secrets to building a multi 7 figure business Links Mentioned: Connect with Nicole: tv Nicole on Facebook Nicole on Instagram Nicole on Periscope Nicole on Youtube Nicole on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. For 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Care of and enter the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Simple Health: Find a better way to get birth control – delivered right to your door. Go to Simple Health or use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to have your $20 prescription fee waived. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I recently had a conversation with a group of women about the secrets we hold and how they hold us back. Truth be told, a lot of women hold onto secrets for the better part of their lives - and these secrets cripple us in multiple areas our lives. If you have been holding onto a family secret since you were a little girl, there is a part of you who is stuck in the body and mind of that little girl. Holding on to secrets and not allowing ourselves to process and heal from them can arrest our development and impede our ability to deeply connect with others.When we start to share our secrets with trusted people we experience freedom, healing, relief, and power. And we often find that our secrets were not as big as we let them become in our own minds. When you share your secrets in groups of women, you’ll quickly learn that everyone has secrets, stories, and experiences that have felt crippling to them at certain times in their lives. And when we start sharing these stories, we begin to heal and we allow ourselves to connect more deeply in our relationships with others - win/win!In this episode, I’m going to share with you a series of secrets that other women have allowed me to share, as well as a few of my own. I think you’ll see through these examples how your sharing your secrets can set you FREE and allow you to be more SEEN - which can be life-changing.Thank you to our sponsors: Butcherbox: For $20 off your first box and 2lbs of FREE salmon go to Butcher Box shameless and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $20 off your order and get 2 lbs of FREE ground beef in every box for the life of your subscription! Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door with free delivery on your first order when you go to Instacart or use the free mobile Instacart app and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As the founder of Stack-It! Mamas, Rose Wetzel loves empowering women when they feel most vulnerable – after giving birth (at least that’s when SHE felt most vulnerable). A personal trainer and professional athlete (obstacle course racing, specializing in Spartan Races and American Ninja Warrior), Rose has to stay fit for her livelihood (getting paid to work out sounds nice, right?), but after a post-delivery complication/emergency surgery set her back many months, she had to start from scratch to rebuild her fitness, while working through postpartum depression, and worrying about her husband’s rare cancer returning. (It hasn't!)She tried all the tools in her trainer toolbox, but when she didn’t get efficient results, she got creative…until one day something clicked. In fact, it worked so well that not only did she get her strength and career back on track, but she realized her new calling: to focus on helping women feel fit, energetic, and confident after having a baby, AND make sure their results lasted. Her new method, call the Stack-It! Method flips traditional fitness on its head - helping you restore your energy through self-care routines that involve habits other than working out - like baths and rest!Rose and I worked together as personal trainers years ago, and the minute I found out she was pregnant, I told her she had to come on the show one day. I could not be more excited to share her story with you for our 300th episode!Listen in to hear Rose share: How being the youngest daughter of 9 kids shaped her life Her rock bottom postpartum moment she took to Facebook live to share with the world How she clawed her way out of postpartum depression and back to the podium The impact of childbirth and motherhood on the life of a professional athlete Her mindset resets around not reaching her biggest goals in the last year How she’s preparing for her upcoming year of racing and American Ninja Links Mentioned: Join my Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Connect with Rose: Rose Wetzel Join the Stack-It! Mamas FB group Follow Rose on Facebook Follow Rose on Instagram Rose’s husband Tim’s Blog: Race Sherpa Rises Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you are a high achiever, or a perfectionist, or prone to anxiety or depression, you likely already feel totally behind on your New Year’s goals/resolutions. I am with you. As a high achiever prone to anxiety it’s easy for me to feel totally behind if I haven’t met three new goals by January 2nd at noon. So, we’re in this together.Let me help you out…..You are not behind. You are right where you’re meant to be.In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through 5 uncommon & unconventional but super effective New Year’s practices that will help you exhale and allow you to create space for everything you truly want in 2019.I’m going to give you a sneak peek at these 5 practices, but you also must listen in so you can see how these practices will be the most useful and effective for you!5 Uncommon, Unconventional, but Super Effective New Year’s Practices: Don’t start anything new on January 1 Spend some time with your calendar Spend more time listening than planning Don’t start with goals, start with dream lists (this is *magic*) Plan small, even tiny, action steps - not leaps On top of this deep dive into these 5 practices, I also give you 5 DO NOT DO practices that will probably clear a ton of negative space in your head, in order to make space for GREATNESS in 2019. You ready???Links Mentioned:Join me for my 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: shamelessmom.com/pajamapartyThank you to our sponsors: com: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Care. Beachbody On Demand: Start your free trial and get access to their 14 days results plan when you text SHAMELESS to 303030. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Molly Mahar is Shameless Mom to Max and Juliet and the founder of Stratejoy — an online community that has helped thousands of women reclaim joy and meaning in their world. She’s an entrepreneur, mama, and adventurer obsessed with taboo topics, designing personal experiments, and the power of sisterhood. Molly teaches everything she knows about claiming ownership of your life + your truth in her 10-month program, Reclamation.A free spirit with a passion for mindful entrepreneurship, Molly loves sharing her knowledge with others and cracking numerous self-deprecating jokes. Bonus if she gets to be barefoot + dole out hugs upon entry! She has spoken at numerous events and conferences and been featured in The Washington Post and Forbes. Molly’s superpowers are telling the truth kindly, gathering awesome women together, and yes — reclaiming joy. I have been dying to connect with Molly for years, so I am so excited that we got to finally have this conversation. I think you’re going to love it!Listen in to hear Molly share: Her desire to pursue and embrace mastery in 2019 How she learned she pregnant – when she thought she had bipolar disorder Why she wiped out half her business and half her income on purpose Specific practices you can use to reconnect and reclaim your truth How to pay attention to what brings you pleasure and joy– and make decisions around those feelings The 4 questions you should have answers to in order to pull yourself out of tough moments and days Links Mentioned: Register for my 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Connect with Molly: Stratejoy Learn more about Reclamation: Reclamation Follow Molly on Instagram: Molly Mahar Follow Stratejoy on Instagram: Stratejoy   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I could not be more grateful to each and every guest who joined me in the SMA in 2018. So many of these interviews had BIG impact. A wanted to share a variety of the episodes I found to be the most impactful in 2018 – based on the guest's stories, my experience with the interview, and your feedback on these episodes. If you missed any of these, go listen NOW. If you want to know which episodes are worth a second listen, it’s these ones. Enjoy!Episode 194 with Andrea Owen: Your Kick-Ass LifeHow women hold ourselves back from happiness and numb ourselves with food, alcohol, TV and social media.Episode 210 with Kelly Herron: Not Today Mother F*ckerHow she survived a vicious attack and used her terrifying story to become a warrior.Episode 238 with Dana Malstaff: Divorce, Proactive Crying, and Getting NakedHow getting to know herself better led her to divorce and a new sense of hope.Episode 240 with Debbie Reber: Differently WiredThe pervasiveness of Differently Wired kids and how we can be more supportive of their gifts, talents, and strengthsEpisode 244 with Dr. Jenny Yip: Coping with Obsessive Compulsive DisorderHer story of OCD in different phases of her life and how she helps treat other moms and kids with OCD and anxiety.Episodes 246 and 248 Danny J: Saved By The Daughter She Placed For Adoption Part 1 and Part 2How having a baby and placing her for adoption at 16 saved her from her eating disorder, depression and suicidal ideationEpisode 264 with Jessica Butts: Front Seat LifeHow knowing and embracing your personality type can change the course of your lifeEpisode 270 with Nichole Sylvester: Surviving Abuse, Addition, and MurderHow she addiction and abuse, and hit rock bottom when her ex-boyfriend murdered a woman in her homeEpisode 280 with Courtney Shorter: Grief, Joy, and Soul Free MamasHow her 10-year infertility journey led to a brain tumor, the loss of twin baby girls, and ultimately her sweet boy, Hendrix.Episode 284 with Rachel Rodgers: Million Dollar BadassHow she emerged from a childhood impacted by poverty, addiction, mental health issues, and the loss of her father at the age of 12 to become a 7 figure earner. And why she firmly believes all women should aim to be 7 figure earners.Links Mentioned: Register for the 2019 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: Pajama Party Take Jessica Butts’s personality quiz Get Nichole Sylvester’s book: Oh Shift Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Karen has over 30 years of experience working with couples and families facing transition, loss, growth and change. Her work as a Collaborative Divorce Coach spurred her determination to write “The Co-Parenting Handbook” with Kristin Little, Child Specialist. Parents learn the best ways to support their children, strengthen their co-parenting, and discover the necessary tools to skillfully create a two-home family. “The Parenting Plan Workbook” followed with contributor Felicia Malsby Soleil, JD. And most recently, Karen and Patricia Papernow, PhD released The Stepfamily Handbook, for parents ready to date and hoping to one day successfully create a stepfamily.  As a teacher, trainer, facilitator, Karen played an instrumental role in developing the year-long facilitator training program for the Compassionate Listening Project. As a certified Compassionate Listening trainer, Karen utilizes this heart-centered approach to authentic speaking and capable listening used around the world in high-conflict situations such as Israel/Palestine. Her deep listening skills make all the difference working with co-parent pairs in conflict as they find their way through the pain of divorce into a future with optimism. Listen in to hear Karen share: How to parallel parent if integrated co parenting is not possible When you should see a co parent coach How to know when kids are really struggling with divorce/restructuring of family How to know when kids are ready for you to introduce new partners into your family unit What to do when your partner is not capable of co parenting How reading the Co Parent Manual can improve, and potentially save, your marriage NOW  Links Mentioned: Connect with Karen: https://coachmediateconsult.com Subscribe to Karen’s Youtube channel Karen’s Book: The Co Parenting Handbook  Thank you to our sponsors: Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at hourglasscosmetics.com/shameless and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Katie’s Crib podcast: Check out this new podcast hosted by new mom Katie Lowes, who played Quinn on the hit show Scandal. Check out Katie’s Crib on shondaland.com or anywhere you listen to podcasts.      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices