Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Jason Lange, a relationship coach specializing in masculine energy and polarity dynamics, dives into the crucial concept of polarity in relationships. He explains how a balance of alpha and omega energies can ignite a thriving sex life. The discussion unveils the issues of reverse polarity, where mismatched energies can hinder intimacy. Listeners learn how to navigate sexual dynamics and emotional growth, reshaping connections from superficial to deeply fulfilling. The conversation emphasizes vulnerability and intentional actions for a stronger partnership.

As a client recently put it, where do you go to "scrimmage" with women? How and where do you practice relating, flirting, and connecting with the feminine? It can feel like the stakes are high once you're on an actual date (not to mention getting to sexy time and beyond).Here we talk all about that! We cover communities where relating (and practicing relating authentically) is the name of the game. We give you concrete suggestions on where to go during your week to get practice in with women, as well as what kinds of events to prioritize.This is doable. You can join communities where there's a regular partner practice, find spots where women are but someone else sets the container so you can focus on relating to her, and more. We want to support and encourage healthy relationships, and practice around dating can help. It's the new year -- LFG!Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Memorable quotes"Online dating can be crushing.""Structure in your life can lead to other structures.""Half my female clients meet their partners in real life.""Creating a structure in your week where there are opportunities to be around new women can be a game-changer."---Mentioned on this episode:Violet's program: Radiant LoveJaiya's community work with the erotic blueprintsLondin Angel Winters & Justin Patrick Pierce's work

When you were growing up, did you have a host of great role models when it came to how to be a good man?No, probably not. The vast majority of men with whom we work lacked solid role models for healthy masculinity, both at home and at school. This damaged their ability to succeed in dating, relationships, and sex, and led to a lot of suffering.Scott Kaltenbaugh is working to change that. He's in the school system working in the classroom as well as doing one-on-one mentorship with boys and young men. The goal is to teach them how to be "a calm but assured version of masculinity."But how do you do that? What do you teach, and how do you describe what it is to wield power? Listen for a fascinating view into an inspiring potential future for us as a culture. (Also, if you have sons or may have sons in the future, this one will be of particular interest to you.)---Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Memorable quotes from this episode:“I was starting to see so much toxic masculinity I started to devalue my own masculinity.”“These boys don’t get shown possibilities — it’s just, ‘Don’t be these things.’”“I started to see how much harm our boys are facing.”“I can’t control what the world does to me, but I can control how I meet that.”“Emotion are tools. They’re important.”“Power is our ability to meet and shape the world around us.”“Sometimes it’s important to bond shoulder-to-shoulder; sometimes it’s important to bond face-to-face.”---Mentioned on the episodeScott's program, the Inspiring Men Project, and his own siteThis is Your Moment (program to stop rape)RAINN (Rape & Incest National Network) -- free, confidential chat-based support for anyone who has experience any form of sexual assaultSacred Sonz -- virtual and in-person support for boys and teens

Ever been in a relationship where you felt like it started off GREAT, but over time it became really hard? Ever felt like you had electric sex with someone, especially at the beginning, but then you were often put in the doghouse for doing something "wrong," and that eventually you ended up constantly walking on eggshells to try not to trigger your partner? Then you'll likely resonate with this episode.If you're someone who struggles with setting healthy boundaries, you may have noticed a certain pattern in terms of the dating and relationship partners you've ended up with.In our work with men we've often seen a certain kind of polarity where men with Nice Guy tendencies attract women with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These women are often brilliant, funny, engaging, witty, exciting to be around ... and volatile. Romantic relationships with them can be a rollercoaster with precipitous highs and lows.Fortunately, we've also seen countless men overcome this pattern and grow beyond it. Here we delve into the pattern itself, reasons behind it, and what to do about it.Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Memorable quotes:“One of the hallmark traits of Nice Guys is overextending.”“It’s often the volatile person’s nervous system that gets centered.”“If you don’t see reality their way, you’re the enemy.”“There’s a fear that if I end this, I’m going to be alone."“At an early age, the Nice Guy had to regulate one of his parents, or the family system itself.”“Maybe me speaking up isn’t aggressive.”---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men episode 239: Just realized I'm a nice guy. Now what?Dear Men episode 128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder

Divorce is a complex and often sensitive topic. For many, there are questions of success and failure, grief and loss, as well as the question of what we’re role-modeling to our children.Questions can come up like, “Is it honoring of myself to stay in this relationship? Should I stay because I made a vow, even if it sacrifices my well-being? And if we do get divorced, will I ever find another partner?”Here, three men reveal their truth around their process of getting divorced, as well as their experiences dating, having sex, and getting into new relationships post-divorce.Memorable quotes from this episode:“I didn’t feel safe to voice my needs with my partner.”“I felt like my identity was being snuffed out in my marriage.”“It was a deep-dive back into my passions.”“Am I worthy? Will a quality woman say yes to this?”“We’re both doing work and we support each other.”—Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

This episode is kinda edgy! Here we (a small group of women who are attracted to men) give you a peek behind the curtain in terms of what we really crave from the masculine. The thing we rarely outline so starkly.The truth is, many of us human beings limit ourselves when it comes to having it all. We think we can either have a job we like, or one that pays us well ... we can either settle down and become 'boring,' or have an exciting life without stability.This pattern of thinking is especially obvious when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships. A lot of people struggle with believing they can have a partner who is BOTH one thing and another thing. And for women who are attracted to men, that is frequently: I want to feel claimed/ravaged AND respected/cherished.There's more to it than that, and here we get down and dirty with it. Listen on for insight into the light and dark masculine, fuckboys at Da Club, the shame we hold around this pattern, and how to embody everything a woman yearns for. Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men Episode 269: The heart/cock matrixMemorable quotes from this episode:“I can either have fun … or be married.”“I liked the feeling of being respected, but I didn’t feel juicy.”“This is the best sex that I’ve ever had with anybody.”“I could trust that he would show up, and see parts of me that I wasn’t necessarily proud of.”“It’s not something you do or say. It’s a vibe!”

Online dating can be hard! As a hetero man on the apps, you're statistically likely to get far fewer matches than a hetero woman. If you're on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, eHarmony, Match, MeetMindful, and/or OKCupid and you're not finding what you're looking for ... you're not alone.Dating apps can be crazy-making -- for real! That said, online dating does NOT have to suck for you. We have 5 concrete tips for you to maintain your sanity and actually have a good experience.These are things we've seen work for our clients, and they can work for you. Take a listen if you want more hot sex, dating, and relationships in your life.Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Memorable quotes from this episode:"A lot of times we see men limiting themselves because they assume a woman won’t be open to a “less serious” relationship."“Everybody is navigating different phases of life.”“For it to be a successful relationship, it doesn’t have to last forever.”“Turn the notifications off!”"I have an ability to impact my life (vs. I feel like a victim).”"When we’re doing the work, we’re getting our power back.”

How do depression & anxiety intersect with sex & dating?If you’re one of the millions of people who’ve experience anxiety, clinical depression, and/or dysthymia — low-grade, chronic depression — then you know how easy it is to spiral. When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, it can feel daunting to even get started. Negative self-talk abounds! This can be exacerbated if you identify with Nice Guy Syndrome.The fact is, human beings (especially in the modern world) are prone to anxiety & depression. So how do you work on it and respectfully get laid at the same time? Here, Toby Endelman, who collaborates closely with Dr. Glover (author of No More Mr. Nice Guy), discusses his own personal journey around overcoming depression, and practical steps you can take if you’re in the same boat. This is a big subject and there are no quick fixes, but the important thing to know is that there *is* hope, and things can get better.—Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)— Memorable quotes from this episode:“My father’s passing really knocked me on my ass.”“I grew up thinking I was deeply unattractive.”“I couldn’t believe this woman was going out with me!”“Changing my environment was a great start.”“Every relationship is a choice, and you always have the choice to walk away.”“You cannot do this work alone. We need other people to become who we are.”

Cheating is both a sensitive and complex topic. It lies at the intersection of sexuality, betrayal, needs, wants, and power.Here we explore something we've noticed in our work: the correlation we’ve witnessed between the pattern of cheating, and not being in your power as a man. We go over both the experience of cheating as well as being cheated on.In Jason’s words, “One of the shadow sides of a lot of Nice Guys is tolerating not being treated well, and in a weird way this has partners treat them even worse.”To be clear, cheating is wrong and causes harm, and we are not condoning it. What we are doing is discussing questions like: What happens when your needs aren’t met in a relationship?How do you handle feeling stuck when it comes to sex and relationship?Whether you're dating or in a committed partnership, how do you effectively communicate with a partner when were never taught how to do so?Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“I wasn’t taught to attune to myself, or advocate for myself.”‘“Life just happening to us’ (as Nice Guys) vs. ‘I have the power to impact my life.’”“Confrontational tolerance is critical.”“It tends to bring guys alive.”Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men episode 128: Recognizing Borderline Personality DisorderDear Men episode 196: The “invisible” relationship pattern that can affect everything -- this is the one I reference, where we talk about emotional neglect250: How do you re-polarize a relationship (bring back the spark)? ft. Jason Lange -- this one explores the concept of polarity as well as reverse polarity

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