When your partner gets anxious or upset, do you feel like it's your fault or that you have to fix it immediately? How able are you to stay grounded and feel your own self, even amidst her storm/upset?Ever found yourself doing anything to calm her down -- because your sense of being OK was contingent upon her feeling OK? (We find this common in the men with whom we work.Here, we talk about how to stay grounded even when she's going through it. We outline how to know what's actually going on for you in those moments, how to "interrupt" the sense of compulsion around fixing it, and what a deep offering it is to maintain your own, separate nervous system instead of merging with hers.As Jason says, now that he has become more skilled in this area, “I can be connected to her without being swallowed up by what’s going on for her.”Whether it's in sex, dating, or a committed relationship, you will be more stable, reliable, and frankly sexy partner when you learn to master this.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“When she would get dysregulated, I would get dysregulated."“Avoiding conflict often tends to create more conflict.” “If my partner isn’t feeling well, it feels like it’s my fault.” “Oh wow, her nervous system is not my nervous system.” “I’m here with it, whatever it is — and I’m being impacted.”“It’s OK to be messy and imperfect.”

Rosanne Delaney, an expert on betrayal trauma, dives deep into the emotional turmoil of infidelity and its aftermath in relationships. She discusses the healing journey for those betrayed and emphasizes the importance of support and therapy. Listeners will find insights on rebuilding trust, navigating personal growth, and the transformative power of community. With a blend of personal narratives and practical advice, Rosanne highlights that healing is possible and that no one has to face these challenges alone.

In this engaging discussion, Jason Lange, a specialist in transforming shame, and Luke Adler, an expert in emotional healing, tackle the heavy topic of shame's grip on sexuality and personal power. They share powerful personal stories of vulnerability and healing, illustrating how confronting shame can lead to liberation and deeper connections. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication and compassion in overcoming generational fears and building authentic relationships. Emotional well-being's impact on physical health is also explored.

Ever experienced porn addiction (and had that affect your love relationship), contended with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, or been worried about what your cock looks like? Then you'll feel right at home with this episode.Here, several men in our community share their unvarnished truth with their own voices. They forthrightly and vulnerably answer 3 questions:What's a major lesson you learned in your last relationship?What's a sexual challenge you've had and how have you addressed it?Why do you choose to do consciousness work?I believe you'll find the raw truth from other men on the path to be illuminating, inviting, and reassuring all at the same time. I couldn't be prouder of these men, and all of you men who are out there learning, transforming, and growing.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Violet Lange, an advocate for women's sexual empowerment, dives into the transformative power of self-pleasure practices for women. She discusses how these practices not only enhance personal well-being but also positively affect relationship dynamics. The conversation touches on overcoming societal taboos and trauma related to female sexuality, and the importance of open communication in navigating intimacy. With a playful twist, Lange shares clever slang for self-pleasure, encouraging a fun and open dialogue around women's sexual health.

Jason Lange, a relationship expert and coach, dives deep into the nuances of emotional vulnerability in relationships. He discusses the concept of 'opening' a woman, sharing personal stories of both connection and disconnection. Highlights include the importance of validating emotions over dismissing them, fostering intimacy through honest dialogue, and the parallels between emotional fitness and therapy. Jason emphasizes how physical touch and safety can enhance emotional bonds, ultimately guiding listeners towards healthier relationships.

"When I was at my worst, I didn’t know there was a way out."Sometimes in life we get stuck. We don't know how to deal with big feelings, so we self-medicate -- with alcohol, or porn, or weed, or food.But often the self-medication gets in the way of things we really want -- love; intimacy; healthy, connected sex; joy.You may think of 12-step programs as solely for alcoholics, but they're far mroe comprehensive. There are programs for porn addiction, codependency in relationship, sex & love addiction, and for those who are loved ones of an addict (or adult children of parents who were addicts).*Addiction and recovery profoundly affect your sex and love life, and here, speaker and 12-step mentor Mark Wilde delves into his own story, and how his journey has positively impacted his marriage.In his words, as he grew and healed and learned to lead: "When I became more vulnerable and expressive, I had reciprocation and energy from her that I’d not experienced before ... our relationship began to ascend dramatically."If you want to feel inspired and uplifted, listen on.*These groups are: Codependents Anonymous (CODA), Porn Addicts Anonymous (PAA), Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), Al-Anon (for the loved ones of those who struggle with addiction).---Evolutionary Men RetreatReady to do the work live? Join us in Northern California for an epic time connecting with nature, making friends, and healing your bodymind. This sold out last year and the year before. As of this episode dropping, we've got 1 slot left.Labor Day weekend (last weekend of August), 2024.To sign up or learn more, go here.---Memorable quotes from this episode:"My parents passed away, my marriage ended, and it got bad.""Alcohol became a solution to deep-seated issues that had carried on since childhood."“I still felt myself wearing lots of masks and building up lots of walls.”“How am I going to placate and keep the peace and make her happy?"“When I did work with my body, I felt the unlocking of everything.”---Mentioned on this episode:What Happened to You?

In this insightful discussion, guest Jason Lange, a relationship dynamics expert, explores the often-misunderstood concept of polarity in romantic relationships. He shares five practical strategies to help men encourage their partners to embrace their feminine energy. Listeners learn the importance of emotional support over problem-solving, and how genuine appreciation can transform connection. With real-life examples, the nuances of emotional presence, touch, and vulnerability take center stage, providing valuable tools to enhance intimacy and trust.

Have you ever been concerned about getting involved with a woman because you didn't want to hurt her feelings if it didn't work out?Ever felt like you shouldn't go deeper emotionally with a woman you were dating because you weren't sure you wanted to put a ring on it?Does it ever feel like all women want a long-term, committed relationship, so if you're not available for that, you're somehow doing something wrong?The fact is, sex, dating and relationships are complex. There are a lot of possibilities, and the best kind of relationships are the ones that feel good to both parties.Here, we explore how to date ethically, share what you're available for, and how to be aware of what's underneath your fear of upsetting a woman. We also outline the immense value of short- and medium-term relationships, and what some women really want when it comes to those.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“There are a LOT of men who have so much care and concern, it causes them to not fully engage.”“I’m here for this; let’s see what’s here.”“You cannot be in relationship with someone and never hurt them.”“A successful relationship doesn’t always mean life partnership.”“Experience is always more valuable than theory.”

Join Jason Lange, a self-proclaimed late bloomer Nice Guy who conquered his developmental trauma, as he shares his inspiring journey. He reveals how a transformative men’s workshop helped him break through emotional blocks that hindered his dating life. Jason discusses the profound power of in-person retreats and the vital role of male connection in healing. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and group dynamics, illustrating how these experiences can unlock deeper intimacy and personal growth in relationships.