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Mar 1, 2023 • 57min

733: Gabrielle Blair: Ejaculate Responsibly

Gabrielle Blair a Shameless Mom of 6 and the founder of DesignMom.com. Started in 2006, it has been named a Website of the Year by Time magazine; praised as a top parenting blog by The Wall Street Journal, Parents, and Better Homes & Gardens; and it won the Iris Award for Blog of the Year. In 2015, Gabrielle published her New York Times bestseller, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, a New York Times bestseller. Her second book, Ejaculate Responsibly, was just released and also became an instant New York Times Bestseller. Her writing is quoted and shared across the globe daily. If you follow her on Twitter, you know why. Gabrielle is also a founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster annual conference for online content creators and creative entrepreneurs.  I met Gabrielle at an event this fall and was immediately completely captivated by her work around her new book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Gabbi is a force and this conversation is going to expand your head and heart in many ways. Listen in and share widely. The world needs this message - desperately. Listen in to hear Gabrielle share: Why she has always integrated “controversial” content into her parenting blog, Design Mom, and how that led to her writing Ejaculate Responsibly Her mission to put men at the center of attention and center of responsibility when it comes to the conversation around unwanted pregnancies Why the management of women’s fertility should be shifted to the management of MEN’S fertility since men are fertile 365 days a year and women are fertile for a mere 36 or so hours a month. Why we have built a 100+ billion dollar women’s birth control industry around the idea that we don’t mind if women suffer as long as it makes things easier for men The reality that most men are actually quite open to taking responsibility for their ejaculation if they are given the right information How to talk to your kids about responsible ejaculation Links Mentioned: Gabrielle’s Book: Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion See Gabrielle on tour: Book Tour: https://designmom.com Check out Alt Summit: https://altitudesummit.com/ Gabrielle on Twitter and Instagram: @designmom Amy Lang on the SMA: Birds & Bees & Kids Amy Lang on the SMA: Sex Talk with Tweens Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your order when you use the code SHAMELESS at lastbottlewines.com.Luvbuglearning.com: Support your child’s social emotional learning with the world's first social emotional gaming platform. Go to Luvbuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Train Her Game - Free Training: Moms of teen daughter athletes! Help your daughter build confidence and overcome negative mindsets in athletics by attending this free training offered by Breanne Smedley, Host of the Elite Competitor Podcast: https://trainhergame.com/shameless Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 27, 2023 • 40min

732: On Passion, Purpose, and Knowing When to Pivot

One of the most common questions I’ve gotten over the years is, “Sara, how do I find my passion?” Often this question is followed by some lamenting over the fact that one has not yet found their passion.  Sometimes society tells us that if we are not committing our life’s work to something we are passionate about, we are wasting our time or our talent.  I would like to argue that sometimes it’s ok to do something you’re not 100% passionate about because it provides you security and stability (ie: a paycheck and benefits).  AND, I get it…. Doing meaningful work that is aligned with your passions and gives you a sense of purpose is highly desirable.  AND… the world needs your gifts! So, please don’t hold back from sharing them with us.SO, how do you know when to go after what you’re passionate about?  How do you determine the thing you want to passionately pursue?How do you know when it’s the right time to pivot?  Over the last 20 years, I’ve spent a lot of time building businesses around work that I’m deeply passionate about - work that gives me a massive sense of purpose. But there have also been moments (even seasons) where I have sat in pretty “MEH” situations in order to strategically plan my next pivot. In this episode, I share a few examples so you can see what this looks like in real life.  Maybe you’re ready to pivot right now or maybe you’re looking out at a 5-year plan toward your purpose. Either way, I got you - and this episode will give you some great insight.Link mentioned:Interested in Business Coaching with Sara? Email us at info@shamelessmom.com with the subject line: Business Coaching and we will send you details on Sara’s 6-month One-on-One Business & Leadership Coaching Package! Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your order when you use the code SHAMELESS at lastbottlewines.com.Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 22, 2023 • 53min

731: Loria Yeadon: An Invitation to Be a World Changer

Loria Yeadon is President and CEO at YMCA of Greater Seattle and the first woman and the first person of color to serve in this role in the 146-year history of the organization. She is an electrical engineer, a patent attorney by trade and training, and an accomplished non-profit and corporate executive with over 35 years of experience leading high-performing teams, managing P&Ls, and serving the community. She champions and advocates for equity and justice for all, especially youth and families in underserved communities. Yeadon currently serves on the Governor’s Social Supports Leaders Advisory Group for the State of Washington and on the Board of Directors for the Laird Norton Company. She formerly served on the Board of Directors of TiVo Corporation, Girl Scouts of the USA, Legal Momentum, and Stolen Youth. She was recently honored as a 2021 Women of Influence by the Puget Sound Business Journal and recipient of the 2020 Female Founders Champion Role Model Award. She is also a very proud Shameless Mom to 3 grown daughters.Listen in to Loria share: Her memories during segregation in Virginia and how things are not much different today How her mission to raise her daughters to be world leaders and worlds changers informed her career The impact of the pandemic on the YMCA as they recognized the importance of supporting families in deeply critical ways The “false choice” moms were given in the pandemic What happens in society when affordable childcare is hard or even impossible to access Possible solutions around more affordable childcare Her invitation to young women to move through the world more courageously The very special way you can support the mission of the YMCA The unique mission of the YMCA to be more than a building, but a movement forwarding communities Links Mentioned:  Learn more about the YMCA and consider donating: www.seattleymca.org YMCA on FB, IG, Twitter: @YMCASeattle YMCA on LinkedIn Loria on LinkedIn Loria on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your order when you use the code SHAMELESS at lastbottlewines.com.Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription todayRothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 20, 2023 • 34min

730: How to Quiet the Haters, the Doubters, and the Skeptics

If your voice has value and you’re using it as an agent to heal yourself and help others, it’s your job to be aware of the external noise you allow to inform your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. There will be people who try to diminish your voice, your power, and your credibility.There will be people who do not believe you, who downright oppose you, who say you are not who you say you are.There will be people who, out of their own insecurities, will deny your gifts, roll their eyes at your talent, and question your motives.  How will you handle those who are disrespectful, dismissive, diminishing, and doubtful of who you are becoming?This is a big question. It can be a lot to wrap your head around as you choose a path of growth, power, and agency.  So YOU must know who you are and what you stand for.In this episode, we will categorize the Haters, the Doubters, and the Skeptics in a meaningful way that will allow you to more clearly see how these folks take up space in your life.  Then we will walk through 3 questions to ask yourself as you navigate interactions and situations with these folks so that you may conscientiously decide who gets to have a vote in who you are becoming and who does not. Your voice has value. Period. Even when others are questioning it, doubting it, or downright denying it.Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your order when you use the code SHAMELESS at lastbottlewines.com.Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 15, 2023 • 58min

729: Yvette Gentile and Rasha Pecoraro: Embracing the Spotlight and Facing Evil

Sisters Yvette Gentile and Rasha Pecoraro are primarily recognized as the co-hosts of the wildly popular podcast “Root of Evil: The True Story of the Hodel Family and the Black Dahlia,” a 2020 iHeartRadio ‘True Crime Podcast of the Year’ nominee. The dark story of their mother Fauna Hodel’s life became a six-episode limited television series “I Am The Night,” which premiered in January 2019.Yvette and Rasha have returned to the airwaves with a new weekly podcast, Facing Evil. In their latest venture, the siblings bring their unique perspective of growing up in a family with a dark history, to true crime with a focus on the victims and individuals at the heart of the stories. Outside of podcasting, Yvette is also an actor, model, and sandal designer with her husband Gino. She is an avid yogi who trains for and practices classes specific to individuals confronting distress and long-term grief and pain. Rasha was a fierce competitor on “The Biggest Loser” in 2006. Since then, she’s advocated for beauty at any size as a plus-size model and married her wife Vanna in 2010. She is a proud LGBTQ+ advocate and activist, mother, as well as an actor and voiceover artist. Listen in to hear Rasha and Yvette share: What it was like for Rasha to marry a man on national TV after being a contestant on the Biggest Loser - and then realize she was gay and come out out of the closet in a very public way The impact of their unique sister relationship of being a gay-straight passing blond woman and a black biracial woman - standing side by side as sisters What it’s been like for both Rasha and Yvette to embrace the spotlight in a big way as the layers of their family story is shared across multiple media platforms The impact and imprint of many tragic true crime stories on US history How they have intentionally stayed away from sensationalism and salaciousness in true crime podcasting, and instead opted for sharing humanity, compassion, and empathy in their stories Links mentioned: Podcast: Facing Evil Facing Evil on IG Rasha on IG Yvette on IG Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 13, 2023 • 31min

728: How Motherhood Fuels Inadequacy & What to Do About It Airs

What if your feelings of inadequacy had nothing to do with you? What if they were because you have been conditioned as a woman and a mom that no matter what you do, it will never be enough? Perhaps you have been conditioned to believe that everyone else has it all figured out. Perhaps you are never validated or affirmed as a woman and a mom because society has systematically dismissed and diminished our value, our contributions, and our worth for centuries.  Perhaps those feelings of inadequacy, while very real, are not yours to own.  Perhaps the burden to alleviate those feelings falls on the systems and people who have diminished us. But they don’t know that. They don’t see that. And until they do, it’s up to us to undo their damage.  SO… let’s unravel it all so you can step back and see the bigger picture. In this episode, I walk you through 4 things that fuel inadequacy for most women and moms and then a 4 part framework to intentionally and permanently walk away from your feelings of inadequacy and into your worth, your gifts, and your talentsThank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 8, 2023 • 56min

727: Rachel Luna: How to Give Yourself Permission to Offend

Rachel Luna, author of Permission to Offend, is a highly sought-after international speaker & Certified Master Neuroscience Coach.. Named by Forbes as one of The 11 Most Inspiring Female Entrepreneurs To Follow On Instagram. She is a former US Marine who calls herself a magnet for miracles because despite losing both her parents to AIDS, struggling with eating disorders in her teens, and battling alcoholism and depression in her early 20s, Rachel has never allowed herself to be limited by life circumstances. Instead, she persevered and when she was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer in the summer of 2019, Rachel tackled it the same way she does everything - with confidence, faith, and love.Through her top-rated podcast, Permission to Offend, and her new book of the same name, Rachel is inviting you to return to your truth, own it, and live fully self-expressed without fear of judgment, rejection, or defamation - so that you can step into your next level of elevation.Listen in to hear Rachel share: How she navigated her disappointment around motherhood and her struggle to bond with her daughters after their births Her decision to leave the US Marines after becoming a mom How she decided to become a life coach in her post-Marine life How to acknowledge our Big 3 Fears: judgment, rejection, defamation Strategies to be ready to “offend” How to use curiosity as the key to clarity How to engage in thoughtful but hard conversations with permission to offend Links mentioned: Connect with Rachel: www.rachelluna.biz Book: Permission to Offend Podcast: Permission to Offend Take the Permission to Offend Quiz: Permissiontooffend.com/quiz Rachel on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 6, 2023 • 36min

726: Let Yourself Listen… to Yourself

I suspect your daily life is loud, literally and figuratively. Noise from your kids, your partner, your boss, noise on social media, the news, and the entire world outside your door.  As you move through the world listening to all the noise, it’s easy to lose track of your own voice and your inner knowing. With all the outward listening, it’s easy to forget to listen inward. I recently had a situation where I found myself feeling very uncertain, even physically uncomfortable, as my gut was telling me, “This doesn't feel right.”  While I love to rush through things in order to check them off my list, I made myself sit with this feeling and really listen to it. And I’m so glad I did. As I sat with this feeling, I made some requests of the people around me while this feeling took place. They were unable (or unwilling) to reassure me or provide any validation for what I was feeling, which confirmed my gut feeling: I shouldn’t stay in this situation.  In this episode, I share this entire situation and the steps I took to give myself the space and time to listen inward as this situation unfolded. I hope this gives you some guidance on how to do the same.  We are taught from the time we are wee little girls to prioritize the voices and comfort of others over our own. NO MORE. Give yourself permission to listen to you and prioritize YOU.  Thank you to our sponsors this month:care.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book. Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Hello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door! Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Feb 1, 2023 • 53min

725: Monica Packer: The Most Important Thing for Moms to Know About Personal Growth

Monica Packer is passionate about teaching practical-but-deep transformation. As a podcaster and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection. Monica is a former middle school teacher, a forever Oprah fangirl, a perpetual cookie dough maker, and an ambitious walker (the last one is a joke . . . sort of). She is also the Shameless Mom to 4 awesome kiddos, with a 5th on the way! This is Monica’s second time on the show and I just love how we were able to dig deep so quickly. This is a juicy conversation that you might want to listen to more than once. Prepare to take some notes! Listen in to hear Monica share: The most important thing for women to know about progress and personal growth The lie that women fall for over and over again The uncomfortable truth that growth is supposed to be slow The magic of time and compassion and how to use compassion to give yourself permission in hard moments and seasons The very specific process she uses to help women work toward any goal How to reconcile that your identity is formed by behavior and habits  How men miss the mark when talking about women and their habits What successful consistency actually (surprisingly) looks like for women Links mentioned: Connect with Monica: https://aboutprogress.com/ Past SMA interview with Sara and Monica: Prioritizing Progress Over Perfection Monica’s Podcast: About Progress Get Monica’s Habit Class: aboutprogess.com/habitclass Monica on IG Thank you to our sponsors this month:Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jan 30, 2023 • 37min

724: Find Your Edges and Sit in the Magic

I had a really hard time relaxing over our holiday break. I knew January was going to be a big month for me in terms of work opportunities and I was feeling some nerves for sure. I kept telling myself to “just relax” until January kicked off, but my anxious brain could not. If you have an anxious brain like me, perhaps you can relate to how foolishly ineffective it is to tell yourself to “just relax”. BUT… Now that we are IN January and I’m IN these opportunities, I’m having a blast. I’m running right up to some big edges of discomfort as I do new things and I’m having a great time seeing things come together.  As I was wrapping up last week, I had to remind myself: “You are good at figuring out new things.” “It feels really great to challenge yourself by finding new professional edges.” “The high that comes after reaching a new edge is the best.” As I mentioned, I have an anxious brain. I excel in worrying about things before they happen. Sometimes that worry exists for months before an event or life situation and it takes a lot out of me. I have done a lot of work to minimize this worry, but it definitely still creeps in at times.  I love challenging myself because I love - LOVE - the feeling of achievement. But I hate the feelings of worry (sometimes even dread) that can precipitate some of the best moments of my life. One of my top techniques to mitigate this worry is to really sit in the feelings that follow pushing my edges. I do this with skiing, with uncomfortable conversations, with new leadership opportunities, and when I’m working with new organizations - so pretty much anytime I’m doing something unknown or uncertain!  In this episode we talk about how to use these questions to lean into the magic of your new edges: How did that feel? How did you use your skills, gifts, and talents to accomplish what you wanted to accomplish? What does this accomplishment tell you about yourself and the person you are becoming? Cheers to a year of new edges, my friend!Thank you to our sponsors this month:Full-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless. Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners - The VA Kickstarter Workbook!Ritual: Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/shameless to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Rothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy’s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM. StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA. Thrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door. Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless. Teachable: Join tens of thousands of creators turning their knowledge into scalable online businesses. Join a free plan at teachable.com/shameless to get started.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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