Shameless Leadership

Consistency is pretty boring. It might be the least glamorous component of leadership.  This is probably why it tends to be an underrated leadership superpower. However, consistency is a key ingredient to leadership success, primarily because it allows you to create compounding interest. Your tiny gains over time build up to massive outcomes.  Consistency also thwarts perfectionism. Showing up repeatedly becomes more important than showing up perfectly. This consistent showing up creates growth that casts perfectionism to the side, as it’s no longer needed as a tool for success. You start to realize that success is much more about showing up, getting it done, and building momentum on an ongoing basis.  What if small, repeated actions became the backbone of sustainable success in both your personal growth and leadership? For example…  For the last 27 years, I've worked out 6 days a week. That's about 7,776 workouts. Most of them have been pretty average, mid-level efforts. A lot of them have been just going through the motions. Every now and then, there is a really amazing one. The impact has been massive on my mental and physical health. I have no doubt that I have added years to my life. For the last 9 years, I have released 1-2 podcasts a week, depending on our production schedule. That's 940 podcast episodes. Some have been fantastic, even noteworthy. Many have been valuable and helpful to my audience, but not necessarily earth-shattering. The impact on my business and credibility as a thought leader, speaker, and coach has been invaluable.  Consistency creates scaffolding in your life and leadership. By developing reliable habits, you reduce decision fatigue, lessen your mental load, and streamline internal negotiations. When you're consistent, you become a person who gets things done, who finishes what you start, and who builds trust in yourself. That identity shift, from someone who dabbles to someone who delivers, is transformational. Consistency also strengthens your leadership reputation. Leaders known for their follow-through and reliability foster trust, credibility, and psychological safety for their teams.  Showing up again and again says to the world, “I’m here, I belong here, and I’m not going anywhere.” This episode will inspire you to lean into consistency as a courageous act of leadership and self-trust. Episode Highlights: 00:00 The Power of Consistency in Leadership 05:09 Powerful Examples of the Payoffs of Consistency 10:12 Building Relationships Through Consistency 15:17 Consistency as a Tool to Build a Stronger Personal Identity and Leadership Identity 20:44 The Impact of Consistency on Trust and Visibility Links Mentioned: Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Finish by Jon Acuff Book: Soundtracks by Jon Acuff Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During a recent retreat I led for my business coaching clients, we had the opportunity to do a deep dive into visibility avoidance.  We discussed this phenomenon that happens when we want to grow in new ways, but the prospect of heightened visibility holds us back.  Sometimes, when we take steps into higher visibility opportunities, we are excited by the outcomes.  But, shortly after the perceived win, we feel a sense of vulnerability that pulls us back to our pre-visibility zone of comfort, and we determine that pre-visibility space is the safer or more appropriate place for us to stay for the time being.   Visibility can be wildly uncomfortable.  It can bring up a lot of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in which we create swirling narratives that are more harmful than helpful.  When we get stuck here, we stunt our own growth.  We shrink ourselves.  We play small.  We allow ourselves to tap into only a fraction of our full potential.   In this episode, we explore the concept of visibility avoidance and highlight the common underlying self-limiting beliefs that hinder your personal and professional growth. I talk through how specific thought patterns undermine behavior patterns, keeping you accepting less than the best for yourself.  Then, I give you simple steps for overcoming visibility avoidance that will allow you to strategically increase visibility through small steps over time, allowing you to reach those goals you’ve been dreaming of in a way that feels exciting and rewarding!  This episode will help you recognize the payoffs of stepping into your full potential when you do it in a way that feels safe and aligned with who you are and where you want to go.  Episode Highlights: 00:00 The Magic of Expansive Time 04:14 Understanding Visibility Avoidance 12:03 Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs 16:18 Strategies for Increasing Visibility 24:47 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ve recently been in a few conversations about executive presence with colleagues and coaching clients.  These conversations keep coming up because of major misconceptions about executive presence.  When we think about executive presence, we tend to think about traits that allow for high control, high volume, and high power.  However, executive presence is not about dominance or taking up more space than the people around you.  It’s about far more.  And, it’s quite nuanced.     Unfortunately, many of us don’t have great examples of executive presence around us.  This is why we don’t have a clear understanding of what it entails and how to develop it.  Without strong mentors and role models, it’s hard to know what you’re even striving for, right?! In this episode, we will talk about what leaders are getting wrong about executive presence, the components of executive presence that matter most, and specific steps you can take to strengthen your executive presence.  We will also discuss how executive presence has long been weaponized as a gatekeeping tool and to uphold bias.   Please know executive presence is not just for executives!  This is a way of carrying yourself in order to have a commanding presence that calls people in to work with you and listen to you.  Your executive presence at any level, regardless of role or rank, can position you to build trusting relationships, enter into collaborative opportunities, and set yourself up for powerful next steps in your leadership legacy.    Episode Highlights: How executive presence is learned and developed over time Why quiet confidence goes a long way Why executive presence requires balancing confidence with humility Why executive presence has nothing to do with being the loudest or most dominant in the room True executive presence is about how you make others feel How and why to leverage authenticity more than conformity in your leadership Recognizing the role of gatekeeping and bias in many current models of executive presence Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We have all been in situations where we are asked a question or called out in a moment, and we completely freeze.  We can feel the room go silent as the spotlight shines brighter and brighter on us, and we can’t overcome the silence that has invaded our bodies. It feels like time has stopped, and it is up to us to make it start again, yet we feel completely unable to access the tools to do so. This can feel scary, overwhelming, and immobilizing.  In this episode, we explore why our brains sometimes freeze in high-pressure moments. I share a little about what happens to your nervous system in these moments and how freezing is a protective reaction, not a personal failure. This can help you move away from shame and discomfort and toward self-acceptance and self-compassion in those moments of silence. You'll learn practical strategies to set new default behaviors when you feel a freeze response coming on. From grounding techniques like deep breathing and pausing before speaking, to simple phrases that buy you time to think, these tools will help you stay centered and regain your voice in critical moments and after the fact so you can reclaim your agency and influence, build credibility and authority in high-stakes situations, and honor your unique brain and personality when things get a little sticky.   Let’s reframe your “freezing” not as a flaw, but as an opportunity to strategically access your power through intentional presence. With practice, you can move from stuck and silent to calm and clear - even in moments that catch you off guard.  If this episode resonates with you, share it with a colleague, team member, or fellow leader who needs a reminder that freezing doesn’t mean failing! Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

937: LEADERSHIP STRATEGIES: 4 Truths To Hold When You’re Doing Hard Things Stepping into a new challenge or opportunity as a woman in leadership can bring up all kinds of fears—fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of not being enough. In this episode, I’m sharing four powerful truths to hold onto when you're on the edge of doing something bold, unfamiliar, or downright scary in your leadership. These reminders are here to ground you in your capability, reconnect you to your courage, and help you move forward even when your inner critic is the loudest voice in the room. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like and feels like to trust positive feedback instead of deflecting it, how to reframe “faking it until you make it” as a leadership practice, and how to own and honor the skills and strengths you already bring to the table from your past experiences. We’ll also break down how perfectionism shows up in leadership and talk through how releasing that deep internalized perfectionism is one of the most powerful moves you can make, not just for your own well-being, but to model brave, authentic leadership for others. Whether you’re stepping into a new role, launching a big initiative, or finding your voice in a room where you’re the only one who looks or leads like you, this episode is your reminder that you are more ready than you think. These four truths are mindset shifts and key leadership strategies to help you show up in the face of challenges and new opportunities with clarity, confidence, and courage - and maybe even a little excitement! Episode Highlights: 00:00 Embracing Hard Things for Leadership Growth 06:07 Overcoming Conditioning and Imposter Syndrome 12:08 Trusting Yourself and How to Ethically Fake It Till You Make 18:37 Rejecting Perfectionism and Taking Action Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I don’t know anyone who loves engaging in disagreements.  In fact, most of the women I know avoid disagreements, conflict, and confrontation at all costs.  However, there are great costs to this avoidance, including missed opportunities for creativity and innovation, poor communication and growing resentment, slower or stalled decision making, a lack of trust and psychological safety, and higher potential for burnout and turnover.  So, you can see the costs are high!Researchers at Harvard surveyed 486 employees across a wide range of industries and found that only 39% of respondents reported being trained or coached in handling workplace conflict. Of those who were trained or coached in this area, a stunning 96% said training and coaching helped them deal with conflict more effectively.  73% said they felt more confident and comfortable engaging in disagreements.  62% felt they were able to turn potentially destructive conflicts into productive ones.Clearly, this is a skill that is not only needed, but that also has so many benefits in terms of impacting team and organizational outcomes!In this episode, we dig into the importance of disagreement in leadership and communication while debunking common myths surrounding conflict. I share how learning to navigate disagreements can lead to innovative solutions and stronger relationships. Inspired by my recent school work for my Master's in Organizational Leadership program, I introduce you to the HEAR method from Harvard, which provides a framework for effective communication during disagreements. The episode will help you begin to embrace disagreement as a powerful and necessary tool, as well as an opportunity for growth and collaboration.Episode Highlights: 00:00 The Importance of Disagreement 02:46 Building Skills for Effective Disagreement 06:06 Myths Surrounding Disagreement 09:50 Strategies for Navigating Disagreements 16:03 The HEAR Method for Effective Communication 22:00 Transforming Disagreement into Opportunity Links Mentioned: Article: Managing a Polarized Workforce: How to Foster Debate and Promote Trust  from the Harvard Business Review Book: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is no denying we are in an extraordinarily tough season.  When things feel heavy and hard for an extended period of time, it’s easy to feel a sense of constriction in our thoughts, mental health, and worldview.  It’s easy to fall into a funk.  And, it can feel impossible to pull ourselves out of it.  During challenging seasons, it is crucial that you maintain a growth mindset. While it’s important to acknowledge what is happening in the world around us, it is also critically important to maintain habits that allow you to tap into hope and possibility regularly.  If all you feel is constriction during hard seasons, you run the risk of shutting down completely. This doesn’t serve you or anyone else.  Tapping into your growth mindset is going to be the superpower that allows you to keep going.  In this episode, I outline six practical strategies to help you advance a growth mindset, including collecting the correct evidence, tracking small wins, staying in motion, leaning on the right support system, recognizing harmful narratives, and giving yourself permission to practice self-compassion through rest and restorative activities.  Episode Highlights: 00:00 Introduction to Growth Mindset in Tough Times 02:23 Understanding Growth vs. Fixed Mindset 06:06 Six Ways to Improve Growth Mindset 12:12 Tracking Small Wins and Staying in Motion 15:34 The Importance of the Right Support System 18:22 Noticing and Changing Your Narratives 21:11 The Power of Rest and Self-Compassion Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In 934 episodes, I’m not sure I’ve ever shared lessons learned from a TV show, much less a reality show.  However, the way a recent episode of Survivor has stuck with me is making it impossible for me not to talk about it here.  Before I dig in, I’ll admit that my husband and I are probably two of maybe 15 people who still watch Survivor faithfully.  We have watched every season together since we met 22 years ago.  I have to say, the show just keeps getting better.  They have consistently improved casting and production to prioritize representation.  There is racial and cultural diversity, gender diversity, sexual orientation diversity, age diversity, neurodiversity, and a wide spectrum of ability diversity.  This has led to some deeply powerful and impactful moments over the years. This season, one contestant, Eva, is the first contestant to share an autism diagnosis with the audience.  She also shared her diagnosis with one other team member, Joe, at the beginning of the season.  Throughout the first half of the season, we see Eva navigating living in this unique community environment while managing her autism on a daily basis.  Beyond sharing her diagnosis with one trusted team member, Eva is careful to keep her diagnosis to herself out of fear that it could complicate her game if others were to find out. In the March 26th episode, we see Eva, a very talented athlete, get frustrated during a physical challenge.  As she repeatedly tried and failed to complete her part of the challenge for her team, she became visibly upset and eventually emotionally distraught.  With her teammates' relentless support and patience, she eventually succeeded at completing the challenge.  Her relief in finishing was then quickly overshadowed by complete emotional overwhelm, where she had a hard time re-regulating herself physically and emotionally.  The magic in this moment was how Eva’s teammates, Survivor production, and host Jeff Probst held space for Eva to regain a sense of safety and control in this moment.  In this episode, I talk through 5 lessons learned from this incredible moment of reality TV that ultimately became a masterclass in inclusion. From there, I also invite you to ask yourself 4 crucial questions about how you prioritize inclusion as a leader: How does your behavior as a leader consistently demonstrate your values? How can you show your commitment to inclusion no matter what words are “illegal” or how society is getting stuck on ridiculous semantics as a means of undermining human dignity? How do you consistently consider other people’s visible and invisible layers of identity before passing judgment? How do you hold space for those you lead in a way that builds trust and safety so that when someone needs something, they feel safe asking for it and feel confident they will receive the support they need? Episode Highlights:00:00 Introduction to Survivor and Leadership Lessons02:49 Mitch's Story: The Importance of Consent, Patience, and Space06:00 Eva's Journey: Building Trust and Support08:48 Joe's Role: Observing and Offering Support11:59 Jeff Probst's Vulnerability: Modeling Vulnerability and Compassion14:47 Creating Safety in High-Pressure Situations18:08 Demonstrating Values Through Actions21:02 Key Takeaways and Questions for LeadersLinks Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks/ Connect with Ligia Koijen Ramos on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ligiakoijenramos Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Could you benefit from improving your emotional intelligence? If so, do you know how you can go about this? It seems there are constant references to the benefits of higher emotional intelligence, but actually attaining that is more elusive. In fact, it might even feel daunting if building a stronger connection to your emotions feels vulnerable to you.  As I’ve been speaking recently, I’ve been sharing some simple ways leaders can advance their emotional intelligence while also helping those they lead do the same. This work is important and doesn’t have to be difficult.  Developing your emotional intelligence is the way you can build better bridges to meet other people where they are. If you excel at this, you can supercharge your leadership.  In this conversation, I dive into the significance of emotional intelligence in leadership. I share the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and empathy as key components of emotional intelligence and provide practical strategies for you to enhance your emotional intelligence while fostering a supportive environment for your teams. At the end of the day, emotional intelligence isn't soft – it's strategic. It's not a weakness; it can absolutely be your greatest strength and secret weapon as a leader.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Intelligence 02:51 The Importance of Self-Awareness 07:01 Emotional Regulation Strategies 12:38 Cultivating Empathy and Social Awareness 18:07 Building Authentic Connections Links Mentioned: Hire me to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with me: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks/ Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm here to share something that might give you great relief.  Your leadership doesn’t have to be loud to be LOUD.When I’m working with leaders and people who are developing leadership skills, there is a common misconception that you have to get louder in volume to be heard.  By volume, I mean auditory volume and quantity.  People assume they have to speak in a louder voice and/or say more things all the time. To become a better leader, you might not need to do either of these things. Instead, you need to determine what style of leadership is authentic for you in this season of life. When I owned my gym, I became a better leader by quieting my voice to make space for my trainers to showcase theirs.  I sat back and let them shine by teaching more classes than me and by letting each of them find their own voice and leadership style in their classes. As a result, I was able to work behind the scenes to focus on expanding our membership community, create more programming and offers, and build out a strong and stable backend to the business so that my trainers had job security and our members felt supported by all the leaders on my team instead of feeling reliant solely on me for their success. In this season, I was also a new mom.  My quieter, BTS leadership allowed me to be home and present with my son.  This was an incredible season of growth for my business, my trainers, and our community.  And, I didn’t have to get louder.  I just had to get more clear on my role in leading my trainers so they could help me build a phenomenal community.  Which they did! Instead of thinking about how you need to become some loudest-in-the-room, always-speaking-up, and being-seen-doing-all-the-things kind of leader, perhaps you could think about: What is the impact you want to have? What do you want to build? Who do you want to empower to build with you? What values do you most want to uphold in this season? What is your leadership secret sauce (that thing about the way you lead that calls people in and keeps them motivated to work alongside you)? As you consider how you want to grow as a leader, think about the skill sets and mindsets you need to develop.  Maybe this is getting louder.  But, maybe it’s about getting more quiet?  Maybe it’s about getting more clear about where you want to go and how you want to get there.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Redefining Loud Leadership 02:55 Authenticity in Leadership Styles 06:09 Empowering Others in Leadership 08:59 The Importance of Collaboration 11:47 Finding Your Unique Leadership Voice 15:10 Building a Leadership Legacy Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices