Shameless Leadership

When I look around to see who’s taking action in their lives, I see a lot of women doing two things: Waiting for an permission Waiting for an invitation Stop.Please. There is no reason to ask permission to play bigger in your life. There is no reason to wait for an invitation.NONE. These are actually just “noble obstacles”, as Jon Acuff calls them. These are the obstacles that we let stand in our way as a crutch to stay comfortable, procrastinate, dwell in our own perfectionism, live in fear, and keep our lives way. too. small.Today, I’m giving you 4 steps to start playing bigger in your life without asking permission: Take a seat at the table Know your worth and your power Assume you’re qualified Reach out and connect with the big dogs 99% of the time, there is not a benefit in waiting to take action. 99% of the time, the best time to take action is now. 99% of the time the best time to play bigger is now. 99% of the time when you start to play bigger, you get to live bigger. 99% of the time the net result is RADNESS.Are you ready to take a seat at the table?Links Mentioned:Join me at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th & 27th: Shameless Mom Con Thank you to our sponsors: Care: Save 30% off your Care.com Premium Membership by going to Care. Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Carin Rockind is a leading happiness expert, motivational speaker, and the creator of PurposeGirl, a movement to empower purpose-driven living. She has taught thousands of people real-life strategies to reclaim their happiness, and live to their fullest potential of success and well-being. Having survived domestic abuse, divorce, and armed robbery, she teaches others to be resilient through stress and grow from trauma.After fifteen years as a marketing executive, Carin pursued her great passion: teaching women to thrive. Carin was one of the first 250 people in the world to earn a Masters degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she has also served as adjunct faculty. Carin speaks at large companies worldwide and is a regular contributor to national media such as NBC, CBS, PBS, and NPR. She recently launched Women's Global Happiness Day in over fifty cities around the globe.Listen in to hear Carin share: How being held a gunpoint changed the trajectory of her life Why women are less happy today than 30 years ago How we ignore living in our own bodies - because we’re conditioned to try to live in men’s bodies Why happiness sometimes actually sucks How her second miscarriage at age 43 sent her into a deep depression and then inspired her to launch Women’s Global Happiness Day The power, beauty, and opportunity of Post Traumatic Growth Links Mentioned: Join me at Shameless Mom Con on April 26th/27th: Shameless Mom Con 2019 Connect with Carin: Carin Rockind Carin’s podcast: Purpose Girl podcast Check out Women’s Global Happiness Day: Women’s Global Happiness Day Carin on Facebook Carin on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Get 20% off the most comfy Dress Pant Yoga Pants ever at Beta Brand. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A few weeks ago I made a post on social media about magic and discomfort being soulmates. This is the straight up #truth, friends. Embrace it.The next morning I was listening to SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah and she 100% confirmed my theory (cause O and I are BFFs. Obviously.)On Oprah’s show, she was interviewing Steven Pressfield and they were talking about resistance - and that resistance MUST exist in all opportunities that provide growth, evolution, and magic. In fact, Steven said, “ Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the life unlived within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”WOW. YES. So much YES.I see so many Shameless Moms embracing the resistance to make big things happen. And it is MAGIC. It is powerful and profound, and life-altering. And I see Shameless Moms who feel the resistance and take it as a sign that something is not meant to be.Mama…. NO. I want you to lean into the resistance. See it. Embrace it. Own it. Walk through it. It will change you - in all the BEST ways. Listen in to hear me share the 3 phases of leaning into resistance that will allow you to walk through resistance, find your power and declare a magical VICTORY on the other side.Links Mentioned: Shameless Mom Con: Shameless Mom SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah and Steven Pressfield: Unlock Your Creative Genius Thank you to our sponsors: Third Love: To find the perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase got to Third Love Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lisa Woodruff is a Shameless Mom to two teenagers and the founder of Organize 365, the creator of the 100 Day Home Organization Program, the Sunday Basket Workshop and Sunday Basket Workshop Paper Organization Certification Program.As the Amazon bestselling author of The Mindset of Organization, Take Back Your House One Phase at a Time & How ADHD Affects Home Organization. Lisa shares her belief that organization is not a skill you are born with. It is a skill that is developed over time and changes with each season of life. Lisa has helped thousands of women reclaim their homes and finally get organized with her focus on functional organizing, encouragement, and humor her through her weekly podcasts Organize 365.Listen in to hear Lisa share: How everyone can benefit from organization, even if you’re not an organizer by nature How to better manage the (research proven) 28 hours of week required to manage a home How to implement her Sunday Basket system that will create a ton of freedom in your week and in your head Specific steps to get kids involved in organization The science behind how much time and energy you safe when you commit small amounts of time organization Links Mentioned: Connect with Lisa: Organize365 Lisa’s 100 Day Organization Program Join Lisa’s FB group: Organize365 Thank you to our sponsors: Grove Collaborative: Shop at Grove Collaborative today and get a FREE $30 Mrs. Meyer’s gift set with your first order at Grove. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Native: For 20% off your first purchase, visit Native Deodorant and use promo code shameless at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For the better part of 2018, I was trying to figure out the best way to talk about race in The Shameless Mom Academy. I was doing all the research, learning all the things, curating all the resources. I wanted to be able to have the most valuable, productive, well-planned conversation possible. Then I realized something. I was sitting up on my high horse of white privilege waiting to make this as comfortable as possible for me, so I could make it as perfect as possible for you. And that is NOT how this conversation should go. This is not about my comfort. This is not about tying anything up in a bow. And by waiting to have this conversation with you, I was not only sitting in my white privilege, I was continuing to make space for white supremacy at the expense of people of color, including my friends of color and Shameless Moms of color.So, a few days ago, after an incident in this community that screamed of privilege, I knew I could not sit this out any longer.  By waiting to talk about this I was doing harm, I was being complicit. I was part of the problem and not part of the solution.I sat down and recorded this to share what I’m learning about white privilege, how I’m navigating it and what resources I’m finding to be the most informative and valuable.My hope is that you find this informative and eye-opening. After over a year of reading and research, I have been humbled over and over by how little I understood about white privilege and how much I was doing to contribute to the problem more than the solution. Please note the people and resources listed below. These women have been instrumental in my learning over the last year - and have been powerful forces of education and support in countless conversations about race at the expense of their own time, energy, and resources. They are heroes and warriors.Resources:Books:Me and White Supremacy Workbook by Layla Saad This Will Be My Undoing by Morgan Jerkins We’re Going To Need More Wine by Gabrielle Union I’m Judging You by Luvvie So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo The Last Black Unicorn by Tiffany Haddish White Fragility by Robin Diangelo Hunger by Roxane Gay This Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Becoming by Michelle ObamaPeople to follow on social media:Layla SaadRachel CargleIjeoma OluoDanielle BrooksSonya Renee TaylorLena WaitheLaverne CoxTracee Ellis RossIssa RaeSerena WilliamsEricka HartJessamynRoxane GayCatrice JacksonShiShi RoseMorgan JerkinsPlease note this list is not comprehensive. These are resources that have been helpful to me. I would love to know if there are others that have been helpful to you.Thank you to our sponsors: Bioclarity: Go to BioClarity and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to get your free clarifying masque when you purchase a skincare routine. Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full sized Caution Mascara at Hourglass Cosmetics and use the promo code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jenell B Stewart is the founder and editor in chief of the award-winning website Kinky Curly Coily Me. She launched her career by educating and uplifting women with natural hair by way of her extremely popular website and YouTube channel. Jenell has been featured in Essence Magazine, Black Enterprise, and starred on the Dr.Oz television show as a Beauty Expert.Jenell has a masters in education, is a wife and mom of two beautiful children ages 4 and 6. Jenell’s love Of motherhood prompted her to create her lifestyle brand self titled Jenell B Stewart where she discusses a range of topics including mom life, entrepreneurship, wellness, mental health, marriage, traveling, and faith.Jenell is always Looking for innovative ways to engage with her vastly growing audience which reaches over 1 Million. She launched a women’s empowerment podcast self-titled the Jenell B Stewart Podcast where she empowers women especially moms, to live their best life.Listen in to hear Jenell share: How she used her strengths as a strong-willed child to create her own career rather than follow a prescribed path The painful practices that young black girls endure managing their hair The phases and impact of the “natural hair journey” for a black woman How to she turned a hobby into a side hustle and then into a full-time business that supports other women How she manages imposter syndrome Why you should go to therapy now - before you hit crisis mode Links Mentioned: Connect with Jenell: Kinky Curly Coily Me or Jenell B. Stewart Chris Rock hair documentary: Good Hair Jenell on Youtube Jenell on Instagram Jenell on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talk Space and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Rothy’s: To get free shipping on any order of Rothy’s shoes, as well as free returns, go to Rothy's and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much do you let yourself BE SEEN on a daily basis? Do you stand in your power, own your space, and show up as your unapologetic self #everydamnday? Or do you find yourself hiding, avoiding, shrinking, blending in, apologizing, settling for a life (or a job or friendships or a marriage) that you don’t truly love? If you are ready to BE SEEN in any area of your life, this episode is for you. I walk you through 8 commons ways women avoid being seen and 7 steps you can take to start BEING SEEN #everydamnday.Warning: you’ll probably be pretty pumped up to go out and BE SEEN at the end of this episode - which is awesome, because we are going to do a free BE SEEN Challenge in The Shameless Mom Academy starting Monday, February 18th. Register for the challenge here: Be Seen.Links Mentioned:Join our free 7 Day BE SEEN Challenge: Be Seen Thank you to our sponsors: care of: For 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit Take Careof and enter the code SHAMELESS50 at checkout. Instacart: Get your groceries delivered to your door! Save $10 off your first order at Instacart or on the Instacart mobile app when you use the promo code SHAMELESS10 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management books, including Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, and 168 Hours. Her TED talk, "How to gain control of your free time," has been viewed more than 7 million times. She is the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the podcast Best of Both Worlds. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and four children, and blogs at LauraVanderkam.com. Laura sent me a copy of Off The Clock and I could not put it down. The stories were so compelling and her tactics around time management made me straight up PUMPED UP about being a better time manager in order to create more time in my life and more space in my head. Take notes on this episode. There are so many fantastic pointers! Listen in to hear Laura share: The secrets of people who have all the time in the world How a mom or 18-month-old triplets created 3 hours of personal time for herself #everydamnday What she learned from time tracking her habits for 8,784 hours How to change your perspective on time and immediately have more time in your day How to better prioritize time for things you actually enjoy Why checking our phones makes us feel like we have less time How to use memories to expand the time Why you should plan your upcoming weeks on Friday and not Sunday (or Monday!) Links Mentioned: Connect with Laura: Laura Vanderkam Tune into Laura’s podcast: Best of Both World Laura on Facebook Laura on Twitter Laura on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors:Headspace: If you’ve been wanting to add mediation to your life, check out the Headspace app and get a free month trial at Head Space. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you are a perfectionist or recovering perfectionist, motherhood might just kick your butt in the worst ways. Motherhood requires you to give up control of everything: when you eat when you sleep when you shower how clean your house is when you get your work done how to manage others (babies are not manageable, neither are husbands) how to manage emotions (cause an exhausted, hormonal mama has no emotional regulation) how your body looks/feels You can’t control any of it AND you’re supposed to be actually enjoying some of it. WHAT? HOW???Adaptability is the gift of motherhood. But, I’ll be the first to tell you it does not feel like a gift to a Type A perfectionistic kinda gal. Adaptability might be your worst life skill. In fact, if you dislike spontaneity, last minute change of schedules, going with the flow, figuring things out on the fly, motherhood will knock you down. And you won’t be able to get back up until you learn to become more adaptable. No one tells you about the very necessary skill of motherhood. You just see everyone around you being all adaptable and you’re thinking, “how the hell do they do it?”How do other moms not lose their minds when naptime doesn’t happen?How do other moms keep their cool when they have to cancel something fun because of a sick kid or a massive tantrum?How do other moms go with the flow and take the punches so effortlessly?Some of them do not control freaks by nature like you and me. And some of them have learned to lean into the unpredictability of motherhood – which I know sounds just awful, but it’s actually really helpful. Improving your adaptability will help you enjoy motherhood and get out of your own way when things change on a dime (like every hour of #everydamnday.) Listen in to hear how you can start taking small steps to become more adaptable and start building confidence around your ability to go with the flow like all your zen mama friends.Links Mentioned: Get on the Wait List for Shameless Mom Con in Seattle, WA: Shameless Mom Join me at Inspired Mama in Grand Haven, MI Thank you to our sponsors: Betabrand: Get 20% off the most comfy Dress Pant Yoga Pants ever at Beta brand. Lola: Get organic cotton tampons and other hygiene products delivered right to your door. To get 40% off all subscriptions, go to My Lola and use the code SHAMELESS40 at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited to welcome Shannon Jamail back to the SMA. I invited Shannon to come back to the show because I wanted to talk about her book, Surrender. In the book, she shares how she conscientiously moved out of fear, anxiety, stress, negative thinking, judgment, and imposter syndrome and into forgiveness, surrender, love, joy, and purpose.Every chapter has a powerful story/experience from Shannon’s life, coupled with her lessons learned and actionable steps that are very accessible to the reader (you and me!)I found the book to be so helpful to me, especially when it comes to forgiveness and moving forward from the stuckness that old resentments keep you in.Listen in to hear Shannon share: How she had to apply her own principles of SURRENDER to her own life after she burned down her own kitchen (literally) How to embrace and move through anxiety and shift into a “Do it afraid” mindset How to move past resentment and into forgiveness in family relationships Active steps to forgiving someone How to more actively choose LOVE in your life and the universal truths to choosing love Links Mentioned:Connect with Shannon: Mind-Body Complete (use the code SHAMELESS10 to save 10% off Shannon’s shop/book/retreats!) Shannon on Facebook Shannon on Instagram  Shannon’s podcast, Happy Hour with Shannon and Dee Shannon on Twitter Shannon on LinkedIn Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: to find your perfect match therapist for a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy, go to Talkspace and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout to save $45 off your first month. Fabfitfun: To get $10 off your first subscription box (making it only $39.99 for $200 worth of products) go to Fabfitfun and use the code SHAMELESS at checkout.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices