The Cabrera Lab Podcast

Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera
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Sep 17, 2025 • 39min

#85: Love, Marriage, and Mental Models: Systems Thinking in Relationships

How do two people work together, parent together, and live together every day without driving each other nuts?In this personal and powerful episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University share the six systems thinking principles that transformed their relationship—and how you can apply them to yours. They break down the practical tools that help them avoid blame, navigate patterns, embrace honesty, and understand each other better using DSRP and the Love-Reality Loop.Whether you're in a marriage, parenting teens, or just want deeper connections in your life, this episode gives you real-world insights, tools, and hope. Because relationships aren’t supposed to be hard—they’re just supposed to be systems.
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Sep 10, 2025 • 42min

#84: Why Our Schools are Failing (And How to Fix Them with Systems Thinking)

In this episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University confront a hard truth: our schools are failing because we're teaching information, not thinking.They expose the real problem behind education’s struggles—what they call the tyranny of “Content is King”—and make the case for O-based education: teaching students how to organize information and build mental models, not just memorize facts.From the over-management of teachers to the manipulation of public mental models by industries, they trace how systemic issues in education ripple out into every corner of society—health, finance, citizenship, and beyond. The solution? Systems thinking, metacognition, and daily practice of mental moves that empower students for a lifetime of learning, not just test-taking.If you're a parent, teacher, or human who wants to fix the system, this episode will shift your perspective—and maybe your path.
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Sep 3, 2025 • 39min

#83: The Science of Thinking Fast, Right, and On Purpose

In this episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University challenge the binary of Kahneman’s System 1 (fast but often wrong) and System 2 (slow but usually right) thinking—and introduce a third way: System 3 Thinking.System 3 is both fast and accurate. But it doesn’t happen by chance—it’s built through metacognition and daily practice. Drawing on research and real-world examples from special forces, pro athletes, and high performers, they show you how the Six Moves and the Love-Reality Loop can rewire your brain, boost adaptivity, and dramatically improve your results.This episode doesn’t just teach a concept—it gives you a proven path to becoming a better, faster, smarter thinker. If you’re tired of overthinking, underperforming, or just reacting—this is the mental upgrade you’ve been waiting for.
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Aug 27, 2025 • 42min

#82: Discipline, Ownership, and Doing It Right (Even When No One’s Watching)

In this final chapter of the Culture Code series, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University share the last 12 guiding principles that shape their team's character, cohesion, and capacity to adapt. These aren’t just nice ideas—they’re lived systems of belief and behavior.You’ll explore ideas like Carhartts & Cufflinks (being comfortable anywhere), Extreme Ownership, No Discipline = No Freedom, Underpromise & Overdeliver, and the golden rule: The Way You Do Anything Is the Way You Do Everything. This episode is packed with personal stories, practical applications, and deep reflections on how culture is something you build through practice—not posters.Whether you're leading a company, team, or yourself, this episode is a masterclass in turning values into actions and building the kind of culture that lasts.
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Aug 20, 2025 • 35min

#81: Systems Thinking for Character, Capacity, and Culture

In this next installment of the Culture Code series, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University reveal the next 9 culture principles that guide their team, their leadership, and their lives. These aren’t corporate slogans—these are lived mental models rooted in systems thinking, science, and character development.They unpack what it means to Get the GETs, be Vitruvian, Make Monergy, and practice Better Every Day. You’ll hear why Being Your Own GOAT matters more than fitting in, how to Eat Your Own Dog Food (a.k.a. live what you teach), and why Micro Makes the Macro is the secret to scaling vision into action.If you want to design a culture that grows real people—not just roles—this episode is your toolkit.
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Aug 13, 2025 • 26min

#80: The Culture Code Continued—Hard Truths That Build Strong People

In the follow-up to Episode #79, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University continue walking through their organization’s Culture Code—a set of shared values and mental models that drive everything from personal growth to organizational excellence.This time, they explore seven powerful principles: Love Reality, Find Your Fit, Serve Others, Be Vulnerable, Have Integrity, Be Courageous, and Do the Right Thing. With raw personal stories, practical examples, and plenty of humor, they show how these daily practices aren't just good for culture—they're good for character.If you want to build a life (and team) grounded in truth, trust, and strength—this episode is your blueprint.
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Aug 6, 2025 • 45min

#79: The Culture Code: What We Practice, Why It Works

In this new episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University unpack the first six principles in their organization’s Culture Code—a practical, modular set of mental models that shape character, guide behavior, and build real culture from the inside out.You’ll learn why culture isn’t about surface-level swag, but shared mental models; how to truly listen (with more than just your ears); and why systems thinkers must practice curiosity, evolution, and presence—every single day. These six principles—Team First, See Systems, Listen, Evolve, Be a Light, and Be Curious—are the building blocks of a high-integrity, high-performance life.If you’ve ever wondered how to align personal growth with professional excellence, this is where to start.
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Jul 30, 2025 • 41min

Episode #78: Systems Thinking IRL - Parenting in a Processed World

In this special “IRL” (in real life) episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University sit down with a parent struggling to navigate one of the most common and emotionally charged family issues: what kids eat.Their guest, "John," opens up about his 8-year-old daughter’s ultra-processed diet, his fear for her long-term health, and how dinner has turned into a battleground. Through systems thinking, they reframe the issue—not as a fight to win tonight, but as a long game of building agency, values, and critical thinking.If you’ve ever felt powerless at the dinner table—or in any parenting dilemma—this episode shows how systems thinking can turn fear into strategy and frustration into hope.
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Jul 23, 2025 • 36min

#77: Why the World Needs 8 Billion Systems Thinkers (Above the Standard)

In this episode, Drs. Derek and Laura Cabrera of Cornell University break down their updated vision for global transformation: not just 8 billion systems thinkers—but 8 billion above the standard.They unpack the science behind mental fitness, the difference between awareness and practice, and how changing your default thinking patterns can unlock faster, smarter decisions. You’ll learn why IQ and degrees don’t equal intelligence, why you are the system, and how practicing six simple thinking moves can permanently rewire your brain.If you want to lead better, live better, and help change the world—this episode lays out the roadmap.
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Jul 16, 2025 • 23min

#76: Why You Keep Attracting the Same People, Jobs, and Problems

Explore the idea that true change comes from within rather than just changing environments. Delve into how personal patterns draw similar jobs and relationships into our lives. Discover the impact of external factors on our choices and the importance of self-reflection. Learn to recognize recurring cycles in relationships, empowering you to confront emotional baggage. By transforming hard-earned lessons into personal rules, you can foster meaningful growth and break free from self-sabotage.

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